#psychology questions and answers

[furiousgoldfish]

abusive parent: calls me to meal

me, inside of my head: It's a trap! I'm hungry but if I do come out and eat, I'll be sitting at the table with the rest of them and they'll all get a chance to insult me, criticize my appearance, tell me what to do and start a discussion about how useless and selfish and horrible I am, I won't be able to stand it and I'll run away from the table still hungry. If I just go and grab a plate and attempt to eat it alone in my room I'll get attacked for being rude and acting like I'm too good to eat at the table and ruining the tradition of how food is supposed to be eaten and called an uncultured swine. What I need to do is wait until they've all eaten and dispersed from the table and then I have to sneak into the kitchen and grab whatever they've left and then I can eat it in my room.

me: umm… I'm not hungry yet?

abusive parent: Oh you're not hungry now? After I made all this food you're now not hungry???? What did you eat and when? Why did you eat when you knew there was going to be food made? Why are you so selfish? You did this just to piss me off!!! I don't care if you're not hungry, you need to come here and eat after I've made food!! Why do you always do this?? I slave away making food and you're just going to not be hungry after I did all that? Come here thIS INSTANT, you're GOING TO EAT IT!

[jasontoddenthusiastt]

Imo Jason is “irredeemable” by default because I don’t see what he needs redemption from.

[theophagie-remade]

Having Caleb as the official eng translator is hell because due to all the times he's been outright wrong (eg "you sorry excuse of a brother") (boy) or used the weirdest phrasing possible (eg "remember when Shigaraki made swiss cheese outta me") (boy) oftentimes I look at things and go "these are the same but not the same and I don't know who to trust more"

[atanxdoesstuff]

i drew a furina in a modern fit :3

rb >>> like

[bewitched-bullet]

https://www.tumblr.com/bewitched-bullet/744615026194792448/how-did-you-make-the-jump-from-it-being-a-badly?source=share

Unsurprisingly, I did not get a clear answer. I did not expect one. You accuse people of being bullies and abusers while you are even worse. Spreading lies, talking behind people's backs, manipulating others into following your ridiculous crusade. Do you feel good about yourself?

Where are the asks that put John in a better light? I know they are there, because I wrote at least one of them. Oh, you're not answering them? I wonder why... 🙄

I don't expect you to answer this ask. Because you are a coward. And a bully. And an abuser. (Or maybe you lash out because you feel unfairly accused. Like the rp gang did.)

Obviously, it's been answered. And I knew that ask as well as this one are considered "bad faith" asks. But I answered them anyway, just as I answered ones that expressed doubts over the reality of the situation, just as I answered the spicy ones that defended John, and the Harriett mod one.

But do go on and keep putting your foot in your mouth.

And while you do that, I'll put my old teacher cap back on and break this down for the audience (which.... there aren't many going by engagement? Which makes this even more incredibly hilarious. Like, you’re seriously threatened by a nobody who doesn't even have organic reach.)

Bullies and (chronic) abusers cannot be reasoned with, it's a known fact. So, it is unsurprising to see that they dismissed the answer from their previous asks. Then they try blaming/projection. Likely in an attempt to get an emotional reaction. Actually, this whole thing is an attempt to illicit an emotional response.

Then the mod continues with the self-projection (pssssst! What crusade? Why was i not informed?? I'm allergic to genocidal holy wars!) until we hit the first question. (And yes, yes I am)

Now, they are attempting redirection. I have voiced my observations (at that point) that the John mod has only answered asks that have set them in a only good light. Hence the redirection here. As they have blocked me (wise choice) I cannot see from this account if that still holds true. I bet you they changed tactics after my observations. Because I'm a smart cookie and they know it. Check them dates!

(I have received so many asks y'all and I have answered every one of them except two. One that John mod sent that's still there and was an almost carbon copy of the pm they ALSO sent and a public post they tagged me in. Sooo redundant. And one was a link to Dump's profile (which has been addressed by another anon ask)

So! This here is called fabrication in a poor attempt to discredit. They count on the community/person they are attacking to be either naive, sheltered, vulnerable. In their minds, they believe we are all stupid.

Now, we get to some good bits. They are clearly trying goad and then the fall back on their ol' faithful tactic of self-projection.

Throughout all of this, they were trying to emotionally manipulate by attempting to create an emotional response or a sense of shame (lololol I have none). Digging into someone's sense of shame is the easiest way to control and abuse them. But it generally requires more personal involvement with the intended victim

Millions of people don't speak out and/or stay locked in abusive situations because of shame.

Now with all of this said, that doesn't mean because you've manipulated folks before to get what you want, you're a "bad" person.

Because my morals are my own, I will not tell you folks how to handle this gray area.

Just a question to leave you all with: is the world black and white? Or is it an spectrum?

Just like, if I see someone steal food--no the fuck I didn't.

Ok, time to lock the instructor hat back in the closet where it belongs.

(Side note: being threatened by a nobody because they dare to question and can't be cowed, is common with bullies, abusers, and predators)

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk

If you would like to see this whole mess, search the tags for "a scandal in tumblr"

[jtl07]

What are your thoughts on the OCS?

Sometimes it seems like a manipulative cult that recruits vulnerable girls. But, it's also this found family for many of them. Is it good or evil? Is it both?

oh buddy. i ... actually have been having thoughts about this for the past few days (what is it with y'all being on my brainwave? must be something in the universe idk) as in, i've been contemplating the parallels between the OCS and the military.

so for context, i'm coming at this as a person who was in the military, who is a female poc from a middle class immigrant asian family. i give this context because i see a lot of the military in the OCS (i've mentioned it in some of my write ups and a big part of why i ended up writing the top gun 2 au) - mostly because the OCS is presented as an organization with a methodology that is built on violence.

i tried my best to be coherent but there's likely some meandering - feel free to ask further questions or clarification.

tl;dr - imo, it's all of the above.

i'm going to start with my experience in the military before i talk about the OCS because there's something in me that's chafing at the word "vulnerable." it's not that i think it's the wrong word per se, but that there's context that's needed.

for me, i had several family members who were in the military: my dad for one, several uncles, and a handful of my older cousins. this means i grew up learning that the military was a) one of the most honorable, respectable, and coolest professions you could join, b) the only profession where you were judged solely on your performance (i.e. racism wasn't overt), c) great financially because the pay was transparent and the benefits (back in the day) were fantastic if you stayed til retirement.

i don't believe any of that anymore, but that's what i'd learned. this is what my family believed (still does, actually). this is what many other poc believed too. compared with the opaque, racist corporate world - and having the responsibility of taking care of one's parents, who'd immigrated from their home country to give you "a better life" - having something stable and honorable like the military seemed like the best choice. why would i choose something else? how could i even see anything else? the military was the only choice i knew.

i left the military over a decade ago, but there's still a part of me that thinks "i'll never top my time in the military; i'll never have an experience quite like that." and the larger part of me can acknowledge now that yes, that's true. because when you're in an organization like the military (and comparatively, like the OCS) it's exhilarating in a way, knowing that you're part of something that's larger than yourself, knowing that you were deemed worthy - that you proved that you were worthy - of being part of this elite, special organization that has this grand, noble, world-saving mission. and yes, you feel a bond with the folks you serve with - bound by a vow to serve and protect, bound by experiences only they will understand.

there's nothing quite like that.

and i never want to experience that again.

because yes, it's exhilarating and exciting, and it's addicting in a way - to do all these cool things that folks make movies about, to know you're doing your part in keeping the people you love safe, to build relationships where no matter what, they've got your back.

but it's blinding. it blinds you to the violence, the harm that you're inflicting in the name of the mission - on both others and your own self. it blinds you to other ways of living. it blinds you to other ways of being safe - on both a personal and national level. this kind of experience trains you constantly: "this is the only way; this is the only choice."

and you can probably see why Beatrice's backstory resonated with me. of course she chose the church, the OCS - this was the only choice she had, the only choice she could possibly make to prove herself, to make herself worthy. in the OCS, she found a community of folks who, like her, were committed to a mission and ready to give their lives because, like her, that was probably the only choice they thought they had. it was the best choice they had.

maybe that's why i chafe at the use of "vulnerable" - because at the time, choosing the military felt like my shot at redemption, at salvation. it wasn't a moment of weakness, but of strength.

at least, that's what i had been trained to believe. and there is, apparently, still a part of me that believes it. even though there's the larger part of me that can see now the ecosystem that forced my hand.

it's also why i love Ava as a protagonist - how she was determined to find another way, how desperate she was to live. because organizations that are built on violence, organizations like the military, like the OCS, it takes folks who believe they need to prove themselves and takes advantage of that need, forces them to carry more than any person ever should, then calls them noble, calls them honorable, calls them worthy - all the while training them, ultimately, to die.

does good sometimes result from that, grow out of that? yeah. but the cost is very, very high.

[yourlocaltrylingual]

what a day for nerys enjoyers

[talks-with-the-void]

I just randomly remembered that "am I XY-kin?" pendulum readings were THE SHIT a few years ago- wtf was that even? xD

[mattodore]

the reason why i was offline for a day was bc i was in cas editing mattodore and messing with my cas bg, yeah, but also... i found another oc ask game that i liked the questions for so i started drafting theo and matthias's answers for them....... there's 100 questions this time so i've just been like this in google docs

[vladimir777sk]

📃 Однажды мудрец собрал своих учеников и показал им обычный лист бумаги, где нарисовал маленькую чёрную точку. Он спросил их:

— Что вы видите?

Все хором ответили, что чёрную точку. Ответ был неверным. Мудрец сказал:

— А разве вы не видите этот белый лист бумаги — он так огромен, больше, чем эта чёрная точка! Вот так и в жизни — мы видим в людях первым делом что-то плохое, хотя хорошего намного больше. И лишь единицы видят сразу белый лист бумаги.

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One day, the sage gathered his students and showed them an ordinary piece of paper, where he drew a small black dot. He asked them:

— What do you see?

Everyone replied in unison that it was a black dot. The answer was incorrect. The Sage said:

— But don't you see this white sheet of paper — it's so huge, bigger than this black dot! That's the way it is in life — we see something bad in people first, although there is much more good. And only a few people immediately see a white sheet of paper.

[driftingballoons]

Mom: “God why do you give up so easily you can’t expect to be perfect immediately”

well you see mother when I’m not perfect immediately you burst into flames and bite my head off

[coulsonlives]

I just had to share this video because holy shit, it hits the nail right on the head! So well spoken. This stuff needs to be circulated more, esp with the growing number of people thinking they have this because of misinformation, or just outright faking it.

[d1g1tal-racc00n]

THE AMAZING DIGITAL CIRCUS THEORY THING!! (I THINK)

So I was writing family friendly TADC fanfiction and I was thinking... Does the concept of time exist in the Digital Circus? Not in the sense that time is passing but in the sense of measuring time. How are the characters able to measure how long they've been in the circus if they have a "cosmic buffet" of whether it is day or night. Correct me if I get this wrong but, if the characters can choose whether it is day or night, how do they count how many days they've been in the circus. Is it all determined by instinct?

Basically, I was wondering if the Digital Circus had a clock/calendar system and if it is identical to the real world's measurement of time. Is a 24-hour clock implemented or is it all subjective?

AND WHILE WE'RE ON THE TOPIC...is their biological clock disrupted? Assume their brains are still functioning while in the Digital Circus, similar to a coma, and their concept of time is broken. If the characters were to escape the Digital Circus and re-enter the real world, could their production of melatonin be diminished to the point of borderline insomnia? biological clock: your brain's way of sensing when it is day and night. as night approaches, melatonin (eppy chemical) is produced to permit/allow sleep. sleep is crucial for brain function.

PLEASE FORGIVE ME IF I'M JUST MISINFORMED AND JUST MAKING STUPID ASSUMPTIONS OR IF THIS TYPE OF QUESTION HAS ALREADY BEEN ANSWERED/FIGURED OUT.

[sassytail]

A few days ago, basement roommate Kyle told me that he knows a guy who. Apparently desecrates graves by digging up freshly buried corpses, and using a drill to break through the cranium of the corpse, either huffs or somehow consumes the cerebrospinal fluid to get high.

Now I’m pretty sure that this must be completely made up to fuck with Kyle. Or just people in general, but Kyle insists that the guy is really doing it and he’s been trying to get clean from it for years. As though it’s a particularly powerfully addictive substance somehow.

Has anyone ever heard of that like. Happening. Or have any idea if that would even have any effect at all?

[lesbagel]

there’s so much like. anecdotal psychology. on the internet. people sharing their specific experience and generalizing it as if it’s a feature of a disorder. “im autistic and i feel this therefore this is part of autism.” and yeah it might be relatable and it might feel true to other people, but the thing is you have no idea why it feels true when that’s all you have. you have no idea why it happens or what it means because even the most self aware person has no idea what’s going on in their brain. literally no one is sure of what’s going on in a brain. so i get really frustrated when i see a tweet from someone say something like “the reason autistic kids dissociate is because their caregivers tell them to ignore their discomfort.” yeah maybe! but you don’t know that. that’s never going to be true for everyone. it may not be true at all. that’s what you think is going on, but there is never 1 reason why anything happens and it’s so fucking irresponsible to say things like that online when you do not know. because people take it and run. and while there’s no harm specifically in that example of people taking it as fact, pop psychology and pseudoscience are huge fucking problems.

and like you can tell when someone who is talking about psychology doesn’t know what they’re talking about because with the technology we have now there is very little we know. we can look at the brain, we can make associations. we can’t know why someone does something, what causes this or that. there are ways to test the hypothesis that being told to ignore discomfort correlates with dissociation, but there is no way to prove causation. so anyone who says something like that is fucking wrong. their theory could be true, but they’re wrong. because they don’t know it’s true and they’re saying it anyway. you don’t need a fucking million dollar degree to talk about science obviously, but talk about it responsibly. it like actually really fucking matters

disclaimer - I don’t know anything about anything! I don’t know what causes dissociation, and neither do you!

[simpsforscience]

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