"When you hear pleasant or unpleasant words, understand them to be an empty resounding, like an echo.
When you encounter severe misfortune and misery, understand it to be a temporary occurrence, a deluded experience. Recognize that the innate nature is never apart from you."
Something I have learned from Buddhist friends is metta meditation. In this, one repeats loving words to close, mid, and far people, sometimes to all sentient beings.
I believe Christians can learn something similar. I am going to call this Christian metta, but it is not exactly loving-kindness. It is more of loving-forgiveness.
In this practice, I bring a person close to me to mind. I think of a minor thing they have done, perhaps they were late to meeting me, and I think "I forgive you." I then bring someone who I am not as close to, then someone who I do not know, and do the same.
I do the same for something slightly offensive, all the way to something greatly troubling. Just repeat "I forgive you."
‘Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.’
There is a Japanese art style named Kintsugi that requires filling cracks on broken objects with golden ink. It shows that scars are beautiful parts of the story to be displayed with pride, rather then hidden. Shows how brokenness is a thing that makes a piece truly unique, not useless.
I can’t stop thinking, what if we decide to treat our cracks as a way to tell our stories? Radical idea that our brokenness can be used to cherish ourselves rather than serve as a reason to fix ourselves. Living in a world that constantly tells us to improve, we can easily get overwhelmed in the underlying idea of being not good enough, shameful and broken. How useful can it be to concentrate on loving what already exists within? The bravery it takes to see parts of yourself and say “This is really ugly, how can I love it better?” , make it into a habit. And believe me, it’s actually not as hard as it seems
Because you don’t hate being yourself, you hate not being yourself.
There's so much unrest going on in the world right now that it's hard to know which events of violence and injustice to dedicate ourselves to. You might find yourselves feeling helpless and overwhelmed. At times like these, I find it helpful to practice the Meta or Loving Kindness Meditation.
Loving Kindness practice helps us get in touch with our self-compassion and compassion for all beings. The meditation attached is only 5 minutes, so go ahead and give yourselves a mental health break! (You can find any number of different Loving Kindness meditations for free on YouTube if you don't resonate with this particular one.)