#Avoident Personality Disorder

[chronically-adumbass]

this user is questioning AvPD userbox

[resvarie]

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[vegetabletaxi]

AVPD is a personality disorder in cluster C. 34.91% suffer from alcohol dependence. 19.56% suffer from drug dependence. it is NOT the same as social anxiety disorder (SAD). it is NOT a lack of discipline.

thanks for reading y'all, this turned half informational post half vent, hope you can still appreciate what i'm trying to say.

[cryingscreamingpuking]

It really makes me so damn angry how many autistic/ADHD people treat the neurodivergent label as the autism+adhd label. Neurodivergent includes ANYONE who's brain doesn't work the way it's supposed to. This includes people that have learning disabilities. People with down's syndrome. People with cluster A, B and C disorders. That includes systems/people with DID, that includes schizophrenics, that includes people with PTSD. If you have a group that is labeled for neurodivergent people, you cannot act surprised or offended if people that don't have autism or ADHD but DO have other disorders join that group. Because neurodivergent is an umbrella term. And everyone under that umbrella term deserves to be able to find community in groups named with that umbrella term.

[takemetodragonstone]

t shirt that says i survived hell and all i got was this stupid personality disorder

[the-abandoned-director]

thought people would like this 👍🏼

[equalperson]

HORRIBLE AVOIDANT REALITY: you have to talk to people to start therapy. or get a job. or make friends. or keep friends. or get your emotional needs met. or

[godking-bomby]

I realized that one of the reasons I don’t reach out regularly to people is that I don’t want to intrude on their lives. I’m genuinely worried that they would rather not hear from me, and would reach out first if they wanted to. I don’t want to hinder their peace. The fear is so big, it’s paralyzing.

[cringesandheroinbinges]

i get why everyone uses me. i put 100% into people who put 0% into me. why wouldn't you take advantage of that??? you get endless love, support, and devotion without having to give me the same.

[elitemaomaosequanimity]

One of the hardest things I realized after watching The Apothecary Diaries was that just because Maomao had people around her did not mean she was necessarily being cared for. The women of Verdigris weren’t bad, at least not on the surface.

They allowed her to stay, and in some ways, they gave her more independence than most girls typically received during that time.

In The Apothecary Diaries, Maomao didn’t have the luxury of being a child. There wasn’t anyone she could turn to when she was scared when she was lost, when she was hurt. Anyone to wipe away her tears, anyone to tell her she was loved and wanted.

That’s why she is what she is, why she’s become so independent, why she doesn’t turn to other people for comfort, why she uses logic and distance as a defense. Not that she doesn’t feel. It’s just that she learned a long time ago that feelings wouldn’t help her.

So, when we meet Maomao in the present timeline of The Apothecary Diaries, she’s not exactly the kind of person who shows her vulnerability. She’s super smart, very observant, and very skilled, but she kinda keeps an emotional distance from those around her. And honestly, I get it. If you grow up where nobody pays attention to your feelings, you just stop hoping that anyone will care.

Her trauma manifests in subtle ways: her reluctance to depend on others, her tendency to downplay her own suffering, and her deep-rooted self-sufficiency that sometimes borders on self-isolation. It’s not that she doesn’t want to be cared for. She is just accustomed to living in a world where care is a luxury, not a given.

So, it’s all too easy to view Maomao as merely another emotionally withdrawn protagonist, but she’s much more than that. Her trauma is embedded within every aspect of her personality, shaping her behaviors, her interactions, and her perspective.

Her experience has taught her that attachments are conditional, and she naturally keeps people at arm’s length. However, Jinshi’s persistence in treating her with respect and curiosity is something she isn’t used to. While she doesn’t openly express it, the fact that she doesn’t completely push him away speaks volumes about her yearning for connection, even if she won’t admit it.

[ravenlynclemens]

avpd

[avpdpossum]

the “i can’t seem to connect with other people, i must be fundamentally broken or not trying hard enough” -> “turns out there’s nothing wrong with me, i’m just autistic” -> “all the autistic people i know get along so well together and i still can’t connect with any of them, maybe i really am just fundamentally broken” -> “why didn’t anyone tell me avpd exists, this explains everything” pipeline is so real.

if your social skills are dogshit even compared to other socially anxious autistics, i see you. i am you. it’s fucking rough out here but at least we’re in these trenches together.

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

there’s a part of me that wants to be completely and utterly alone. then there’s the other part that desperately clings to anyone i care about. i feel rather pathetic either way.

[crystalisedpoison]

people will say things like ‘this is an aspd safe space’ but then rage when someone dares to admit they feel indifferent about others and do not care to acknowledge any sympathy seeking posts on this app

[graphicdesignevident]

INCLUDES ALL CLUSTER A, CLUSTER B, CLUSTER C, FLAGS!!

⌏this is my first post on this account,, I've been wanting to make a blog for stuff I find/make for a while, so I thought why not do it now lmao!! ( intro coming soon though. ) ⌌

MADE BY ME!! :DD - I did steal the moving border on them from https://blinkies.cafe/ So please know that!! ( you can also make your own blinkies on there!! )

⇢ creds not needed,, but please like or re-blog!! I'd really appreciate it!! :))

CLUSTER A:

CLUSTER B:

CLUSTER C:

links to the original posters flags I used: (some may be re posts because of archived things, or broken links idk)

{ STPD - PPD - SZPD } { HPD - NPD - BPD - ASPD } { OCPD - AVPD - DPD }

[phosphenemoth]

I'm so tired of hurting myself and everyone else in the act of trying to avoid hurting myself and everyone else.