#so adoption is complicated

[steddieas-shegoes]

Steve and Eddie go through the whole adoption process in 1996, despite how difficult it was to find somewhere willing to help them at all and despite their conflicted feelings on adoption.

The way they saw it though, providing a loving home for a child who needed one was better than the alternative. Eddie had enough experience with temporary foster homes to know stability was better than constant moving and questionable foster parents.

They get a foster placement almost immediately, a six year old girl named Amelia. She’s quiet, but not in a way that worries them. She’s very focused, and enjoys going to school more than any regular children’s hobbies. Neither of them know what to do with that other than keep encouraging it.

She stays for months, months turn into a year, and the agency finally gives them the go ahead to complete the adoption process.

But they don’t do anything without talking to Amelia.

She’s happy there, her therapist signs off on it immediately and explains that Amelia has shown more personality development and less signs of trauma with them than she had even living at home. Not to mention they actually brought her to appointments, unlike her previous guardians.

To celebrate, they throw a party with all their friends and family and tell Amelia she can invite anyone from school she wants. She invites everyone.

Turns out their daughter is a social butterfly and is friends with everyone.

At the party, Eddie pulls out his guitar, plays a bunch of popular kid-friendly songs after a very scathing look from Steve as a reminder to behave.

Amelia walks over to him after a few songs, on a sugar high like he’d never seen on her before, and asks to play the guitar.

He’s hesitant, but not because he’s still protective of his guitars, more because he doesn’t want her to embarrass herself in front of her friends. Kids are cruel, even and especially at seven, and the last thing he wants is this to be the thing that kids talk about for the next ten years.

She sits on the couch and holds it, arranging her fingers…correctly. Eddie watches.

Steve is watching from across the room.

She starts strumming, very quietly at first, not as confident as she’d been a moment ago. And then she starts really playing.

It’s one of the songs Eddie wrote. He played it for the last four months nonstop as he perfected it, and she’d apparently been watching.

Eddie’s jaw is on the floor and he quickly looks over to Steve, who has a similar look of surprise on his face.

He doesn’t interrupt her. She makes it through the entire song.

She looks up.

“When did you learn to play guitar?” Eddie asks.

“When I was watching you.”

“But have you played before tonight?”

Amelia shook her head, looking down. “Didn’t wanna touch it without asking.”

Eddie pulls the guitar from her hands and sets it aside, then pulls her into his lap and hugs her. Steve sits down on the couch next to them, hand on her back.

“You can always ask, sweetie. And if you’re this interested and this natural, we can buy you your own guitar if you want. I didn’t think you were interested in playing.”

“I wanna be like you,” Amelia admitted against his shoulder.

Eddie was done for. He looked at Steve, half-panicked, trying not to cry in front of these people, but Steve wasn’t faring any better.

“Then we can go get you a guitar tomorrow. You can get your own picks, too. They might even have purple ones.”

“Can I have red? Like yours?”

“Of course, sweetie.”

It only took them two days after that to realize she could play by ear, just like Eddie.

And then it only took another day after that to realize she had taught herself to read music too.

They spent hours and hours every week playing together while Steve cooked dinner or checked her homework or just watched them.

When Eddie’s band decided to record another album and go on tour when Amelia was 12, Eddie insisted that she get to be on it.

She ended up helping write one of their songs, played on the track on the album, and with a lot of work, convinced Steve to let them homeschool her for the entire 8 months they’d be on tour so she could perform on stage with her dad.

“Can’t believe she’s not even genetically yours. Are you sure you didn’t have an affair?” Steve asked the night before they were leaving for Europe.

“When would I have had an affair? I came back to the tour bus or hotel with you every single night,” Eddie kissed him softly. “She’s amazing, huh?”

“She is. What happens when she wants to be a full blown rockstar like her dad too?”

“Then we make sure she’s protected and has good people around her like I have. She could be a rockstar easily. She’s got the talent and the presence,” Eddie smiled. “And she’s got me to make sure no one takes advantage of her. But she’s only 12. We’ve got time to worry about that later.”

“You’re bringing her onstage every single night all over the world for the next eight months, baby. I think later is now.”

Eddie sighed. “She’s gonna blow them all away. I’m proud of her. Let’s focus on that for now.”

And she did blow everyone away. The fans and the media had nothing but good things to say, and Steve didn’t have to go into overprotective mom mode at all until she was 15 and signing a record deal of her own.

But between Eddie and him, the entire industry knew better than to fuck with her or them.

They made rules, of course. School still came first, she still had required family events to be at, she still had regular friends at home. She wasn’t allowed at any parties, not even the events for award ceremonies.

But she didn’t really need those rules. She had no interest in parties or abandoning her friends or family, and she was a straight A student who still had hopes of getting into Brown for Journalism like her Aunt Nancy. She had a passion for music and wanted to share it, but not at the cost of the rest of her life.

And Eddie and Steve did everything they could to make sure she got to have everything. That’s what they’d promised her from day one.

[uncanny-tranny]

I love trans people whose transness means that their sexuality is complex. I love trans people who adopt contradictory labels. I love transmasculine people who still have ties to old lesbian spaces and transfeminine people who still have ties to gay spaces (even if they themselves aren't lesbian or gay). I love trans people whose dysphoria has put them at a place where they don't want to engage with any type of sexuality. I love trans people who are confused, unsure, or questioning. I love trans people who toe the lines of queerness. I love trans people who are unapologetically embracing their sexualities. I love trans people who are working through internalized shame about their sexualities.

[musicfeedsmysoul12]

Silly thought: Danny/Bruce or whatever the ship is called and his mom is like: You have my taste! Cause she sees himbo genius.

Jack is like: and mine! When Bruce kicks ass.

Danny does not like the reminder he’s just like his parents while Jazz, pretends she isn't dating… either Diana or Barry cause both are also just like their parents.

[coochiequeens]

No one is entitled to biological kids and no one is entitled to expect anyone to act as a surrogate. Unfortunately with more and more celebrities using surrogates it's becoming more nor alized in the news. Fuck apparently a soap opera is using a surrogate storyline

And there's this horror story

[fauvester]

old man snoring noises

[fly-sky-high-arts]

Centipede + Radiation

The Seeker is a wonderer. They are no stranger to unknown lands and places beyond Bugaria, monuments of old times and tools no one saw before.

Their primary interest is finding and harvesting crystals. The strange ancient device on their back (Geiger's counter) helps the Seeker detect and locate the crystals near by. With a help of the hook they use to reach places and pick up the clicks. It's also a handy weapon in a rough situations.

Overall a friendly but quiet fellow. The cloak can be intimidating (sometimes in their favor) but it's mainly there to give ease to their eyes, being somewhat light sensitive.

The collected crystals are then traded or sold, not for berries but for food and shelter, before the Seeker continues their journey.

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Update this adopt will be posted in the reblog~

Edit: SOLD OUT thank you!

[loserbigsis]

Tranny incest roleplay is just the adult version of playing house

[nightswatchdisbandmentera]

I remember back when i joined this fandom that the prevailing opinion on Jaime was “he’s not on a redemption arc, he’s on an identity arc”. And like I guess it’s not actually wrong to say that identity is a big part of Jaime’s arc. But the thing is that every pov in this series grapples with identity, so thats not a theme exclusive to Jaime. And, why do redemption and identity have to be mutually exclusive? Jaime is trying to do better….AND he’s still a member of House Lannister and a son of Tywin Lannister. If anything, that particular identity makes his story more interesting imho. Then we can have cooler conversations about the extent of redemption and what not idk

[oifaaa]

So Tims got two(adopted? Biological? Clone??) children and Steph maybe got her original baby back but has anyone else taken up Bruce's habit of having a complicated parental relationship to a gaggle of crime fighting orphans?

So steph doesn't have her baby back that kid is just 18 now and wanting to get in touch with her for reasons and stephs not sure if she really wants to see her kid again, both of tims kids are biologically his (don't ask), dick has one adopted kid and one step kid as I've decided his ex is gonna be Roy none of the others have kids yet but if any of them are gonna be the adopt a alot of kids in the future I can see it being damian, duke or Jason none of them have just gotten started yet

[anghraine]

Maybe it's just because I'm sleepy and my brain is tired and irritable, but I do wish fandom in general weren't so absolutely intent on casting all familial or quasi-familial relationships into some near approximation of US nuclear family idealization.

Acting as a caretaker for a child doesn't automatically make someone their "real parent" or "adopted parent" or "any parent at all" if the child doesn't see them that way. These caretaking relationships can be messy, begrudging, or essentially coercive (in both fiction and IRL, and in life, forcing children into situations where "they'll be taken care of" is often coercive and/or predatory).

And sometimes a caretaker adult, whether a natural parent, adoptive parent, some kind of guardian, or more amorphous caretaker, is ... bad, actually. It's understandable for the children they take care of (whether literal children or now-adult people who experienced it previously) to have had negative experiences they have complicated feelings about, to have complicated feelings about their caretakers that may not distill down to "real parents", to be capable of harsh criticism of their former caretakers, even if they love them.

Sometimes it is the simpler scenario where a child is adopted and it looks very much like a conventional "nuclear" relationship (though even then, the child can have more complex and inconvenient feelings than they're often supposed to have). But—okay, I may be biased from coming from a family that was licensed for foster care, which saw a lot of children essentially forced into foster care with varying complicated feelings about it that didn't always equate to "this person who looks after me is my mother"—even after a long time, sometimes.

And there's frequently a nasty pressure on children placed in "care" to either reach out to their birth or adoptive parents, or to wholly turn their backs on them and accept their current caretakers as the only parents who matter. But usually things are messier than that. You can care about a caretaker, you can respect and love them, and still not feel like you're their child. Or maybe you do! It just depends.

This can happen with siblings as well, especially when there's a big age difference—yeah, one of the siblings may be functionally filling the shoes of their parents as well as they can, but it doesn't necessarily make them actual parents in the eyes of their younger siblings (or themselves). It can, but doesn't have to. Or maybe it's something messier, like when the relationship is almost parental, but not quite, and the exact nature of the dynamic is hard to pin down.

There's also the case where the relationship may have been parental at one point, but one of the parties (usually the caretaker) burned bridges so badly that the child (often an adult at this point) cuts ties and doesn't deny that the caretaker filled a parental role back then, but wholly rejects it as any kind of current reality. This can happen with biological family, but also with looser caretaker relationships as well (esp the cultier ones).

I'm thinking of a lot of fandom examples of these kinds of indeterminate caretaker-child (or former child) relationships, where either we know or have good reason to believe the child doesn't regard a former caretaker as exactly the same as a parent, or we just don't know what the nature of the relationship is, and fandom will be absolutely insistent that the only possible way to read it is parent-child.

And also, sometimes there's nothing wrong with the caretaker relationship, but it's still not parent-child. It simply doesn't map onto this parental mold that fandom tries to box all adult-child caretaking relationships into, because family is more complicated than a single, very simplistic model allows.

[uncanny-tranny]

The biggest saving grace I feel I've done is to get into death positivity, to learn to appreciate death. It's definitely not going to help for many, but I have found that not stigmatizing my own interest and desire for death has greatly helped. Being able to interact with death not as a punishment, but as a way to express humanity has been truly what has made me feel more human. I no longer want to feel ashamed of this aspect of myself, and it's made me want to live. Death has done unto me life.

[katzirra]

I am obsessed with my friends..??

So, for Christmas this year my little gang of Big Brothers thought it would be funny to buy me records as their theme. A couple of them have gotten into vinyl this year, and one in particular saw an opportunity when he saw the Loki soundtrack come out on vinyl. Which I'm obsessed with.

So I now have a very specifically curated fucking record collection I never asked for?? Which prompted me to buy a couple to have for very specific personal reasons. So that's a thing I guess. Cool??

BUT Mark got mad, because someone beat him to the Crimson Peak soundtrack. So his ass just said fuck it, Crimson Peak Christmas.

But it didn't stop there apparently. No, no. Because my friends are committed to the bit. So he got me the art book for Christmas, which is very interesting! Loved reading that! No. Then his goofy ass also got me a Taiwanese copy of the movie because I collect steelbooks... which I'm fascinated by because now it is the only foreign language spine in my fucking movie collection - which is wild to me, with how many foreign films I own..???? The saddest Thomas on the spine too..

BUT IT DIDN'T STOP THERE I GUESS!! I mentioned an offhand comment Matt made regarding the Hannibal teacup the boy's bought me a couple years ago.. So detective Tony one night just sends me a couple links to teacups, because he identified the fucking one from Crimson Peak. I don't????????

AND WHAT THE FUCK DO I GET HOUNDED TO CHECK THE MAIL FOR TODAY?? THIS LITTLE GUY.

It's like the fucking theme of the year now.

[running-with-the-feels]

Life has been really hard lately so I'm sending a fluffy hc your way.

When frost was younger Kuai Liang and Hanzo her to a court house and officially adopted her as their child. To celebrate nearly everyone (except Raiden, fuck that guy) Frost finally getting a family she deserves.

I love this! I hope life gets easier for you soon!

Hanzo was the one to come up with the idea bc Kuai Liang isn't super familiar with how the legalities of these things work and if he calls Frost his kid and she calls him dad, what else is there to do? So when Hanzo suggests getting it written down and legal, so that it's permanent, he's very confused

But I hc that Frost has at least some experience with the foster system so Adoption is a Big Deal, it makes it real in a way she never expected

Once Hanzo explains that, Kuai Liang is 100% on board and they surprise her with it. She has no idea why they're at a courthouse or why the judge is calling Kuai Liang by his name and not his mantle until the adoption proceedings start and the realization brings her to tears. She hadn't realized how much the uncertainty of not legally being attached to them had been weighing on her until now.

They go out for pizza with the whole gang of defenders and kombat kids to celebrate. By the time they get home, Frost is so tuckered out Kuai Liang has to carry her in and put her to bed

He frames her adoption papers and hangs them up in his office, and he smiles every time he sees them

[fiovske]

liking star wars is partly crying over obi-wan as a neat little study in grief and partly dodging obi/kin shippers as a form of extreme sport

[mejomonster]

Is cloud bisexual in canon? I dunno. Couldnt say for sure (im in Rebirth chapter 12 and Only discussing rebirth rn). I can definitely say he's Aware Andrea admires him, Super Aware Dio likes him and is flattered by it and up to flirt with that opportunity (wild choice cloud but okay).

And i certainly cant wait for clouds date with barret <3

[birdsong-warriors]

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