I love when @107bees said "...cancel culture is dumb, people need to make mistakes to grow"
That's the WHOLE thing with being HUMAN
Humans are imperfect, fickle, multifaceted creatures, who are always going to make mistakes and hopefully - if they are given half a chance - they will learn to grow from their mistakes and make better decisions, and then probably make some more mistakes, and then grow some more, etc etc.. but We have to Give People A Chance to make a mistake, see the outcome, learn from it, and grow.
I'm so SICK so being afraid that something I do or say in my early 20s while I'm still honestly dumb af is going to come back and hurt 30-40 something year old me who is trying to do something in the public eye, like publish my first book or something.. and someone pulls up some idiotic thing I did or said once thinking that that culminates who I am as a person years after the fact
I hope cancel culture dies out before I ever manage to do anything worthwhile :( and just forgoodnesssakes forgive people
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you guys need to leave carter the fuck alone. mind blowing how some of you are so open about wanting him dead or wishing horrible things upon him when i know the same of you will bend over backwards to shield your dumbass male li from any criticism. leave the 16 year old addict alone !
kinda interesting also how some of you talk about him the same way you talk about dia from sotcn ... another addict .... just think it's interesting. sure hope it doesn't reveal any biases about irl addicts
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i never understood how people would leave those who are addicted to something. doesnt matter what the relationship is, familial, platonic, romantic, etc., i never understood how someone could "give up" on them.
i have always believed that addiction is a disease and you should help and support those suffering with it. that they have changed because of what they are addicted to, and they arent themselves anymore, so you should do everything to help them find themselves and who they want to be outside of addiction again
but i get it. my ex has changed and become someone who actively chooses to do things that hurt me, and make me feel bad when i tell them what they did hurt my feelings. even if they aren't purposely trying to be hurtful, they arent thinking about how what they say or do will effect me and have consequences
they aren't themselves. i know they are capable of kindness and being a good person and a good partner. i know that whenever they heavily drink they become someone selfish and mean drunk and sober. i know they dont see things clearly anymore.
i've witnessed it before. i chose to be with them and let them figure their shit out. and they did. they started drinking significantly less and were kind and loving to me again.
but i dont think i can do it again. especially when they have a new partner they love and talk about all the time and bring over to sleep on the mattress we bought together. especially when they wont admit that everything they have been doing since they met their new partner, are things i have been begging for them to do with me.
i cant do it anymore. it is killing me. they wont even let me grieve properly! tell me they think it is weird that i go from being okay, confident, and excited to figure myself out to "suddenly" crying in my room. i get im a loud cryer, but im not going to anyone for reassurance or telling them they made me feel that way. im just crying! by myself! my therapist is the one that told me it is completely acceptable for me to be grieving the way i am. especially because im autistic.
i cant do it. i know they arent themselves. i know alcohol turns them into something awful and i am the target for their meanness. their dad was the same way with his ex-wife. like i get it. they need help. a lot of help.
i dont even point out their alcoholism too much, i try to let them figure it out on their own again. i just cant take it anymore. i cant do this anymore. i dont want to be treated this way anymore. i dont want the love i still have for them to be poisoned by their addiction.
i am so done. they need help. i am the clear target for their hate and awfulness. my former roommate pointed out the way they have treated me for the past month and a half seems abusive. and i dont even know what to think of that.
i cant be their target anymore. they need to figure their shit out. maybe ill message one of their sisters to try to see if they can help, but i dont know if i would be overstepping for that.
i deserve to heal from everything without also having to try and be understanding that the way they are treating me is because of their addiction.
they have grabbed me (a couple times) by my arm in a very aggressive way while drunk. they tried to rape me while drunk. they have punched the wall while drunk and angry at me. they have said some truly malicious shit to me while drunk. they get angry at me because im not expressing my emotions however way they expect me to when they are drunk. they have done so much shit to me while drunk. and i forgave them, even when they would deny it ever happened
when we were still together, they would always try to have sex with me, only when they were drunk, despite the numerous times i have told them that i am not comfortable having sex with someone who is drunk when i am sober. and they know i feel this way intensely because of the "friend" i had that raped me while i was drunk.
aahhhugggggsjsjskahagskakah
i dont know what to do. i dont know how to help them anymore. i dont know how to be there for them anymore. i dont know how to support them anymore. at least i dont know how to do all of that, and protect my mental sanity at the same time.
i just want them to be themselves again. i dont want to be with them anymore. i just miss them. they dont realize im not just grieving the relationship, im grieving them and who they used to be.
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