#transphobes get out my account

[strawbn1ng]

Okay, so I just saw something that made me frustrated and even kinda mad. It's about lesbians, trans and stuff. I'm gonna give a little 'speech' abt this, maybe more abt the trans stuff.

So, here's my humble opinion:

First of all, I think that the people REALLY have to understand that gender and sex is NOT the same thing. Human's anatomy doesn't have anything to do with how YOU identificate yourself.

Gender is a social construction and that isn't a surprising thing. I think that when people talk about this is really, really important that they had clear the difference between gender and sex (now I'll try to explain it with my words, I'm a shit explaining but I'm gonna try and express it as well as I can).

Sex is biological, with the types being female, male and intersex. While gender identity is naturally much broader, although I think that society and the human need to pigeonhole all kinds of things (orientation, gender, etc.) for a kind of order that I don't quite understand if I'm honest (but not I'm going to talk about that now) is something essential in this too. Something important from my point of view is that sex cannot be changed NATURALLY. Nowadays there are treatments, operations and professional surgeries to change the sex, the voice or in general the physical appearance in order for the person to feel much more comfortable and clear, like themselves. What I'm getting at with this is that sex does not change naturally, but the perception of our gender identity throughout our lives CAN change, and it is something completely natural. I really would like that one day society can be much more open to this and that they don't look at people who are not cisgender as strange things. First of all because it's none of your business, and second because it's completely normal.

I also wanna make clear that this is my opinion, my perception of all of this and I wanna express it with respect as always. Sorry if something can be misunderstood, I tried to explain it in a way kinda nice (?

I end this text by telling all trans people (both binary and non-binary) that you are completely valid. That someone who is biologically male but does not identify as cisgender (taking as an example who identifies as a woman) can easily be a lesbian, and the same with people who are biologically female but do not identify as women can be gay and valid.

Xoxo my fellow LGBTQ+ ppl. <3

[gxlden-angels]

I looked up The Transformed Wife on Twitter to show to my therapist and now I'm only getting her and other conservatives recommended to me I think it's time I deleted the bird app

[mosquitinho]

went through the (by far) worst 2 weeks of my life but im still getting out of bed and trying to do things. Rare mental health win

[arthur-r]

my mom has been making friends with the parents of my little sisters friends, and one of her closest friends now of all time is this really nice lady sara who is like. a social worker who’s really good with like emotions and stuff and she is also super much accepting of queer and trans and disability issues, and basically she asked for my preferred name and pronouns and basically now my mom has started gendering me correctly to win points with her friend and honestly it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. we just watched a 1 year on testosterone singing voice changes video, together as a group of three people, and my mom had to be fake supportive because of her friend and slowly but surely just cause of how she’s making herself actually pay attention and listen, my mom is actually coming around really good and i’m excited.

[catboydan]

have i mentioned yet today how much i love trans people? no? ah shit my bad, ahem.

I FUCKING LOVE TRANS PEOPLE

I FUCKING LOVE LEARNING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLES' EXPERIENCES

and i will NEVER understand this single-minded hatred of those with different experiences of life, of gender, of coming to understand oneself. it's just so wonderful! how can you hate that!

[smilesobrien]

anybody else getting the catholic and ex-bi blazed post 🤨

[dumbdomb]

if you've been blocked recently, it's bc i actually check my notes and have had so many blogs on my dni on my personal posts that i have been blocking anyone associated with those accounts. either you have your likes hidden for this reason or you don't pay attention to who you're interacting with and what content they're posting. check the source, ppl 🙄

[scoliosisgoblin]

You got twitter / X?

I do but I never post there lol

if you wanna check it out it's @/jersgreenshirt

I'm on other platforms but I post more personal stuff there sometimes and I don't exactly want people seeing my family or knowing what I look like, etc

[nyancrimew]

Sorry, it was unfair of me to send that to you without proper context since you might not be aware of these issues. Irredeemable media refers to any thing with a creator or content  that is harmful and/or bigoted. Of course every piece of media has problems, but irredeemable media is when those problems cannot be ignored and are an indicator of someone's beliefs. 

For example, Harry Potter is irredeemable media because every one knows that JK Rowling is a transphobe, but some other piece of media like Twilight would not be considered irredeemable because even though Stephanie Meyer has done some bad things, they are not as widely talked about, so someone who posts about Twilight on here isn't completely likely to be a bigot, but a Harry Potter blogger would. Also, I know the "to be cringe is to be free" people like your blog, but a lot of the time, what is considered cringey on here is actually based on what is irredeemable. No progressive person or reputable blogger genuinely makes fun of My Little Pony fans any more, however plenty make fun of Hazbin Hotel fans and the such because that content is irredeemable and shows someone's beliefs. So usually, a piece of media being considered embarassing to like on here usually indicates that it is irredeemable.

As for why the other pieces of media are irredeemable, Hazbin Hotel is made by a woman who has many well-documented accusations of bigotry against her and has drawn zoophilia art, not to mention how her work leans into stereotypes about gay people (having a gay man character be a sex addict, a lesbian be named after the female body part Vagina, etc.) or at least that's what I've heard. Attack on Titan is created by a known fascist and many illusions are made to nazi imagery and nationalism in the anime. Captive Prince has a racist premise that sexualizes slavery and non-con. 

People can tell you that liking irredeemable media doesn't say something about who they are, but that's fundamentally false. If someone is uncaring enough to still post openly about these types of media, it's clear they don't care enough about not supporting bigotry. Yes, even if they don't give money to the creators, because they are still willingly exposing themselves to bigoted or harmful content and enjoying it.

The previous ask was not meant to be accusatory. Rather it was meant as a concerned question. Believe it or not, there are still some users on here who indulge in these pieces of content, a few of which hide behind the excuse of being part of a minority (Black, trans, whatever) or simply deny how bad their media consumption is to escape accountability. I wouldn't want you associating with those types of people and have that ruin your reliability on this website.

Hopefully this ask has educated you more on these issues and you'll be able to spot irredeemable media in the future and block it out.

incredible essay, you get a C for Creativity

[exploding-car-hammer]

now that i've spammed and am for sure getting fucking banned, i will talk about Matt and why what he did is fucking disgusting and horrendous

many transgender individuals have had safe for work selfies and other pictures of themselves taken down or flagged on account of being nsfw. this is blatant transphobia due to multiple reasons

1. tagging something related to transgender individuals as nsfw when it is clearly sfw helps to perpetuate the bigoted myth that being transgender is a fetish or kink

2. by censoring our existence you are actively preventing us from even trying to defend ourselves from bigotry or attempting to correct stereotypes or harmful misinformation

recently the incidents have crossed the boundary even farther than usual with the banning of predstrogen. she had the thing described above happen to her because it had been mass reported by terfs and other transphobic individuals. after having the photo taken down she made a joke about wishing the ceo of tumblr @photomatt (im for some reason not allowed to tag him anymore) wash in a car crash involving explosions and hammers. he took this joke seriously and decided to do 2 things

1. ban her because he couldn't take a joke amd he couldn't handle having his transphobia called out

2. threatened to call the fbi on her because he couldn't take a joke and couldn't handle being called out

now i don't know if you know this but organizations like the fbi don't particularly have a great history with minorities. so calling them is basically equivalent to Matt walking up to her and shooting her in the face. if the fbi was called it wouldn't be a raid or a peaceful capture, it would be an execution.

and now we move on to what is currently happening. multiple users have been banned for joking about the situation or discussing it and he's attempting to hide evidence of his actions while also lying about what happened. his defensive statements only make him look worse because of his lies and other reasons such as referring to pred as "it" (according to her bio pred uses she/him). this is extreme transphobia and it needs to be pointed out, called out, and discussed. if these things happen we could hopefully see Matt pay for his actions (there's a legitimate legal case against him btw just pointing that out).

anyways im going to be posting this to my cohost and tranfem social accounts because im probably getting banned and i would like what i said here to be preserved.

don't be quiet.

your voice is important in this situation

[saebaragi]

it really hurts to not feel seen especially when you believe you're only quality is that you're nice to look at

[genderkoolaid]

Examples of transandrophobia: i've seen sections of Leslie Feinberg's piece "Sisterhood: Make it Real" passed around this site for literally years, and TODAY was the first time that I saw the whole thing and learned that ze called out cisfeminists in it for getting rid of trans men the second they started transitioning. Like I always thought it was a good piece but I had literally NO IDEA that it talked about trans men because that part was never included in posts about it, even when those posts were calling out cisfeminism for being transphobic. I'm just gobsmacked tbh

This is a great point!

Honestly more people need to read that full chapter. There's a lot of really good points.

Amongst other things, Leslie talks about how "women good men bad" is poor feminism:

Of course, as a result of the oppression women face growing up in such a violently anti-woman environment, some women draw a line between women as allies and men as enemies. While it’s understandable that an individual might do so out of fear, this approach fails as theory. It lumps John Brown and John D. Rockefeller together as enemies and Sojourner Truth and Margaret Thatcher together as allies. This view of who to trust and who to dread will not keep women safe or keep the movement on course.

How feminine men are victims of gender oppression:

The oppression of feminine men is an important one to me, since I consider drag queens to be my sisters. I’ve heard women criticize drag queens for “mocking women’s oppression” by imitating femininity to an extreme, just as I’ve been told that I am imitating men. Feminists are justifiably angry at women’s oppression - so am I! I believe, however, that those who denounce drag queens aim their criticism at the wrong people. This misunderstanding doesn’t take gender oppression into account. For instance, to criticize male-to-female drag performers, but leave out a discussion of gender oppression, lumps drag queen RuPaul together with men like actor John Wayne! RuPaul is a victim of gender oppression, as well as of racism.

How masculine women are assumed to know less about gender oppression:

But I grew up very masculine, so the complex and powerful set of skills that feminine girls developed to walk safely through the world were useless to me. I had to learn a very different set of skills, many of them martial. While we both grew up as girls, our experiences were dissimilar because our gender expressions were very different. Masculine girls and women face terrible condemnation and brutality including sexual violence - for crossing the boundary of what is “acceptable” female expression. But masculine women are not assumed to have a very high consciousness about fighting women’s oppression, since we are thought to be imitating men.

And as you said, how trans men deserve access to women's and lesbian's spaces without having their transmasculinity ignored or seen as being butch-in-denial:

And our female-to-male transsexual brothers have a right to feel welcome at women’s movement events or lesbian bars. However, that shouldn’t feed into to misconception that all female-to-male transsexuals were butches who just couldn’t deal with their oppression as lesbians. If that were true, then why does a large percentage of post-transition transsexual men identify as gay and bisexual, which may have placed them in a heterosexual or bisexual status before their transition? There are transsexual men who did help build the women’s and lesbian communities, and still have a large base of friends there. They should enjoy the support of women on their journey. Doesn’t everyone want their friends around them at a time of great change? And women could learn a great deal about what it means to be a man or a woman from sharing the lessons of transition.

Not that "trans women belong in feminism" wouldn't be a good point on its own, but people's selectivity with which parts of that chapter they share definitely warrant scrutiny.

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

up until recently i ran a pretty popular radfem blog (stay with me, this ask is in good faith) but after i took a social media detox, i realized i don’t share those beliefs anymore and in fact i might be trans myself. i just kind of abandoned the blog, but i’d feel bad if i didn’t tell my followers what happened. i’m scared of telling anyone because i feel like i’d be a bad feminist if i transitioned. (i know, you can be trans and a feminist just fine, but that’s just the kind of thing radfems tell you.) even worse, i’m scared of posting about it on my main or radfem blog because radfems and trans people by and large hate each other (obv), and i’m scared to mention i’ve been in both groups because of the hate i’ll get

Lee says:

When I first started as a mod, I would have told you that you need to immediately post on all your blogs to disown the transphobic beliefs you had previously expressed to try to make up for the harm that you may have perpetrated as a radfem.

Now that I'm a little older, my feelings on the topic have shifted a bit. Before anything else, I think you need to slow down and make sure that you ensure your own safety and mental health.

If you believe that revealing this change to your followers could result in backlash online that would affect you emotionally, it's crucial to prepare by turning off anonymous asks and muting notifications from social media apps.

You should also make sure you have a non-online place to turn for support. If they used to be your community, you may feel like you've lost online friends, so make sure you don't become too isolated. Instead, lean on your IRL connections and seek support from trans-friendly people in your community.

You may even want to consider looking for a therapist-- questioning being trans can be difficult for anyone, and adding a layer of internalized transphobia doesn't help.

When you're ready to share your feelings on your blog, you should write a thoughtful post explaining your journey. You don't have to justify your identity; rather, focus on your personal growth, how your views have evolved, and how you came to understand yourself better. Acknowledge the complexity of the situation and that you're still learning.

These people were once your buddies and there's a chance you may be able to make some of them question their beliefs too if you don't lash out at them and trigger that instinctual defensive us-versus-them mindset, so I would try to keep a friendly tone even while noting that you no longer support them.

So thank your followers for their support and engagement over the years, but tell them you aren't comfortable staying part of their community now that you've realized that the beliefs underpinning the group are doing damage and you are trying to unlearn that type of thinking.

Gently challenge any misconceptions you once held or promoted. Clarify that being trans and feminist are not mutually exclusive and that everyone deserves respect and equality, regardless of their gender identity.

If you're comfortable, share resources that helped you on your journey. This could be educational materials, support groups, books you found helpful, or contact information for trans-supportive LGBTQ+ organizations. If there's anything you'd recommend to others who were once in the same place as you were on getting out, this is the time to share your advice.

Understand that reactions will likely be mixed. Some followers may feel confused, betrayed, or angry, while others might be supportive or even share their similar experiences. Remember, you're not responsible for their reactions and you don't need to respond to them if you don't want to argue and they aren't willing to have a respectful conversation.

Be clear about your boundaries. Let your followers know what kind of comments you're willing to engage with and that hate or harassment won't be tolerated. You can even stop engaging with the account altogether if you don't think you can deal with the hate that you may receive.

You don't have to post about this immediately. Again, it's okay to take as much time as you need to feel ready. It's okay to wait until you're in a safe and stable position before making any announcements.

If you do post about it and get hate, remind yourself that you're doing the right thing by letting go of that community, and that you're not only making the right choice for your own life in allowing yourself the freedom to explore your gender identity but you're also doing the right thing overall since you're now standing up for the trans community (late is better than never!) and no longer encouraging transphobic narratives.

If you feel that your current blog is no longer a space where you can express yourself authentically, consider starting a new blog or platform where you can write freely about your experiences and beliefs. Or just get offline altogether-- your digital detox is what started this, so maybe it's healthy for you to continue it for a while!

If you tell someone "I support trans folks" and they send you hate, that person is not your friend anyway. This is an opportunity to meet nice people who you can be yourself with. I would really encourage you to connect with IRL activists who are actually regularly volunteering and doing something concrete for their community if you have the opportunity.

When I was in high school, I volunteered at my local library's teen advisory board, and when I was in college I volunteered at a local hospital and through my college. This weekend I'm starting training for volunteering in-person for my town's emergency preparedness group which also does things like help to unload trucks for the food pantry, and I also volunteer remotely for two organizations online.

I'm really pushing for you to get out and volunteer (online or IRL) because I know one draw of the radfem community is feeling like you're an activist and that you're supporting women's rights and protecting and defending women. And it is important to support women's rights and protect and defend women! But there are other ways to do that beyond running a hateful blog attacking trans women.

I have a friend who works at an organization for survivors of domestic violence, for example, and she works with volunteers who help staff events, answer the hotline, etc. You can look around and see what local initiatives there are in your community and if you can't find the thing you're looking for you can start a group yourself or look online and join a national or state-wide cause that you care about, like pushing the legislature to support access to abortions.

Giving up the radfem community doesn't mean giving up feminism, and this is a good opportunity for you to take a look at your own time, your values, and think about how you can take this chance to start working to be a more effective feminist. Not everyone has to be an activist, but if you want to be one, think about how you can start doing good in a way that will actually affect people in a positive way.

I've also often been involved in doing events like conferences and workshops and panels IRL from my time in high school to the present day to try and educate folks on the community, but I also know that sometimes you need to take a step back and prioritize yourself. If you think you're not ready to jump into making change that's also okay. Just join something. A soccer team, a book club, anything hobby-related, to have something else to do and talk about and think about and stay tethered to feeling part of something.

Remember, it's okay to grow and change. You're not betraying anyone by being true to yourself. It's a courageous step to admit when your views have changed, and it's an integral part of personal growth. Be kind to yourself during this process.

Whether or not you end up identify as trans, you still will be doing the right thing by separating yourself from that community. I know it may be difficult because they were a place where you felt supported and part of a movement, but I really believe that you're taking steps in the right direction by letting go of that ideology and just living your life!

Followers, if you have any experiences unlearning toxic beliefs please reply with your advice for anon!

[spaciumbeam]

THIS IS FUNDED PLEASE STOP REBLOGGING THIS

trans women in need of support

so the job my wife and I started at did NOT work out (the workplace was insanely catty and transphobic), and I just got hit with a BUNCH of bills at once, so i hate to make another post like this but I'm fucking desperate right now.

I have less than 100 bucks in my account right now and we have no way to get to any of our interviews without uber currently, and we could also use some money for food. We'll be getting at least one paycheck soon from this old job but I'm not sure when it'll be coming in, so please please help out if you can I am literally panicking because I don't know what to do anymore.

C*SHAPP / P*YPAL / V*NMO

raised: $0 / $300

originally posted: 10/4/2023

[uninformedartist]

For my own documentation, cos these things do get swept under the rug and forgotten. I know Salem said they don't care what fans say on them or deny Salam's testimonies but my soul these fans are heartless. Comming out and telling people about the workplace abuse you endured, telling people on the how you were missgendered, bodyshaming going on in said workplace ect:

Oh all that, you're just a disgruntled unprofessional employee bringing down Viv, Viv would never she's such a good boss, Salem is just a hater like multiple others who spoke out on Viv and even those who don't out of fear ect. Lets not believe victims, they're just annoying haters (says the fandom thats oh so accepting & stands with queer voices literally liking/retweeting posts on listening to queer voices when they speak out):

Also lets go on the ableism and missgendering (this user missgender Salem, called multiple people including those with physical & mental disabilities ableist slurs (helluvareciepts) & said helluva is using their disability as an excuse when helluva spoke about the obvious rampant ableism in helluva boss):

Every comment they made had some ableist word in it. People talking about leaks of a show with millions of views totally justifies being ableist & transphobic.

And lastly, you talking about your workplace abuse & Viv intentionally not creating Salem the 1st time, get over it according to this user & also downplaying Salam's work on Helluva:

Not gonna raise my blood pressure on this fandom, this is all documentation purposes. I won't be censoring the names of these people any more, letting people know who exactly they are and that they are not these sweet innocent fans that many believe they are, the coddling is over.

This fandom or rather these people in fandom escape time & time again from accountability & its sickening. Putting this in the main hazbinhotel/helluva boss tags, cos this fandom need to see how nasty some people in it are.

[xx-invadr-ellie-xx]

Ok so based on the fact that Matt now appears to be randomly sharing videos made by transphobes on his account it looks like his takeaway from this whole situation was not "wow I really hurt my trans users, I need to do better" but instead "wow, trans people are so mean to me a self proclaimed ally for no reason that I can think of. Time to ally myself with transphobes because they are so much nicer to me".

Things are about to get so much worse on this site, especailly when his holiday ends aren't they? Here's hoping bluesky pans out because it's looking like tumblr is about to get a whole lot worse for trans people than it already was.

Musk facing no consequences for his actions at twitter really has given every social media CEO the confidence to just drop the fake support and go full mask off transphobe huh?