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We're working on exam projects for art class and I chose to work with lino cut

This is how much I printed this morning....

[residenttransguy]

To the 12 people always liking my posts...

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[residenttransguy]

Please bear with me on the video quality - I don't know why it's so bad T-T

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I'm in the process of illustrating a children's book on service dogs (there aren't really any resources about this available where I live) to better explain psychiatric service dogs to my younger family members - three of them are under 3 years old.

[residenttransguy]

The council has spoken

*including binder care, getting a proper binder, the do's and don't's of binding etc.

[residenttransguy]

*including binder care, getting a proper binder, the do's and don't's of binding etc.

[residenttransguy]

Everyone else in my life uses my correct name and pronouns (some people slip up once in a while, but they're really making an effort)

Meanwhile my dad insists on deadnaming me every chance he gets.

He also doesn't respect my boundaries and touch me even when I keep flinching away...

I fucking hate him sometimes

[residenttransguy]

I have an amazing update to share with you guys...

I'M GETTING A SERVICE DOG!!!

I still might have to wait up to a year to get it, but it's officially happening!!

[residenttransguy]

Some of y'all seem to forget this, so let's go over it one more time:

Amab and afab nonbinary folk are equally nonbinary and equally valid in their identities!!!

💛🤍💜🖤

[residenttransguy]

Friendly reminder that you don't need to have know you were trans from a young age to be valid. You don't need to have felt uncomfortable in your body when you were younger. You don't need to identify with the 'born in the wrong body' stereotype. And you certainly don't need to explain yourself to anyone.

You're valid no matter what, and don't let small minded people tell you otherwise! 🏳️‍⚧️

[residenttransguy]

Hey, hope you're doing well!

If you don't mind answering, I've been wanting to look into binding recently, is there anything I should know? I don't even know where to begin, what should I search? ;-;

Of course! I'm always happy to help.

The most important thing when binding is that you get a safe binder in the right size (binder stores will have a guide for figuring this out and there's often the option if reaching out to the team if you're unsure of anything). I personally use spectrum outfitters, but I've also heard good things about underworks and certain small businesses.

Since quality binders can be pricy, a lot of gender clinics, LGBTQIA+ centers and stores offer free or less expensive binders to those who can't afford it otherwise, because it's so important that you bind with a good binder.

Don't get a binder with zippers/buttons/clasps/etc. This can be dangerous.

Binder etiquette (when to wear it, how, for how long, etc.) and binder care (washing fx) is also important - if you want I'd be happy to tell you more about those things too!

A lot of info about binding will mention the dangers of it. And it is true that binding can be dangerous if done wrong, but if you wear a quality binder and follow the proper etiquette it isn't something you should worry about (but be sure to listen to your body and stop/take a break if something feels off)

You can find a lot of info about binding online and online stores that sell binders will usually also have information about the subject. If you'd like, I can always talk more about binding too.

Remember to take things as slow as you need/want to, and know that the community is here for you to lean on the whole way.

Hope that answered some of your questions and that you have a wonderful day <3

[residenttransguy]

I get send a ton of reminders when I have appointments at the psych clinic and every single one of them deadname me and there ain't shit I can do about it

[residenttransguy]

We need to stop it with the binder jokes.

I get it. I get why these kinds of jokes are made, and some of them are even funny.

But the vast majority of the ones out there are about bad binding etiquette - stuff like not being able to catch your breath, having sore ribs, binding for excessive periods of time etc.

I get why these jokes get made, and I for one have forgotten to take my binder off because I didn't realize how long I'd had it on. But this doesn't mean these behaviors should be normalized.

Joking about these things as if they're just another part of everyday life teaches young transmasc people that it's okay. That it's okay to be in pain, to constantly feel an ache in your bones that wasn't there before, to wear your binder for an unsafe amount of time or during activities where it simply isn't safe to wear one.

I'm not saying we can't joke about binding ever. The problem is that there are an abundance of jokes on this topic that highlights and normalizes things that can cause permanent physical problems.

Idk I just needed to get this out there.

Please remember to bind safely and take care of yourselves <3

[residenttransguy]

Yes!! You use the person's pronouns!

Even if they're 'inconvenient'

Even if they make you 'uncomfortable' (which by the way doesn't matter, the point is making that person more comfortable)

Even if you don't understand it, you respect and use that person's pronouns!!

(tags in the picture is from a reblog by @yupekosi)

Someone going by neopronouns (even ones you don't like) does not mean that you use they/them pronouns instead!

It means that you use the person's pronouns!!

[residenttransguy]

Me: telling people that I'm transmasc and my pronouns are he/him

People who never once used they/them pronouns for people who actually go by those: ✨✨they✨✨

[residenttransguy]

I really want to write more stories for my Dumpster Bros in Love series (hawkdevil fluff basically), but I just don't know what to write [(¬_¬)]

[residenttransguy]

Alright, so, here's my list of tips to make you feel more mask (as a trans guy)

- clothes (darker colors are gold, but you don't have to limit your wardrobe if you don't want to)

- especially boxers and pretty much anything from the men's section helps me a lot

- a lot of people say to wear oversized hoodies, but I recommend looking for ones where the seam (place where the sleeve connects to the torso) sits at the top of your shoulder. Makes your shoulders look wider

- don't know why but striped or geometric patterns on socks help me feel more masc

- work outs (specially strength training) can be very gender affirming

- wear a binder (or a sports bra if you don't have one) (don't bind for +8-10 hours or work out while binding, NEVER sleep in you binder, remember to take breaks)

- pack if that's something you want (you can easily DIY a packer with a pair of socks)

- gender affirming hair cuts are gold

- use mens body wash/shampoo/deodorant and/or cologne/aftershave

- wearing more typically masc watches, jewelry etc. if that's your vibe

- wearing chunky boots?

- don't pluck your eyebrows, let your body hair grow out

- some people get a lot of euphoria from creating the illusion of a faint mustache with makeup or highlighting already existing facial hair

That's all I have atm, but feel free to add to the list

Also remember: no matter how stereotypically 'masculine' you look or not, whether you want to try out some of these things or don't, you're srill completely valid in your identity. Keep living your truth king

[residenttransguy]

IMMOVABLE OBJECT (my shit mental health and constant lack of any sort of spare energy to do even basic tasks) V/S UNSTOPPABLE FORCE (my burning desire to start t as soon as possible all else be damnned)