#so calm down

[ravelqueen]

KaiShin being cousins is whatever because it doesn't add any spice to it that isn't eclipsed by the spice of detective/thief

Weird puriteens losing their shit over it though? Hilarious, absolutely amazing.

They didn't even grow up together, they have none of the "guilt over wanting to fuck someone you grew up with as family" or anything and it's not like it's gonna impact some kids genetics lol

How were you shipping those two anyway if your incest squick is that self debilitating, their designs make this pairing almost functionally self cest.

Anyway please send me your Kaishin djs/ fic recs im suddenly invested

[dmisthios]

Left: people being annoyed because we ship them

Right: us, very hopeful and also determined

Wenclair!!!!

[littlescaryinternetguy]

There are a lot of incredibly talented people in my feed, and I take my hat off to them. Every day, I read wonderful stories of fear and love between people of radically different sizes. Every day, I look at wonderfully executed drawings in any number of media. So when I say, you swine need to get off your asses and start catering to me personally, for free... well, you need to listen, because I'm your biggest fan. Or representative of such, in any case. I can't believe that you people are wasting your time writing and drawing and imagining things that YOU enjoy when you should be catering to me, the representative of the entire audience. You know what they say, the customer is always right*, and we are all customers, except for you, the artist. You are not right when you don't quiver and caper like a lickspittle at the jackboots of our brandscaped hellknights. So chop chop, artists! Shake a leg, writers! You're working for me now, and talent and fifty cents can get you killed in an alley at night in Baltimore. I want talent and results, pleasing results.

*what they don't always say is the preamble, and that is "in matters of taste,". The reason they don't always say it is because they don't like it.

[neck-thats-made-for-bruising]

Whenever this gets brought up my mom always says "aw I know how you feel I have body dysmorphia too :(" bro I don't have body dysmorphia I know I'm skinny and most of the time I like how I look that's not even the problem so literally just stop brining it up constantly

[buthearmeouttho]

Why are you so mad a Zemo anyway?

I mean John Walker is a better enemy.

Zemo helped Sam and Bucky in tftws

I know I know

I do hate John Walker

I will be breaking his knees

BUT

Zemo used red book just because he wanted revenge. He had no other reason to bring Bucky into anything. The team was already tearing apart. And like I get it his family died but he killed several people just to do it. Like— ok sir. Ok.

[i-wakeupstrange]

big believer in letting people have fun in whatever way brings them joy, but

wow i Do Not Like people making "what if Anya wasn't adopted" AUs

[overworkedunderwhelmed]

For context, I’ve really only seen all episodes that have aired (as of 29 Dec 2022)

There really isn’t anything I’ve not seen coming in some fashion since Season 4 aside from this moment:

[moonprismmakeup]

is it my body dysmorphia talking or is it the fact that big girls like me get overlooked as options for serious relationships. or is it the mental illness 🤔

[heinous-bitch]

well i think he looks cute, y'all are mean as fuck

[bardofavon]

not to be controversial bc I know this is like…not in line with shifting opinions on fanfic comment culture but if there’s a glaring typo in my work I will NOT be offended by pointing it out. if ao3 fucks up the formatting…I will also not be offended by having this pointed out…

‘looking forward to the next update’ and ‘I hope you update soon!’ are different vibes than a demand, and should be read in good faith because a reader is finding their way to tell you how much they love it. I will not be mad at this.

‘I don’t usually like this ship but this fic made me feel something’ is also incredibly high praise. I’m not going to get mad at this.

even ‘I love this fic but I’m curious about why you made [x] choice’ is just another way a reader is engaging in and putting thought into your work.

I just feel like a lot of authors take any comment that’s not perfectly articulated glowing praise in the exact manner they’re hoping to receive it in bad faith.

fic engagement has been dropping across the board over the last several years, and yes it’s frustrating but it isn’t as though I can’t see how it happens. comment anxiety can be a real thing. the last thing anyone wants to do is offend an author they love, and that means sometimes people default to silence.

idk where I’m going with this I guess aside from saying unless a comment is outright attacking me I’m never going to get mad at it, and I think a lot of authors should feel the same way. ESPECIALLY TYPOS PLZ GOD POINT OUT MY TYPOS.

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

[marisatomay]

cooking baking

[letrickster]

I think a fact about me that is very revealing is that I have to have a timer on my phone so that I cannot check Any emails (work or personal) after 8:30pm, and every day, I still try to check them

[haemosexuality]

one step closer to being real

[aloekat]

his ass is NOT grant o’brien!!!!

[mwagneto]

sorry idk but the way the world is so fast and the people in it still want it to be faster is sooo annoying to me. people groaning while standing in line for 3 minutes people being mad the train ride is gonna take 2 hours people complaining that the bus is a few minutes late people being angry that construction work is taking months even though it used to take decades. don't you see the world is already so so so fast in every single aspect can't you understand that being mad will do nothing and just make your mood worse. enjoy the moments of stillness you're given. just stand in line and look at the people around you. sit on the train and watch the scenery. you'll get there.