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deeply refreshing to see someone critical of Swift who also like, genuinely likes her. Like i'm neutral to positive on her, but the online discourse has been absolutely rancid. flipping between "Taylor Swift has never done anything wrong ever and she's a fucking genius" and "Taylor Swift is the worst lyricist of all time and also a bad person" is exhausting, so thank you for like. nuance or something lmao
not to make it serious for a sec but i genuinely think that being able to like things that are bad is really important. like I think that it's an important skill to be able to look at something and see what you personally enjoy about it and then take a step back and acknowledge that objectively it's flawed. and to also be able to acknowledge that liking something isn't necessarily an identity or a moral stance. and i think that fandom space in general could really benefit from more people taking the time to learn how to do that. it's okay to like things that are bad
#people ask me sometimes why ill occasionally talk about something i like and then go 'but it's bad' and the answer is usually because it is#i love teen wolf. i love genshin impact. i love detective conan. and i fucking LOVE taylor swift. that doesnt mean theyre good#it just means i like them. and recognizing their flaws actually helps me better identify what i like about them!#it's like. in my mind bad > good is the x axis and i like it > i dont like it is the y axis yk. they're not mutually exclusive#tldr it's not that serious. we can all relax a little#irt taylor swift i do also think she has done some real harm to her fans in enabling them to deflect all criticism of her as misogyny#and i don't think it's fully the fault of these people who are parroting that response bc so much of her marketing has deliberately#reinforced this idea that to be a swiftie is to be a part of a sisterhood and that any attack on taylor is an attack on all of those women#who are in that in-group. when that's obviously not the case. but she's marketed herself as. for lack of a better term. 'girl music'#to the point where it makes her fans feel as though any criticism of the music or the woman responsible for it is an attack on their#personal experience of womanhood/girlhood/sisterhood/etc. and that's how you get all of thess bad-faith accusations of misogyny#i don't necessarily think this was her deliberate goal with her marketing tho because like. on first glance such a strong sense of communit#among fans sounds like a great thing. the friendship bracelets i got at the eras tour movie are really genuinely special to me.#but it does present a problem when your fans are unable to separate how they feel about the community and experience your music has fostere#from how they feel about you as a person. especially when you are a billionaire who absolutely CANNOT be above criticism in this economy#anyway. tldr i love taylor's music and i don't think swiftie hivemind is as deliberately malicious as it may seem#but it's obviously necessary to be able to take a step back and look objectively at what you're participating in.#anyway stream ttpd or don't idc <3#taylor swift
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Okay I always feel really bad asking that so I never do, but this time I really need help me paying for an eye exam and new glasses it would be kind of you 😔
One hinge broke and I had to glue it and it’s fine but now the rims is seperating from the lenses and that’s bad :( I have a wedding to go too Sunday so if I can at least try to get them repaired until I have money I would be happy
Kofi : https://ko-fi.com/alexkorimi
Also donate to 🇵🇸 if you can they need it more than me
#i try to put a elastic so it dosen’t get worst but it’s not really working as you can see but it is a little bit less separate so I kept it#i feel horrible asking for help but my parents are struggle I’m tired of being a burden 😭#no i have no job that’s why I feel bad and I need one but anxiety is evil when you look for one I’m trying#I’ve got some good idea I will send cvs soon#but they can’t really wait if I don’t have glasses I’m blind af#alex.txt#please reblog if you want#mutual aid
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I also find it funny that fandom will only accept Lyanna being her non-conforming, wild self in the context of saying that Arya isn't meant to be pretty; Any other day we get back-to-back posts about how Lyanna is actually super traditionally feminine cause she sniffled at a song once, so she's actually more like Sansa. Instead of constantly speaking on Arya and Lyanna, how about you guys reflect on why your standards of beauty for women are attached to how well they perform feminity within the patriarchy?
#lyanna stark#arya stark#asoiaf#/Lyanna isn't actually pretty she was a wild tomboy/ Those two things are not mutually exclusive 😭#how you look is not a reflection of your personality and this is also a running theme within the story#we have morally good characters who are ugly and morally bad characters who are beautiful this is like...kindergarten level#Lyanna is idealized in terms of her personality hence /you saw her beauty but not the iron underneath/#and Ned correcting Robert when he said Lyanna wouldn't have shamed him like Cersei had#he's a very shallow misogynistic character and I truly doubt he would've been as attached to the idea of her without surface level beauty#reminds me of people saying that Olivia Hussey is a bad fancast for them because she has a /doll like/ beauty and they're /rougher/ 😭#as though their entire facial structure magically changed once they realized they enjoyed playing with swords instead of sewing sdksdkdsksd#it's giving that one tiktok with the /cat pretty vs doe pretty vs bunny pretty/#even if you wanted to make the case that her beauty is idealized in her death we get Arya described a pretty multiple times?#idk it's just so wild to me to use personality as an indication of looks it just sounds so stupid#Arya/Lyanna can still have /delicate/ features (which is extremely subjective) and still have a wild personality#how about we acknowledge that the perception of both of them is warped by strict patriarchal gender norms instead?#some real analysis just to shake things up idk
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hiiii haha. hello. exceptionally awkward introduction bc idrk how to start something like this so let's just jump right in. im taking a break from this account for a bit. i know i said i wanted taob out before halloween and currently im fine sticking with that deadline, but if i decide i need longer away then i will take longer away. every time ive reassured people that id never abandon a fic and updates will always come eventually i never once considered that my writing and ability to feel safe and comfortable on this site would be actively taken from me, so im not even going to apologise. i dont want this either and more importantly i dont fucking deserve it. i dont know what it is in the past year, if ive hit a certain amount of followers or 'popularity' that's made it so the natural ratio of positive to negative interactions must in turn go up, but there's been a serious uptick in weird asks for me. the annoying part is that a very small amount of them are actually objectively mean and hateful, the rest are just weird and invasive from people who seemingly dont realise that's what they're being. ive reached a point where i dont care if the intentions are good. it's not my job as a 20 year old tumblr user of all things to defend the morality of someone who couldnt even bother to come off anon. unfortunately, after blocking only one or two anons, the weird asks have decreased substantially, which says all you need to know about the fascinating and exhilarating lives led by these people, but ive also gone on to turn anon asks off entirely. this is something i actively fought against doing and had to be pushed into by my mutuals (who have been the coolest people on planet earth during this entire thing). turning off anon was a big deal to me even if it sounds silly. i felt betrayed and like id been backed into a corner because it was so vehmently something i DIDNT WANT that to feel like i had to do it anyway for my own mental health??? that sucks. so even though ive 'fixed' the problem, im still kind of reeling and uncomfortable every time i come on tumblr. i hope it's just something i need time to ease because i'll truly be devastated if this becomes 'ruined' for me. tumblr exists as the only place in the world where i am honestly every facet of myself without shame or hesitation; losing that would be insanely harmful to me. and to the people who cant appeal to the actual human behind the post, let me put that in words you can understand: we wouldn't get any more writing 😦😦😦 riots and fires and sirens, i know. so yeah. to anyone who has sent me an anon ask and you're now wondering if you were part of the problem, im firmly of the belief that you'll know if you are. when i say 'weird asks' i dont mean 'you sent me a para about your personal life just to vent or ask for advice' or 'you sent me a really deep emotional compliment about the impact me and/or my writing has had on you' - i love asks like that, so much that i put off taking a break and turning off anon solely for the joy they bring me. im sorry that it might feel like you're being punished too bc of the actions of what in reality is a HANDFUL of weird people, but this is what i feel like i have to do to feel safe and not go insane every time i log in. love you guys, hopefully ill see you soon x
#seriously another shout out to my mutuals#id particularly like to say thank you to boom who's always right there for me no matter what's happening or how insane im being#and also everyone in our little discord that wound up having to make a whole new channel for venting#bc i was there so often like 'today's weird ask isssss.... telling me about my cupsize!! rip them to shreds!!!'#hannah and theo especially being there and pushing me to finally turn off anon. war is truly over#and of course rori bc the shamelessness u show when hating on my anon asks has been genuinely really cathartic#sometimes u really do just need a rottweiler mutual to tell random people online to kill themselves 😭#okay weird oscar acceptance speechcore gratitude over. i do just rlly love my mutuals#like i went three years not telling anyone about the worse side of internet popularity for fear of looking spoiled and ungrateful#so for the first time to open up about it and be met with outrage on my behalf and people saying in fact it's MORE fucked up#than i initially realised bc ive grown desensitised to it is. yeah cathartic i guess#they are singlehandedly reassuring me of the good this cursed app still holds#so everyone thank them and send them flowers NOW#okay im done i think. see you guys soon. i truly do want to come back asap bc like i said i NEVER EVEN WANTED TO FUCKING LEAVE#SOME ASSHOLES JUST HAD TO PUT GRENADES ON WHAT I ASSUMED WERE VERY UNIVERSAL AND OBVIOUS BOUNDARIES#if you're reading this like 'ohhh fuck i defo sent something invasive lately. i thought it was a joke/we were friends'#then 1) we arent friends if you're on anon. it immediately creates a power imbalance where you know me and any necessary context#but i have no idea who you are or how much you know about me. that's already a fucked dynamic#and 2) I HOPE YOU FEEL BAD. LIKE GENUINELY I HOPE YOU FEEL AWFUL AND HAVE A GOOD LONG LOOK AT YOURSELF#okay i think that's all. ta-ra lads??? how tf do u end something like this#ive queued this to reblog a couple more times throughout the day
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"friends of lava" new lgbtq+ euphemism
#not art#fhjy spoilers#half the battle thru I am Enamored with how much porter's people do Not have Any affection for each others#in a sense that so couldve been what the bad kids wouldve ended up as! they did not set out to be friends#people forced together by circumstances. but they were like no lets develop some mutual fondness about this#also learning that kipperlilly willingly did the ritual..... oh the stonecold killer!! the girlbossitude!!!#none of them were ever her friends... her one friend did not return. its delicious!!#very specifically mirroring riz loving this game so much. loving to be in this world with his friends so much that he'd take on#any amount of burden just to keep this. kipperlilly wants to win the game without playing. she doesnt like playing the game!!#she doesn't want to go Into the game with her friend. she wants her friend to pull away from the game with her#and like I dont love the idea of hardship as a measurement of ur commitment to the game (see: previous posts)#but wanting to be good at the game without playing the game.... youve chosen a lonely margin to put urself in babygirl#youre no friend of lava thats for sure!
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Can we please just let people have their joy?
When we see a post that isn't our joy but someone else's, can we please not comment or reblog explaining why it isn't your joy and therefore can be no one else's?
Can we not give those people an alert that stamps out the joy when they click on it, because they see why it shouldn't bring them happiness and why they should feel bad for expressing it?
Can we please not invade someone else's safe space to make it adhere to your own rules and your own happiness?
#and please don't do it especially if it's a mutual#i just want to not feel like i'm a bad person for expressing happiness because someone else couldn't stand seeing it#tumblr#reblogging#good manners#etiquette#i have no idea how to tag this
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As an adult rewatching all the x-men movies, I think I’ve figured out why the movies made me uncomfortable to a personal level as a kid
#it’s the whole ‘normal’ people wanting to change the mutants bc of who they are#bc of who they were born as#like as a young child I KNEW I was trans but I didn’t have the vocabulary#the whole ‘mutants can be amung us be one of you maybe even your child and you might not even know’ bit#the whole scene where Warren tries to cut off his wings bc how his parents view mutants#how he was so scared of having his father know#the whole trying to ‘cure’ being a mutant#it’s the whole trying who hide your identity. who you are. from family and friends#it’s the whole being raised with ‘being who you are is religiously and politically and morally wrong’#the whole ‘we’re family we love you unconditionally’ unless you’re a mutant (trans)#it’s the ‘we’re the government of course we care about you and your well being. unless you’re a mutant’ (trans)#it’s the idea that there’s ‘good’ and ‘bad’ ones just based on who they are.#I’m rambling#I’m bored at work#no one reads tags anyways#except for like one mutual#hi#yea I’m talking about you#how’s you’re lmk HCs going?#yea I’m looking at you#direct eye contact over here#I’m pointing at you#anyways Kurt is trans bc I say so
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I always smh at people who dub Jason as “whiny” “and therefore ooc” in tt 29. If you died and all everyone did was taint your legacy, and not a single person remembered you fondly or deemed you worthy of commemoration after your death, wouldn’t you be a bit upset too?
#the only thing that was ooc about Jason there was all the shit talking the other characters were doing about him.#and some of the things Jason said about himself because he left whatever small amounts of self esteem he actually had back in his grave#he was very cooperative shy and clever with the titans in the 80s#it’s not enough that his own father told him to his face that he is a product of his own problems#everyone he knew and had good working relationships with just completely shut him out and turned their backs#even if you don’t mean it/it’s more complicated than that#if someone you knew died but now you got a chance to tell them what you couldn’t wouldn’t you at least muster up an ‘I’m glad you’re back’#apparently not lol#kelseethe#it’s the fact that people label him *being upset* as ‘illogical’ or stupid that irks me#I was talking with a mutual about this too but#if a female character did exactly his actions#I don’t think people would be so quick to stomp all over her and call her weak/overbearing/hysterical#or to give her the dismissive patronizing eye roll treatment#even though they deemed her actions to be exaggerated/misdirected/an outburst by any standard#they’d probably say she’s written like an actual human and that she resonates with a lot of people haha#he evaded all their security systems and effectively took down anyone who was present in the tower.#I’d say his skills are pretty in-character.#the idea that men can get emotional is just not palatable to you people just admit it#if it isn’t silent brooding stoic manpain you people will projectile vomit all over it and call it ‘bad characterization’
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I love when the Writing is so Peak that it pretty much gaslights you <3
anyway N!Lisa may be a classist dick but not even she deserves to be married to a man she sees as a devil. what's with this show and trying to paint obviously unhealthy abusive relationships as the cutest thing just because there's some mild banter between them
#anti netflixvania#as i said on discord but it didn't make the cut#i would say “i hope the dick was good” but no i very much doubt it#all jokes aside an italian movie that recently came out on netflix sparked once again the topic of romanticized abusive relationships#especially of the format “bad boy/girl who can fix him”#(where the bad boy is a violent piece of shit and the girl has no other personality other than wanting to selflessly fix others)#and ngl i'm sick and tired of this trope#brooding boy/gentle girl is something else. that can be done either well or in a very boring way#but the fantasy of outright *fixing* a violent man with the power of puss-- i mean kindness? sorry that only leads to disaster#the boy (or rarely girl) needs to *want* to change. there has to be a mutual effort. otherwise he's not a bf he's a project#and n!draculisa is this to a t#there is genuinely more proof that game dracula was a nicer person before lisa's death#either you make a terrible abusive dracula or you commit to the idea that he has good traits obscured by his rage#and maybe if lisa didn't outright call her hubby “worse than satan” i could be convinced
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YOU ALSO LIKE THE HTTYD BOOKS??? HELL YES. i have. been losing it over hiccup the second for. hours. and how hes the whole reason the story of the httyd books YET DOESNT EVEN FUCKING APPEAR ONCE IN THE HTTYD MOVIES. theres no hiccup the second equivalent. what the fuck. i could fit them in so easily. make them background context for why the majority of the archepeliago is hostile with dragons. hiccup the seconds death happened and the whole dragon rebellion happened very far ago leading to this sort of hostility but it was so long ago nobody really remembers and hiccup the second is vaguely remembered but nothing important about him actually is. furious doesnt even need to still be alive for this to work. hiccup the second. hautning the narrative. i like him
Ok first off. AHHHHHHH YES YES YES HELLO FELLOW HICCUP THE SECOND STAN!!!!! i actually watched the movie first and then the book so i was like "wow cool" on the first watch but Oh my god i would be so lying if i said i never once wished for a hiccup the second in the movies. Like i KNOW the movies are basically like a whole different thing from the books after the first one but?? BUT???? Idk im very biased i love the guy. Ik you pointed this out but he really is the reason for literally everything in the books if you care enough to look into it and i really do think him being some sort of background lore in the movies would be so cool.. *digging thru the httyd ao3 tags*
incidentally if you ask me to choose between the movies and the books i would say the books in a heartbeat. i love the movies it's one of my favorites but a) the books made me cry harder b) theres no hiccup the second OR hiccup the first c) the book lore is absolutely golden and ive never seen anything else top it and d) the movies overwrote fishlegs into almost non-existance which. HELLO?? EXCUSE ME???????
#hello mutual thank you for freaking out abt this book with me#also IF. IF you ever decide to write abt the hiccup the second in the movies NOTIFY ME INSTANTLY#and to everyone else: go read it if you havent already please i promise it's worth it. spread the httyd brainrot virus#bonus content:#im so so so angry about fishlegs you have no idea#i think at this point we should all just forget that the movie was based on the book series. it would be better for everyone#it's not even one of those 'bad movie adaption' things the movies are so GOOD!!!#have you listened to the soundtracks holy frick it's THE soundtrack ever#moral of the story. read the books and watch the (completely unrelated) movie#asks
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trying to decide if it's more productive to elaborate on the D&D post and make it clear that at least a large number of people do not want to hear about your game in the tags and you should reblog the d&d post and then make a separate post that rambles on at length if you ACTUALLY want to keep this between you and your mutuals; or if I should keep doing as I have been, namely, treating it as a glue trap and blocking everyone who's like "lol too bad I'm telling you about my game and you'll deal"
#honestly the people who are like TOO BAD or who don't understand that op doesn't want to read tags intended for your mutuals#probably would not understand the idea that they are not the center of the universe so glue trap it is#the thing is i'm not opposed to long tags i'm opposed to OFF TOPIC/IRRELEVANT long tags#if i describe something and your game fits it EXACTLY then you know what go ahead#but if i make a post about the ranger class generally and you talk about your ranger pc for 3 paragraphs...goodbye.#this wasn't the salty post i had in mind before going to bed btw that was me being irritated the midst and wbn tags are largely full#of like. ten variations on the same post that's not really about the show at all#as a former chronic main-tagger i have a pretty good handle on maintag etiquette and also Opinions now and. would love people to join me.
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happy fabricator friday. time for me to post fabbylaris content okay?? obligatory these are all my personal headcanons and some of it has little to no basis in actual canon, it's mostly just me expanding on things I think make sense. with that out of the way.
I think, in theory, that Solaris is one of the very few people who could convince the Fabricator to leave Zoraxis. If not the only one. I doubt the Fabricator has many outside support systems, and while she could turn to the Agency for help... I doubt it'd go well for her.
So that leaves Solaris. Someone she worked closely with for years. Half a decade, at the very least. It would be incredibly difficult for her to get away with the amount of loyalty to Zor she has, and the manipulation she has to have experienced, and the fear for her life... But Solaris leaving might have planted the seeds of doubt in her mind. There's nobody she trusts more, despite the rocky start their relationship had.
I like to think that Solaris was the first person in over a decade, besides Zor, to actually... Interact with the Fabricator in a generally positive way. Solaris never belittled her, or talked down at her, or made her feel like she wasn't worthy of her rank... Because despite her prominence in Zoraxis, I don't think the Fabricator truly has a seat at the table. And this isn't really new to her, she's far too accustomed to being looked down on, but... It stings. With Solaris, though, she's finally someone's equal. There's mutual respect. It's nice, being appreciated...
So of course if she wanted to leave she would seek out the one person who might not turn her away. What else would she have?
#bee's buzzing#ieytd#the fabricator#commander solaris#<- she's in here i promise i just talk about fabby more because. i know more about her than solaris in my mind#i get all of my solaris hcs from my tumblr mutual and friend savvy the-valiant-valkyrie. hi savvy youre so good at solaris posts#anyway i was gonna say. i think fabby's been at zoraxis for a VERY long time. like. decades.#and in that time she's only ever had zor. this was something zor did on purpose to keep her in their claws.#until she met solaris anyways. yuri win.#i also think that even before zoraxis her support system was abysmal. she cut all contact with her family the second she could-#- and she didn't have any friends in university. she's all alone out there.#and even outside of zoraxis in present day. sure she's probably somewhat well known. but nobody really KNOWS her.#she's just a bit of a celebrity. that has to be a lonely existence. i feel bad for her really.#^^^ all of this is me making shit up btw. if your fabby hcs are different thats cool this is like. my personal ideas and such
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someone (who i think may have been following me?) reblogged a post from me less than ten days ago TODAY and now appears to have me blocked
would genuinely like to know what could possibly have been a blockable offense in that time
#moi#and once again!! they are still engaging with my mutuals!!!#like iirc the most controversial thing i’ve said lately was ‘publicly wishing death on people is bad and counterproductive’#like???#the only reason i’m even aware of so many of these people is because they regularly interact with other people in my circle???#or ME#also quite frankly i think if you have someone blocked you shouldn’t be able to reblog their posts#but i honest to god have no idea what would make someone go from reblogging my posts and agreeing with me to blocking me#i’m not like torn up about it i guess but it doesn’t feel good either#salt is salt
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So how about me making moodboards for some of y’all’s stories to celebrate my blog’s fourth anniversary?
#I mean mutuals and followers#would be an idea wouldn’t it? I’m not too good but not really bad at it either 🙈#writer speaks#writeblr
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Ok before I try and sleep. I think a lotttt about beck and leons first apartment together. In my dreams It's a cheap studio apartment. They aren't together yet but since the space is so small they share a full size bed, their TV with their lil gaming console is up against the bed and the TV stand is their shared dresser. The kitchen has a two person table against the wall and the kitchen is so tiny. Barely two counters and one is the sink type deal. Bathroom is tiny and right next to the front door. They managed to squeeze in a treadmill and a shared desk. And they're friends btw. Half the time they just eat in bed
#sey speaks#they play this off as theyre just two good friends who experienced a traumatic event together#and not theyre so deeply bonded and mutually pining#this is also a Bad Idea gjven they are two semi recently on T transmascs but.
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