#sarcasm as a coping and defense mechanism

[def-not-kaz-brekker]

Ok ok if the character cast consists of:

Dark haired guy with an object as defense mechanism and hides emotions but is insanely in love with significant other who is practically the embodiment of an angel but could also murder people and Dark Haired Guy would be giving their SO heart eyes while they’re murdering people (kaz brekker, nico di Angelo/percy Jackson, kinda fitz vacker)

Significant other (or Murder Puppy) who is really sweet and caring and in love with Dark Haired Guy but could also murder DHG but won’t because they have more morals than DHG and everyone loves them and fans need to learn to recognize the fact that Murder Puppy is also their own person and not just DHG’s SO (inej ghafa, will solace/annabeth chase, Sophie foster)

BFF of DHG’s MP. Usually a confident queer person who drives to look hot but doesn’t need to because already hot and their own partner has died and this impacted them profoundly but now they’re stronger than ever (Nina zenik, piper mclean, biana vacker)

Partner who died who was a goody two shoes who got corrupted. Usually blond haired and tall, grew up in strict environment. Everyone misses them and had a weird relationship with DGH (Matthias Helvar, Jason grace)

Chaotic Bisexual. Can kill you, and will roast their way into hell. Super flirty but will physically short circuit when their partner (Shy [Murderous] Cinnamon Roll) flirts back. Humor as coping mechanism and mother died when they were young. Awkward relationship with father. (Jesper fahey, Leo Valdez)

Shy (Murderous) Cinnamon Roll. Cute little baby uwu until you realize they’re insane. They will murder you. But also really innocent and will not understand CB’s sexual references unless explained to them. Usually red headed guy. (Wylan Van eck, sorta frank zhang and hazel levesque, Dex dizznee)

Blonde Sarcasm Guy. Playful and flirty, probably bisexual, actually really smart. Underestimated by everyone, and tbh kinda similar to DHG. Everyone loves him but gets really freaked out when he starts murdering people. (Nikolai Lantsov, Keefe sencen)

Then it’s a good book.

[vancesmainbitch]

thank you @missunytheartistartist for the idea love x

what I think the ghost boys would be like if they got out with Finney (they are alive) (MY OWN OPINION ON THIS OKAY) I ain't paying for your guys therapy for this btw xx

Robin: he would stick to Finney like glue. He would have to be able to at least see where Finney is or else he will have a panic attack and become violent. He is now closed off and only talks to his uncle, mum and Finney. He still has the brooding aura but doesn't act on anything like he used to. This boy hated going out to the store alone and would refuse to be left alone at any point.

Bruce: he wants to hold up the facade that he hasn't been affected as much but he has. When out in public he is all smiley but people who have known him long enough can tell he isn't all there and he isn't what he used to be. He let his grades slip and stopped going to baseball as much as he used to. His sister tries to cheer him up with little to no success but there is the odd occasion she will hear his real laugh instead of a fake one.

Vance: he became more violent. Every little thing ticked him off and would make him snap. He would break down whenever he was in private and he hated it. He hated how he let all the things happen. He completely dropped out of school for good and occasionally helped his mum but only when he could get himself out the house. When he was out the house and not helping his mum, he'd be at the pinball machine because that is his safe place and he shut out the world when he was there.

Griffin: god this boy lost all of the innocence he had. He went from a kind loving boy to someone who would not speak unless he had to. There was very few things that could make him talk (that being his parents and very close friends aka the ghost crew and Finney) he would zone out until he was physically shaken and then he would just break down from the sudden contact. It's sad to say he became a very troubled boy.

Paperboy/Billy: he became more snappy. Using his sarcasm as a defensive mechanism and a way to cope. He feared going out on his bike and delivering papers because what if something was to happen again. His dog became his therapy dog and it would never leave his side. He couldn't sleep unless he had his dog with him otherwise it was just constant nightmares. He only stuck with his dog and the people he experienced what he went through because there is a comfort to him in knowing he wasn't alone.

[frogspond200]

𝚈𝚊𝚗!𝙷𝚞𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚘𝚠 𝚡 𝚁𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚎𝚛

Requested by: @xoxo-maeve-xoxo

Ask: Could you write yandere! Poly Huntlow × gn! Reader who like... DOESNT believe the two are obsessed with them?

Warning: General Yandere, Insecure Reader

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Hunter and Willow are completely infatuated with you, but you can’t wrap your head around why. They’re both talented and unique individuals, and you often question why they’d choose you. They both have their own ways of expressing their affection, from Willow’s sweet gestures to Hunter’s subtle protective instincts, but you chalk it up to them being friendly or caring in general.

You use humor as a defense mechanism to cope with your insecurities. Whenever they compliment you or act affectionate, you make jokes or deflect with sarcasm, not believing their sincerity. Deep down, you’re afraid that if you take their affection seriously, you’ll only set yourself up for disappointment when they eventually realize you’re not as special as they think.

worthiness of their attention. You think, “Why would they like me when there are so many other interesting people out there?” This feeling of inadequacy often leads you to self-doubt, but you try to push those thoughts aside to enjoy their company.

Despite your doubts, you’re continually surprised by how devoted Hunter and Willow are. They go out of their way to spend time with you, make you smile, and protect you when needed. You secretly cherish these moments but try not to let your guard down too much.

You convince yourself that their affection is temporary, that they’ll eventually lose interest in you and move on to someone better. This fear haunts you even in the happiest moments with them. You haven’t fully accepted that they genuinely love you, even though their actions say otherwise.

Your internal struggle is a constant battle between your feelings for them and your self-doubt. You want to believe in their love but fear being hurt if it’s not real. Sometimes, you seek reassurance from them, asking if they’re sure about their feelings, hoping they’ll convince you it’s not just a passing fascination.

𝙷𝚞𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛

Hunter tends to be more protective when cuddling. He wraps his arms around you securely, often placing a hand on your waist or back to make sure you feel safe and comfortable. His touches are warm and reassuring.

Hunter displays physical affection by small, protective gestures. He might place a hand on your lower back when guiding you or subtly intertwine his fingers with yours when walking together. His affection is quiet but constant.

Hunter’s hugs are firm and comforting. He embraces you in a strong and reassuring manner, making you feel safe and protected in his arms. His hugs convey a sense of security.

When you all sleep together, it’s a cozy and intimate experience. Hunter likes to be the big spoon, wrapping his arms around you, and Willow, forming a protective cocoon of warmth.

𝚆𝚒𝚕𝚕𝚘𝚠

Willow, on the other hand, is gentle and nurturing. She likes to spoon you from behind, holding you close with her arms draped over you. Her touches are tender, and she loves leaving soft kisses on your neck or shoulder.

Willow is indeed the better cook between the two. She’s a natural in the kitchen and loves experimenting with different recipes and flavors. She often prepares delicious meals for you and the others, and her dishes are always a hit.

Willow is more openly affectionate. She loves holding your hand, cuddling, and showering you with kisses on the cheek or forehead. Her warmth and affection are palpable in every touch.

Willow’s hugs are tender and full of love. She holds you close, resting her head on your shoulder, and often sways gently when hugging. Her hugs are warm and make you feel cherished.

Willow often rests her head on your chest, listening to your heartbeat as she drifts off to sleep. Hunter keeps watch, making sure you all have a peaceful night’s rest.

[skyloftian-nutcase]

Which member/mix of members of the LU Chain are you?

Sky: You’re pretty even keel about stuff. So much so that it can honestly make you a bit of an airhead and daydreamer. It’s how you get through life without letting anything bother you - reality can’t hurt you if you spend a good chunk of time not in reality, right? Your inner peace allows you to be considerate and caring for others, so much so that you oftentimes forget to take care of yourself. You’re very empathetic. You’re known as sweet and gentle, and that’s generally true, but there’s also very strong emotions that you keep so tucked away you yourself forget about them until they come exploding out of you. Your gentleness and kindness also doesn’t detract from the fact that you love adventure and chaos and will absolutely cause mayhem, just not all that often. You like comfort and familiarity, but you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone for some fun. You love sewing peace and harmony all around you, and enjoy helping others. You’re the mediator of whatever group you’re in.

Legend: You love adventures, and you’re a wanderer. But you’re also very methodical about it - you’re going to plan the hell out of a trip or a career change or anything in your life before you get into it. Why go in blind and unprepared? That’s a recipe for disaster. As much as you truly enjoy the thrill, however, you’re far more defensive than you sometimes intend to be. You put on a strong front, showing the world that nothing bothers you, because a lot actually does and you don’t want to be perceived as not being able to handle it. Not to mention it’s great for convincing yourself too, and at this point it’s just a coping mechanism. You do truly love what you do, though, it just comes with baggage and collateral damage that you want so badly to avoid. You care deeply, and it peeks through despite your prickly exterior. You love to collect things, you can never be too prepared, and you have a hard time letting go of both stuff and people. You do tend to be a bit dramatic about things. Oh, and Sarcasm is almost your native language. You have a dry wit that’s sharp enough to cut to the bone, but you don’t use it to hurt others so much as defend yourself. It can make you come across as a bit of a grouch, but people just need to learn how to read you right.

Time: You’re a bit of a loner, but you can work with others as needed. You’re just used to getting the job done alone, and occasionally you can rub people the wrong way as a result. You’re decisive, and you don’t care if that bothers people - when a job needs to get done you just do it. Others can get on your nerves, but never to an extreme degree for the most part. It’s less of people bothering you and more of you just being so introverted that you’re worn out. But despite all of this, you love to guide and mentor, because it gives you a sense of purpose and belonging, and you feel like you’re making a difference when you do it. You inevitably become the leader of whatever group you’re in because you’re not going to wait for anybody else to step up when a job needs to be done. You can be playful, but that’s usually on the back burner when there’s work to be done, so you can come across as pretty serious. This is magnified by the fact that you don’t like talking about personal stuff in general, but especially with strangers, so you’re a bit enigmatic and can even be seen as aloof. Nevertheless, those close to you know that you can be very warm and kindhearted. You’re very protective of those you love, and though you might have a smaller friend circle than others, every single one of you is insanely close.

Twilight: You absolutely adore animals. Like... more than people. Not that you don’t like people, but if you had to choose between spending your day with doggies or spending your day with people, you’re gonna put your phone on do not disturb, chuck it out the window, and fling yourself into the nearest puppy pile. You’re very protective, and you’re usually viewed as the responsible one of the group or family. You know that isn’t all true, though - you’ve done some seriously stupid things, like that one time you licked the goop you picked off the wall just to see what it was. You’re viewed as gentle and kind, but you are aggressive as hell when something goes wrong. Like, honey, you don’t hesitate. At all. You suck at talking about your emotions but you’re always willing to be there if others want to talk about theirs. You’ve got that oldest sibling vibe, the whole be responsible and impress mom and dad, make everyone proud thing. Despite the fact that you will literally knock someone’s teeth out the instant you think they’re a threat to those you love, you really are a gentle person, and you inspire others.

Wild: You’re an adrenaline junkie and a thrill seeker, and you’re an absolute goofball. You will make up literally the most bonkers things to accomplish a goal. Can’t reach that spider on the ceiling that needs to be stopped? Chew on some gum and spit it at the spider. Ha! Now it’s stuck there! Loser! It takes you maybe an hour or so to realize that now you have a captive spider and gum now stuck on your ceiling. But at least the spider is contained, right? Your life is essentially move from one goal to the next and you don’t spend too much time planning ahead, but boy when something goes wrong it is imprinted in your skull forever. You 100% overthink things you’ve done when you have a quiet moment or are reminded of something from your past. It doesn’t necessarily stop you, but it hurts. It can make you a bit paranoid about repeating mistakes, too. And by a bit, I mean you might straight up have a meltdown if you think the situation is bad enough.You tend to shoulder the blame of everything that goes wrong in your life, even when it isn’t your fault at all.

Wind: No matter what you’ve experienced in your life, you’ve managed to hold onto some innocence and childlike joy. You’re bubbly and bright, but sometimes that overshadows how seriously you can take your responsibilities. You’re loyal, you’re protective, and you’re eager to learn and improve. You brighten the room whenever you enter it, your energy and joy is infectious. Your curiosity is too. You’re very confident in yourself, but not to the point of arrogance. You speak your opinions loudly, whether it hurts others’ feelings or not, though it isn’t your intent to offend. You just make yourself heard is all, and you aren’t afraid to argue. Nothing is going to stop you when you set your mind to your goal, and no matter what anybody says or does, you know that you’ll succeed. You might be a bit too much for people sometimes, and you don’t always notice, but you’ll adopt anybody into your friend circle whether they realize it or not and look out for them.

Hyrule: You are the person who can MacGyver literally anything. You’re super independent and self-sufficient, you could be dropped in the woods and just survive on your own for like a month. You feel confident and comfortable in your own skin until you meet up with others who might be in a similar field to you, and then suddenly you’re comparing yourself to them all the time and they always come out on top in your mind. You’re never good enough, never smart enough. You struggle to see what others see in you. You’re fierce and fearless, you are the first one to charge into trouble or danger if you think you can help. You’re humble and polite, but you can totally tease those you love as well. You’re stubborn as hell and will never give up. You won’t start a fight, but you also won’t back down from one.

Four:  You’re mature beyond your years, and you like being distinguished that way. Quiet, observant, and talented, you’ll happily slip into the “old soul” category, and you get annoyed when people remind you that you might be younger than them. You’re very intuitive and introspective, and you tend to pick up on things before most. You need a lot of time to yourself to energize, and mindfulness is a big deal to you. If you can’t help yourself, if you can’t control whatever is going on in your head, then you can’t be of any help to others, and that’s a motto you live by. You tend to be the most even keeled of your group as a result, and you can also be the quietest. You probably have one or two specific hobbies or talents that you love and pursue to perfection. Despite being able to control yourself well enough, you might not always be the best person to calm others down since your methods don’t always work for everyone else, and once you’ve used up what’s familiar to you, you’re not sure how to proceed. You care very deeply, if something hits you hard enough you’ll go down. But you can pick yourself up... it just might take a while.

Warriors: Strong, confident, and charismatic, you draw the attention of the entire room when you enter, and you’re totally fine with that. You take command of any situation, but you’re not pushy - if someone else seems to have the situation in hand, you’ll defer to them until you think you need to step up. You’re intelligent and detailed, you notice patterns and are very observant. You also love to be a troll when you can be - all that seriousness doesn’t mean you can’t tease the heck out of people you care about! You tend to take things that would emotionally cripple someone and file them to be dealt with later, and it can make you seem cold, but you’re just processing it later because you refuse to process it right now in the moment. This gives you the chance to be able to handle the absolute worst and most horrible things life can throw at you and just keep moving like it doesn’t bother you - because in that moment, it truly doesn’t, you’re not emotionally registering it. You’re the steady rock everyone can rely on when a hurricane is tearing through. You look out for those around you, and you naturally guide them. It’s just second nature to be the leader. There hasn’t been a situation that you haven’t shied away from, you’re always wanting to help, no matter the cost to yourself. You’re very sociable and get to know others around you quite quickly.

[rhine-gold-archive]

You got me! Lol

but honestly? Was going to ask about Diluc and Jean since I don’t understand their relationship?? friend? divorced couple? Nothing but former co workers who generally respect each other?? And maybe comparison between their working dynamic vs kaeya & Jean working dynamic. but if that is not your cup of tea then i was going to ask about Rosaria and Kaeya friendship lol

so you pick whichever you like, Or ignore up to you <3

Jean and Diluc - childhood friends who were *almost* on the verge of dating and everyone around assumed they would get together, but they never actually did bc Diluc left to became a batman. kids of aristocratic families who did not have a lot of options to have friends growning up and at first were almost forced to hang out, but this is what allowed them to get to know each other better. both had pet turtles, come on, that doesn't happen on accident, Diluc is the pets guy (cavalry\horses, bird) so he probs got his first and infected Jean into getting her own, while they were both mocked by Kaeya. They were both crushing on each other, but nothing happened, which is why there's both clear respect, fondness and trust, but also awkwardness that can come off as this "divorced" vibe. They knew each other so well, but then everything changed so drastically and they don't know how to carry themselves around each other anymore despite still caring about each other. but Jean is the only one Diluc clearly trusts with his secret identity, he does his whole scooby doo shebang to throw Kaeya off, but accepts Jean without hesitation. It's almost easier to have a third neutral person like traveler who doesn't know their history around to communicate by proxy while pretending it's only about mondsdat safety. somewhat a romantic option, but very tentative, shy longing on both parts with a belief that the other person has already moved on and changed too much.

Kaeya and Rosaria - friends who have such similar coping and defense mechanisms that they get along very well, but their relationship hinges juuust on this side of unhealthy. Both cynical, closed off, wary of others, cryo isolationists who think it's better if others stay away from them and hang out together precisely bc they think the other one would not get attached and then hurt. The shadowy methods they can share without being judged, the sarcasm, the loneliness. Their problem is that when one would show vulnerability and the need for connection, the other would shut it off, esp Rosa with quite the harsh jabs. But this certainty that Rosa will not get too close and so won't get hurt from being around him is what lets Kaeya hang out with her a lot more, while keeping distance from Jean despite caring a lot about her too. Somewhat?? friends-with-benefits vibes, but very matter-of-fact, not romantic, "we know such secrets of each other and we don't want to get other people hurt bc we believe we're a bad news, so we might as well just have so fun". each of them actually needs open support and acceptance, so I don't ship them romantically, but they're good as friends, esp if they get therapy

[knightfeared]

➤ MISC HEADCANONS. [ ; ] Childhood & Trauma Triggers. Humour as a Coping Mechanism. Hunter Teachings cut short with his Sudden Evacuation. Richter’s constant Fidgeting / Restless Hands.

◈ As a boy, he was confident, admittedly sheltered — capable but reckless. Undoubtedly proud of his family & their reputation, their skills, he had a naïve view of their expected duties though he knew what they entailed. He was trained by his mother closely, & to a young Richter Belmont, she was powerful & unstoppable, could do just about anything. He accompanied her on her hunts if they were low risk-level ones. If he wasn’t permitted to join, he’d always find a clever way to sneak loose & tail after her despite her warnings. When he was told not to do something, if it didn’t align with his stubborn interests, he would find a way to do what wasn’t advised. ( Please remember he was a child at this point. )

◈ In his youth, about up until Julia lost her focus, until she lost her life because of his reckless decisions to join her fight, he’s never had to face the consequences of his impulsive actions. With that, it causes him to close up, to take a more cautious approach to things moving forwards. He’s not as flashy, not as needlessly cocky unless he is confident a situation is in their favour.

◈ Certain things do act as trauma triggers for him moving forwards.

A trauma trigger is a stimulus that causes memories or reactions to severe or sustained trauma.

◈ Events that parallel too closely to the night his mother died can trigger a momentary freezing response from Richter, such as a sudden overwhelming amount of chaos during a time of celebration or when he finds himself abruptly cornered, knocked onto his back at any point during a fight. He snaps into momentary panic mode, where he assesses the situation, & wrestles between his urge to fight or flee. Situations where he’s left helpless off his feet are greatly avoided ( for this reason, it’s why he tries his best to keep his fighting style very fluid & constantly moving ) along with fireworks & cramped, claustrophobic spaces.

◈ Compared to how he used to behave as a child, who he is as a young man is vastly different — his personality has shifted somewhat. He’s more quiet, reserved, he observes & takes the time to study a situation before he decides to rush in to play hero unless it’s one that involves Maria or Tera. He’s also out of practice, building up a new routine with experience, having admitted he’s only ever had to fight supernatural beings a handful of times every few months, but with the events of Nocturne starting to brew, it’d escalated to multiple a night. With that sudden rise in tension, he has a habit of deflecting using his humour or sarcasm to make light of the situation. It helps him keep himself calm, collected, if he feels he has control over a situation through his use of sharpened, biting wit & playful banter. It also helps him focus in a way.

I am listing these here more for my own personal notes. I notice he does both from time to time — to lighten the mood or when he lashes out defensively to put distance. His words can be ill-timed, poor in tone, bearing one too many teeth.

◈ As for him not knowing what Night Creatures are, that can be chalked up to him not having access to his family’s Bestiary before he was abruptly sent off. While he was going through training under Julia’s hand, she was likely preparing to teach him everything more one day, but given her untimely end, he’s only had to learn what he could from Tera in France. From then in, his training continued on with Maria over the next few years but it mainly consisted more of a few Speaker teachings in passing & a lot more physical training with his mothers whip.

◈ He has a tendency to constantly fiddle with things even when he’s sitting idle. He needs to constantly be in motion for comforts sake, & there is a buried want to always be productive in some way, to stay sharp even if it’s meant to be a time of rest — going over simple dagger tricks, fidgeting with one between his gloved fingers or using the trees outside of Tera’s home as targets — Richter will go over accuracy & target practice with both his knives & whip out of well-practiced habit. It’s something he rarely needs to think on as he goes over the motions, helping him focus on sorting through his thoughts.

[chaoscradle]

hi and welcome to my kin list that literally no one asked for:

(sorry if the format doesnt look good I’m trying this out, also yes this has my hc)

Eddie Kaspbrak

I’m small (actually average but small compared to my friends), angry, a little bit of a hypochondriac, former asthmatic (might still have some remnants of it but not enough to need an inhaler), I’m a boyliker, I’m a boy, thinks Richie is cute

Mike Wheeler

I’m a boyliker, would probably have his modern-day aesthetic as my goal, insecure, kind of mean sometimes, physical touch love language, I’m a boy, thinks Will Byers is attractive, generally a jealous person by nature, hopeless romantic, “what if I’m actually just annoying”, requires validation, I swear a lot

Will Byers

boyliker, boy, he’s sassy, thinks Mike Wheeler is attractive, smol bean (pre-s4 but i think it’s still valid), hopeless romantic, physical touch love language, wants to commit felonies (AKA rob Las Vegas pretty much)

Richie Tozier

Dirty minded and dirty jokes, humor as a coping mechanism, boyliker, boy, wants to be loved

Max Mayfield

Bisexual, sarcasm as my humor and a defense mechanism, l like messing with people, she’s Mike in a different font with regards to personality

Ziggy Katz

Bisexual, boy, likes music (I would say playing the guitar but I have yet to actually learn), another hopeless romantic, struggles with connecting with people sometimes, awkward asf

Amity Blight

girlliker, good student, used to be a rule stickler and get very annoyed with others who weren’t

can’t think of any more so I think that’s it

[melovesanneeeee]

sobrang dalas kong gumamit ng humor at sarcasm as defense/coping mechanism, kaya if you can't tell if i’m joking, know that ako mismo ‘di ko na rin alam kung nagbibiro pa ba ako o seryoso na.

[roxy206]

How the fuck is Trixie gonna tell Katya "I think of you alot" so sweetly then be like I hate spending time with you! It's getting tired at this point! I think Katya laughing after Trixie said that was a coping or defense mechanism so we the audience wouldn't see how he really felt. Afterwards you notice how quickly his facial expression changes and the way his voice cracks. He sounded hurt like maybe he wanted to cry? Then he talks in a neutral monotone voice possibly trying to conceal hurt feelings before ending it abruptly.

I may be in the minority here but to be completely honest I don’t think Trixie joking around saying I love not talking to you & not spending time with you was a big deal. I don’t think Katya was hurt by it & I don’t think that’s the reason the episode ended when it did

The doorbell rang a bunch during the episode, they took a break during the episode to have a meeting, they were busy & filming the pod around other commitments. It’s not an abnormally short episode — there’s always been a fluctuation in the episode length

And I think we should remember that Katya has said that with Trixie if something is an issue she tells Trixie & they resolve it. If she was upset by it, I’m sure she has addressed it with Trixie directly off camera & privately (but I don’t think it was that serious)

Do I wish Trixie had kept up that earnest behavior we saw with I think of you a lot? Yes, of course. Do I wish Trixie would just tell Katya she wants to talk to her more & wants to spend time with her more? Of course. It’s an issue for Trixie that she’s letting all of this jealousy build up & that she isn’t asking for what she wants & needs, & it would be nice for her to express her actual feelings to Katya instead of dialing up the sarcasm for once

I understand where people are coming from being upset by that part of the episode. I’m not by any means trying to tell anyone else how to feel about it or to invalidate how anyone feels about it. But I think those involved are fine

[winged-paki]

not to be completely insane but you reblogged this really excellent textpost on vulnerability comparing wotton, dorian, and basil and THIS passage

Cynicism and irony and sarcasm are so easy. Scorn is a lovely shield against vulnerability. Sitting back and seeing the wrongs of the world, scoffing at anyone sincere (if they really knew how life was, they wouldn't be so happy), blunting emotional reactions until emotion feels like a blank wasteland smoothed by a sort of smug knowingness: these are all easy, tricks to make life bearable, coping mechanisms to avoid the astonishing vulnerability of existing honestly in the world. I find myself slipping toward them constantly, like a magnet always pulling me in that direction.

reminds me a stupid amount of how i personally characterize shiver in fic... there's something so appealing about a character who has these sort of theatrical defense mechanisms that can really only be dismantled by someone who lives so wholeheartedly and lovingly (frye of course) that it makes them want to lay down their self-made barriers.

obviously this is an oversimplification of their dynamic and they each have their moments of both genuinity and cynicism but. BUT. im a little crazy about them. sorry

You get it, anon. When I was writing my albino shiver AU this is a concept that came up a lot in my characterization of them - they put up these barriers around their disability because it was easy, because it was a defense mechanism, because sincerity and the mortifying order of being known, of admitting defeat, of asking for accommodation is such a hard fucking thing to do.

I think the core of what I write comes down to the dichotomous balance of sincerity and self-defense, truth and the many layers of lies that one just… loses themselves in until they’re yanked out. Shiver in my social media fans fic is lost in layers of lying and detachment and dissociation, and Frye‘s role is to bring out the truth and moral heart of the situation, to tear apart what Shiver’s built and make them soft and vulnerable and better. It’s such a compelling character arc to me. Obviously, it’s why I’m liking Dorian Gray so much, lol.

More people should be crazy about them. You’re always welcome to be insane about them in my inbox anon!

[folkl0r]

❛ do you want to tell me about it? ❜ noor & dean

⍋          no. the answer was right on the tip of his tongue. he could have shut her down. hell, he wanted to shut her down. but she deserved better than that. she deserved better than him. so he leaned back, balancing on two legs of the chair he was sitting in and scrubbed both hands down his tired face. his groan was guttural, letting out years worth of frustration into it. he was about to reveal a part of himself that he had never shared with anyone before. because she deserved that much of him. "the new defensive coordinator, his name is— you know what? his name doesn't matter. the guy's a total asswipe. he was one of my high school coaches, and he tried to sabotage my career. all because his daughter broke up with me." it was more than that. so much more than that. but he didn't want to bore her with all the details. and honestly, he didn't want her to think any less of him either.

he tilted the chair forward until it was all four legs again and leaned forward with both arms stretched out on the table in front of him, fingers tapping on the wood. "now he's in charge of the defensive line, and because he still holds grudges against teenagers— not that i am one now, but you know, i was one when he decided to ruin my life— he put me on the second string. me, noor. on the second string. so i'll never be on the ice with garrett, logan and tucker again. what if they kick me out of the house noor? i'll be second string and homeless and my girlfriend will probably break up with me." it was a sad excuse for a joke. he was using sarcasm as a coping mechanism. the guys would never kick him out of the house. but everything else . . . "i— that was a joke," he clarified, reaching for her hand. "please don't break up with me. i like you too much, and that would really fucking suck." she was pretty much the only good thing going on in his life anymore, he had fallen in love with her and her kid.

[warsinmyhead]

HIT PAUSE: A kind mutual reminded me about this lady. I've not written anything for her and back when I entertained her as a test muse, there wasn't much interest.

Keep an eye out for random opens with her as well. There are a couple on the blog at the moment, but I wanted to give her another go.

(Keep in mind that with her ability, she's not able to touch people unless she's wearing gloves or a mask. Often that can make her use snark and sarcasm as a defense mechanism because it's hard for her to cope with killing everything she touches. Her line of work does involve assassination for hire, but those would get closer to her would eventually learn she's not 100% okay with it.)

[messeduphood]

Jason Todd always seems to have a sarcastic quip ready to go. It turns out that this is actually part of his coping mechanism for dealing with the trauma and pain he's experienced throughout his life.

Growing up as a street kid before being taken in by Batman and trained as a vigilante, Jason has been through a lot, including his own death and resurrection. Sarcasm and irony can be a way of making light of difficult situations and taking back control when things feel overwhelming. It's a defense mechanism that helps him deal with the craziness in his life.

However, it's not just about coping. As the Red Hood, Jason is known for his rebellious streak and his willingness to break the rules. Sarcasm and irony can be a way of thumbing his nose at authority and expressing his independence. He's not afraid to speak his mind and call people out, even if it means using sarcasm or irony to get his point across.

Overall, Jason's sarcastic and ironic sense of humor is not just a personality quirk, but also a way of dealing with his past and expressing his personality as a vigilante.

[rpatersonblog]

Common Core Beliefs

Core belief is a belief created in the subconscious mind between birth to age seven, that a person has internalized as a truth or reality.

Becoming conscious of our core beliefs will allow us to unlearn the ones we do not like and make new decisions to create new responses.

Common core belief #1

• I am not worthy, good enough, something is "wrong" with me.

The adult behaviours displayed by this belief are Self betrayal, negative self talk, procrastination, chronic fear of criticisms, performing or playing a role and denying one's own needs and boundaries.

Common core belief #2

• I must betray myself (or parts of myself) in order to be loved and chosen.

The adult behaviours show up as Codependency patterns, enabling partners who harm you and themselves, fear of stating your own needs, a lack of boundaries, inability to be vulnerable, avoidance of romantic relationships or losing yourself in romantic relationships.

Common core belief #3

• I must compete, smear or tear down others to "win" or get what I want.

The adult behaviours are Fear based decision making, an inability to collaborate, assuming everyone has negative intentions or is "out to get you" , black and white, right and wrong polarized thinking and the inability to see a perspective of another.

Common core belief #4

• People will never stay and always abandon them.

This shows up in adults as insecure attachment in romantic relationships, push and pull behaviors, inability to follow through with tasks, controlling tendencies and impulsive behaviors like shopping, changing jobs or relationships without being intentional or fully thinking them through.

Common core belief #5

• I am unlucky, good things do not happen to me.

The adult behaviours are sarcasm as a coping mechanism, "playing small", fear over revealing dreams or goals and aspirations, chronic complaining and emotional dumping as connection.

Common core belief #6

• I am not safe and the world is not safe.

This shows up as addiction or negative behaviours as an attempt to regulate the nervous system,isolation, high reactivity, defensiveness, over independence and a lack of resilience.

It might be that some, if not all really spoke to you. These may be some phrases that you have ultimately heard in your family dynamic again and again that solidified some of these beliefs for you.

This post made by Dr. Nicole LePera, on Instagram, articulated and demonstrated so much of what we live out unconsciously. If we become Aware of our choices and beliefs, then we can change them for the good.

Source : Dr. Nicole LePera aka TheHolisticPsychologist (Instagram) and Anna Akana (Youtube)

[thehighqueenofhiraeth]

nikolai lantsov = tony stark

no i will not be elaborating

[out-of-context-batfam]

Adventures of the Super Sons #1