#You all are great

[chloeisokay]

For anyone curious I did delete my Wilbur art. If you don’t that doesn’t make you a bad person. If you don’t stay constantly updated that doesn’t make you a bad person. DSMP was a comfort fandom for me, and it seems like it’s just been hit after hit. You are not a bad person for liking things. Feel free to get off of the internet for a while. Stay safe everyone and much para social love comes from me to all those hurting from this situation. ❤️

(Edited for grammar)

[caspia-writes]

Writeblrs Appreciation Post

Well, I'm a couple bottles deeper than wholly advisable and should not really be posting anything to any sort of social media.

But is that gonna stop me?

Nope!

Y'know, when I first came to Tumblr, I thought this place was a cesspool of politics and sex. (And hey, nothing wrong with the latter, but as a sex-repulsed aro-ace... wasn't real big on that bit.)

But frankly?

This place is damned cool.

Like, for example, @sleepy-night-child. No one has ever been this enthused about my writing before. You are one hell of a cheerleader. Even when I'm not putting out writing worth a damn, you're willing to encourage me and still believe that perhaps, one day, I will ever finish writing anything at all. You're great. And your story, Black Feather? Well, I'm going to shamelessly plug for it here. I'm usually absolutely against romance stories. But your story... even my aro-ace, romance- and sex-repulsed self thinks it's a bloody good story. It doesn't get enough attention. Good stuff, that!

And @whither-wander-whump. Pardon my French once more, but damn, you're tough. Nothing seems to be able to hold you down. Seriously, how the hell do you do it? I would've gone nuts by now. Frankly, you're a bloody inspiration. And your writing? Look, not to dump on your cooking or your dancing, but your writing boggles my mind. Where does it all comes from? You have a gift, I swear.

Also, @ashen-crest. Publishing a book (or has it been two... or even more)? Either way, that's impressive! Even if I never plan to publish myself... full props to you. You have more guts than I've ever dreamt of having. And while I might be too broke to buy a copy (sadly), I've been following your updates on your potion story for a while, and from the excerpts I've seen... you are good at writing!

Because why not, I'm also going to call out @joyfulpolicehologram here. Continuing to write fan-fics despite widespread disapproval from those close to you? YES. And I can juggle 70+ characters, each with a backstory and the whole nine yards, but the very notion of writing fan-fic makes me want to run away crying. And the only reason I followed you in the first place is because I saw an excerpt of some of your writing, and it was damned good. Keep it up. You've got a talent.

There's also @faelanvance. Sure, we don't interact much. But you really promote other writers! You're willing to share the spotlight on your blog and you've got a discerning eye. If I'm not mistaken, at least some of the writers I've followed I've only learned through your reblogs. You have good taste. And it seems your writing is also downright excellent. Not only an excellent food critic, but an excellent chef as well (to make some culinary comparisons).

One more. @sleepyowlwrites. Where does the endless fount of positivity come from? I don't get it. It's like nothing gets you down. If I were working some of the shifts it seems you are, I'd lose my mind, and I certainly wouldn't have the energy to run an active writeblr blog. I don't have the energy to do that half the time anyway. You might be sleepy, but I admire the heck outta you.

Now, if you're one of my followers and I didn't mention you, please don't take it personally. Like I said before, I'm rather drunk at the moment. These are just the first six people I thought of before my fingers started getting tired. Six seemed like a good number at the time.

I will probably get embarrassed and delete this tomorrow, when I finally wake up.

But in the meantime... thanks, Writeblr. I didn't know what I was missing. You all are great. 😊

[jalapenobee]

Almost thanksgiving what r u guys thankful for

[ask-subspace]

my name is eef and w

..What??

Why are you all so weird!!

[feltwrong]

If you have a really great AO3 username and you leave kudos on one of my fics, I want you to know that I will notice and I will appreciate you.

[13o7billionyearsinthemaking]

New Pikmin fans coming into the fandom after years of statically is so golden, like holy shit- I don't recognize this artstyle!

[nonbinarytheatrekid07]

After all the hate that tumblr gets I wasn't expecting it to be the best website I have ever joined

[nastyaex]

and i mean it in the best way possible

[valiantphantomangel]

Happy New Year 🎆🎇.

Thank you to the 12 people that follow me, you all melt my heart ❤️.

I hope you all have a wonderful new year and never forget. Your a boss bitch 😎

[dragons-eat-people]

dragons-eat-people  Blog Q/A

Here it is, the little Q & A I wanted and decided to put together for this blog! I’m honestly quite surprised with how much I’ve grown on here, let alone get content noticed! I’m extremely appreciative and I value every single one of of you lovelies, let you be pred, prey, or even just an observer. (Which I’ll make something on soon! <3) But moving on!

This post is directly for questions of any kind. (They will be answered in another post in due time.) The questions can be personal (Just be thoughtful! Obvs nothing too personal.), basic, just about anything! Doesn’t even have to be vore related if you don’t want it to be. After all, it’s your question, silly! 

I’d like to see this as you all getting to know this mysterious dragon a little better. Of course, I’ll even post questions to the community too, just like my previous post. I like reading about other’s opinions..(And some of y’all are real cute with your thoughts, just sayin’.) 

But that’s the gist! Leave questions here, I don’t mind how much, I’ll get to every single one eventually. 

[lilypixels]

(Different anon suhahsuahsuha I'm a typology nerd I was summoned) I reread your story only paying attention on Victor and I got some Si (Introverted Sensing) vibes from him so I suspect he's one of the xSxJ types, but as I don't know much about him I'd leave it to you (bc you're the writer). If you're curious I suggest reading about cognitive functions instead of the letters, bc the letters are actually just "codes" to the functions the type uses and in which order they come by so (1/2)

Sjdjdjdiloveyouajdkd the fact someone reread story so far to help indicate their possible mbti types and that you like to do this has me over the moon aaa

When rereading the like “behaviors” associated with the letters you gave, I can see it and think you are very much on to something🤔🤔

I see all this as being my next distraction loll we will all figure their mbti types out together

[lynnzo-things]

hi

[tarchey]

Last anon mustve some issues with apologizing or something.

Anyway heres a heart for you💕

Yep, sounds about right. But I’m good. it’s totally fine. I probably just won’t answer asks from them any more if there actually come new ones, problem solved.

[pokimoko]

I can't keep being fundamentally changed as a person by animated movies, it's just not sustainable.

[soulmvtes]

girls and the inherent loneliness they have felt all their lives

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.