#multigenderfluid

[sokojekeke]

i made a gender post (coining related) but i was WRONG. FELLOW MULTIGENDERFLUID FELLOWS!!!!! thats awesome i really didnt see these tags before....

i am still tempted to make a multigenderfluid flag since it seems fun!

im gonna go down this rabbit hole now walks into sunset

[selves-indulgent-coining]

as if gender is fluid with multiple genders but partially

And sorry for writing "genre" instead of "gender", the corrector is drunk

Thanks for the clarification! That makes more sense now.

Oh and don't worry about the typo lol; we understood what you meant. /gen

Demimultigenderfluid or demipolygenderfluid: being partially fluid with multiple genders

This term is a combination of multigender/polygender and demifluid. I think it's specifically like (cw: eyestrain) multigenderfluid + demifluid, but feel free to correct me.

(Multigender and polygender are synonyms, so they're being smashed together here.)

demimultigenderfluid 1 | demimultigenderfluid 2

demipolygenderfluid 1 | demipolygenderfluid 2

[alt text for top left: a rectangular flag with 11 horizontal stripes: the 5th and 7th stripes are split into 3 equal vertical stripes: pink (left), pastel yellow (middle), and pastel blue (right); the rest of the colors are, top to bottom: dark-ish grey, light grey, dark purplish-blue, vivid cerulean, burnt orange, vivid cerulean, dark purplish-blue, light grey, dark-ish grey. end alt text]

This flag is based on the blue and orange multigender flag and the non-gradient demifluid flag (the second flag in the link).

[alt text for top right: a rectangular flag with 11 horizontal stripes: the 5th and 7th stripes are a vertical gradient from pink (left) to pastel yellow (middle) to pastel blue (right); the rest of the colors are, top to bottom: dark-ish grey, light grey, dark purplish-blue, vivid cerulean, burnt orange, vivid cerulean, dark purplish-blue, light grey, dark-ish grey. end alt text]

This flag is based on the blue and orange multigender flag and the gradient demifluid flag (the first flag in the link).

[alt text for bottom left: a rectangular flag with 9 horizontal stripes: the 5th and 7th stripes are split into 3 equal vertical stripes: pink (left), light yellow (middle), and light-ish blue (right); the rest of the colors are, top to bottom: dark-ish grey, light grey, black, burnt orange, black, light grey, dark-ish grey. end alt text]

This flag is based on the polygender flag (first flag in the link) and the gradient demifluid flag.

[alt text for bottom right: a rectangular flag with 9 horizontal stripes: the 5th and 7th stripes are a vertical gradient from ppink (left), light yellow (middle), and light-ish blue (right); the rest of the colors are, top to bottom: dark-ish grey, light grey, black, burnt orange, black, light grey, dark-ish grey. end alt text]

This flag is based on the polygender flag and the gradient demifluid flag.

We're so sorry if we've misinterpreted! We're happy to retry if we did. /gen/

[mogai-headcanons]

Hordak from She-Ra and the Princesses of Power is a disabled biromantic demisexual transfeminine trans nonbinary multigenderfluid person who uses a cane and uses she/her, they/them, 🌒/🌒s, and star/stars pronouns, and she’s getting along with Horde Prime, a disabled intersex trans nonbinary questioning lesbian with schizophrenia who uses he/him, she/her, fae/faer, and sun/suns pronouns! Wrong Hordak is a transfeminine catgender nonbinary person who goes by Stella and she/her, they/them, and purr/purrs pronouns, and Entrapta is an autistic abromantic bisexual masc trans woman who uses he/him and ro/robot pronouns!

[arco-pluris]

Plurigenderfluid Pride Flags

Plurifluid (multigenderfluid or polygenderfluid): A more specific subset of Genderfluid where you can only have more than one gender at the same time, ex. from trigender to pangender and polygender.

Plurigenderflux Pride Flags

These two are the multigenderflux/polygenderflux (subset of genderflux where you can more than one gender at the same time).

[rombastic]

my attraction to women is so strange it’s like “I like them as a man, but I’m also gay for them but I’m definitely not sapphic. I’m queer but I am straight but I’m bi but I’m gay. I am a man attracted to women but no straight woman would date me”. But in the end I just want to kiss a girl tbh.

[gay-otlc]

Weird Moment Of Gender Clarity

[roboqueercore]

multigender and genderfluid ppl r so cool.....

[multigenderswag]

Tbh i feel kinda multigenderfluid in a way. as in sometimes I've got multiple genders rattling around in there at once and sometimes I've got one solid one

Another way I'd describe myself would be there's a piece of stiff fabric with a labeled gender spectrum and sometimes i have a pushpin where i am and sometimes I'm the hole that's left behind in the fabric when the pushpin is taken out.

Thanks for listening!

I like both of those metaphors a lot!

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Andrxgynxfluid Pride Flag

Androxgynxfluid (gynxndroxfluid, andrxgynxfluid or gynxandroxfluid): the combination of gynxfluid & androxfluid; being multigender of androx & gynx while genderfluid.

Gynxfluid: a fluid gender inbetween female & androgyne;

Androxfluid: a fluid gender inbetween male & androgyne.

Similar to multigenderfluid (plurigenderfluid, polygenderfluid, bigenderfluid), androgyneflux and versandrogyne. Mixing flags’ colors by @anthropomimus

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[buddyapologist]

I've ID'd as genderfluid for a long time but I think I'm like.......multigender and genderfluid? like my gender changes but I'm also like 3 genders at a time? but in different percentages? nonbinary functions as a good catch-all but I don't always feel separate from manhood or womanhood, sometimes I feel like I'm half man half androgynous, or like a quarter woman and 3/4 androgynous, but I'm never truly 100% anything, I think I'm everything, just at different random times

[arco-pluris]

Similar to plurifluid / multigenderfluid, but this one is like fluidfluid.

Polygenderfluid or Polyfluid: Experiencing multiple genderfluid identities at the same time. 

I’ll be the first to admit that this flag isn’t really my best work. ^_^;; I’m not sure how to change it to make it better tho, so feel free to give me your suggestions! Right now, it’s just a combination of the polygender and genderfluid flags. The second one was my attempt to make the colours more harmonious, but I still feel like I could’ve done better. :P

(Sidenote: this isn’t meant to be the same as shifterfluid/gendersuperfluid! That’s “fluidity between fluid identities,” I think.)

[buddyapologist]

something i've gotten better at as i've gotten older is being like "this has nothing to do with me actually". i feel like when you're a kid/teen you have a kind of....."everything is ultimately about me" mentality. this post about someone else reacting to their trauma is different than how i reacted to mine, so it makes me uncomfortable. this person headcanons this character differently than i do for personal reasons that i don't share, so it makes me uncomfortable. this trans person shares an identity with me but experiences it differently, which makes me uncomfortable. and it's also an insecurity thing, a worry about loss of identity, a worry about falsehood. "if my experience isn't reflected by The Other, it isn't real, and i'm lying".

and then you get older and you realize that every single person is living their own life and has their own reasons for what they like, dislike, believe in, support, love, feel neutral about, mock, etc. for me it started with getting to know my parents as people and not just The Ones Who Raised Me. and suddenly not everything is about you. and you're able to confront those things and go "this is about them. this has nothing to do with me actually". and it's not always easy, especially when you grow up insecure and isolated like i did.

and yes this is about being trans and recognizing that every single trans person's lived experience is not going to reflect my own, even when we share a label or something else. and if you're older you're like....well yeah, duh. but this is something every trans person has to go through, i think. my multigenderfluid experience is not the same as someone else's. my transmasc experience is not the same as someone else's. my transneutral experience is not the same as someone else's. my relationship to femininity and womanhood is not the same as someone else's. that's literally just how it is. you have to be okay with having your own experience and maybe not being able to relate to other people about it.

[buddyapologist]

being multigenderfluid is so. I'm a feminine man. I'm masc and femme. I'm a masculine femme. im a feminine masc. I'm nonbinary. I'm all genders at once. I'm separate from gender. i have never felt comfortable being called a woman but i look like one and am treated like one so it's part of my identity regardless. i could belong anywhere. i don't belong anywhere. I should dress more masculine. if I don't transition I'll suffer. if i transition I'll suffer. I hate having breasts. having breasts is fine. I am supposed to have a dick. having a dick would feel weird. having breasts and a dick would be awesome. I wear the clothes that look good on me. I wish different clothes looked good on me. I wish I was that guy at pride with a shaved head and a beard and a pink crop top and short shorts. I wish I was that lesbian at the bar with cropped hair and a leather jacket. i wish i was that male model with chiseled cheeks and long hair. i wish i was a beautiful woman. I wish I was something, anything, other than what I am. I wish for the impossible. I wish I was different. i wish the world was different.

[buddyapologist]

local nonbinary guy complains for too long about gender

i feel like so much discourse would be less of a headache if we really acknowledged that to the vast majority of people who see you on a regular basis, your actual sex/gender/sexuality doesn't define how they treat you, it's your presentation/appearance. the person who takes your order at a restaurant just sees what you look like and hears how you talk. they do not know you. maybe if they say mister and you're brave enough to say "actually i'm a miss" your identity will supersede your appearance and they'll say "sorry miss" or maybe it won't and they'll just go uh huh. like i'm just thinking about myself as an example because i'm 5'1 and feminine and multigenderfluid and transmasculine and i get addressed as a cis woman because i look like one. sometimes i work up the courage to correct someone if i feel like i'm in a safe environment. usually i don't. and if my boss doesn't give me a raise because he doesn't think women deserve raises, me going "actually i'm almost never a woman, i cycle through genders on an unpredictable basis so nonbinary is a pretty decent catch-all, i just dress like this because i like these clothes" isn't going to make him go oh i'm so sorry SIR, here's a 400000 dollar raise. you know? i'm treated like a cis(het) woman because i look like one. our presentations/appearances may not match up with our real genders, for better or for worse, and we're treated how we look. but it's not even that simple because if you're trying to pass but someone thinks you're the wrong gender anyway that plays into it too. like idk maybe i'm being reductive but so much of how we go about the world and interact with people is based on how we LOOK. why isn't that discussed more? (some) social media is the only place where you can find out someone's true gender/sexuality before seeing what they look like. are yall so terminally online that you think that's how it always is?? like obviously it isn't always based on looks bc some trans people will get deadnamed or misgendered no matter how masculine or feminine they look, but that's when the transphobe knows they're trans. if they passed them on the street and perceived them as cis they would treat them how they would treat a cis person. i have similar beef with sexuality labels bc throw in ATTRACTION to the mix, SO MUCH of which is based on looks, and it makes everything so stupid because sexuality labels are based on identity not appearance when that's not how it WORKS!! i'm bisexual so this doesn't even apply to me as much as it would apply to monosexual people but like my bf didn't think i was hot and then see that i use they/them and go oh nevermind i'm not attracted to you because i'm heterosexual which means i, a man, am attracted to women. he was attracted to how i looked, my identity didn't matter! it's just so stupid. it's all stupid. why does queerphobia have to exist at all. why did we have to establish this bullshit gender binary in the first place. we have to live and sit in anger and resentment and sadness because some fucking idiots thousands of years ago decided for some reason that this is the only way to exist. if i think about it for too long it makes me so fucking mad. im going to bed

[buddyapologist]

being multigenderfluid is an Experience to be sure

[gay-otlc]

okay! gender rant scream cry time

i'm not a girl. but maybe i am? but i don't feel like one. but sometimes i do. and sometimes i feel non-binary, but not a lot. like kind of a girl and kind of non-binary.

but sometimes i want to be a boy. but not a boy. a demiboy, maybe. but i don't want to be a straight boy. i don't want to be a boy. i want to be a gay boy but not a boy but not gay but not a gay boy but a gay boy.

and sometimes i feel like a girl a bit and then i feel non-binary.

and sometimes. very occasionally. i feel like i want to be a gay boy but not a gay boy. but i don't like boys. i don't want to be with a boy. i don't experience attraction to boys. but i want to be a gay boy.

but then other times. most of the time. i feel like a gay girl. but not always entirely a girl. maybe more non-binary or maybe more girl. it changes.

i don't know if there's a word for it. i'm currently using demigirl, girlflux and genderfluid but that's a mouthful and whenever i think about it my feelings change.

Alright, so, you have a lot of different genders happening here. Sounds like you might be somewhere under the multigender umbrella.

Regarding wanting to be a boy but not wanting to be a straight boy, that honestly sounds like some internalized transphobia is happening there. I don't blame you, the queer community is so shitty to transhets. I've deadass had someone tell me I shouldn't become a binary trans man because then I'd be a straight man. So, if you want to be a boy but what's holding you back is you don't want to be a boy who likes girls, that is just something you're gonna have to unlearn. It sucks, but it gets better.

Some labels it feels like you might vibe with-

Multigenderflux/multigenderfluid is when you have more than one gender but the amounts change. In your case, it sounds like your genders would be boy/girl/nonbinary and you always have a little bit of each, but the gender that's in the majority changes. Nonbinary is usually the highest percentage, and sometimes it's girl, and very occasionally it's boy.

Ambonec is when you're a boy and a girl, but also neither at the same time. This has the added bonus of a really cool flag

Look at that. Very pretty.

You could go with genderfluid, fem leaning genderfluid, or genderfluid demigirl if you want to specify that your gender is fluid but it tends to be on the female/nonbinary side of things.

Demibigender is also a possibility! You mentioned thinking about both demigirl and demiboy, so this combines them.

You don't need a single word that describes how you feel. You can use a combination of words, or write a paragraph instead of a label, or just go unlabeled. I spent over a year with zero clue what my gender was so I just said genderqueer, the vaguest label I could find, and it was great! Labels are fun, but they're not a life or death matter. You don't need to label anything if you can't or don't want to.