#rethinking

[adofan13]

ROCK★STAR

[grumpy-old-patriot]

Wide awake, laying in bed rethinking my life choices. ☹️

[imperatoralicia]

I get a lot of entertainment thinking about how containers are used in video games sometimes.

[idigitizellp]

Rethinking Parenthood: The Rise of the DINK Lifestyle

Bringing a child into the world is one of the most personal decisions an individual or couple can make. In an evolving society where traditional expectations are being re-examined, many couples are choosing to redefine family life. One such redefinition is the rise of the DINK Lifestyle-Dual Income, No Kids.

What is the DINK Lifestyle?

The DINK Lifestyle refers to couples who consciously choose not to have children, opting instead to invest in their careers, personal growth and shared life experiences. While often met with criticism this decision is rooted in deep self awareness and changing values. For example, A couple in their 30s decides to remain child-free to focus on environmental activism and travel their shared passions.

Why are more couples choosing to be DINKs?

1. Financial Flexibility: Without the financial obligations of raising children, DINK couples often enjoy greater economic freedom. This allows them to travel, invest and save more efficiently.

2. Time and Autonomy: Parenthood is time-intensive. DINKs have more control over their schedules, allowing spontaneous plans or time for rest and hobbies. Example: A couple working full-time uses long weekends for wellness retreats instead of managing school schedules and babysitters.

3. Career Focus: Free from the competing demands of parentings, many DINKs pursue ambitious career goals and entrepreneurial ventures.

4. Global and Environmental Concerns: Some couples choose not to have children due to climate change, economic instability and uncertainty about the future world.

Psychological and Societal Benefits:

While some label DINKS as selfish, research points to “healthy selfishness”- prioritizing well-being, emotional balance and meaningful relationships. For example, A woman in her mid-30s feels fulfilled mentoring young professionals and volunteering roles she cherishes without becoming a parent.

For many, this decision allows space to heal, grow, and unlearn generational expectations. It creates room for authentic living and alternative ways of contributing to society as mentors, educators or caregivers to extended family.

The Impact on Society:

With any widespread lifestyle shift come societal implications:

Lower Fertility rates can affect population demographics.

The Aging population challenges eldercare systems.

Changing family norms can shift traditional community dynamics.

However, these changes also invite innovation in caregiving, policy-making and how we define family and connections.

Navigating Personal Choices:

At ImPerfect Psychotherapy, we understand the complexity behind life choices like parenting or remaining child-free. Our professional therapy services (offline and online) provide a safe space to explore personal values, navigate family expectations and build emotional clarity.  Whether you are a part of the DINK community, considering parenthood or simply exploring your identity beyond societal norms. What does fulfillment look like for you truly? And what are you choosing simply because it’s expected of you? Let’s begin the journey inward together.

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it's december so time to stare at my art output for the year!!!

picked out some stuff that i'm ok with. wish i had more art to show but im trying to let it go since i was gone for 4 months this year. here's hoping for more drawing time next year

[thefavtaco]

aesthetic ahh foo

(boutta quit my job, customer service really ain’t for the weak. ive done my time for almost 2 years, the amount of brain cells I’ve lost, need some recompensation :D)

[sitipicosmoterrianpeace]

CosmoTerra in Alert! Nuclear developments have been the worse discovery because life-threatening. Why geniuses have not stop these abominable projects? We live, survive, protect on terrian ruins. Laugh-cry!

What if Cosmoterrian Humans would (sic!) meet at midway? In fact, tech people are very brain-reason, and spiritual people very hearty-reason. Can we balance reasons in a braihy=brainy+hearty Reason, to please Pascal? Just suppose it is a familial, ordinary meeting. Peace and Love among siblings! Tolerance, Dignity and Clemency! Cf. Cesare Beccaria, Dei delitti e delle pene, (good) Science is recuperatory for humanity. See also https://decodingastone.wordpress.com/2024/12/12/a-la-recherche-de-dieu-la-divinite-perdue-perdante-mais-perdurante/, https://neurolaunch.com/how-to-stop-brain-shrinkage/, geoengineeringwatch.org etc. Good seasonal Holidays, with Peace and Happiness!

[thelovebudllc]

Why More Men Are Rethinking Their Diets for Long-Term Mental Clarity

— Life feels more rushed, stress is higher, and staying focused isn’t always easy. That’s why a lot of men are now thinking more about food and how it affects their mind. It’s not about strict diets or trends. It’s about eating in a way that supports clearer thinking, steady energy, and better mood. And this shift is only growing. So, what’s behind this change in mindset? Let’s take a closer…

[aitata-troybel]

Rethinking, the guy who hit his head and started speaking español was probably just a billingual picking on the 911 teleoperator

I should do that, not with 911 though but with a friend

[idigitizellp]

Rethinking Workplace Perks: Why Employees Prefer Cash or Time Over Extravagant Gifts

Supporting employee health and well-being is not just good practice-its foundational. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, a psychological theory on human motivation, helps us understand how employee satisfaction can be built layer by layer.

Meeting Basic Needs First

At the base of Maslow’s pyramid are physiological needs such as food, shelter, and safety. In the workplace, this translates to fair compensation. For example, a low salary may force an employee to juggle multiple jobs or experience constant financial anxiety. While perks like gift cards or team lunches are appreciated, they can’t replace a stable income. Until these foundational needs are met, higher motivation is unlikely. For example: A company offering minimal pay but frequent “fun” incentives may still see high attrition because basic needs go unmet.

Understanding the “Magic Number”:

According to research by Princeton University,  $75000 per year is the income threshold that correlates with emotional well-being. Employees earning less, often experience dissatisfaction, regardless of other benefits. While this number isn’t one-size-fits-all, it’s a useful benchmark to reflect on when evaluating your compensation strategy. Example: If your team is consistently leaving for higher-paying jobs, reassess how close your salaries come to this baseline.

Benefits that truly Matter:

While most companies offer standard benefits, impactful ones align with where employees are on their personal needs journey. Supportive perks like student loan repayment or flexible work arrangements can dramatically improve employee morale and retention. Example: If an employee is dealing with debt, offering loan assistance could reduce stress and improve their work focus.

Creating Wellness-Centered Cultures:  Wellness programs are not just “nice-to-haves”, they are powerful tools for enhancing both mental and physical health. From subsidized fitness memberships to healthy office snacks or mental health days, these intiatives show employees they are value beyond their productivity. Example: Offering chair massages monthly or virtual meditation sessions shows proactive care for employee stress.

Recognizing Beyond Bonuses:Traditional bonuses often fall short. They can breed unhealthy competition, set unrealistic expectations or create feelings of unfairness. Instead consider more inclusive, consistent recognition systems. For example, Monthly shout-outs, personalised notes, or “points” employees can redeem for experience or gifts promote a culture of gratitude.  Here is a blog on how you can recognise your employees efficiently at the workplace.

Why Gifts Work (and Cash doesn’t always)

Gifts, even small ones, have a surprisingly powerful psychological impact. When employees receive thoughtful tokens, they experience a boost in dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin-the brain’s “feel good” chemicals. Interestingly, giving these gifts also benefits the giver, creating stronger team bonds. Example: A team lead gifting a plant or favorite snack can elevate morale more than a small cash bonus.

Supporting Mental Health Along the Way:

While salaries and perks are important, employee well-being is ultimately tied to emotional security, purpose and recognition. At ImPerfect Psychotherapy, we understand that navigating workplace stress, burnout, or transitions can impact overall functioning.

By Urveez Kakalia and Krupa Abraham

[wondering-whispers]

Everytime I see my reflection on the metro glass, I question my the happenings of every single detail that has brought me to that point.

[gaylienz]

The 7 R’s of Sustainability:

Did you know that ‘recycling’ is step 6 of the 7 Rs of sustainability? The other R’s are just as important even if they are often forgotten.

Rethink- Do I really need to buy this? The point of this step is to stop and think.

Refuse- Does this product damage the environment? If so, refuse to spend your money on it. i.e. single use plastics, harsh chemicals

Reduce- How much of this do I really need? Buy less! Buy in bulk when you can as it often equals less packaging to throw out.

Reuse- Can I use this product again? Can I fix what I have so that I don’t need to buy something new? Reuse that plastic water bottle a few times. And instead of buying new, try thrift shopping, flea markets, yard sales etc.

Repurpose- Unlimited creativity! Does this item have another use? i.e. old torn clothes can be rags or plastic cups can be planters.

Recycle- Can I recycle this? Not everything can be. There are also some important steps to making sure your recycling is done properly. If unsure, look up local recycling regulations.

Rot- Can I compost this? Food waste, yard clippings, newspapers and many other items can be composted instead of being tossed in the trash. Composting is surprisingly simple and helps reduce harmful greenhouse gasses from entering the atmosphere.

What is the point of the R’s? The number one benefit of the 7 R’s are the reduction of the amount of waste sent to incinerators and landfills. The EPA website provides a lot of useful information. Other benefits that we can reap from implementing these concepts in our life are (as listed on the EPA website): • Prevents pollution caused by reducing the need to harvest new raw materials • Saves energy from not making a new product • Reduces greenhouse gas emissions that contribute to climate change • Helps sustain the environment and natural resources for future generations • Saves money from processing our waste • Increases economic security by tapping a domestic source of materials • Helps create jobs in the recycling and manufacturing industries in the United States

https://www.northglenn.org/government/departments/public_works/trash/recycling.php https://www.nrdc.org/stories/composting-101 https://www.epa.gov/recycle https://www.northglenn.org/Recycling%20Article.pdf

[aca-panic]

"That was a disaster"

That has been calmly popping up in my brain the whole way home today. Let me give you context. I arrived on campus early today and chilled in the car, continuing to listen to my audiobook, before heading in to get things set up for class. Two of my three students are already there. Yay! I unlock the classroom door and see the desks still set up from yesterday. Yay! I start to unpack my bag and…

[blackholesfilm]

Rethinking

[wovetherapy]

Rethinking New Year’s Resolutions

As the last week in January quickly approaches, I find myself wondering what happened to my New Year's resolutions. Four weeks into the new year, I have already abandoned the lofty goals I set for myself. If you're anything like me, you've also made ambitious promises to yourself fueled by a burst of motivation and the allure of a fresh start. Every year, we pledge to hit the gym regularly, eat healthier, learn a new skill, or finally conquer that ever-growing reading list. But as the days turn into weeks and weeks into months, it's not uncommon for those resolutions to fade into the background. So, why do we continue to set New Year's resolutions, and why do they end up as fleeting aspirations rather than concrete changes?

Why Do We Make New Year’s Resolutions?

For many of us, the start of a new year symbolizes a clean slate and an opportunity to leave behind the shortcomings of the past. This symbolic fresh start is a powerful motivator, fueling the desire for positive change. New Year's resolutions provide a structured framework for people to channel this desire.

Societal norms and cultural traditions also influence our desire to create resolutions. The shared experience of setting goals for the coming year offers a sense of camaraderie and collective motivation. However, the drive to make resolutions for the year doesn't always stem from friendly competition among friends and family; companies also know that New Year's resolutions create potential revenue. Ever wonder why gyms are at full capacity the first week of January? Health and fitness companies use this time to advertise their latest products, services, diets, and workout plans. According to a Forbes Health/OnePoll survey conducted in October of 2023, 61.7% of respondents felt pressured to set a New Year’s resolution (Vinney, 2024). And so, while some people set New Year’s resolutions, others are sucked into them.

Why New Year’s Resolutions Often Fail

Despite good intentions, our resolutions often fail. In fact, studies show that over 90% of New Year’s resolutions will be abandoned within just a few months (Vinney, 2024). Here are four reasons resolutions often fail:

Unrealistic Expectations: One of the primary reasons we often cannot stick to resolutions is that we set unrealistic expectations. The enthusiasm of the new year can lead people to aim too high, setting unattainable goals within an unrealistic timeframe. This sets the stage for disappointment and diminished motivation. Instead, meet yourself where you're at and set smaller, more attainable goals.

Lack of Concrete Planning: Setting a resolution without a concrete plan prevents us from following through on our goals. Many overlook the importance of breaking down larger goals into manageable steps, making it challenging to stay on track. A lack of strategic planning can contribute to feelings of overwhelm and frustration. Instead, be specific about the goals you want to achieve, plan how to achieve them, and implement a timeline to execute steps toward those goals (Chan, 2024).

Failure to Address Underlying Issues: Often, resolutions focus on external changes without addressing the underlying issues hindering personal growth. Ignoring the root causes can lead to repeated cycles of setting the same resolutions year after year, with little success. It is important to reflect on why setting a particular goal is important to you and what has prevented you from changing in the past.

Lack of Social Support: The journey towards achieving resolutions can be challenging, and having a support system is crucial. Without a network of friends, family, or mentors to provide encouragement and guidance, people may struggle to stay motivated when faced with obstacles. Humans are social creatures, and the best way to stay consistent with goal setting is to find a buddy that will empower you and keep you motivated.

Ultimately, you don’t have to set New Year's resolutions if you don’t want to. In the grand scheme of things, New Years is an arbitrary date, and you can decide to make changes at any time of year! After reading this article, you may have decided to let go of the expectations and pressure of the new year. However, if you want to create sustainable change, consider setting realistic goals, creating detailed plans, addressing underlying issues, and building a supportive network. Remember that change is not easy or quick, and achieving your resolutions may take time—stay patient and meet yourself where you’re at.

If you’re interested in scheduling an appointment or you’d like more information, please contact us.

[bettermortgage]

Bonds Rethinking Last Week's Rally

While last week saw a generally narrow range, bonds managed to reverse two weeks of losses with 10yr yields moving down from 4.05 to 3.95.  The gains certainly wouldn’t have been as big without Friday’s PPI data.  As the new week begins (or rather, as it began), bonds are rethinking last week’s level of aggression.  At first glance, it may seem like a big mysterious jump in yields–one that takes…