hello! this is a bit random but i just need to share it lmao so my best friend is finally watching stranger things (mainly bc i begged him to do so) and we were just on holiday together so over the last 4 days we watched most of season 2 together and let me tell you i was Terrified of his reaction to billy, bc our other friend who was watching with us is not a fan of the little trash boy and yk it's easy to go down the not liking him route. however today i got to see my best friend's reaction to neil hargrove and The Scene. and it was glorious. he immediately said sth along the lines of "holy shit now i feel bad for this kid and suddenly all his behaviour makes sense." it was lovely and reassuring to see this reaction from a guy who isn't as involved in fandom spaces or drama and really had a completely neutral pov. hearing this outside perspective in between all the anti bullshit and stuff was so nice -myriadof-fandoms
That's good to hear! :) Sometimes it's hard to like characters because their behavior annoys us for one reason or another but eventually they just might grow on us. Sometimes it even takes two, even three rewatches for us to fully understand that character (definitely happened to me more than once lol). So it's good to hear that your friend ended up having a more empathetic/understanding response to Billy's character instead of just sticking with a negative bias because of how Billy acts.
I actually had a similar experience with my best friend who's also here on Tumblr. :) With the exception that she wasn't actually biased against Billy because she doesn't watch the show, but rather she asked me to pick an episode or two for us to watch because she was curious about Billy. And I recall showing her at least the second episode from s2 where Billy drives like a madman and taunts Max, and my friend immediately picked up on it and said something along the lines of "he's definitely got some issues" and "he needs help". And it was also a very neutral response from her so I felt good because Billy's character really divides opinions.
Of course we didn't watch the entire show so I don't know if she would've felt otherwise if we had haha. On the other hand, she was a hardcore Loki fan back in the day so yeah. :)
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before you know about women, you hear that you do not need to love the man, just that you need to love him through his manhood. which is to say you have seen the future painted in lamb's blood over your eyes - how your mother shoots you a look about your father's inability to cook right. how your aunt holds her wineglass and says i'm gonna kill em. men, right! how your best friend bickers with her boyfriend, how she says i can't help it. i come back to him.
you learn: men are gonna cheat. men aren't going to listen when you're talking, because you're nagging. men think emotions are stupid. they think your life is vapid and your hobbies are embarrassing. men will slam things, but that's because men are allowed to be angry. if you get loud, you're hysterical. if a man gets loud - well, men are animals, men are dogs, men can't control their hands or their eyes or their bodies. they're going to make a snide comment about you in the locker room, about your body, about how you're so fucking annoying. you're going to give him kids, and he will give you the money for the kids, and you're going to be running the house 24/7 - but he gets to relax after a long day, because his job is stressful. the man is on stage, and is a comedian, and says "women!"
and you are supposed to love that. you are supposed to love men through how horrible they are to you - because that's what women do. that's what good women do. wife material. your father even told you once - it'll make sense when you're older. it was like staring down a very lonely tunnel.
it feels like something's caught in your throat, but it's all you know, so. it's okay that you see sex as a necessary tool, a sort of okay-enough ritual to keep him happy, even though he doesn't seem to care about happiness as-applied-to you. it is relationship upkeep. it is kissing him and smiling even though he didn't brush his teeth. it is getting on your knees and looking up and holding back a sigh because he barely holds you as you panic through the night. it's not like the sex is bad and you do like feeling wanted. and besides! he's a man! like... they're another species. you'll never be able to actually communicate, right. he isn't listening.
you just don't get it. you don't feel that sense of i'm gonna climb him like a tree. mostly it just feels fucking exhausting. you play the part perfectly. you smile and nod and are "effortlessly" charming. and it's fine! it's alright! you even love him, if you're looking. you could have good life, and a good family, and perfectly happy.
in the late night you google: am i broken. you google i'm not attracted to my husband. you google i get turned on by books but not by him. you google how to get better in bed.
the first time he yells at you, it almost feels like blankness. like - of course this is happening. this is always how it was going to end up. men get angry, and they yell, and you sit there in silence.
you mention it to your friend - just the once - while you're drunk. she shrugs and says it's like that with me too, i just try to forget and move on. men are always gonna hear what they want to. pick your battles and say sorry even though he's in the wrong. you play solitaire online for a month. you go to your therapist appointment and preach about how you're both so in love.
after all, you have a future to want. nobody lied about it - how many instagram posts say marriage is hard. say real love takes work. say we fight like cats and dogs but the best part is that we always make up. how many of your friends say happy anniversary to the best and worst thing to ever happen to me. if you really loved him - loved yourself too - you'd accept that men are just different from you.
the first time she kisses you, it's on a dare at a party. something large and terrifying whips through your body. you wake up sweating from dreams where her mouth is encrusted with pearls and you pick them off one by one with your teeth. fuck. you sit at the computer and your almost-finished game of sim city. you think about your potential perfect life and your potential future family. you google am i gay quiz with your little hands shaking.
you delete each letter slowly. you don't need to love him. you just need to keep going.
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Okay, before I talk about au stuff-ART FIGHT HAS OFFICIALLY ENDED!!
This year I was super busy, and yet this has somehow turned out to me my most productive year on artfight to date with 24 total attacks (and I wanted to do more, but again, this month had me in a chokehold)
SO HERE ARE MY CONTRIBUTIONS!
In order, credit for character designs goes to:
First two are for @rose-petal123 next is @princess-self-shipping , @clawcakes , @sweetkiller690 , @camilieroart , @anixolt , @artilite, @krdrawsnext two are both for @kazehita
@bleeding-fairy-helmet , Curb Animates (on youtube), @donniipao , @wonder-of-the-stars , @bluesgras , @feloplip , @princemonarchempress, @tfrost , @tealgoat , @sketchz42 , @saltyhibiscus
And the last two are for @sharoo
(For some reason the tags aren't working, but if you're curious, I mentioned everyone in the notes in the same order!)
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If somebody in your life offers to knit or crochet or, really, create anything for you, please be an active participant in the creation of the piece they are making. I adore making and gifting things, but nothing bums me out quicker than a person who passively just goes "okay," to my ideas about what I'm making them - it can send the message that they won't like it, or that they don't care, even if they're happy about my offering. The back-and-forth feedback is a great way to make sure that you are being gifted something that was truly worth the time, effort, expertise, and money that will inevitably go into the gift!
I know it's really hard to be an active participant, believe me, I'm an anxious ball of horror, but it will only do good for both parties to interact in this situation. It is a big deal to be offered a hand-crafted gift, but it's also something we want you to love and use, and that can only happen if you tell us what would make you fall in love with what we create.
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