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Getting back into alignment: Why being off might mean you need to readjust

Have you ever felt really off? Like something isn't quite right, but you can't quite explain why. You just know deep down that you're off balance, even though you're unsure of what it means? Chances are you are out of alignment. The question then becomes, how can you get back into alignment? There are several ways to accomplish this, and this article breaks down the most effective methods and gives step-by-step guides on how to do them in order to get back into alignment and feel more like yourself again!

What does 'out of alignment' mean

When we talk about alignment, it refers to how in sync our actions are with our goals and values. If we're out of alignment, it means that there's a disconnect between what we're doing and what we want to achieve. This can manifest in different ways, but usually results in a feeling of dissatisfaction or unease. The good news is that getting back into alignment is usually just a matter of making some small tweaks to your routine or the way you're approaching your goals. To get started, think about why you might be feeling out of alignment. There are many possible reasons for this - here are a few common ones

You may have taken on too much responsibility at work

You haven't been practicing self-care

You're feeling bored and stuck in a rut

You've lost your motivation

Something traumatic has happened in your life and you're feeling detached from yourself and others

You're not sure where you belong anymore

You feel like nothing ever changes no matter what you do

These are all really tough experiences to go through, but they happen to us all at one point or another. While there isn't always an easy fix, taking a step back and examining where things stand can help put things into perspective so that moving forward feels more manageable.

Possible causes for being out of alignment

There are a few possible causes for feeling out of alignment. Maybe you've been neglecting your health and well-being, and your body is trying to tell you that it needs some attention. Maybe you've been working too hard and need a break. Or maybe something major has happened in your life, and you're still trying to process it all. Whatever the reason, it's important to listen to your body and take the time to realign yourself. To get started, find three things you can do to help put yourself back in balance. For example, if one thing you notice is that you haven't taken care of your health lately - go easy on yourself by getting more sleep or eating more balanced meals. It's not about doing everything perfectly - it's about doing what feels right for YOU! Once you start to see the patterns in how you feel when things are going good and bad, you'll be able to understand what your body really needs from day-to-day. And who knows? You may even come up with a plan for how to prevent feeling off again! A couple other things to consider are finding ways to relieve stress through physical activity (such as yoga), making sure you have adequate social support, and talking to someone who understands if this is an emotional challenge. Finding ways to de-stress will allow your brain and body to heal naturally, leading you back towards greater balance in no time!

Signs you are Out Of Alignment

You can't quite explain why, but you feel off.

You feel like something is wrong, even though you can't put your finger on it.

You know deep down that you're out of balance, even though you're unsure of what it means.

You feel unprepared and ungrounded when the unexpected happens.

You have a hard time focusing or completing tasks.

You find yourself overwhelmed with feelings of anxiety or fear.

You find yourself getting lost in thought and forgetting things more often than usual.

People seem to misunderstand you at times without you knowing why.

You’re suddenly feeling anxious about your health even though you know there is nothing wrong with it.

You just can’t seem to find your happy place no matter how hard you try.

Ways to get back In Alignment

Check your diet- are you eating foods that make you feel good? Or are you eating foods that leave you feeling sluggish and tired?

Evaluate your relationships- are the people in your life supportive and positive? Or do they bring negative energy into your life?

Get organized- is your environment cluttered and chaotic? Or is it clean and serene?

Listen to your body- are you getting enough exercise? Too much? Not enough?

Reflect on what you’re doing with your time- are you spending too much time on electronics or entertainment and not enough time outside, or vice versa?

Take a moment to stop and reflect- what do you want more of in your life right now, less of, or more balance between?

Set an intention- how do you want to feel? What kind of life do you want to live?

Connect with nature- when was the last time you spent a day surrounded by trees and flowers, birds and sunshine?

Learn something new- have you been neglecting your intellectual pursuits?

Listen to music- what kind of music puts a smile on your face? Play it, sing it, dance it!

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How to Avoid Self-Betrayal and the Trauma Response of Anger

There’s an easy way to recognize when you’re holding back, staying quiet, or agreeing to keep the peace because of self-betrayal. Your body will tell you: maybe it’s your shoulders that are tensing and feeling tight, or maybe you feel restless, anxious, worried, or depressed, or maybe you just don’t feel good in your skin no matter what you do or where you go or who you’re with.

What is self-betrayal?

When we hold back from speaking our truth, stay quiet to avoid conflict, or agree to things we don't really want to do, we are betraying ourselves. This is a form of self-protection that often stems from past trauma. We think that if we keep the peace, we will be safe. But what ends up happening is that we internalize our anger, which can lead to resentment and burnout. The key to not falling into this trap is by practicing self-compassion. Learning how to be kind to yourself when you make mistakes, forgive yourself for anything you've done in the past that may have been wrong, and have empathy for where you're at in your life now. It's also important to take care of yourself through exercise, healthy eating, meditation, mindfulness practices and engaging with others. These tools help us deal with whatever stressors come our way so we don't get overwhelmed. With self-compassion, we're able to confront difficult situations with courage and honesty. The more we speak our truth, the less power it has over us.

Give Yourself Permission to Speak Up

It's natural to want to avoid conflict, but when you do so at the expense of your own needs, it can lead to resentment and burnout. If you find yourself in a situation where you're holding back, try giving yourself permission to speak up. This doesn't mean being aggressive or starting an argument, but simply asserting your needs in a calm and respectful way. Practice speaking out loud by first acknowledging how you feel: I'm feeling really frustrated right now. Then say what would make you feel better: I would like for this conversation to be over. Remember that if others aren't willing to listen, they are not respecting your feelings. The only person who should have control over your voice is you. You deserve to get heard. So keep talking until someone listens - even if it means walking away from a conversation that feels unproductive. One thing people often don't realize is that staying silent can be just as traumatic as staying in a violent relationship. Letting anger go unresolved creates inner turmoil and stress which often leads to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, drug addiction, eating disorders, social withdrawal and other forms of dysfunction. No one deserves to live with these burdens or experience those consequences. Take charge of your life by getting angry constructively - not destructively!

5 Strategies For Keeping Your Cool in An Argument

1. Don't try to win every argument.

2. Understand that people are different and that's okay.

3. Don't take things personally.

4. Communicate calmly and honestly.

5. Be willing to compromise.

What would it look like if you could just say No, I don't want to do this or I'm not comfortable with this? What would be possible?  To maintain control over your choices, you have to know what those choices are. Know what is best for you and what compromises work for you in any given situation. It might seem impossible at first but as time goes on we get more practice and then a pattern starts to emerge from all of our interactions with other people and eventually we'll be able to anticipate which responses will work for us in future arguments.

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Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

Ever felt stuck in your life? Tired of not being able to move forward no matter how hard you try? You might feel as if there’s something holding you back, as if you’re walking through tar and no matter how hard you push, you just can’t get ahead. You may have even said to yourself, Why can’t I just be happy? Why can’t things go my way? Why am I so unlucky?

What You Think + What You Feel = What You Get

We often experience feelings of worry, anger, jealousy, etc. A great way to start experiencing more joy and happiness in your life is to get in touch with how you feel. Make it a daily practice to write down 5-10 things that made you happy that day or week. By practicing being aware of what is making you feel good in your life will increase your awareness on what works for you, which will help manifest more positive experiences into your life and reduce negative ones as well. This can also be applied to thoughts. When you are aware of your thoughts and how they make you feel, you can take action by changing them if necessary. For example, if thinking about an upcoming presentation makes you nervous, don’t think about it! Instead focus on something else that makes you feel good like spending time with friends or doing something fun. The more we practice feeling good emotions over bad emotions (like fear), the easier it becomes to live a happier life overall. So today, pay attention to your thoughts and ask yourself: How do these thoughts make me feel? What can I do differently next time? By asking yourself these questions, you will start creating new neural pathways in your brain which support living a happier life. Over time, these new neural pathways become stronger and stronger until you are living from a place of positivity rather than negativity.

Positive Thinking

In order to make positive thinking a reality, you must understand what type of thoughts will change your life. Positive thinking is different than just thinking positive. It actually has an outline with step-by-step guidelines that lead to living your best life. With practice and effort, you can be a positive thinker and feel better in every area of your life: physically, emotionally, mentally and financially. After working on it for awhile, you won’t even notice yourself doing it anymore. You’ll just live your best life! Here are some steps to get started:

Pretend like you have already achieved your goal. Close your eyes and imagine yourself already having achieved what you want out of life. Imagine how it feels and how everyone around you treats you differently because they know who you really are at heart. Then open your eyes again, and go back to work on getting there. Repeat steps 1 & 2 until success becomes a reality... eventually. Just think about how great it would feel if everything was going well for once!

Negative Thinking

Start paying attention to your thoughts—are they negative? A lot of our life is dictated by what we tell ourselves, and if you’re thinking, I can’t do that, you may as well not even try. But if you flip that around to I can do it!, you just might surprise yourself with how far you can go. Even if you don’t believe it at first, saying something positive over and over again will eventually make it a self-fulfilling prophecy. So stop worrying about whether or not something will happen; start talking about how it will happen! As author William Arthur Ward said, When one door closes another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us. If you want to change your life, then change your words!

The Power of Positive Mindset

The simple truth is that you have to have a positive mindset if you want to succeed in life. This may sound really basic, but many people are their own worst enemy. They think things like, I can’t do that or This will never work for me. If you want more out of life, those negative thoughts need to stop today. It doesn’t matter how old you are, where you live or what your financial situation is; anyone can improve their lives by thinking positively. So, start thinking about all of your dreams and goals and know that they can be achieved with hard work and dedication. When you put it into action, there’s no limit to what you can accomplish!

The Power of Visualization

Visualization is a technique that will allow you to be proactive with your life. The moment you visualize a goal or a dream it becomes real in your mind and subconscious, and all you have to do is make it happen. In other words, if you create clear images of what you want, then chances are it will come true! So get started on creating those goals and dreams by visualizing them as though they were already achieved. You’ll be amazed at how quickly things start happening for you!

Another great thing about visualization is that it creates gratitude within you. A lot of people go through their day-to-day lives complaining about everything. They don’t stop to think about how fortunate they are for what they do have in their lives, but spend most of their time thinking negatively about what they don’t have. When you visualize something, however, you can appreciate its value by seeing yourself already having it right now! This helps you realize just how grateful you should be for what you do have and will make your life much more positive. Visualization also helps eliminate fear from your life because when there is nothing left to fear, there is nothing left to worry about! So if you want a happier and more successful life, then start visualizing today!

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How to Boost Your Self Confidence and Self Esteem for a Better You

For many people, they have little to no self confidence and self esteem. This means that they don’t truly believe in themselves and their potential or feel as though they have the right to be happy and satisfied with who they are. However, by utilizing several strategies, it’s possible to change your outlook on life and yourself for the better. Here are some tips on how to boost your self confidence and self esteem for a better you!

7 Tips on Improving Low Self-Esteem

If you’re feeling unhappy, low self-esteem can be one of many contributing factors. Here are some tips on how to improve low self-esteem: 1. Talk about your feelings with trusted friends and family members; sharing how you feel with people who care about you will reduce your stress. 2. Stay positive! Keep reminding yourself that situations will get better, even if they’re tough now. 3. Exercise regularly. Exercise releases endorphins, which make you feel happier and more confident. 4. Don’t compare yourself to others—it’s impossible to know what other people are going through in their lives, so don’t let social media or TV make you feel bad about yourself. 5. Take good care of your body by eating healthy foods and getting enough sleep each night; when we take good care of ourselves physically, we tend to have higher self-esteem as well. 6. Do things that make you happy—go out with friends, listen to music, or read a book. 7. Remember that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. Seeking professional help from a therapist is never something to be ashamed of; there are trained professionals available who can help you learn new ways of thinking and behaving that will boost your confidence levels over time.

5 Ways To Improve Your Self-Confidence

So how can you boost your self-confidence? Simple, by removing all of those negative thoughts about yourself from your head. Think about it, you’re already beautiful, intelligent and awesome; what more do you need? When I say stop hating yourself, I mean it. Stop thinking that you aren’t good enough or that people don’t like you. This is absolute nonsense! And besides that fact that most of these thoughts are self-defeating, they also make absolutely no sense. If someone doesn’t like you, then move on. It has nothing to do with you as a person. Don’t let others bring you down. Focus on things that will improve your life rather than bring you down. The more time you spend worrying about petty things, the less time you have to focus on yourself and improving your life. For example, if you’re at work and your co-worker says something rude to you, instead of thinking Oh my God, she hates me now just think She probably had a bad day. I should try to be nicer tomorrow. Now obviously there are times when people dislike you because they actually hate who you are as a person, but if that is true then why would they even bother talking to you in the first place? Be positive and believe in yourself! Positive energy attracts positive energy. That means that if you’re constantly putting out negative vibes, then chances are nobody wants to hang around you anyway. Keep a smile on your face and surround yourself with positivity. Remember, confidence comes from within so start loving yourself today!

15 Ways To Practice Loving Yourself

1. Practice positive self-talk . 2. Learn from your mistakes . 3. Love your flaws . 4. Write yourself an encouraging note every day . 5. Go on an enjoyable solo adventure now and then . 6. Make time for alone time every day . 7. Improve your health through physical activity, healthy eating, and regular sleep 8.... 9. Be kind to others 10. Be forgiving of others 11. Embrace what makes you unique 12. Take care of your mental health 13. Find ways to relax 14. Be comfortable with silence 15. Don’t compare yourself to others.

What is SELF CONFIDENCE? Self confidence is believing in yourself no matter what other people think or say about you. It means being comfortable in your own skin. It means having faith in your abilities and knowing that if you try hard enough, anything is possible!

7 Life Hacks That Will Help You Accept Yourself For Who You Are

It’s pretty difficult to love yourself if you don’t accept who you are. If you’re having trouble accepting yourself, here are seven life hacks that will help. You might find it difficult to feel self-love without first feeling acceptance of your body or some other aspect of your identity, but these life hacks can really help: 1. Accepting yourself doesn’t mean denying your flaws; it means acknowledging them and finding value in them anyway 2. Try telling yourself daily affirmations 3. Find an activity you enjoy 4. Create new habits 5. Don’t compare yourself with others 6. Learn how to be comfortable in your own skin 7. Surround yourself with positive people

When you begin to see all of your traits as equally valuable parts of who you are, then you’ll start loving yourself for exactly who you are. And once that happens, there’s no limit to what else is possible.

3 Ways To Redefine Failure As A Tool For Success And Not The Enemy

Learning how to boost your self confidence and self esteem means you can embrace failure as not only an enemy but also as a tool. Many of us are hard on ourselves, thinking we’re being judged by others when in reality there is no one around who truly cares what we’re doing or not doing. Here are 3 quick ways to redefine failure as a tool for success instead of viewing it as an enemy that’s standing in your way. 1. Change The Way You Think About Failure: Instead of looking at failure as something negative, view it as something positive; look at it as a learning experience rather than something that holds you back from achieving your goals. If someone tells you they failed at their goal or objective, don’t just think about how they didn’t achieve their goal – think about all they learned along the way! Failure allows us to learn more about our goals and objectives than if we had achieved them without any obstacles. 2. Take A Step Back And Look At What You Can Learn From Failure: When you fail, take a step back and ask yourself what did I learn? This will help change your perception of failure from something that holds you back to something that helps you move forward with your life. 3. Start Again And Try Something Different: Don’t let one failure hold you back forever; pick yourself up and start again with new ideas and different strategies until you find what works best for you! Remember, every single person fails so get used to it and know that it doesn’t mean anything other than maybe you should try something else next time. Remember, if you love yourself first then everything else will fall into place.

Tips On Making The Most Of What You Have

But is it really what you want? Is it really enough? Does it really fit your tastes, your style, your preferences? Probably not. With more self confidence, you might feel like you’re good enough to go after those things that would make life just a little bit better. Here are six tips on making sure that your life gets a bit better by treating yourself better and boosting your self esteem. These tips aren’t limited to clothing or home décor; they can be applied in any area of your life where there’s room for improvement. When Do You Know It’s Time To Take The Next Step?: Sometimes we have an idea about what we need or want, but we don’t know if it’s time to take action. When do you know when it’s time to move forward with your goals? How do you even begin taking steps toward improving your self confidence and self esteem? Where do you start with all of these positive changes that will hopefully boost your overall sense of well-being? First, keep reading. Then, start applying some of these tips and see how much better you feel!

4 Ways To Go From Feeling Undervalued To Being Valued And Respected

Most people are familiar with self-esteem; it’s that innate sense of self-worth or personal value. If you feel like you don’t have enough of it, there are numerous techniques out there that can help you obtain your rightful share. But did you know that self-confidence is different from self-esteem? True confidence comes from knowing what you can do and believing in yourself as a result. It’s not something someone else gives you; it’s something only you can give yourself. And when you possess both self-esteem and self-confidence, you’re well on your way to feeling valued and respected by others. Here are four ways to go from feeling undervalued to being valued and respected The first step toward achieving greater self-confidence and self-esteem is simply to stop putting yourself down. The more negative things you say about yourself, whether silently or aloud, the less confident you become—even if no one hears your critical remarks but you. There’s nothing wrong with admitting when you make mistakes (and we all make them), but harping on those mistakes does nothing but reinforce how inadequate you believe yourself to be. When you start focusing on what you’ve done right instead of obsessing over every error, you send a clear message to your brain: I am valuable. I am worthy. I am good at what I do. That positive message will inevitably lead to an increase in self-confidence and self-esteem. Be mindful of how much time you spend thinking about yourself negatively versus positively. When was the last time you said something positive about yourself? How often do you criticize yourself? Pay attention to these questions, because they may reveal areas where you need improvement. Ask a friend or family member whom you trust for their honest opinion about your personality traits and characteristics. Do they think you’re funny? Kind? Smart? Attractive? What kind of person would they describe you as being? Do they see any weaknesses in your character that could use some work? Once again, pay close attention to their responses so that you can identify areas where self-improvement is needed. Then, take action to improve those areas. For example, if your friend tells you that he think you should smile more often and laugh at his jokes, then he’s probably right! So force yourself to smile even when you don’t want to—it won’t kill you! In fact, forcing yourself to do anything new will make it easier for you in the long run. Finally, put a plan into action to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem.

Conclusion

Change your mindset, change your life. Truly believing in yourself is ultimately what’s going to help you achieve self confidence and self esteem. This can be done through putting yourself out there and stepping up when it matters most. A little bit of faith in yourself goes a long way so keep doing what you love – live life! #liveyourlife.