#rethinking friendships

[ask-cinnavanillamelody]

So I wanna vent, about something really quick, and then we'll go back to our regularly scheduled programming.

I like, hate. College. I hate it, I hate the premise, I hate that they're bleeding me for money, but most of all I hate the people. If I could do college with 5 other people and we all had our own rooms I think I'd like it more. It started snowing today, and the campus is covered in snow. And if you know anything about me, I hate the cold. I hate being cold, I hate being outside in the cold. Because when it's cold, it's guaranteed I'll probably get sick. I'll get chills, the flu, a cold, something.

I wanted to go to a college in North Carolina, but they didn't accept me for an art program, so I ended up at my current college in small-town Pennsylvania. It's cold here, in the winter. it's so goddamn cold I don't want to go outside. I shouldn't go outside. And lucky for me I don't have to go outside because I have everything I need, inside, where it's warm, and I won't die by slipping on ice.

But apparently, my roommate thinks I'm STUPID for calling one of my co-workers to see if my job on campus would still be open. When I could've just "Walked outside to see if they're open" and "It's not that cold". FIRST OF ALL the air outside has to be a certain degree to even freeze the water in the sky and make it dense enough to fall out of the sky in the form of snow. in other words, IT HAS TO BE COLD, TO MAKE COLD WEATHER, AKA SNOW. And I left my warmest coat back home by accident, so I'm even less guarded against the cold weather. And I'm also anemic, it doesn't matter how many fucking layers I put on, I can still be, (and usually am) cold. She wouldn't let me explain why I don't find it necessary to go outside in the cold when I can just as easily find out the information I need by CALLING SOMEONE ON THE PHONE. Yeah sure she may not be here on campus, however, this probably isn't the first time the school's shut down because of weather, she would probably know if the school job that we both work would still be open. Which she did, and now I know whenever the school is shut down, my job is too.

I started to raise my voice because when someone insults me, the natural reaction is to defend myself. And when someone repeatedly interrupts you in conversation, wrongly assuming you're done and continuing to invalidate your feelings and emotions because THEY think it's STUPID and you're being DUMB AND IRRATIONAL about weather you aren't used to, their argument being "You have to get used to it at some point since you live here now"

Technically, I don't actually live here. I don't have a permanent residency here. I can't vote in this state. I live in a warmer southern state. My home is in another state. I am "living" on a college campus. But in the next 3 years? I'm not going to be able to live here. I don't stay here during the winter and summer. I go HOME. I FLY TO ANOTHER STATE. Technically I don't HAVE to get used to shit. I can get my degree, and move to fucking California where it doesn't ever snow. And I can hate the cold all the same. Because it's my right to not like cold weather, yeah I complain about it, but I know it's something I have to deal with. That doesn't mean I have to "learn to get used to it" right now just because you fucking say so. And you don't have to fucking call me stupid and illogical every time I don't want to go outside. That's rude. You can think it, but you don't have to say it. I'm seriously starting to rethink my friendship with this person because we can be fine and friendly, and instantly jump into an argument fucking 5 SECONDS later. I don't want to even live with this person anymore, I'm just dealing with it because the alternative is living with someone I don't know.

UGH IM SO PISSED OFF

anyway, rant over. Now we return to the regularly scheduled programming. 🍫

[livvylives]

clace incest era obviously sucks but I do appreciate how literally all their friends are weirdly okay with it. like idk it's fun. anyone else would be raising multiple moral objections but not Simon, Alec, and Izzy! they're the og ride or die friends because this was somehow not a deal breaker. they at most joke about it after the fact, friendship goals ig

[gxtchas]

if you think this idiot will gain a brain after marriage, u guys are wrong. @omorrow

[raayllum]

clicked for me upon reflection that a lot of the backlash towards callum's treatment of rayla being too forgiving in s4/s5 overall is just... coming from a lack of maturity when it comes to healthy long term relationships (romantic or otherwise). if you love your friend/partner, you should not want to punish them when they mess up - even before they admit that they have. even if you do want to punish them in some manner, because we're all human, you don't because that would damage the relationship and the trust you're supposed to both have in each other.

callum is not going to purposefully punish rayla about anything; rayla quite often holds herself accountable even when he let things go (if anything she sometimes dwells too much on what she's done wrong), but she's also learning to accept grace - and by extension, help (and a lack of accepting help is exactly what led to their main issues in the first place; that was and is on her).

sometimes what's required for relationship repair feels backwards because it can be the things that led to the breakdown in the first place (rayla prioritizing callum over herself in leaving and in S4, because she needs to accept the feelings he does express over her own feelings/wants; callum offering help in s5 even after she's hurt him, because her learning to accept his help is crucial in not having another ttm happening).

relationships are complex. repairing relationships is even more complex. often times our best traits and patterns with one another are also our worst traits and patterns with one another.

and i think it's very cool and refreshing just how well arc 2 rayllum shows that in both its beauty and its hurt and with quite a bit of realism/nuance to boot

[wizardyke]

i think thsi applies to a plethora of things but i feel like so many people are denying themselves heartbreak by telling themselves that "they knew something was fishy from the start" or something to that affect. but imo i think true release comes from admitting that you truly did love someone and they fucked you over anyways, and then your feelings changed because of that. like you did indeed get played for a fool, but your faith in them wasn't foolish. it feels silly to fall on the floor in a trust fall, but ultimately you should've been caught

[alexjcrowley]

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[secrettastemakerland]

Do you have something about the uzumaki family/sunshine siblings in your drafts? 😊

shout out to anon for making me rethink my life choices bc I only have one 😔

Naruto raised a brow at his kids’ upset faces and then pointed a thumb at Lion, who didn’t seem to have the same opinion as the chibis because he was fast asleep, snoring away in between Kawaki and Boruto. “Lion liked it,” he shrugged

Himawari shook her head at him, disappointed in his betrayal but also somewhat happy watching at how cute he looked that he was asleep.

“That doesn’t count,” Boruto scoffed. “Lion likes everything.”

[bearyyayay]

I WAS WATCHING THE MAFIA 1 GAMEPLAY AND MY GOD, THE DIFFERENCE OF SAM IS LIKE "WOAH 😦"

LIKE AT THE DEATH OF ART HE SOUNDS SATISFIED AND CONTENT WHILE MAFIA:DE HES STILL SOUNDS SOMEWHAT SATISFIED YET YOU COULD HEAR THE GUILT IN HIS VOICE. WHILE FROM MAFIA 1 HES LIKE "Yeah I killed him, so what? He broke the rule"

[moonsaurora]

i think there’s a difference between shipping and genuinely believing two people are together. however there is also a difference in overanalyzing everything they do and harassing them and people around them about it and just being like ‘i personally don’t think that’s very platonic of them. i think they might be together’ and moving on. because coming out is a privilege, especially in the industry and society they’re in, just see how holland was treated. so because of homophobia and heteronormativity, they’re able to pass it off as ‘fanservice’ or they’re joking. but also, there’s always the possibility they aren’t together so i say just keep it in your own private space of course. like sometimes these idols will straight up say whether they’re straight or not or if they’re dating or not but are able to pass it off as a joke because there’s so many people that won’t take it or believe it unless they make like an official statement and that’s what needs to stop. because straight people don’t have to come out everyone is just assumed straight, it’s so annoying. especially in an industry where if they come out they could literally lose their career. so yeah, there might be some idol ships/couples that i think are together, but it’s because i’m not stupid and know the difference, and queer people know queer people ESPECIALLY when they make ‘jokes’ like that. if it gets to a point when you are going into a comment section and you say ‘i love their friendship’ and you feel like calling them just friends is more delulu than the people who actually believe it, just give it up. i get the shippers can be annoying but there’s always a point where you just can’t ignore it anymore idk

[sitipicosmoterrianpeace]

CosmoTerra in Alert! Nuclear developments have been the worse discovery because life-threatening. Why geniuses have not stop these abominable projects? We live, survive, protect on terrian ruins. Laugh-cry!

What if Cosmoterrian Humans would (sic!) meet at midway? In fact, tech people are very brain-reason, and spiritual people very hearty-reason. Can we balance reasons in a braihy=brainy+hearty Reason, to please Pascal? Just suppose it is a familial, ordinary meeting. Peace and Love among siblings! Tolerance, Dignity and Clemency! Cf. Cesare Beccaria, Dei delitti e delle pene, (good) Science is recuperatory for humanity. See also https://decodingastone.wordpress.com/2024/12/12/a-la-recherche-de-dieu-la-divinite-perdue-perdante-mais-perdurante/, https://neurolaunch.com/how-to-stop-brain-shrinkage/, geoengineeringwatch.org etc. Good seasonal Holidays, with Peace and Happiness!

[chickenwaffles17]

god I don't know if you're supposed to have this much drama going on 3 freaking weeks into high school but I do and I don't know how to feel about it

[skriblee-ksk]

AWHHHH SYDER IM ACTUALLY INSANE OVER MAYUKAMI‼️

u explained their. Like. Dynamic so well in my tags last time and I was rlly thinking about how well they'd fit as like literally opposite character archetypes!!

kalmia expecting a crystal and receiving a horror tm. LMAOAO ITS SO FUNNY

TY FOR THIS SYDER ITS A JOY SEEING UR ART, ESPC ABOUT KALMIA!!! 🫶🥺💕 TYSM🎉🎉🎉💥 (implosion from excitement)

A continuation of this post by @skriblee-ksk, in which Kalmia is left to ponder for the rest of class what Mayu meant...

[daniwib]

Pretty sure the tagging is meant for people you want to do the game, not the ones to ask you, but hey, who cares :D

Anyway...

Never have I ever...

Finished a fic with the first predicted chapter count :P

Oh you BRAT!!! I have, actually. So there!

I tagged you cos I wanted to play with you too, cos I love you. I am now rethinking that....

[bongjuiceconcentrate]

idk i will say i’ve had people maintain friendships that lasted years and they did in fact hate me but i went to a rly small school and the common denominator in my friend group was “everyone thinks we’re weird so i guess we’ll be friends with one another?” and not us like. actually liking each other so it makes sense that we would remain “friends” despite them thinking i’m insufferably annoying where as i’m an adult now and no one is being forced to be around me for social survival for years on end

[matoitech]

watching ruby gillman cuz it’s on netflix so why not. everyone else mentioned this already when it came out but this plot line is soooo bad

[causticsunshine]

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