#keep forgetting my trans friends are trans

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

If you’re changing your name (for marriage reasons or gender reasons), that’s an exciting step! - and it can also come with the (potentially more boring or even unpleasant or nerve-wracking) task of having to update your contact information for a lot of places. 

Here’s a list with some places you should keep in mind: 

1. Government and legal documents

• Identity card / Passport

• Driver’s license

• Social security or tax office 

• Health insurance provider

• Any court documents or registrations (for example marriage certificate, birth certificate etc.)

2. Banking and finances

• Bank accounts (including savings and joint accounts)

• Credit cards

• PayPal or other payment platforms

• Loan or mortgage providers

• Insurance policies (life, car, household, etc.)

3. Employment and education

• Employer / HR department (for payroll, contracts, email, etc.)

• University or school records

• Certificates and diplomas (if you want them reissued with your new name)

• LinkedIn and other professional platforms

• Unions or professional associations

Unemployment office

4. Health and medical

• General practitioner and specialists

• Dentist

• Therapist / mental health providers

• Vaccination records and digital health apps 

• Prescription services or pharmacies

5. Daily life and memberships

• Phone and internet providers

• Utilities (electricity, water, gas)

• Rental agreements or homeowners’ documents

• Streaming services (Netflix, Spotify, etc.)

• Library cards

• Gym memberships

• Retail loyalty programs (Payback etc.)

6. Online presence and subscriptions

• Email accounts

• Social media profiles

• Blogs and personal websites

• Substack or Patreon

• Online shops you use often (Amazon, Etsy, etc.)

• Newsletter subscriptions

7. Travel and transportation

• Airline loyalty programs

• Train and public transport cards (monthly tickets etc.)

• Car registration and insurance

• Toll subscriptions or parking permits

Bonus Tips:

Consider making a spreadsheet to track where you’ve already updated your info and where you still need to.

Some places will require official documentation (like a court certificate or new ID), so keep digital copies handy if needed.

Laws on name changes can be wildly different in different countries. When in doubt on whether a certain point is applicable or necessary for you, make sure to look it up for your country specifically. 

Don’t forget the more personal stuff, like updating your name in group chats with your friends or in your private email signature!

If you’re changing your name for gender reasons, you can often update your information quietly or request discretion when dealing with customer service - but bureaucracy can still be frustrating. Feeling a bit anxious about potentially encountering transphobia etc. doesn’t mean you’re weak or that you’re not trans enough for this step or anything like that. It’s a normal feeling in a world where transphobia exists. 

Changing your name can feel overwhelming, especially when it’s tied to something deeply personal like gender or a new life chapter. But every form you fill out is also an act of affirmation - of who you are now and the life you’re building. That’s worth celebrating.

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

[midnight-soulless-system]

"Most of the generalized talking she does about trans people does not specify a specific kind of trans person" Actually, yes it does. In multiple statements where she made it about trans people she went back and specified she only meant transfems even when those things applied to trans people as a whole.

"People who are into women will naturally be more inclined to talk about women." Being a biphobic man hater is not being more inclined to talk about women. Be so fucking for real with me right now.

"Lorde spoke to Roan about her gender identity before anyone else specifically because she knew Roan was a safe person to talk to and Roan outright asked if she was nonbinary, I am willing to guess she knows that nonbinary identities exist since she offered the label up to Lorde first." You can be a trans inclusive radical feminist. She can know what nonbinary identities are and then still ignore the nonbinary community in her activism.

"Chapelle openly identifies as a drag queen, has a drag mother, and the name Chapelle Roan is a drag persona, I think the person who is a drag queen and for whom that is a fundamental part of her identity probably knows the difference between what a drag queen is and a transfem person, since she has never claimed to be transfem, but does identify as a drag queen." That's great for her. That does not make her exempt from being a radical feminist or just a general bigot. I never claimed the she was transfem or didn't know the difference between transfems and drag queens.

"Every celebrity is a performative activist, they aren’t your friends. But she has donated more money to queer folks, trans POC, and Palestine than most of the celebs people on this site cocksuck so frankly as long as she keeps pumping money into charities I don’t personally care that a celebrity is performative, they are all, again, performative, your favorite celebrity is performative. This is just a thing that is." I can be critical of multiple people, you realize this yes? Don't give me this bullshit when she said not to come to her for political takes and views when she dresses up as the fucking statue of liberty. And no actually, my favorite celebrity can actually use a fucking platform to speak out about the injustices in the US and others, can donate to charities and people, and actually push for the rights of a group she doesn't belong to or use a goddamn token.

I'm not trying to be rude, nor am I being stupidly malicious. I'm calling out a white queer woman who refuses to criticize the republican party because she has republican family members and then turns around and acts like biden or harris are just as bad as trump. I'm criticizing a white queer woman who shits on the transmascs and bisexuals of our community because she's a man hater. I'm calling out a white queer women who the american queer community acts like is a fucking god and revolutionary for being a hypocrite and doing less than the bare fucking minimum.

I know I'm blocked but I'm sorry if you think a white queer woman is somehow exempt from criticism because she gets glorified.

And let's not forget her whole "the industry doesn't pay artists enough" shtick that she basically forgot when she decided to endorce generative AI.

I don't think Chapelle Roan is malicious or doing it intentionally but it is very noticeable that she exclusively talks about trans women. It's genuinely difficult to tell how aware she is that trans folk other than trans women exist.

[vaguelyaperson]

I am still delighted by the headcanon that not only are both viktor and jayce trans, but they continuously forget that of the other - EVEN WHEN THEY START GETTING INTIMATE

[confused-alpaca]

anxiety problem: too anxious to go to thing on my own

solution: get someone to go with me to thing

anxiety problem: too anxious to ask someone to go with to thing

solution: ??????

[silverandebony]

there's a specific feeling that exists that i like to call trans loneliness. it's that feeling of knowing there are other trans people out there, but having none in your general vicinity that you can go lurk around and spend time with irl

[the-rest-of-the-poem]

"DoN't tEll peOplE wHat tO dO" "not ALL men" This isn't about telling people what to do to control them. This is about being safe until shit isn't actively in the fucking fan. This isn't about your fucking male friend being "one of the good ones." This isn't about "there's good ones out there!" Women get fucking betrayed all the time and if you don't know how frequent that is then you're in a fortunate lollipop sunshine land that isn't true for many of us. Shut the fuck up because the body is a fucking battleground right now. I'm so fucking serious.

[ciel-of-vault-111]

Fuck it

Notes game

Limit 3 notes per person Notes cap is now 10

I’ll try my best to follow up on this with results but I may forget

10 notes: touch grass DONE

30 notes: try and care abt my schoolwork IN PROGRESS

50 notes: get more sleep DONE

100 notes: come out to my extended family IN PROGRESS

120 notes: find another reason to live (I have 2 rn and desperately need more) DONE

150 notes: engage more with my irl friends DONE

200 notes: get over my fear of clickers (long story) DONE

300 notes: stop hating myself IN PROGRESS

SECRET GOAL UNLOCKED!!! 420 NOTES: I’ll eat a weed or whatever ppl do idk I don’t get high (this is a joke for the record) DONE

500 notes: ascend to the heavens and rain hellfire upon my enemies (this is a joke I don’t think we make it this far) DONE

690 notes: Nice DONE

1000 notes: become god DONE

KNEEL BEFORE YOUR NEW GODDESS!!!

THE RUTUAL HAS BEEN COMPLETED!!!! NOW IVE ASCENDED BEYOND THIS MORTAL PLAIN (thx to everyone who helped me get this far you all are incredible and I am forever indebted to you)

STRETCH GOALS (adding these bc I wanna keep the game goin it’s rly fun for me)

1100 notes: start planing to take over the world of gods DONE the plan has been formulated

1200 notes: kill the first god and take their power DONE he didn’t even see it coming >:3

1300 notes: kill the second god and take their power DONE soon I shall ascend

1400 notes: kill the third god and take their power DONE new power flows through me

1500 notes: use the power of the slain gods to gain domain over everything and rule as god-queen of the universe DONE now bow before the god queen of the universe >:3

(It would be so funny if I got this far)

MORE STRETCH GOALS BC WHY NOT

1600 notes: transcend the fabric of existence DONE I see all now… e v e r y t h I n g

1700 notes: start a new religion centered around worshiping me as god queen of the universe DONE they truly adore me >:3

1800 notes: use my godly abilities and swaths of followers to prevent the events of March 18 2027 from transpiring DONE The leader of the revolution is safe from the queen of the British Empire part 2

1900 notes: use my power to grant godhood to my favored mortals (all my mutuals) and my chosen companion (my gf) so we may live forever as the new pantheon of gods DONE@tomhiddlestonsangel @toogaytofunctiondangit @toppettehat @here-queer-drowning-in-fear @trans-fem-menace @perfectfangirl @trans-fem-menace @andychaosblog y’all are gods now :3 welcome to the club

2000 notes: make a new planet at the end of everything to call home and live out the rest of eternity with my gf and my army of devoted followers. This planet’s name shall be determined by one of your suggestions (I chose what I think is funny) DONE!!!! Omfg I actually got this far lmao I never thought I would

2500 notes: I make this into a comic or smth like that :3

[bunnysrabbit]

it’s my birthday tomorrow…

[unhingedromione]

As a trans person, I am never, ever, ever giving up Harry Potter. And our fandom isn't going anywhere. Fucking deal with it.

Around this time last year, when JKR made some stupid comment (totally forgetting which one, there's just been so many at this point), I wrote a defense of Harry Potter fans' decision to remain in the fandom that essentially boiled down to this: giving up this fandom means giving up our people. In the wake of JKR's horrendous role in the anti-scientific UK Supreme Court ruling conflating sex with gender, this sentiment remains exactly the same.

I don't begrudge any HP fan who can no longer engage with JKR's IP due to this vile development. But I remain loud and proud in my support of the ✨community✨ that Harry Potter has brought together. As I mentioned in my last post, this community is not only full of the funniest, nicest, cleverest, and most creative people I've ever met in my life, but it is also the most diverse I have ever been a part of — and as an extrovert and community organizer who has lived in four different countries and speaks three languages, I have met a shit ton of people and been a part of lots of communities, significantly more than the average person. You are out of your mind if you think I am going to turn my back on the community that has been so critical to my survival as a queer, brown, neurodivergent, depressed, burnt out, poor Muslim femme in this capitalist, fascist hellscape. Day in and day out, my friends and I are pushing forward some of the most powerful narratives about queer, trans, and colonial liberation that society has to offer, which will have ripple effects on media and pop culture in the time to come (as is the nature of fandom). Nothing JKR can do or say will take that away from us. Nothing.

So to everyone who wants to claim that we're being transphobic for FREELY engaging with JKR's IP and doing things with it that would make her combust — that we're transphobic for wanting to keep this beautiful, generous community in tact — I not so kindly ask you to fuck off and leave us the fuck alone. You resist your way, and we will continue to resist in ours.

[genderqueerdykes]

just kind of throwing this at your wall, sorry in advance. saw the post about "kill all men" and got really upset

im a trans guy. my boyfriend is cis, and im the first guy hes dated before. (sees me fully as whatever i want to be, does not care about my gender expression and loves me for me. great guy). he doesnt have many friends from being asocial as a teenager, so most of his friends are my trans friends!

of course. like every trans group seems to fall prey to, theres always the "all [CIS] men are bad" conversation that comes up somehow. and i never really thought much of it, because in my head itd be "ah yeah all men Except My Boyfriend"

but he and i were talking after some drinks, and he made a point that really struck me. about how he doesn't like being The Exception to the point, that he's still a man and has no interest in being anything But a man. so when people say stuff like that, he gets uncomfortable; not because He IS The Problem (like everyone who gives the "if youre saying not all men, youre the men" argument) but because it makes him feel ostracized from everyone. and idk, it really struck me.

we say stuff like that way too often in an attempt to exclude certain groups of people; and i feel like we end up excluding people close to us by proxy.

thanks for listening

i really appreciate you for taking the time to send this. i've been meaning to talk about this and have been forgetting. the following is of course not directed at you, anon, it is directed at people who behave like this

you're not feminist, progressive, cool, pro-queer rights or funny for saying "kill all men". you are exposing that you are a violent and dangerous person for believing that people should be profiled and literally killed for their gender or PERCEIVED gender.

this doesn't make people like you more. it outs you as a danger. how do we know you won't turn that hatred toward women whenever you feel like changing the goalposts? i can't trust someone like that to not turn that hatred toward other genders, either. YOU are the dangerous person you are profiling men as. you can't use men as a scapegoat for everything. sometimes YOU are the violent person who needs help.

your boyfriend shouldn't have to feel like that. like people have never really cared about gay men but people just straight up gave up all pretenses that they do and i hate it. cis men are not inherently evil. cis men can still be queer. cis men can still be good people. your boyfriend shouldn't have to feel isolated because he's cis. that's profiling. he belongs. why do people assume that everyone with a partner who is a man hates them? not everyone is choosing to be in a relationship with someone they hate. i understand that some people will date someone no matter who just to have a partner so they're not lonely, but not everyone does this. some people genuinely love their boyfriends

i'm sorry you both have dealt with this. i hope things can improve because men don't deserve to feel like this. this is why toxic masculinity exists in the first place. we have to stop reinforcing that men are evil monsters. they won't stop believing that if we keep telling them that forever. stay safe. your boyfriend is not a bad person & deserves to have a wonderful life.

[queer-scots-geordie-dyke]

It's difficult to be in left wing/liberal spaces (online and off) at the moment because the conversation always seems to drift to Israel/Palestine and there is a huge assumption (in left wing spaces among left wing people) that because you are (for example) an environmentalist or a supporter of trans people you are automatically pro-Palestine and anti-Israel too. I find myself having to ignore A LOT of hatred toward Jewish people these days from places and people I used to feel almost completely onboard with. I am not Jewish but I can vividly imagine, if I were, how devastating this realization would be. How suddenly unwelcome I would feel. How it would make me think "wow there really is nowhere besides Israel that is safe to be Jewish".

I have found myself switching to donating to Israeli environmental organizations and Israeli LGBTQ spaces because the UK-based ones I used to support keep posting about Palestine and the evil of Israel and I just can't with that.

The feminist spaces, the environmental spaces, the LGBTQ spaces, musicians I used to love.. I've stopped going, I've unfollowed. It's depressing. But I will NOT support anti-semitism. I will NOT support terrorism. I will NOT support Arab Muslim colonialism and expansionism. I will NOT support revisionist history or fundamentalist Islamist ideology. I will NOT infantilize Palestinians and regard them patronisingly as simply poor helpless victimized brown people that righteous white people must defend. I just won't. I don't care how trendy it becomes in left wing circles. I won't do it. I support my Israeli friends and Jewish people at large. I sympathize with them. I agree with Israelis right to defend themselves, their right to exist as a country and their ancient connection to the land. I even understand their anger. And no that doesn't make me a "genocide apologist" or a "baby killer" or a "zio-nazi" (ffs) no matter how many times those accusations are repeated. Good grief.

I'd say 'I despair' but truly I do not. I do have hope. I hope some of my former friends and peers will eventually come around. I hope they'll be embarrassed and sorry. I don't expect it but I hope. I will continue to be an environmentalist. I will continue to be a feminist. I will continue to support LGBTQ rights. I will not be pushed out of those spaces or away from those things by another subject I disagree with. I understand enough about propaganda and history and peer pressure and group think to endure and try to be forgiving (in advance.) But lord I'd be lying if I said it wasn't disappointing and disheartening and occasionally terrifying seeing and hearing people I know (thought I knew) and love (loved?) suddenly donning keffiyehs and waving signs with the Star of David crossed out on them (or re-drawn as a swastika.) And the utter lack of willingness to even try to see things from another perspective.

I could have written every single word of this myself - it’s been an incredibly disheartening experience seeing people and organisations I had so much respect for, who have done and continue to do amazing work in other areas, lose the plot completely and forget and betray every single one of their own ideals when it comes to Israel and to Jews in general. It’s like this monstrous antisemitism was lying dormant in so many people, just waiting to be awakened and the fact that it was a massacre where Israelis were the victims that did it disgusts me on so deep a level I don’t have words adequate to describe it.

They can pretend all they like that it’s the war that they’re protesting, that it’s because they care so much about the Palestinians, but it’s all bollocks. Innocent Israelis were being raped and tortured and massacred and kidnapped and these fuckers were celebrating while it was still happening and they were rallying in the streets protesting against Israel before they’d even fired a single retaliatory shot and before their dead were even cold. They pretend to give a shit about Palestinians, but where the fuck are they when the people of Gaza are rising up against Hamas and being tortured and murdered by their favourite terrorist idols for daring to oppose them? If they can’t blame the eternal scapegoat, they don’t give a shit.

[thebibliosphere]

A friend gifted me Gotham Knights on Steam after I expressed a vague interest in it. I believe my exact words were, "The color of the cover art is very cyberpunk bisexual, and I love that for them."

A lot of key smashing ensued, followed by, "No, wait, you have to play it, you have to. Don't ask why. You'll know when you see it."

After spending a substantial few hours with my new dopamine generator, zipping around Gotham as various different heroes, grappling my way across the skyline, and driving my motorbike into walls (sorry, random Gothamites.) I got to the part of the story where Dick Grayson is seen drinking from a bisexual-themed Bludhaven mug (WE WANTS IT, PRECIOUS, WE NEEDS IT), followed by Babs posting a gossip article in the literal batfam group chat (I have no idea when she actually sent it, I keep forgetting to check the chat lmao) where Dick fully leans into being Bruce's son by being the biggest, sluttiest fuckboy imaginable when the male interviewer asks Dick if he has a "type" then describes the way Dick drops his voice to an "intimate purr, his gaze for me and me alone" followed by the most bisexual response ever which can be summarized as "People are gorgeous. All of them. Why restrict myself to an archetype when the world is full of beauty?"

And can I just say, as a slutty, slutty bisexual *chef kiss* love that for him. That and all the nude photoshoot offers he seems to be getting lmao.

Combine that with the interactions where Tim talks to the batfam about his boyfriend, asking for relationship advice (Babs telling Tim she's hopeless with guys, so to ask Dick instead), Dick suggesting Robin and Nightwing should go to Gotham Pride in costume so people know the batman are firmly in camp LGBTQ+ (followed up by an email between Babs and Jayson where they talk about wanting to go to Pride to support Tim so he'll know they're proud of him), the rainbow flags in the living room, and the trans, bi, pan and I think non-binary flag (need to check, might be demisexual) bike color options, I can honestly say I'm having a lot of fun careering round Gotham like the most terrifyingly competent, backflipping, Solo Pride Parade that's ever swung out of the skyline to dropkick a cop into oncoming traffic.

[asksonicverse]

You dont need to answer but I just wanted to tell you I adore Paradox being like "I hate all of them except" and then listing everyone except like 2 guys, honey you don't hate *all* of them you expressly don't hate *most of them*

Extremely charming characterization i adore it

[Creator Special number 2!]

So glad someone noticed that, I was originally going to have him name EVERYONE except Boost but then I was like “nah, Mania is just too annoying for Paradox to tolerate him”

And thanks! I’m trying to be… consistent with my characterization of each of them and stay in line with canon but like… URGH sometimes I want to deviate so bad just to indulge but I resist!

Needless to say tho, prism is probably going to get more affectionate later on. Rewatched Sonic Prime again and bro is a cutie patootie!

Headcanons… headcanons… hmm

Well, starting with the obvious, Paradox goes to therapy as I’ve mentioned which I think is hilarious. He and Lance are the only Shadows who really have their shit together which is why I think Sonadow works well for them? (we stan healthy relationships guys)

I do head canon that Eight doesn’t like being touched really at all anymore. After the metal virus, he grew so used to the fact that he couldn’t touch anyone that it sorta just stuck. He does it to save people, but not anything more. :(

And while I’m a sucker for the Trans Sonic HC I decided not to implement it in this particular AU!

I really want to include Captain Sonic and Shadow, but I haven’t played nor watched a serious play through of the game. (I’ve only really listened to a bit of the Snapcube dub..)

can someone tell me if Shadow is a Barista or a Mechanic in that game btw?? I google it, nothing pops up. I could’ve sworn there was something about a mechanic.

Uhh I LOVE Sonic Frontiers, fire game. If I include that one, it’ll ALSO be Sonamy since I’m pretty sure that game takes place before SA2 in canon?

I’m trying to keep the Sonics and Shadows balanced but I’d love to add Generations Shadow and Sonic. Just thinking of names already I get “Doom” for Shadow and “Emerald” for Sonic. (Referencing the fake emerald from their interaction in the shadow story)

Unfortunately I haven’t seen the Archie comics or Sonic Underground so I wouldn’t even know where to begin.

Someone also asked about if I’d ever include different AU’s: maybe if those AU creators gave me permission I’d be down to do a collab for a few asks or something!

Nope!

I dunno I just..! … how do I do? I’m fast. And you’re slow. That’s how I did it. /ref

Ahahah just kidding! But I am very fast. A few years ago I convinced myself I was a “slow drawer” because I was in a discord server with someone I looked up to (and holy cheese they could draw out fully articulate sketches in like 30 seconds!)

So I got insecure and taught myself to draw really fast. So now I just.. zoom! This does have a terrible draw back where I will very frequently forget smaller details.

Like if you look at half the posts, Shadow is missing his eyeliner and other markings frequently.

THIS IS JUST HILARIOUS TO ME YOU GUYS. PLEASE—

I’ve gotten SO many asks in my box about using Maria to calm the Shadows down or trying to give Shadows “Maria plushies”

Imagine you’re having a bad day and you get a plushie of your dead sibling thrown at you??? LMFAOOOO

I CANT I CANT I CANT PUT THEM THROUGH THAT 💔 Also I see every single ask.

“Do you all like Latinas” and “sonic which shadow is the hottest/shadow which sonic is the hottest” have all been engraved in my brain

Was joking with a friend on how that second question would come out LMFAOO

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[trannycabal]

Trans Men, the afterthought of the LGBT.

Think of the world "LGBT" in your mind. What flashes through? I see a quick rifling through four people like a slideshow... a chubby cis gay guy, a tall cis lesbian with killer eyeliner, a short cis girl with a kooky hairstyle, and a trans woman. What she looks like varies every time, but 90% of cases I think of a girl. Even as a trans man myself whose trans friends are like two-thirds trans men, the first thing I think of when I hear the word "trans" is usually a trans woman. When hear HRT? Estrogen. When hear SRS? Vaginoplasty.

And that's not a coincidence... because trans guys don't dominate any trans spaces unless it's specifically labelled an ftm-only space. I've seen trans women themselves point out that trans boy spaces are labelled as "ftm" while trans girl spaces are labelled "trans". No "fem" or "girl" or "woman" anywhere in the name - just "trans".

Think of trans rep on TV. Trans people are already incredibly underrepresented - but on the rare occasion we do get shown onscreen, it's always someone MTF. I could give a million examples - but there are already many people who've said the exact same thing and doing so at this point would be redundant.

Think of spaces that say "This is for females ONLY" (sometimes they say "women" but really mean "cis women"). Nobody ever thinks of the trans men who might find themselves in a position to need that resource (such as homeless shelters) who will invariably be denied because TERFs hate trans men too and despite whatever they claim, they do not actually see us as girls. The response to "female-only spaces" is "but what about trans women". Which is GOOD! It should keep being a response! It should keep raising questions! It should, however, not be the only question we're asking here!

Think of "women's health" issues. Even then, the conversation around inclusive language always revolves around "but some girls don't do that because they're trans" (which is a good thing on its own but it's not good as an exclusive variant) and not "but some people do that and aren't girls because they're trans". Even in conversations about uteruses and everything they revolve, it's always centred around "but not all women" instead of "not all are women".

Lastly, think of radical feminism. Think of so-called internet "misandrists". Think of how many times you've seen one, whether cis or trans, ever include the word "cis" in their classic "all men" posts. Never? Exactly. And when you call them out on it, their response is almost always some kind of variant of "well you know that's not what I meant". And it's true most times, they didn't mean it; they forgot it. Forgot about us. Like every single time, they forget we see these things and feel hurt. They forget we're there. To them, we might as well be a flower on the wall.

Anyway. Just wanted to type this out because it's been bouncing around my head for a while. Happy late trans visibility day. Not only this week but for the rest of your life I want you to listen to and amplify trans men's voices; they need it.

[a-shade-of-blue]

Honestly, we are out of ideas on how to make you care about the palestinians being killed and those struggling to survive. Ahmed’s (@ahmedpalestine) cousin was recently killed by a missile while fetching water for his wife and 3 children, including a 2-month-old baby girl. In addition, His home in Jabalia is being annihilated. UN envoy says a 'genocide with a genocide' is happening in Jabalia right now. His relatives, neighbours, and friends are beseiged by Israel forces, bombed and starved. No food has entered into Jabalia for 12 days now. He is sad, he is mourning, but immediately he has to think about how to word his grief and write this personal tragedy to us just so he can beg for the sympathies of complete strangers, just so he can try to save his other family members.

If you loved one has been killed, if you home has just been destroyed, would you not let yourself have some time off to grieve? Even the right to grieve privately has been withheld from palestinians. Instead, they have to bare their suffering and grief to thousands of strangers in order to help their remaining family members survive. That is in addition to the frequent bombings, malnutrition and diseases that Palestinians in Gaza have to face. That is in addition to them having to worry every day about how they can keep their remaining family members alive. 

Ahmed is mourning for his cousin, for the destruction of his city, but his campaign does not even have enough funds to evacuate the rest of his family out of Gaza. Ahmed’s grief, his cousin’s death, this whole genocide, should not be entertainment for you to read about and then forget. Ahmed has 12 family members, including 6 children trapped in Gaza right now. They need the funds to survive. Please help.

€8,101 raised of €55,000 goal

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[gooobraghhh]

hi,

my bestfriend is transmasc and we are both wanting to incorporate more of me forcemascing it into our kink (especially since ze is getting on T soon and I'm gonna be giving him the shots, but it is also something we both want more of more generally). I don't have much (if any) real experience with forcemascing. I was wondering if you had any advice for someone who is a complete beginner to that form of play or if you knew of any good blogs/zines/etc that i could look at to try and gain more of a knowledge base.

Thank you so much,

A transfemme trying to give its Bestfriend a good time

Well here’s what I’ll say, I’m not the most proficient with forcemasc in the more traditional way of the recipient is at least partially against being turned more masc but I am very good at just gender validating sex with trans men. It’s usually not too hard. Main thing is obvious but just treat him like a man. If he’s showing bodily arousal, even if he can’t get actual boners yet, make comments about how hard he is or how he’s just leaking precum if you wanna describe getting wet in a manly way. Allow him to be in manly positions for sex, get on top, grind against his lap, it can be dominant or submissive but just try out more masc sex positions. I mean the other night I was riding a guy and with a knife to his throat threatening to baby trap him, being in more feminine recieving positions can still be very dominant and gender affirming for both parties.

When men are in the sub role it’s usually more considered and treated more humiliating and degrading because it goes against gender roles. Things are also usually expected to be more rough and physical with men in the submissive role because physicality is very attached to man hood. Get a little rough, acknowledge his strength, make fun of him for how pathetic he’s being and how he’s a man, isn’t he supposed to be the one fucking you? Even though your calling attention to him not being traditional man acting it’s distinctly in way you’d only be mean to someone you see as a dude.

Letting trans dudes sub top is usually pretty good for gender validation. Ride him or pull a leash while he fucks you maybe with some toy in him or something. Just keep the power but let him fill the top role since it’s the man role typically. If he’s up for it most guys find anal pretty gender validating. He might like it more after being on t and having prostate cells grow in but experimenting with that can be a lot of fun. There’s also just a lot of you can say to make fun of man for taking up the ass.

There’s probably way more I’m forgetting but here’s just some examples that came to mind. Also I’m aware your friend is non-binary and not like just a dude but it was easier to write and you can lean into a more strict gender role in the name of force masc’ing him. Hope this helps a bit <3