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some characters i headcanon as aro and/or ace

kusuo saiki (the disastrous life of saiki k)

this will come as no surprise considering my pfp, but whatever. he’s never really shown any signs of romantic attraction in the show, and has stated a few times that he doesn’t understand romance. not only that but i relate to him A Lot for other reasons so why not just project this onto him as well lmao. also teruhashi is aroace too. or a lesbian. or both.

abed nadir (community)

abed is greyromantic and in a qpr with troy do not even try to change my mind. i would say he’s 100% aromantic but he did have a girlfriend or two so it seems less likely. but he’s definitely on the aro spectrum and i like to think he’s ace, too. also just another example of me projecting :’)

katniss everdeen (the hunger games)

do not come at me with ‘but she kissed people and liked it!’ ‘she married peeta and had a kid with him!’ i do not care. she loved peeta but it was not romantic, it was that special type of love that i like to think only arospec people can feel :) they were in a qpr and got platonically (kinda) married and had a child because they’re a family! yeah i’m projecting. also arospec people can enjoy kissing it’s not a hard concept to comprehend. katniss everdeen is arospec (and probably ace too but i kinda like to headcanon her as aro allo) and started a family with her soulmate who she loves deeply. idk about you but that makes perfect sense to me.

elsa (frozen)

ngl this is partially out of spite bc disney tried to pull the whole ‘she’s not a lesbian, she’s just a strong, independent woman!’ well jokes on you bitch she’s queer now. and obviously there’s nothing wrong with being a strong independent woman, but to use that simply because they wanted to make sure nobody could say she was gay is…. icky. she’s definitely arospec though. destroying amatonormativity one dramatic ballad at a time.

otis (sex education)

this character is aroace in some way shape or form i don’t care what anyone says, i don’t care what the writers say, he had the perfect opportunity to be incredible aspec representation and so that’s what i’m making him. there’s still at least one more season of the show so i’m just holding on with every fibre of my being to that sweet sweet main character aspec rep that we all deserve.

oh and at least a few characters from the good place are aro and/or ace in some way.

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normalise ‘it’s ok, you don’t have to find someone’ instead of ‘you’ll find someone one day’

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everyday i’m baffled by the fact that people actually WANT to have sex like….. huh???? for real??????? are you sure??????????

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updated my desktop layout ya'll check it outtttt

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ya'll i made a quiz to help figure out if you're aromantic please look at it !!

since i see so many quizzes like this that ask question that are not helpful at all (like 'do you experience romantic attraction?), i thought i'd make one that's a little more useful :) and lmk if there's any way you think i could make it better!

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me: yeah i'm not really into marvel, it's just not my thing

*finds out black widow is aroace*

me: yes i LOVE marvel wdym!!

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sometimes i feel like i'm bad asexual representation for those around me because i'm sex repulsed :') if i ever talk about my asexuality i always feel the need to remind people that not all asexuals are sex repulsed, and many are more than fine with having sex (because of course, asexuality is about attraction, not action!)

but i just want to remind everyone out there, asexual or not, that you do not owe it to anyone to accurately represent an entire community of people. just like with any community, the asexual community is filled with different kinds people! people who have vastly different relationships with sex and sexual attraction. it is impossible for one person to accurately reflect all of those people, and it is not your fault if people don't understand that communities are incredibly diverse.

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i assume everyone is asexual until proven otherwise :')

tell me you're ace/aro without telling me you're ace/aro. let's play.

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I'm tired of feeling completely blank.

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franz kafka / little women (2019) dir. greta girwig / warsan shire

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when alice skye said ‘i don’t wanna be with you i just wanna think about you’!!!!!!!! ‘i’ll break my own heart for you, and all i want from you is nothing’!!!!!!!!

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When I say I'm aroace I am mentally drawing aggressive circles around the aro part to emphasize it

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i truly think there are a LOT more people on the ace and aro spectrum than are aware of it.

even just looking at some of my friends as examples. i don’t want to assume people’s sexualities obviously but i just think if they gave it some consideration they might find something out about themselves. for example i have one friend who jumps from boyfriend to boyfriend so fast, and is desperate to lose her virginity but isn’t too bothered about who it’s with.

meanwhile i’ve got another friend who’s never been in a relationship or even had many (if any) crushes. she has practically no interest in being in a relationship or in people romantically in general

i also have another friend who i know is questioning her romantic orientation and thinks she might be demiromantic at least, one who i know for sure is demiromantic, and two others that have come out to me as asexual!

that’s six people just that i know personally (and i don’t know that many people lmao) off the top of my head that could be or are aspec! imagine how many people in the world would identify as aro or ace if it was more well known or taught!

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'het aros/aces are queer' and 'het aros/aces should be aware of their privilege in queer spaces' are not contradictory statements.

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[ID: The three way business handshake meme. People labelled “my aromanticism”, “my asexuality”, and “my gender” shake hands together. Their hands are labelled “influencing each other in subtle but complicated ways”. End ID]

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Growing up ace not knowing about asexuality and trying to be like everyone else:

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please do my survey on social activism!

hey ya’ll i know i don’t have a lot of reach on this blog so even if you don’t do the survey, please reblog at least!!

and if you’re not super into activism or politics that’s more than fine, i want to get a wide range of responses either way :)