#loveandpain

[theoneandonlybusygal]

do you ever just… want to be that main character?

you want to fall deeply in love with your best friend, no matter how cliche it may seem

have an entire album of music dedicated to your existence

imagine tons of people are relating to your pain and experiences?

hope someone out there is thinking of you at this exact moment

fight dangerous dragons with your bsf who is magically a witch?

yeah I wish I could feel all of that

[sineadshinelight]

If you know you know… Otherwise it is difficult to understand I hope you never have to experience it, and if you have, I am sending love and compassion. Something that can be hard to give yourself How do you speak to yourself on the days your mind and body just want a day off? I am done with beating myself up for today, my candles are lit and I am having an afternoon bath 🕯️🛁💕 ⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ #lossofalovedone #lossmom #grieving #neverforgotten #truth #timedoesnthealallwounds #motherhood #griefsupport #bereavedmother #motherhoodunfiltered #rememberinglovedones #livingwithloss #missingyou #missingmybaby #missyou #loveandpain #pain #healing #parenthoodjourney #grievingmother #lossandgrief #mamagrief #storiesoflossandlove #saytheirnames #love #stillstanding (at Grief and Living After Loss) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp44fnYMLKH/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[icouldnthelpbutremember]

Why is it that we don’t ever know the last time of something… is the last time.. The last time you kiss The last time you hug The last time your baby nurses from the breast The last time baby crawls The last time your baby wakes up crying at night… The last time your baby sits in your lap The last time they say words in a funny way The last time they are babies.. before they become teenagers So many last times that happen quietly, and we don’t know they are last times of precious moments that are moving on with the current of this life… But.. we remember first times.. first time you fall in love First time your heart was broken First time you kissed on the lips First time you cried saying goodbye First time you got deathly sick First time you became a parent First time your baby moved inside the womb First time baby took to the breast First stroller walk you took First giggle.. and first crawl… First steps her little feet walked So many “firsts” engraved in our minds.. souls.. and hearts… kept in frames on the walls.. and we will hold on to them forever… Is it that we remember the “first times” because beginnings are good.. and, we were blessed to “not” know when “last times” happen.. to spare us the biggest pain humans were made to endure… letting go.. and saying goodby.. By: icouldnthelpbutremember Photo: Pinterest #fragile #lifeistooshort #lifequotes #wisdom #goodbyes #lettinggoquotes #femalewriters #poetryoflife #instareels #viralreels #soothingwords #wordstoliveby #icouldnthelpbutremember #loveandpain #tidesofmotherhood #tidesoflife #oceanlovers #oceanphotography https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm42tBSpyLy/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[awesomeafrican]

Happy Love Day ......A dark Valentines theme by @qrownroyal82 @nawnamari

We had to do something different, sometimes ❤️ Hurts, for all those feeling the hurt and pain of loving someone , you are not alone 🤗

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#portraiture #portraits #imagesbycomfesta #beautifulblackqueen #fun #Canon #canoneosr5 #canoneosr #blackisbeautiful #marylandphotographer #fun #dmvphotographer #ebonybeauty #gorgeous #cute #prettywoman #pretty #dmvmodels #plussizedmodel

#valentinesday #valentines #love #darklove #loveandpain ❤️

[jeanniejackson7]

“The love that you withhold is the pain that you carry lifetime after lifetime.” 🦋✨🥀 • • • #pastlives #pastlifehealing #memories #rememberwhen #healing #healingquotes #trending #reiki #chakras #sourceenergy #eternity #love #fyp #esther #abrahamhicks #inspirationalquotes #fantasyart #art #ai #aiart #royal #fairy #angels #angelnumbers #guidance #painting #pain #loveandpain https://www.instagram.com/p/ClhqCPMs7op/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[whoismorana]

new week, new post! :)

y'all gotta read this

[brusinx2]

to the girl he gives his heart to

i hope you love him and care for him in a way that makes him believe you'll be together forever, those hoodies you're wearing? i bought them, the beats headphones youre dancing to music while wearing? i bought him those, please give him all the love in the world and laugh at all his cheesy jokes and educate him on all those things i never got to be there to see, play with his dogs, take cute photos with him, help him understand the demons in his head and make sure hes not alone, just please, give him the love he deserves, because as much as it hurts, mine wasn't enough for him

- The girl who once loved the person you did

[sstehreer]

Link in Bio 👈‼️ to read Then Again. Here's a snippet to Chapter 27. Two opposite ends of one spectrum, love & pain. What do you all think? #fictionwriting #readingispowerful #booksofwonder #goals #facethefire #loveandpain #literatureisfreedom #bookishpeople #quotesfromtheheart #quotesfrombooks #readingislife #bookishpeoplearethebest #readmoreromancebooks #romance #romancereads #pakistaniwriters #pakistan #islamabad #writersofig #wattpadromancestory #inkittbooks #romanticquotes #romancebooks #sahar #loveisajourney #sadquotes💌 #lovers (at Islamabad, Pakistan) https://www.instagram.com/p/CH5zaDAg2Il/?igshid=nk32cnpil8cl

[waterghast]

the beady leopard

[journalsofjoe]

Risk of Rejection

I have always had a lot of dreams, passion, and probably too many for my good. One of my first ones was to be a Consultant. I dreamt one day being part of a large organization, walking down the lane in formals, talking with clients over a cup of coffee in a costly restaurant, sharing jokes, and catching the next flight to meet your next clients. Right after my MBA, I decided to pursue my dream.

I would go interview after interview, day after day, month after months. I would prepare myself a day with all the possible questions and answers, I would iron my clothes the previous night, polish my shoe, take my CV. But as time passed, I realized that I have appeared to at least 35 interviews out of 1500 applications.  

 And the result was the same "NO".

Imagine yourself working hard daily, persistently shaping your thoughts and actions and still getting nowhere close to your dream.

 NO! after NO! after NO!

And mind you in job interviews it's often not even a NO, it’s just silence. Until you start to figure out that they have probably moved on. Sometimes you get "Maybe", those are the ones which eventually turn to silence. This was a sucky feeling. 

I would think, I wasn’t good enough, or maybe not skilled enough, or maybe not charming enough.  Just not enough.

 And so eventually I had enough.

 The thing is unless you don’t realize that crawling yourself into a ball and abandoning that dream, just because you fear rejection, isn’t going to change anything in life. Life has millions of ways to say NO, whether it is you pitching a project, whether you profess your love, or maybe its JK Rowling getting rejected by 12 publishers. It happens to all of us.

We chase, kiss, and love. We ask, share, and try. All under the risk of getting hurt. And sometimes we do get really hurt.

So why do we keep doing it? 

Why do we keep putting ourselves in situations, knowing that we can get rejected? 

Why do we keep chasing those dreams, that lost love? knowing deep in your heart that the rejection will hurt us?

 Because, What the hell is the alternative? The alternative is nothing. Nothing will happen.

 Any Goal, ambition, wish, aim, or dream that you have will all go to waste if you don't try. Like a dead fish flowing along the stream, it's mere existence has no meaning. The thought of that should scare you more than the risk of rejection. Giving up in life. Giving up in love. Just because you believed it will never work out for you and it was not worthy of your effort. 

Silvia Path once said "I love my rejections slips, they show me that I tried"

 Nowadays whenever I think back, on the number of times that I got rejected, whether that was in a job, or socially or romantically, or professionally. I remind myself that I tried.

 I recognize that every risk that I have ever taken, was me pushing my limits. It’s been me aiming high. It’s been me stepping out of my comfort zone. It's been me being true to my inner self. I know I could have avoided a lot of rejections, by not pushing myself, by aiming low, by staying in my comfort zone. Perhaps that would have saved me a lot of heartaches. But to do that I would have to exchange all the lessons, all the memories, all the people, all the stories that I have collected along my way. That’s not an exchange that I would ever be able to give!!

 Isn’t search is what keeps our lives interesting? The search for answers, the search for what is right for us, the search for love, and the search for meaning. Not everything that you desire, will be meant for you. The job that you didn’t get. The idea that got turned down. The friend that stop talking. The person who left you heartbroken. We tend to see them as they not want us, they not caring for us, like we weren’t good enough for them. And perhaps that is true!

 That rejection saved us from something. That rejection redirected us to someplace better. Perhaps it’s a place that we haven’t reach yet. That rejection made us realize the bigger purpose of life. That rejection leads you to the right person in your life. It might be timing, it might be a skill, it might be for a reason that we haven’t found yet.

I am learning to trust that any rejection I face is the best thing that could happen to me. Because it has forced me to stop and reflect on myself and that’s where learning happens and that is where growth happens.

   So as far as my "Consultant" career goes, I didn’t quit. One day, I landed in an amazing organization, in a role, more than what I hoped for. I get to travel, in economy class, but I understood the places that I get travel is much better those airline classes. I get to wear whatever I want, didn’t have to waste money on expensive restaurants. Coffees and Lunch were free!! And as far as team and clients, they considered not me as a “Consultant” but as a member of their organization.  The reality that I got was much better than my dreams.

 Of course, when I look at my personal moments in my life, I am still searching. I am still in pain. I wonder sometimes what would have happened if I did something different last time. What if I spoke in a different manner, what if I showed more compassion and empathy? What if I remained Quiet?

But to this day, that rejection is the one I trust most. Because I believe that it will help me to grow and in reminding me of the value of hard work.

  In accepting that "NOs" are part of the process.

Being grateful that I didn’t miss any single opportunity that I had, and I was true to myself.

I get to be free because deep in my heart I was sure what I was seeking for in life.

I get to live with fewer regrets. 

For that reason, I would take this pain any day. 

Because again, What the hell is the alternative?

[aleback]

Quanti ne ho amati così. #loveandpain #munnezz #lote #bro #tantononleggiimieipost #seinelmiograndebluanchesenonvuoi #nostalgia #oggipensavoate #love #friends #oldfriend https://www.instagram.com/p/B8B0VGvI5O6_Bhb0ASWQqJDZejwuPAUhId02Yo0/?igshid=1al8bqnq5mmjj

[medeafurens]

#ricordi #spensieri #pensierinotturni #alonebutnotlonely #smileisbetter #isognisondesideri #amoreimpossibile #amorecrudele #tipensomanonticerco #loveandpain #facebook #screenshot https://www.instagram.com/p/B79jCRXCXKn/?igshid=zyne4s4lqwqq

[liventenn]

Happy #fridaythe13th! Unlucky for some. But not for us freaks. “Jealous” 2016 #darkarts #darkartworks #comicart #entenn #darkartsociety #darksurrealism #conceptart #venusflytraps #emotions #loveandpain https://www.instagram.com/p/B2V9jHWDn2_/?igshid=jy6217lyotsv

[shrlyrz]

Oye chica! Cuando sientas que nadie más te entiende, cuando tus lágrimas quieran salir de tus ojitos... Y tu corazón se haya entristecido, mira la luna... Y recuerda que ella esta sola en la oscuridad y que aveces nadie la voltea a ver ni sabemos si un día salio o no... Pero brilla como nunca... Como tus ojitos brillan sin que nadie más lo note, solo unos pocos lo notamos, porque eres una mujer "única" en la vida... No dejes de brillar nunca dejes que la vida te haga creer que existes de por gusto... Porque nadie tiene el derecho a hacerte sentir triste... Brilla como la luna aunque muy poquitos notemos que allí esta. Nunca dejes que nadie te diga que no eres bella. By: Sharly #loveandpain 🦋 😢 (en Guatemala City, Guatemala) https://www.instagram.com/p/CXK4fWjDgYa/?utm_medium=tumblr

[lost-teeth]

The first @loveandpainmusic song is out today!! So excited to finally release “Chains of Love”. And can’t wait for you all to hear our EP Shivers, which is up for preorder now. Link in my bio.⛓ #loveandpain (at Seattle, Washington)