#they fall into more of a binary

[seahorsepencils]

also can we just talk about the fact that in the Wish World, a woman can get away with calling another woman beautiful without setting off everyone's queer panic, but when a man does it to a man, it tips over the edge? so the Kates of the world are flying just under the radar, but are likely to be more emotionally repressed as a result - and yet, all the queer or queer-coded characters in this world are offered the same security and protection from doubt by the prospect of entering into an opposite-sex marriage...

[gay-cartoon-enjoyer]

Gravity Falls meme I made in 5 min

Might as well repost this, since it’s the month of Maybel. ����

[yardsards]

think of a character that isn't canonically trans that you headcanon as being trans-masculine. (if you have multiple, just choose one arbitrarily or pick your favourite)

trans-feminine headcanon poll

[head---ache]

i find it so funny that scourge and fiona are like the straight couple in the l&l au and they have a pretty shitty relationship 😭

[ewtoxic]

The stay-at-home-mom!Alicent agenda or whatever in modern rhaenicent fics is so interesting because in the show only one of them was a sahm…and it wasn’t Alicent.

[clavalee]

no, no, NO. i HATE it when you call me a boy or use he/him pronouns when referring/talking to me. gender? under most circumstances, i don't even have one, mate.

what are the circumstances in which i do have a gender, you ask?

when i'm singing a song. and it's usually a fall out boy song. i will proudly declare that i'm just the boy who's had too many chances. and if you need him, i could be him.

[howtodigatrench]

cringetober days 7-12 ! full lines for day 7 and link to base used below ^^;

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[sirfetchd]

[selinascatnip]

I actually had quality time with my stupid cousin this week

Iza, his girlfriend, is a miracle worker, he's been such much less of a dickhead since they started dating

I remember back on march last years when they had a huge fight in which sh told him if he didn't go to therapy they would have to break up and wow, self-advocating goals, coming from a family that loves you really is different, not a people pleasing gene in that body, and she's like super nice.

[anti-potato]

when you killed your kids were you by any chance taking inspiration from medea from greek mythology

is that another potato blog?

[hubbabubbagumpop]

@mother-ofthe-universe this is giving me Stan-vibes

[cupcraft]

Also btw trump recognizing only "the two biological sexes" harms intersex people too. I am a researcher of sex and it's affects on disease, and sex is far more complicated than "two sexes" and it always will be. Sex is multifaceted and there are far more than two binary sexes. Keep that in mind too. Don't fall into bioessentialism as you fight for trans people and intersex people.

[red-6-ofspades]

I dont really agree with or think some kind of, how do people phrase it, 'gender abolition' is possible or truly desirable, but much like peace and justice I think it is a worthy pursuit.

People would still be men and women in a gender equality utopia but it would also be not even noticeable or worth mentioning outside of a medical environment, because gender expression would be considerably more divorced from identity.

Idk how to explain. Like i do not fundamentally think there is a difference between men and women and i don't think anyone can actually tell what your 'true' gender is and I don't agree with any sort of idea of gender divination. I don't think people were odd about me because they somehow 'knew' i was a boything, I think I just wasn't conforming properly and that was noticeable. It is not surprising that being autistic and being trans has a lot of overlap.

You just... can't operate on a framework that says you can fundamentally tell the difference between men and women. Unless you also want to make pretty much every gay person stop being gnc, or every trans person to want to pass.

You can't even add a third category and ascribe traits to that as nonbinary, because binary people will have those traits too.

You've gotta cut the tree at the base and say and believe that we made all this shit up. It doesn't actually invalidate anyones identity. I think its actually really good to see even the most genderly cissest of expressions and have your brain say 'that could be a man or a woman or a nonbinary person or none of those things' not that I think you should *treat* people like that, but it should, ideally, (and I struggle with this so I'm not saying this is easy or possible for everyone) mean that if someone corrects you, you should be able to go 'that makes sense, I will see you as your gender from now on now that I know' and get back to what you were doing with that person.

The hardest part of getting people to respect you when you're trans, isn't the trans part. Most people are, at the surface, trans-positive. But getting them to actually, not just respect your identity, but to actually *see* it? Honestly, the amount of people who I feel do that is single digits.

They have never had to question their perception of gender before. They have no practice because they have literally never thought about it. It's not their fault. But it is a solvable, practiceable problem (that I struggle with still).

Some people at least add 'trans' to their internal categories, but this is still a problem because, what sorts of people 'look trans' to them?

You've gotta aim for complete dillution of what a man and woman is in your head. If you're ever corrected, the process of seeing someone as any possibility should be already done in your head. They just have to tell you and you should already be ready for them to be themselves. It's hard, but I really do think it's the best we can do. Because we cannot divine it.

There will always be people who look at me and misgender me by operating on defaults. But I would much rather this happen sometimes than for people to only correctly gender me because they're afraid to be told off or because they, well, correctly guessed my flavour of queer.

Neither of these 'correct' people actually see me as me. And that's what anyone really wants.

[one-true-houselight]

And another: intersexism! Society spends a lot of time and medical abuse upholding a facade of two perfect binary sexes.

It’s wild to me to see transvestigator conspiracy theories online that could be so easily explained by natural human variation. That woman has a deep voice? Yeah, sometimes they do. A woman has broad shoulders?? Maybe she plays rugby or hits the gym a fuckton. There’s a “bulge” in her tight pants?? Maybe her vulva is just fat. All the “markers” of trans woman that transvestigators use to harass any woman aren’t even things unique to trans women.

[catboybiologist]

half baked morning rant

I do want to make it clear that the reason I talk about HRT and its biological effects so much is not because HRT or medicalization defines your gender.

Its because, for me personally, the interface of my biology education and my transition was mostly centered around figuring out what sex hormones do. I learned about basic biology principles like DNA organization, gene regulation, cell biology, and physiology in high school and undergrad. Taking that understanding and extending it to the mechanisms that hormones use to change gene regulation, and by extension, the rest of your body broadly, was something I did as my understanding became more complete in later undergrad and grad school. It was the key to me starting my own transition.

Why?

Because it was the first time I realized that the "basic biology" arguments of transphobes were complete and utter bullshit. From that point, it was a cascade. As in, wait, if dynamic changes in gene expression aren't considered "biological" to them, then why am I believing anything they say about anything else? When they talk about gametes, and try to include infertile cis people in their definitions of biological sex by talking about what gamete you're "intended" to make, what do they even mean? Why does my current gene expression not define that "intent"? And wait, back up, why is the brain suddenly not considered part of our biology? Why are neurological differences suddenly not "biological"? Why can we say someone's thinking patterns aren't "biological"?

Backing up even further, why does any of this matter more than psychological gender, or sociological gender? If the way we navigate society is gendered, that affects a lot of our lives, and we're just throwing that away?

Basically, being educated about how deep the biological changes of HRT really go was the first domino to fall when I worked through my internalized transphobia.

This is one of many reasons why I hate, hate HATE the concession that uninformed allies and even many trans people themselves give: "well NO ONE is saying that you can change your biological sex, sex and gender are completely unrelated, sex is binary and gender isn't!!!!!"

Well. I am saying that you can change your "biological" sex, I am saying that biological sex isn't binary, and I am saying that misunderstanding of those points has set back transgender advocacy. It makes medical decisions surrounding us less informed, it poisons conversations about how we interact with society, and it makes trans people feel like their gender and sex are less "real" than cis people's.

Not to mention the horrific way it discards intersex people from the conversation entirely.

Recently, I've seen this point enter the mainstream a little, by using intersex people and variation of sex in other species as a "counterargument" to "binary biological sex" thinking. It still doesn't sit right with me. One, because it uses intersex people as a prop for trans advocacy while not actually addressing the needs of either group. And two, because it completely disregards that your current biology and physiology is not 100% predestined from birth, and using people who were "born this way" as a prop does absolutely nothing to increase people's acceptance of trans people who change their biology later in life.

Ugh. This got away from me but yeah. That's my sipping coffee ramble for this morning. If anyone wants to add comment or correct me on discourse here, please do. Especially if you're intersex- this is all the observations of a perisex trans woman.

[beroebluejeans]

I love how Tamsyn Muir was like, in this world everybody’s totally cool about gender and sexuality, but there’s a new invented binary that’s culturally and religiously defining and dictates who people are allowed to love and/or fuck and the roles they play in society.

They’ve written volumes and volumes of religious texts about how to conform to these sacred binary roles and filthy porn about people fulfilling or breaking the stereotypes of these roles. The role a person fulfills is determined before they’re born and dictates every aspect of their life. Once in a while someone who’s supposed to be on one side of the socioreligious binary is born more suited to the other side and has to hide it all their life (Coronabeth). Sometimes people fall in love in a way the socioreligious binary declares blasphemous and they decide to love each other openly anyway, and it shocks and scandalizes people no matter how wholesome and lovely and mundane their relationship is (Abigail and Magnus).

And these sacred binary roles are not equal, oh no, as much as the religious doctrine crows the importance of both roles, one is supposed to sacrifice endlessly and unquestioningly for the other, body, mind, and soul. And these binary roles have existed for ten thousand years and were created by God and underlie the whole structure of the universe! But here’s the secret: there was a time before this sacred binary existed, and God is just Some Guy who made this shit up.