#DefineYourself

[the-most-humble-blog]

🚨 If a Non-Male Starts a Debate with "A Real Man Should, or Would Do…"—Step Back, You’re About to Get Nonsense on Your Shoes. 🚨

A PSA for Every Man Who’s Tired of Being Lectured About Manhood by People Who Have Never Had to Be One

📌 THE SETUP: HERE COMES THE BULLSH*T

There you are. Minding your own business. Maybe you’re in the middle of a conversation. Maybe you made a comment online. Maybe you simply existed too confidently in public.

🚨 Then it happens. 🚨

A non-male (or, occasionally, a deeply misguided man who has fully assimilated into the Cult of Delusion) utters the cursed phrase:

📢 “A real man should…” 📢 “A real man would…”

🚨 WARNING: This is not a debate. This is a trap. 🚨

Your instinct might be to engage, correct, or challenge the incoming nonsense.

Don’t.

Why? Because you are not about to hear wisdom. You are about to hear some of the most ass-backward, reality-detached drivel to ever escape human lips.

It’s going to be: ❌ Unhinged ❌ Incoherent ❌ Surgically engineered to benefit only the speaker

And worst of all? It will not be based on what men actually think, feel, or experience.

📌 THE “REAL MAN” SPEECH: A DEEP DIVE INTO WEAPONIZED NONSENSE

Here’s what you can expect from the “A Real Man Should…” starter pack:

1️⃣ “A Real Man Should Always Pay for Everything”

Ah yes. The classic gold-digger anthem.

According to this logic, a man’s worth is measured exclusively by his willingness to hemorrhage cash for someone who: 📌 Talks about independence but won’t touch a check 📌 Thinks equality is great—until the bill arrives 📌 Believes her presence alone is a form of currency

🚨 Spoiler Alert: A real man should recognize a walking financial liability when he sees one.

2️⃣ “A Real Man Should Accept That Women Are Superior”

Translation: “I want the privileges of being pedestalized while also being immune to criticism.”

❌ Equality? No thanks. ❌ Fairness? Not interested. ❌ A relationship built on mutual respect? BORING.

The goal here is not to uplift women—it’s to emotionally neuter men so they will never challenge, disagree, or even have personal boundaries.

🚨 A real man doesn’t need to be told he’s lesser to validate someone else’s delusions.

3️⃣ “A Real Man Should Never Cry” (Unless It Benefits Me)

Oh, this one is extra rich.

You’ll hear two versions of this contradictory nonsense:

📢 Version A: "Men should never show emotions, ever. Weakness is disgusting." 📢 Version B: "Men should cry more! Be vulnerable! Why won’t you open up?"

But let’s examine the fine print:

📌 If a man shows too much emotion, he’s unstable. 📌 If a man shows too little emotion, he’s cold and unloving. 📌 If a man shows emotion at the wrong time (i.e., when he’s the one struggling), suddenly it’s “Ugh, I can’t deal with this right now.”

Translation: "I want men to be emotional when it benefits me, and emotionally invincible when I don’t want to deal with their problems."

🚨 A real man processes his emotions in a way that works for HIM, not based on the shifting expectations of people who see him as a tool.

4️⃣ “A Real Man Should Always Protect Women” (Even if She Treats Him Like Trash)

Ah yes, the disposable bodyguard fantasy.

🚨 Reminder: Protection is earned, not owed. 🚨

📌 If you treat men like walking ATMs and security personnel, don’t be surprised when they stop volunteering for the job. 📌 If you refuse to listen to men, respect men, or even acknowledge their struggles, don’t expect them to throw themselves into harm’s way for you. 📌 If you believe all men are “toxic,” then congrats—you are not entitled to one’s protection when sh*t hits the fan.

A real man should protect those who respect him. That’s it.

5️⃣ “A Real Man Would NEVER Date Younger/Thinner/More Feminine Women”

Oh no. A man is making choices for himself. A man is valuing what he actually finds attractive instead of what society tells him to accept. 🚨 Sound the alarm! 🚨

This one is about CONTROL.

If a man’s standards disqualify the person speaking, suddenly his preferences become: 📌 “Patriarchal brainwashing” 📌 “Misogyny” 📌 “Unrealistic”

🚨 A real man isn’t guilt-tripped into dating people he’s not attracted to.

📌 WHY “A REAL MAN SHOULD” IS ALWAYS BULLSH*T

Let’s get to the core truth of it all.

📢 Every single time someone says, “A real man should…” what they actually mean is, “Men should behave in a way that benefits ME.”

❌ It is never about what men actually want. ❌ It is never about what’s logical or fair. ❌ It is always about reprogramming men into something weak, compliant, and useful to others.

That’s why none of these rules apply universally.

📌 If a rich, powerful man breaks these “rules,” suddenly they don’t apply. 📌 If an attractive man breaks them, suddenly nobody cares. 📌 But if an average guy says “No thanks” to these ridiculous standards? OUTRAGE.

🚨 Because the game was never about fairness. It was always about control.

📌 FINAL VERDICT: IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU WHAT “A REAL MAN” SHOULD BE—BLOCK & WALK AWAY

If you’re a man, understand this:

📢 You don’t owe anyone an explanation for who you are. 📢 You don’t have to twist yourself into knots trying to be someone else’s fantasy. 📢 You are not obligated to meet the standards of people who see you as nothing more than a resource.

👉 You define what being a man means to YOU.

If someone starts a conversation with “A real man should…”

💀 Step back. 💀 Let them spill their nonsense somewhere else. 💀 Try not to get it on your shoes.

Because at the end of the day?

🚨 A REAL MAN DOESN’T GIVE A F*CK ABOUT WHAT FRAUDS THINK HE “SHOULD” DO. 🚨

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💀 You either define manhood for yourself, or you let people who don’t even respect men do it for you.

🚀 Choose wisely. 🚀

⚖️ LEGAL DISCLAIMER: This post is written for the purpose of artistic expression, cultural commentary, and psychological exploration of social and gender dynamics. It does not condone or encourage violence, harassment, or discrimination of any kind. Any references to power, strength, restraint, or critique are metaphorical, symbolic, and rooted in historical and cultural analysis. This is not a call to action — it’s a cultural mirror. If you feel offended, ask yourself if it’s from actual harm — or from seeing something you hoped no one would say out loud.

✨ TL;DR: If you're mad, it’s probably not because it’s wrong — it’s because you know it’s true.

[wesurviveabuse]

In this episode of the We Survive Abuse Podcast, host Tonya GJ Prince shares a  personal story of reclaiming power in the face of adversity. She opens up about her experience as a single mother navigating a world that often labeled her family as broken, flawed, and incomplete. Despite the world’s judgment, she wasn’t going to let anyone define her worth."CEO of Me and My Son" was more than just a title—it was a proclamation. A way to reclaim her family’s narrative and step into her role as the architect of her life. Tonya shares how this title, rooted in self-empowerment, helped her reject societal limitations and guided her through challenges like poverty, violence, and misrepresentation. As an advocate for survivors of violence, Tonya’s message is clear: women, especially survivors, have the right to name themselves. To call themselves queen, survivor, or CEO—whatever title they need to own their power and survive. Through her advocacy work, Tonya empowers women to put on the armor of self-worth and fight for their own dignity.In this powerful episode, Tonya reflects on her journey, offering  insights into the process of healing, empowerment, and self-love. She shows us that reclaiming power isn’t just about titles—it’s about embracing our full strength, regardless of how the world sees us.Tune in to hear Tonya’s message of resilience and how every woman has the right to name herself and step into her power.

[motivationalethos]

 How Do YOU Define Yourself ||  A Life-Changing Motivational Story

 In a world full of labels and opinions, it's easy to forget who you truly are. This inspiring story of Asha and the cracked mirror will remind you that you are not defined by others — you are defined by your own strength, your journey, and your self-worth. ✨ If you've ever felt misunderstood, judged, or limited by what others say — this story is for YOU. ✅ Watch this until the end for a powerful moral that could change your perspective.

[bosses-stay-flawless]

Defy Expectations, by doing so, you will eliminate assumptions. You can not assume something once you defy the need of expectation.

Since I was a little girl my family has always had expectations of me. Depending on whom you ask, they will tell you that “I was born to do this our that.”

When they presented me with their options, I chose to defy expectation and decided to do both. #thefamilybusiness #defineyourself #defyexpectation

[mphodagadayt]

From Being Overlooked to Trailblazer: Nonkululeko Gobodo’s Powerful Story

Nonkululeko Gobodo recalls being called “Mary” instead of her real African name and being undermined as a junior lecturer-clear signs of the challenges she faced as a black woman. But she refused to let others define her. She chose to own her identity and break every barrier in her path. Her story reminds us to stand strong and lead with authenticity. Link below #DefineYourself…

[emberhartco]

Every chance is a mirror. Who are you when no one else is watching? Would you step through the gate if it meant going alone? Moments like these shape your identity— Not just what you say yes to, But when you do, and why. Your choices write your story.

#IdentityInAction #WhoYouChooseToBe #DefineYourself #EmberhartJourney #KindnessMatters #GirlDad

[nimixo]

Define Yourself…

Two things define you. Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything. -George Bernard Shaw

#patience #attitude #defineyourself #GeorgeBernardShaw

[xstarlightsupremex]

Existing for someone. Being what someone wants you to be above who you are? That is the quickest way to lose yourself. You are your own person no matter what anyone tells you. You do not have to exist for anyone or anything. You are simply allowed to exist.

Lucia, Suitor Armor

Webtoon by Purpah

[poetrythreesixfive]

Negative Value

Those letters of rejection,

the non-acceptance to school,

that dream job,

an overlooked promotion,

the lover who dumped you,

the one that got away.

We define our worth

by what we don’t have

pondering over the

could-have-been’s

should-have-been’s

wish-there-was’s

and what-I-want’s.

Today, define yourself

by those who want you,

who know you,

who love you.

They’re probably right.

             -GeorgeFilip

[your-heart-is-a-treasure]

What you do again and again defines who you are.

[coldtriumphwonderland]

- Franz Kafka

[dandellionfever]

Just as the waters rise, so your fear clouds your inner bravery, to face your truth and to be a trendsetter of your own imagination.

And just as the clouds thicken over the sky when pregnant with rain, so is the amount of glory and power to which you hold within your inner self.

It is up to you whether you want to make a person out of yourself or let fear do it for you...

~ a simple beginning to a great ending 👑

[scribsters]

Remember, you are defined by your actions and the impact it makes, it all what's gonna remain. The quality of your work which make it's worth remembering is determined by your dedication, your will, your ethics and all of the everything you put into it.

It's never defined by anyone else, no one can impose anything on you, only you can.

@shubhammahajan1999

PC: @themindsetjournal

[elliereynarojas]

Good night, you have all the power don’t give it to anyone else. Things happen in life but with time everything is going to be ok. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 #goodnight #limitless #faith #defineyourself #thefutureisbright (at San Antonio, Texas) https://www.instagram.com/p/CS0hFQWMF3X/?utm_medium=tumblr

[lnknight11]

"The problem began when you let others opinion define you as a person."

[beauty-seeker22]

Whoever acts with respect will get respect. Whoever brings sweetness will be served almond cake. Good women are drawn to be with good men. Honor your friend. Or treat him rudely, and see what happens! Love, tell an incident now that will clarify this mystery of how we act feely, and are yet compelled. One hand shakes with palsy. Another shakes because you slapped it away. Both tremblings come from God, but you feel guilty for the one, and what about the other? These are intellectual questions. The spirit approaches the matter differently. Ignorance is God's prison Knowing is God's palace. We sleep in God's unconsciousness. We wake in God's open hand. We weep God's rain. We laugh God's lightning. Fighting and peacefulness both take place within God.