#I really wanted a 4.0 for my master's

[chronomally]

There's almost no way I get an A in this class, which pisses me off to no end, but as long as I turn in SOMETHING for my final project, I'm definitely getting a B

[abiwaif]

BREAKING: Straight A's Streak Continues

Fall semester 2024 is in the books and all my grades are back. In all my classes I either stayed even or improved my grades since midterms.

I know that those of you who have followed me for some time know that I went to college against the wishes of my overly dominating and legalistic mother. She told me that I would fail college. I was smart in High School so I had no reason to believe her. Thus far I have completed eight semesters and have straight A's. Yes, that is right, straight A's - a perfect 4.0. I do not say that to spite my mother. My mom has been nothing but a thorn in my side since I started. All I know is that it is nice to prove her wrong. I do not say that arrogantly. It just feels good to know I am not what she thinks I am (which includes such a choice moniker as "the Spawn of Satan").

One more semester to go for my B.S. and then continuing for my Masters and PhD (I am on track for a PhD but will determine whether or not to get it as I go).

Here are my final grades

Statistical Learning I (95% A - +1%)

Computational Physics (96% A - Even)

Partial Differential Equations I (96% A - +2%)

Soft Matter and Biological Physics (94% A- - +1%)

Mechanics (95% A - Even)

So I am smart and sassy and smol all rolled up into one tidy little package. Now I just want to be wild and engage in some unspeakable acts. 🤪

Thanks for all the encouragement from you my followers. I really do not know why you follow me, but I a grateful for you all and am glad you do!

[starrmarr]

"i do it all" bro is NOT employed

I make $30/h, have 4 years experience in ABA therapy. I was bartending just to pick up a new skill before taking cases again for the summer. I work 2 cases back to back, 3 days a week, because I don’t feel like stressing myself out/my man makes sure I’m good. I have bipolar disorder and have admittedly been struggling a lot with my depression these past few months, grateful for the support I have from people who love and know me, and from my team at the agency I work for, in case I decide I need a break. Children on the spectrum deserve me at my best. Oh! And I’m also working towards a master’s degree in behavior analysis, got a 4.0 GPA, merit scholarship— summer classes TBD. Sometimes I make jewelry, sometimes I tutor all subjects, sometimes I make tonics and remedies (#islandting), sometimes I get asked to cook at events cause I’m nice with the vegan shit. I can model whenever I want, too, just don’t feel like being as clouted up as I used to be when I did. I outgrew a lot of shit and I don’t really like people.

All real, all me.

I do it all, my employment doesn’t even begin to illustrate everything I do, I just don’t have to flex on viewers in a “what are people wearing in NYC” video.

What do you do besides suck dick? 🚬🧐🍷

[agendabymooner]

𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐲 !!! 𝐥𝐧𝟒 — 𝐨𝐧𝐞

☼ WHO TF IS LANDO NORRIS?

chapter summary: honey-sue is… honey-sue. she knows who she idolizes (and have a crush on; mason mount), she knows that she’s looking forward to getting the hell out of the university after two years of her masters degree program, and she knows that she doesn’t care about the formula one teams that aren't mercedes amg - she also knows she cares about mick schumacher.

so when her fans (who were coincidentally fans of the sports as well) began to ask her things about her lack of interest, more people (mostly just a group of british youtubers and a certain f1 driver) immediately shifted their attention towards the socially awkward woman as she and her brother got invited to a party in monaco hosted by an f1 driver. newsflash: it wasn’t hosted by either lewis hamilton or george russell.

content warning: use of explicit language, chatfic + tweets, mentions of social anxiety

masterlist

HONEY-SIUUUUU

jideeee 😚😚

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

who dis?

HONEY-SIUUUUU

stfu you know this is your best girl stop capping

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

no? idk who you are

HONEY-SIUUUUU

so if i were to say that i told simon about you using his towel to clean up the mess you made in his room then you wouldn’t be phased about it?

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

naw fam i’m all jokes 😭 don’t tell simon

what’s up, honey??? can’t pay your rent this month?

HONEY-SIUUUUU

oh har har 😒 we all know who’s most likely got more money in her savings

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

and we also know who’s most likely to get someone anything she wants because that someone refuses to use her money on any stupid shit for once

HONEY-SIUUUUU

fuck off i’m being practical. at least i haven’t lost my money to crypto

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

ouch ok. i’m hurt 😒

HONEY-SIUUUUU

anyways. I GOT MY FINAL GRADES BACK 😭😭 I WANNA TELL U FIRST BC I FEEL LIKE YOUD BE MORE EXCITED FOR ME

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

ong??? holy shit, that’s fast. did you make it to the president’s list???

HONEY-SIUUUUU

ok but what do i get when i tell you the result? /jk

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

a pat on the back and congratulations? 🤣

HONEY-SIUUUUU

i’m expecting for something more than that but as long as you’re fulfilling your promises i’m solid

BUT ANYWAYS I GOT THE ONLY 4.0 AND PRESIDENT’S LIST 😭😭😭

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

HOLY SHIIIIT LEZGOOOOO

smart ting you are what the fuckkkkk

happy for you honey!!!!! 😮‍💨

lowk wish i’m there rn to celebrate that with you and the mandem 🙃 stupid boxing trainings

HONEY-SIUUUUU

ugh don’t even worry about it jj 😁😁 i was just v excited to share this to u

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

i’ll make it up to you i promise!!! i’m hella proud of u and ur ability to not even have a breakdown during those days ✊

i gtg tho 🙏 congrats again bro! lmk when ur graduation’s gonna be and what u want for this. i’ll ttyl

HONEY-SIUUUUU

forget about it jj— i was just joking when i said get me sumn

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

it’s a good thing i don’t listen to you whenever you tell me not to get you something huh?

HONEY-SIUUUUU

that’s just your guilt from calling me a sket on harry’s diss track.

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

haha just tell me what u want and i’ll get it sorted out as soon as possible

HAROLDINHO

oi honey

PLONKER

oi harold

HAROLDINHO

i’m at the mailbox rn

u got a package

PLONKER

gee do you ever wonder what the mailboxes are for? 🤔🤔

HAROLDINHO

i was going to bring it upstairs but i guess never mind 😒

a simple “oh really? thanks harry!” would suffice

PLONKER

just get up here and bring it 🤡 you could’ve just brought it up instead of texting me

what’s so special about it that you had to text me before you get up here n e ways??

HAROLDINHO

i dunno. something about it screams fancy.

did you get any bag by chance because this seems a bit too expensive

PLONKER

i don’t buy expensive stuff online???

can you come up so i can open it?

HONEY-SIUUUUU

JJ ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS?!

LIKE YOURE NOT PULLING MY LEG? AND HARRY’S?!!!

IS THIS REALLY MONACO GP?!

JJ YOU BETTER RESPOND NOW OR IM GONNA BREAK IN YOUR HOUSE AND I KNOW WHERE YOU PUT THE KEYS TO YOUR LAMBO

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

sorry i was on the gym

don’t break into my house

and yes??? you said to get you something right?

HONEY-SIUUUUU

yeah but i was joking 😭😭

this is so cool

but this is expensive. do you take paypal?

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

no tf 🤣

as i said. i’d get you anything you want. but you didn’t tell me what you wanted so i just asked the boys

HONEY-SIUUUUU

you never should’ve listened to harry lmfao

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

lol it was vik and simon who recommended we get you and harry those tickets lololol

i was like “hmm idk what to get her” so they were like get you a trip to monaco or something. they specifically said get you a paddock pass for mercedes

so like go see your michael schumacher or that ken doll you showed me

HONEY-SIUUUUU

jj babes 🤣🙃 mick is in haas

and the fact that we’re taking your jet too 😭😭 you didn’t have to go all out on me

but seriously thank you thank you thank you

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

letting you know as well that will, filly and chunkz are coming along. they got passes from mclaren and all that. it'll be a full plane lol. so it won’t be as overwhelming for you and harry to go alone

HONEY-SIUUUUU

no way?!!!! MY FRIEND FILLYS COMING ?! 😭😭

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

yeah lol

so you have fun in monaco. everything’s been paid for by your personal bank account

HONEY-SIUUUUU

ugh my personal bank account is so fucking amazing

i could give ‘im a lil kiss on the mouth rn 😮‍💨😮‍💨

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

naw don’t do that i don’t think your brother would like that

lmk if there’s anything else you’d like i’ll see what i can do 👍😉

HONEY-SIUUUUU

a little kiss of appreciation on the mouth for you?

SUGAR DADDY JAYJE

no 🤣🤣🤣

RIABISH

hey! i hope this isn’t so weird but you’re honey-sue right? wroetoshaw’s sister?

HONEYSUE

uh hi.

yes it’s me. it does say it on my username and bio. sorry if this is very rude.

RIABISH

no no! all good haha!

i just wanted to confirm! we got the information from will about you. i’ve known the sidemen and your brother but when he mentioned you were coming along to the race in monaco i had to look you up :)

i’m ria btw! i happened to be acquainted with him and filly bc we collab’d with them before. quadrant?

HONEYSUE

i’ve heard of you guys before because will spike a lot about you lots.

RIABISH

all good things i hope 😉

HONEYSUE

haha. yeah.

nice to meet you

RIABISH

likewise :))

we’ve been told of you because apparently you got lucky with ksi getting you free tickets and trip to monaco for the race

HONEYSUE

yeah idk.

i don’t watch formula one as much as i used to years ago. i don’t know much about who’s racing now and whatnot except from whatever’s happening with merc

RIABISH

oh… not at all?

not even mclaren?

HONEYSUE

no. this will be the first time i’ll be watching in a while.

RIABISH

you seem very nice!

listen, will and filly said you’re all flying in at the sunday before the race week begins. lando’s got will, filly and chunkz paddock passes and they’re all hanging around with us quadrant lots for the week.

would you and w2s be interested in coming with us? take you around monaco and get to know each other better since we all live in london and all :))) lando’s been wanting to meet harry for a while so him being in the monaco gp would def work out for all parties. lando will also be hosting a party in his flat in monaco. what do you think??

HONEYSUE

uh

to be honest you’ve lost me at the first message. if you don’t mind— can i ask who lando is? i’m not like any sidemen people— i don’t watch f1 as much as i used to.

i’ve heard of his name before. but that’s because there are people on my twitter saying he’s made references about my videos and songs and whatnot.

i really don’t know who he is

RIABISH

ah right.

that’s alright ;)

lando drives for mclaren and he has the driver number 4. he’s actually one of the members of quadrant. he races and all that! that’s how will and the lots got their passes lol

HONEYSUE

oh okay.

about the invitation.

i think it’s ideal you ask my brother or shoot him a message in insta about it.

he’ll gladly answer

thank you for the offer. i’m sure he’d say yes. i have to go sadly. i’ll talk to you later!

RIABISH

okie. ttyl 👋

MINI HARRY

you absolute knobhead

you call me socially inept all the time yet you’re out here trying to get me to talk to people?!

WILLIAM²

wdym?

oh my god. i am so so sorry

i didn’t think ria would actually be sending and shooting a message to your way

MINI HARRY

you know what

i don’t even care

whatever it’s not like i’d be talking to them anyway.

WILLIAM²

if you’re talking about not being around them during the week nice try.

because harry just said he’d come along with us in monaco before the race. so the chances of you being friends with the quadrant lads are high.

i’m not sure if it’s just me but lando’s more than excited to meet you. harry just ok’d that you two would hang out with us.

MINI HARRY

oh my god. does anybody in my circle ever use their brain?!

[preciousmomentsfigurine]

hey, is anyone still here? looks like the last time i was on here was two years ago and change. things are really different now, but i guess then again it would be weird if they were the same

i was thinking of returning to this dead site because for a good fifteen years it was a big part of my life and provided me with a unique way to express my thoughts and ideas and feelings and opinions and musings to an audience of people who can hear me but not truly know me outside of my words that i share on this platform. and on the same coin i enjoy following the lives of people i know nothing about and watching their stories and selves develop and evolve from a complete distance in every sense

i'm five months sober now

i have a hard time pinpointing when exactly i became an alcoholic, but i guess i could say i dealt with it in some degree for about eight years, and progressively, as it always goes

i graduated with my masters last may (2023) in critical media studies where i spent my time writing and researching feminist cultural social and media theory. i produced a great deal of work i was and am very proud of including a thesis that is honestly my life and heart's work but unfortunately over the course of those two years my drinking escalated rapidly and by the end i was manically and drunkenly banging out papers and essays in the dead of night sleepless and naively inspired

somehow i got a 4.0 though despite that. everyone in my life always says i played off my drinking well anyway. beats me how or why

once i graduated i practically immediately began drinking all day every day while somewhat-hardly-kind-of-not-really looking for work which was fruitless and i quickly learned my degree i worked so hard for meant practically nothing to employers who were merely looking for experience i dont have outside of my teaching background in grad school

for almost exactly a year i was drunk 100% of the time i was awake

same old story, at some point i switched to bottom shelf pints of vodka, which constituted my breakfast lunch and dinner. sat on my couch in my filthy apartment occupying my filthy poisoned failing body either watching tv or causing problems somehow

this was when i was twenty-nine. for a while now i had known in my heart of hearts i wasnt someone who would ever be able to handle my liquor or drink like a normal person, whatever that means, and that too much was never enough, and that it was literally impossible to function so long as booze was a part of my life. any attempts to "cut back" or "take breaks", i knew, would end the same way, which was waking up to shots of room temperature vodka and being a prisoner to the worst shame a person can feel

i figured once i turned thirty, which was this march, that would probably be about the time i got sick of my own shit and said goodbye to the bottle. which i undeniably felt a kind of affection toward as if it were a lover. still do in a sense and thats why ill never flirt with it again

my sobriety date is april 16th 2024. my last drink was a shot of vodka at 8:30 am on the 15th after creating massive gashes in my upper arm the previous evening during a blackout fight with my boyfriend

im still unemployed and extremely mentally ill and my bipolar has gotten progressively worse over the past couple of years and will likely continue to according to what the science says and all of that. after my last manic episode last month i adjusted my meds (again) and for now they seem to be working but i don't hold my breath really

i do AA and i like it a lot, i do it my own way, i have a sponsor who approaches the program liberally and progressively and shares many of my comorbidities and has allowed me the freedom to define my relationship to the program and god in a way that works for me and i have made incredible strides through this. i have become a far far far better person.

being sober is easy and i never want to drink. not once not ever

ive never worked so hard on myself in my life because i got as close to death as i ever had and ive been very close at many points in my life for many years. when i was drinking i knew i wouldnt make it to see 35 if i continued as i was

therapy, AA, meds, a whole fucking lot of discipline

ive been with my boyfriend for two years and wed like to get married. thats nothing that will happen anytime soon but it is nice to think about. he has been by my side through unimaginable things that any sane person would not have stuck around for. he is my heart and my soul

im also trying to start applying for jobs again but im genuinely on the fence if i am capable of holding a full time job due to my severe mental illness. im exploring a bunch of options right now as far as that whole thing goes. the future is very uncertain as always

let me know if you see this or remember me or anything.

bye for now

[sclfmastery]

im sorry if this is a bother but because i know you're also disabled and are/were involved in academia i wanted to ask something.

im a student in senior year (18) and im chronically ill. in the first quarter my school basically allowed me to do "weighted work" because i got super sick and was incredibly behind and it was the only way for me to catch up.

in the second quarter i did good and got straight As. but now the third quarter is closing and im thinking of asking for a medical exemption.

obviously no pressure to answer but if you had a student who basically got off easy in the first quarter and then is now looking for a medical exemption for the third would you think they were lazy?

i swear im actually smart. like i have a 4.0 GPA. its just that this year my health got really bad.

sorry to ask and have a nice day!! may it be *lightning strike sound effect* masterful

First things first: You are NOT lazy, and I would never think so. Any faculty, school counselor, or student resources coordinator who is good at their job would recognize this. Unfortunately, your fear of being perceived as something you are not (something that may, in fact, not exist in the first place) is based in being surrounded by abled (and ableist) systems, and societies. You can still navigate them, even though it is and will be frustrating.

I want to tell you something about myself: I have one major regret in life, and that is that I cared more about being perceived as a hard worker and "good kid" than I cared about RESTING. I got a 4.0 every semester of undergrad and graduate school, too. I took only ONE medical leave of absence in 12 years of higher ed schooling. I put my Type 1 diabetes on the back burner and let my A1c run way too high, so I could make all those meetings and writing deadlines, conferences and committees. And today my kidneys are three percentile points away from totally failing. I'm only 41 years old and soon I will be going on dialysis (temporarily, while I find a kidney donor, but that whole process won't be fun).

I don't blame myself, or think I'm "bad" for my choices, but I wish I'd had different priorities. I am proud of what I achieved academically and of the relationship I have with my students--but I didn't need to forsake self-care, physical and mental, to the extent that I did, in order to get where I now am.

Take the medical exemption. You are worth it. <3. High school senior year will be there when you're feeling better. College will be there when you're feeling better. And if it's a matter of turning down a scholarship to a specific university, you can speak to the campus disability resources coordinator about your situation. Big hugs from me. I am proud of you for seeking answers. It's the first step to self-advocacy.

If you need any more specific advice about the process, I can provide the perspective of an American educator, and I can try and ask friends from other parts of the world about the process if you're not also in the States.

Hang in there. You are ALSO.... * * * MASTERFUL * * * lol <3

[cayrule]

another post of my cool ramblings/life update for those who care (all positive!) 🐊

life is pretty awesome right now! currently still an ORISE fellow and i get to start full-time in July which is insane, an FTE isn't far off now. almost done with my msw and that'll wrap in July as well. and something new on the horizon...ghehehe no spoilies yet but let's just say if it pans out you will feel my happy across the world!

fixing to graduate from first master's program with a 4.0 (!) which I'm super stoked about, and it'll be awesome to say I've got my first graduate degree done (more to come lol). school and work are just fab at the moment, couldn't ask for better.

my love life is also fab...boyfriend and I have been engaged to be engaged since the beginning and I'll be moving in with him sometime in june likely (not that I already don't basically live at his place lol). engagement will come not too long after that and then I'll have about a year to plan my wedding!!! so can't believe I'm saying that but it's true! looking like marriage is coming in fall of '25...and fall of '26, assuming things go to plan career- and school-wise, we're gonna start trying for a baby 😳 yeah, I can't really believe it either.

man, I can't even describe how in love I am. and knowing that I've got some awesome milestones coming up makes me super duper happy (we know I love a good strategic plan lol). first comes love, then comes graduate degree, then comes marriage, then comes another graduate degree, then comes baby, then comes doctorate. it's a pretty swaggy plan and I'm beyond stoked it's happening just how I want it to.

I'm really so thankful for everything I've got going on right now, especially considering that five years ago, I was in a pretty dogshit place. boyfriend has been the most amazing support and I couldn't be happier with him. truly never thought I could love someone this much but there you go.

like I said, no spoilies for this next big thing on the horizon (want to make sure it works out first), but that's only going to make me happier.

thanks all for reading this if you did 💕hope you have a nice rest of your week!

[blueburied]

every now and then i see posts about homeschooling and i'm like hey i was that i wanna talk about it !!

so for context i was homeschooled until 9th grade (2020), when i went to high school. I think that i got really lucky? basically every post i see about homeschooling is talking about how bad it is. And i can get why! people aren't always ready to like. fully teach someone. and sometimes also people are bad parents and take their kids out of school to have more control over them. its so shitty, especially when you're used to one environment and you're settled there and all of a sudden you're trapped at home with someone you don't always like.

I was lucky. My mom is wonderful and a librarian with a masters. She also like. put proper effort into teaching. It was nice having a teacher who knew me on that level and could understand how i worked. She also enrolled me in social programs where i could socialize, make friends, and experience things she couldn't give me herself. In particular i remember the homeschool gymnastics program I went to on wednesdays extremely fondly. Co-ops (which is, at least in my experience, a once a week thing where we take classes that we want to take that are taught by other homeschool parents). In particular the classes I remember the best would be the class where i took a computer apart and put it back together and got it to post (i was SO proud of myself, also i was like 9 or 10) and a greek mythology course in which we would do readings of plays among other things which is probably part of the reason i am a theater kid. I made and hung out with all my friends that way, and my family is still friends with one of the other families we had met through the second co-op we were a part of! My mom was actually the biggest advocate for me going to high school, primarily because they have resources she knew i couldn't get at home. Now granted, I went to a vocational school, but I still graduated with a 4.0 GPA and am now going to my choice university for something i'm really passionate about! I will say i was probably a bit on the sheltered side, but the internet and four years in high school more than made up for that lmao.

It seems like i'm very much an edge case, but i do want to say that it can be done right! BUT. if you're considering, based off of other experiences i've seen, i would probably suggest not to. at least not initially. if your kid comes to you asking about it, maybe then it is a good time to consider! but remember: do your research and make sure you get proper teaching resources! be prepared to teach like its your job! and also, and perhaps most importantly. socialize your kid! make sure they have people around their age they can hang out with some regularity!

oh and also don't try to control their entire life!

If I am wrong on something, do feel free to critique me in an RB! I am open to learning, or at least wanna try to be.

[floredaqueen]

Do you see yourself reflected in your art and your OC’s? Like Nova, for example? 🥰 are their physical or character similarities? Xoxo

There are a lot of similarities and also (obviously) some wishful thinking! All of my characters (except for maybe one) are all women of color! I'm Black, Cuban, and Indigenous, and I try to make all of my OCs similar to that. I want to make them all different, so I give them all styles I've tried or plan on experimenting with. They have some of my personality traits, too! Isabela is anxious because I'M anxious (guarded/vigilant). Nova is a people pleaser because I am. And she's also really short because I am. Lol. And all my gals have a talent I've pursued(mastered) or I've taken up. I used to be a cheerleader in high school. I have a 4.0 GPA. I used to be in my church choir so I can sing fairly well, and I used to be an exotic dancer. There's also a lot of somber (unfortunate) things that I've been through that I've put in my stories. They are brief, but they happened. There's a lot of me with the love and specifics I give to my characters. And I hope people like them because they're real to me, and they show off things in my personality that I can't just do on a whim. I hope this answers your question!♡

🩷🥺

[shivasdarknight]

you want a better story. who wouldn't? {ffxiv, one sided wolysayle yearning}

Chapter 3: I talk to you as if you’re really there. Are you there, sweetheart?

❆fandom: final fantasy xiv, ffxiv ❆characters: Ysayle Dangoulain, named Warrior of Light (Surkukteni) in an Echo, elezen OC (Melisande) ❆relationship: heavily referenced wolysayle yearning ❆dynamic: gen, implied f/f ❆rating: m ❆key tags: fix it fic, Ysayle Lives AU, recovery fic, POV Swap (Melisande > Ysayle), flashbacks, Echo vision, character study, Ysayle's mine now so I get to decide how she develops from here on out, Spoilers for late Heavensward and Stormblood, theistic world building through textbooks ❆content warnings: cursing, general crudeness, implied character death, canon typical existentialism, irreality, grieving, character death, references to atrophy and unbearable pain, mc hurts herself trying to rush recovery, family deaths, fire and related injuries, homophobic Ishgard as a setting ❆chapters: 3/? {ongoing} ❆words: 16,052 {43,160 in total} ❆series: Snow and Dirty Rain {Ysayle Lives AU}

Despite being known for being a deathly powerful mage as Lady Iceheart, Ysayle's aptitude for magic was sorely lacking prior to the Calamity. She'd struggled a great deal to master it, and in a frustrating relapse she was back at the start with no magical capabilities so to speak. Beyond her magic being slow to return, and the dreadful state of her atrophied body, Ysayle still is not convinced this isn't Hell. But regardless of if it is or isn't, she must do something — anything! — to get her strength back so she might relieve the one she dearly loves and sorely misses of the belief that Ysayle had died at Azys Lla. It's a task most pressing, as it's a vicious grief that would see Ysayle's love consumed and destroyed.

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Fix it fic/Ysayle Lives AU that's part of my Snow and Dirty Rain au. Timeline goes over the end of 3.0 to 4.0, and is predominantly in Ysayle's POV (chapter 1 is Melisande's POV, chapter 2 is how things will go). From her recovery, to her building a new life for herself - Ysayle's newfound freedom allows her to explore what's going on in Ala Mhigo while the Warriors of Light are in Doma. A few misadventures, a lot of sapphic yearning - all of this to lead into i had a dream about you.

{Read Here}

[sailorzenin]

I do think there is a solution if we follow the "cognition being biologically expensive" line of thought.

The answer truly is less work - take post secondary students for example - they take on way too much because they are forced to.

A normal term (in Canada) has a student taking up to five classes. Most students have to work part time at the very least, but a lot do full time. My friend is one of those students who works part time and does 5 classes. She had 10 midterms! (Psych majors have it rough - they are the most extreme example, but they are the most popular so that's why I'm using it). In that term, she had multiple breakdowns and nearly dropped out. She's an honours student with a 4.0 gpa. This girl works so hard - and yet she told me, almost unwillingly, that term she used chatgpt to make her mock exams to help her study. Exams that she usually made herself but didn't have the energy nor the time to do so. I refuse to judge her for this, and I hope anyone reading this won't also.

If you're lucky, or unlucky, like me to have a disability - in my case severe ADHD and mental health issues - you'll be allowed to take 2 classes and still be considered full-time. Which is great! Until you realise that your 4 yr degree is now 6 (and student loans only pays for 5 - so you have to appeal for more). You now have to take spring and summer classes (which are condensed and really suck). On top of that, if you're not working, you are likely getting a living allowance - which doubles your student loans. I'm at 60k already. My husbands income is enough to support our basic living expenses, but doesn't cover major purchases (like getting a new car when yours becomes un-driveable) so a living allowance in necessary.

Essentially, students are overworked and exhausted - which brings us to the "cognition is biologically expensive" and the only other option is to put yourself in an insane amount of debt - or not go to school.

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So what are the solutions?

Our governments could make education free and give students an income for studying.

We could give everyone a universal basic income - and enforce rent control and utility caps to make life more affordable, decreasing the need for students to both work and study.

The last one is governments ensuring job entry requirements and wages are reasonable. Many students only go to school to get good jobs because they are told they will work for minimum wage for the rest of their lives if they don't. Which is a lie! Many of the waitresses I've met have bachelor's in science, arts, and education. -eg: Administrative assistants don't need a Masters to operate a phone, email or to make schedules. This is very easy to learn in on the job training. They should also make enough money to live, not just survive

These solutions would reduce the use of generative AI by giving people the time, energy and money to complete their schooling. And those who don't actually want to be there, won't be there. Because - and I am an example of this - if you enjoy learning, and you have the space to do so - you won't use AI to do your work.

These are unlikely to happen - because they don't make anyone (ie. the rich) money.

So the only solution left is for professors to reduce the workloads. I am lucky enough to be a humanities student and I've found most of the profs in the humanities consider the student workloads when designing their courses. I rarely have complaints. But many other profs have the "I suffered so you should too" mentality and that really needs to stop. Students can't keep up.

Generative AI is not the problem, it's a shitty solution

generative AI literally makes me feel like a boomer. people start talking about how it can be good to help you brainstorm ideas and i’m like oh you’re letting a computer do the hard work and thinking for you???

[klarkkent71]

Planning for College

One of the common questions I get from my friends and people within my circle is if I have any advice to give about their kid or kids who wants to go college or If I’ll call and talk to their child about what it takes to succeed in school.  My first question usually is “do your kid wants to go to college” followed by “what you have done to start enabling them. Talk to your child and feel out what careers that would possibly be interested in and explain the processes of what steps are needed.  I told my parents initially I wanted to be a lawyer and they told me that college would be needed to make that happen.  My mother was a teacher and college graduate and was easily able to walk me through the process and set everything up but I know that not thing for all kids.   From my past experience I have a one bachelors, three masters, one doctorate, and I’m currently pursing a bachelors in biology with the intent of doing law school or medical school once I get out of the Army.  Of the last 18 years that I been in the Army I have been a full time academic student in college for 11 of those years.   My first bachelors I performed average and started to excel later in the degree program when I really understood how academics work but as a graduate student I maintained mostly all A’s earning a 4.0, 3.94, 3.92, and 3.87 with the other degrees.  Below is my general advice by topic that I discuss with parents.  I just want to point out that I am no expert but I have plenty of experience being in academia so long. 

High School

My advice for any kid any high schooler who wants to go to an average state college will be to maintain atleast a 2.5 GPA.  You don’t have to put pressure on your kids to be perfect, but they should atleast be passing and you as parents should work with them to identify their weaknesses.  The next thing is that most college admissions require the results from a standardized test whether it’s the ACT or SAT.  Those scores matter because in some states that have programs such as TOPS in Louisiana, you’ll need a minimum score to receive additional aid with tuition.  Also, some schools might make their final decision of accepting your child based on their test score.  Have your child take a mock test and see how they score.  Once you recognize what areas they need to improve in, hire a tutor or enroll them in some programs so they can fill in those gaps of knowledge and score higher on the real test.  It its plenty of affordable online programs and personal tutors that would proudly take on that challenge.  My next advice is to learn the system of what it takes to apply to college which will include requesting transcripts and how the process works with applications and financial aid.  It is plenty of online article and youtube videos to help.  As a last resort If you cant find them, message me and will get you going in the right direction. 

Cost

The typical bachelor’s program in Louisiana requires the completion of 120 credit hours.  At $325 per credit hour tuition alone will cost you $39,000.  Also remember that the prices of classes increase with the economy.   If you want your child to experience life living on campus and getting the full experience to include having a meal plan and all you are looking at roughly an additional $35,0000 to $45,000.  If you don’t have a good college fund saved up, no educational benefits such as those that come with the military, or no scholarship offers for your child it will add up and can get extremely costly.  For the most part, you will have to apply for some type of financial aid.  During my first semester of college in 2005, my tuition, meal plan, and dorm cost $3100 dollars for just the fall semester.  I had $1600 in scholarships from my church and family but knew that I wouldn’t have those scholarships going forward.  My parents had the money saved up so I easily was able to pay the difference but I did not want to be a financial burden to them as they entered retirement so I joined the Army who paid for the rest of my tuition and paid all my student loans off.  During school I also worked a job at the library and was in ROTC who paid me a stipend as well. 

Acceptance and Balance

Once your child get accepted into college, find out what their career objectives are and draw out a path to achieve them.  College open the doors for plenty of jobs in many sectors so ensure they enrolling in the right major.  Once identified you will have to instill in them that academics come first while in school.  During college students are truly experiencing freedom for the first time where they could stay out all night if they wanted and realize that going to classes are not mandatory.  The consequence of staying out all night and not attending classes though will most likely be a poor letter grade in school, low GPA, and most likely academic probation.  It takes a certain level of maturity to make it in school.  The importance of maintaining a decent GPA is that If your child wish to pursue a graduate degree later which could help open up more career opportunities, then they would need to maintain a decent GPA to get accepted into most programs.  The next part of the conversation I would have is to maintain balance as a student.  If possible, attend the first session between your child and their academic advisor who will mostly likely enroll them in their classes.  You want your child to have a balance of regular classes and electives.  Also, it is ok to do the minimum hours required until your child have a feel for how the academic system work.  Do check ins and ask how things such as grades are going.  Schools have additional resources such as tutoring to help.  Teach your child about the drop system and to let them know when to withdraw from the course to save their GPA.  Also, If school is not initially working it is ok to leave school, get some real world experience, and come back.  Taking a break to mature have benefits as well.  At the end of the day, you can do so much to set your child up for success but It is their life that they will have to live. 

From my experience I did not care about GPA until I wanted to be a Kappa.  That’s when I learned how a GPA and calculated and how quality points play a role.  Because of the desire to want to pledge I went from being average to constantly maintaining a 3.0 or higher in my following term because I had to drive to want to know how the system work.    

[ksmlegend]

MASTERY JOURNAL

Research and Investigation Skills Development was a class I had no expectations of, just as I did for the rest of my classes. This has been my most challenging class to date. There was a real curve thrown at me when I realized I'd be drafting actual articles and doing a load of research. I was very taken aback at receiving my first assignment grade because up to this point, I'd been an A student who followed all of the requirements and everything.  It's been one of my goals to achieve a 4.0 status in my master's program because I really wanted the achievement and to show myself regardless of being a full-time active-duty member, father, and husband, that I could achieve something I've never obtained before but it now because of my lack of quality sadly, might not happen. 

Weeks two and three saw improvements in my assignments in my ability to cite my sources and properly formulate all of my evidence for the articles I wanted to create. The biggest challenge for me was getting interviews, I reached out to several potential interviewees, and none had responded, which made my assignments a real challenge but hopefully, in that process, I was able to conduct two interviews and get answers for the articles and the content I was creating. Another goal I was able to meet is to start my journey to creating a researched article with real evidence and interviews. I was able to see if this was a possible option in my career and see if I was interested in the type of work that came with being a journalist which

I believe with the skills painfully learned from this class I was able to achieve. In week four this class became clearer, as I was fine-tuning my infographic and cleaning up my draft post, I saw how gathering this info made my article a trustworthy source of information. There was support behind the numbers, links to the names, and correctly cited sources and it all clicked just how important this would all be. I also learned how to post to my website link and Twitter to that post and create a multimedia brand that flows.  I appreciate the challenge this class brought to me because it provides me an opportunity to learn and hopefully achieve academic achievement through the rest of my master's and hope this is my only B.

[infiniteglitterfall]

For people not in the know: The teacher's daughter is subbing for her because there aren't enough subs to go around anymore.

Because, four years into the pandemic, SO many people are sick at any given time. Or out taking care of family. Especially in countries like the U.S., that really struggle to follow science over stubborness.

And so many people have left the workforce, either temporarily or permanently, due to damage from COVID. So there also is a teacher shortage, and a sub shortage.

This has basically been the situation ever since COVID hit - ever since we went back to in-person schooling during a raging pandemic.

I highly recommend preventative masking! Preventative masking works!

We don't have to worry about people coughing, or filling the room silently with highly contagious crap because they don't realize they're coming down with COVID or the flu or RSV or a cold or whatever. We don't have to worry about accidentally being that person. We can just mask!

You can wear an N95 mask for up to 40 total hours. So a $30 box of 30 masks gets you enough for more than 6 months of school or work. Even the expensive $30 for 10 ones get you through more than 2 months.

You can get comfy, breathable N95 masks shaped like cute little cat faces! In sizes from toddler all the way up to adult!

They come in black, white, pink, green, light blue, very pale green, and an assortment of three tabby patterns:

My six-year-old not only forgets to take them off when he gets in the car, but the other day he accidentally wore it for like an hour when he got home. Including pulling it down to have a snack, and then putting it right back on again.

Come to think of it, he was playing store. So he might have been wearing it on purpose, because that's just what you do in a store.

For people who want color, but not cats, MaskLab's N95s have a ton of patterns and styles.

Neutrals and subtle tweed/plaid textures for work:

Fun colorful patterns:

Slim fit masks:

I don't make any money from these. I just really want people to wear masks.

(in fact I actively dump money on family-masks.com. Bonus: for $5 you can get an assortment of different types and sizes of masks to try!)

Right now I'm making my way through the tabby cat assortment. I want to try some of the MaskLab ones next.

For people who want something different - head straps? - the Mask Nerd's spreadsheet has data on efficiency (you want 95% or higher!), color, fit, straps, breathability, and more.

we are on like covid variant #100037 and rsv/flu/pneumonia cases are rising and people will show up unmasked and be like “yeah i’ve been sick for days :/” like. ok. Get the fuck away from me then? why are you out here breathing on everything. the very least you could be doing is masking. NOT hacking into open air every two seconds.

[semi-imaginary-place]

ffxiv more job quests

carpenter quests were nice. i love beatin. i do wonder if catgirl would ahve been better off as a culinarian she seemed happier with food.

bsm: wow this dude is harsh to his daughter, ouch.

well brithanel's wife did cheat on him and run off with a sailor sooo i guess he's single...?

wow that was a fast turn around. dude went from you will never be a sword smith to maybe ok in 1 quest

arm: hmm these crafting quests so far have all told the same story but none have done it poorly. im skeptical about crafting an entire suit of armor in a day, but whatever its a story

gsm: so nanamo is getting her artisan school after all. hmm would not the crown whole be worth more than just the jewels pulled out?

good good the ananta are involved i was hoping they would be since its established that they are master goldworkers. i think what also could have been done is that instead of just training smiths from scratch they could have created a guild by recruiting those with existing goldsmithing skills and gathering them together, like those who were goldsmiths but whose work had been disrupted by the war.

also odd we're setting up the artisan school in the military camp instead of inside the city but well im doing this post 4.0 the writers had to make these quests available for any point in stormblood and there isn't a model for inside of ala mhigo.

ltw: good intentions, but showing people all the cool animal products probably will make people want to buy more of them.

wvr: aw they changed redolent rose's character. where's my little weaver weirdo?

while kotocho isn't wrong to experiment with fashion i do think she's getting a little carried away.

so is it doman or is it hingan? in the quest npc dialogue its refered to as strictly doman multiple times (2? 3?) but the item text says hingan.

interesting that the dance entered the hingan repertoire long ago enough that geiko consider it traditional and not foreign.

weaver is my favorite crafting questline so far

alc: wow this dude was up to everything. embezzlement AND necromancy

WOAH WOAH WOAH wasnt there an entire 1.0 plotline about f'lhaminn trying to bring this dude back???

yeah i remember the 1.0 players talking about this story. if this happened a little over 6 years ago minfilia would have been in her early 20s i think she would have been ok.

ok damn we're going to drug the old man and then interrogate him.

conspiracies, rival factions, riots in the streets, i love this stuff! the new ffxiv hasn't had more

huh what i though the whole thing with undead was that their souls/aether was already gone and the body is an empty shell.

the bodies just flat out disappear???

cul: ah a blood purist...

btn: what no. given its high latitude and high moisture it should have far LESS sunlight than most regions kind of similar to west/north europe in that way. think germany for example not a sunny country.

popotos form east end?? isn't it semi arid over there. the opposite of idyllshire.

so you decided to grow them further north in the mountains where it is even colder than the tropical islands where they were already struggling with cold.

why the hell can you harvest cotton from underwater kelp.

really a pest warding flower in ala ghiri, not ala ghanna you know the town surrounded by flowers

[lucemxnox]

Can I. Can I not live an abusive environment anymore. Please. I can’t handle this. I need an out so fucking badly. My mom has me now locked in my room, in my closet, crying and shaking because of her threats and behavior and drinking. All she’s done every single day for months on end is drunk from the moment she can to the moment she falls asleep and starts screaming at everyone the minute she’s three drinks in and that’s getting earlier and earlier now. And it’s turned from just drunken arguments to full threats of violence. She also has refused to cook really for three weeks now, purposefully buying me unhealthy foods knowing I’ve been trying to lose weight and eat healthier, because I’m sure she can’t stand me being better looking and healthier than her. She’s been blaming EVERYTHING on my dad calling him a lazy invalid (yet she actually told him, a recovering alcoholic in end stage liver failure, that he can drink her vodka seltzers). I swear she’s been purposefully tanking my ability to get job interviews. She made it so my psychiatrist is her *BEST FRIEND* and I can’t really chose my own right now because I have no insurance of my own. I’m medicated. I’m on my meds, I’m on an anti anxiety med, I’m in therapy, I’ve applied to *64 jobs* so far, I’m working over this summer, I’ve been cooking, I have a good relationship now with my bf, I have a fucking MASTERS DEGREE graduated with a 4.0. And yet to her I’m nothing, and she still wants me in her house so she can degrade me, threaten me, and control me. And to think I actually told my therapist and psychiatrist what was going on when i was 15/16 years old and they actually said “oh well she’s a good person and a good mother and calling CPS wouldn’t really do anything because she’s not harming you” fuck off. You were wrong. You shouldn’t have your license anymore. Because of their inability to report (AS A MANDATED REPORTER) I’ve been living in abuse for over half of my life, and have developed serious health problems including an autoimmune disorder that I’m certain was from the immense stress and abuse.