Hi girl!! I don't know how to say this, but I love your writing and your sooo creative. I just wanted to say, im giving birth in a couple of weeks and it just hit me that I'm going to have a KID, LIKE WTH??? I did my research so there's nothing to worry about and I'm financially stable, its just, WEIRD??? I'm going to pop a baby out??please give some advice bc my hubby seems really cool about it and I'm just WHAT??😭
Trigger warnings- baby, mom life, and labor talk. Super long post 💕
✨️Congratulations to both of you and welcome to the hot moms club✨️
I went through an induction that turned into an emergency c section, so keep that in mind when reading my advice since I am not sure what form of labor you are opting for.
During Labor/Your hospital stay:
Bring a comfort idea to the hospital for before "active" labor and after. I brought my own pillow, and that made a world of difference. It was nice having something so familiar afterwards.
Don't eat anything you don't want to risk coming back up. Some hospitals will allow you to eat. Try to stick to the ice, juice, jello, or pudding. Italian shaved ice was also an option for me. And do bring snackies for after. You deserve it.
Don't panic if your birth plan does not turn out to be how birthing goes. I had planned on natural labor, no pain medication. I went in to be induced at 9pm December 13, by 2am I was in a lot of pain, by 7am I had an epidural.
Not to scare you, but the epidural can cause a few different reactions. Don't let that stop you from getting it. You HAVE to allow yourself to be as comfortable as possible, and your birth team will handle whatever curves are thrown their way.
If you are physically able to, do golden hour. In case it is called something different for you, golden hour is a full hour where the nursing staff leaves you and baby alone for skin to skin and nursing time. Tell your man I'm sorry, but he can wait. That hour is essential for building breastmilk supply if you're going to be EBF or EP. He can have baby after.
And let him have baby after. Daddy needs his own hour where baby is getting skin to skin with him.
It's going to be hard, but try not be mad if baby daddy sleeps after labor. He's going to have spent the last how ever long you were in labor in a heightened state of fight or flight because the woman he loves is in pain and there is nothing he can do for you. It's painful and all the exhausting for us. It's mentally and emotionally exhausting for them.
Do not (under any circumstances) let them force you into handling feedings one way or the other. Fed is best. Period.
Do not allow them to force you to have a nurse who makes you uncomfortable in any way. I know it's hard, but if a nurse is making you feel like you aren't doing enough, aren't listening to them, are making a wrong choice, ASK FOR A NEW NURSE. They should be supporting you.
If you're at a hospital where mom and baby sleep in one room, don't hesitate to say yes if a nurse asks if you want baby to go to nursery for a little bit. You both will need sleep. You deserve sleep. That nap will be precious. Trust me.
For home:
During bathing, try a swaddle method. It uses two towels, but it helps baby feel safe and secure. Here's a little link to an article about them
Take. Time. With. No. Visitors. You and baby daddy deserve time to adapt to your LO. It's a totally different ball game. We had 2 weeks alone. 2 weeks with just our parents. 2 weeks with our siblings. Then we opened the house to visitors who messaged us first.
Establish boundaries from jump. I made a post about on SM with a picture of our boundaries. Baby daddy enforced it.
Enjoy those 2am cuddles. They go away so fast 🥺
If you do not mentally feel okay, tell people you trust. Immediately. PPD/PPA can quickly become postpartum psychosis when left untreated.
Remember you're gorgeous. Even if you don't feel that way. You literally grew a human. It is the most selfless thing you could do for your family, and in my opinion, the closest thing to magic.
Remember to be kind to yourself and baby daddy. You're both learning. It's hard. So hard.
Never feel guilty for a few minutes of screen time. Sophia gets about 30 minutes a week spread out throughout the week. Ms. Rachel is a great help.
From my baby daddy to yours
Get her the food she's been craving that she "can't have" which also meant you couldn't have it for her first post labor meal. Lizzy wanted sushi. Baby momma got her sushi.
Take pictures of her with your kid. Constantly without her knowing. Those pictures will get you through the work day.
Get up with her at night. We helped make the baby. We help with the baby.
No yelling. No fighting. I said one thing to Lizzy I regret deeply, and I don't know if she's genuinely forgiven me for it. This is hard on your baby momma. If she needs to vent. Let her. Don't fight her. Just get her down for a nap, man. That's all you can do sometimes.
Never tell her to sleep when the munchkin sleeps. That statement is the most unhelpful thing anyone said to Lizzy. Tell her instead to lay down and try to get some sleep, and you will listen for crying. She needs the comfort of knowing someone else is there.
Don't allow anyone to shame her for anything. I learned I will throw hands over someone shaming Lizzy. Luckily, it was with my brother. We're good now.
Make sure she gets to shower every day.
Love her. Love her and look out for any signs of her not being okay. Lizzy's was staring off into nothing and crying way too much.
Make sure you schedule time for both of you to get away and let her enjoy said time.
Skin to skin. Daily.
Lastly, get her a pump if she's breastfeeding. Trust me. It will help build supply, and it allows you to feed the little one.
If you two need ANYTHING, message me. I don't have all the answers, but I might have advice. 💕
Here's a few products we love for Sophia, too. Some of them are pricy. We apologize.
Dreamland weighted Swaddle
Diaper cream spatula
Calmoseptine Ointment
Bums and Roses - softest pj's ever and you can get matching ones.
Momcozy nail file
Lizzy's favorite stationary pump*
Lizzys favorite on the go/work pump*
The bottles baby daddy uses to feed Sophia sometimes
*check to see if insurance will help*
Overall, just enjoy your time together and your sweet little baby.💕💕
Ps- thank you for the compliments! I was so excited to give advice I almost brushed over them 🥺
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Ari Drennen at MMFA:
Bud Light. Hershey’s. Target. Nike. Jack Daniel’s. The Los Angeles Dodgers. Adidas. Walmart. The North Face. While Pride 2023 featured a seemingly endless wave of boycott efforts from right-wing media personalities angry at corporations marketing their wares to LGBTQ customers, this year’s cancelation attempts have so far been more restrained, with a number of familiar right-wing media faces focusing on Ms Rachel after the popular children’s YouTuber posted a brief Pride message on TikTok.
With 10 million subscribers on YouTube, Rachel Accurso bills herself as “a passionate educator who creates research-based videos” which “infuse songs, games and nursery rhymes with strategies from experts to help children reach important milestones in the crucial early years of learning.” She also has nearly 5 million followers on TikTok, where she posted a 25-second clip on June 1 wishing a “happy Pride to all of our wonderful families and friends.”
The Daily Wire’s Matt Walsh shared the video to X (formerly Twitter), calling it “a message to conservatives parents.”
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Other right-wing media figures piled on, with anti-LGBTQ account Libs of TikTok accusing Ms Rachel of subscribing to “the child m*tilat*on cult,” conspiracy theorist Jack Posobiec pointing out that she’d invited trans TikTok star Dylan Mulvaney onto her show, and Daily Wire host Michael Knowles suggesting that her use of the title “Ms” was a red flag in itself.
Children's educator Rachel Accurso, aka Ms Rachel, has been the target of the anti-LGBTQ+ right-wing fake outrage machine led by the likes of Matt Walsh and Libs of TikTok for posting a "Happy Pride" TikTok.
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On Thursday, Accurso shared an emotional Instagram Reel in which she wipes away tears while describing the reaction to her fundraising efforts. She said she's received comments accusing her of not caring about “all kids.”
"That is who I am," she said in the video. "I love my neighbor; I love every child. Imagining for one second what a mom is going through unable to feed her child or give her child clean water or keep her child safe."
She reiterated that message in her caption, where she wrote she cares "deeply for all children."
"Palestinian children, Israeli children, children in the US — Muslim, Jewish, Christian children — all children, in every country," she wrote. "Not one is excluded."
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