#apothifamilial

[i-suggest-afam]

It is my opinion that apothifamilials deserve 10 million dollars and a cool rock in return for all the shit that they have to put up with.

Honestly, all afamspecs. But apothifamilials specifically. Shouting y’all out today.

[neptune-scythe]

hugest shout-out to heartless a-specs, afamilials, aplatonics, loveless folks, repulsed a-specs and whatever the micro label is where your aspec identity is tied to neurodivergence/disability I shamefully never remember what that one's called

but yeah special shout out for pride month

[your-fav-is-afamilial]

Aran Ryan is Apothifamilial

ARAN RYAN from PUNCHOUT is APOTHIFAMILIAL

flag source

[madtrender]

Apothifamilial: a term for familial-repulsed afamilials.

Flag colors: red represents blood, which is associated with family. Also ties to the phrase "blood [of the covenant] is thicker than water [of the womb]".

[our-afamspec-experience]

apothifamilial culture is trying not to grimace when family is mentioned in any way

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[receivingtranny]

DID Apothi-

source - Survivors Network, Our Queer Stories, LGBTQIA Wiki

A flag for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder who are also apothisexual/apothifamilial/apothiattractional/e.t.c.

[officeobject]

Also aplatonics and afamilials (I can't speak for them and yes I'm sure some can like the holiday, or not outright HATE it, or use it as a self-care day or a normal day, etc, but I mean, like, when people be like "ah don't worry, you can spend the time with your FAMILY!", and stuff. I'm quite obviously not aplatonic afamilial though).

Happy Valentine's Day

[afam-culture-is]

Apothifamilial age regressor culture is…

Yes, I want to be taken care of. Yes, I want to be treated like a child. No, I am not *your* child, and I will not be referred to as such. I will not call you any terms of endearment that imply relation. Being my caregiver does not mean that you are like a mother, father, or older sibling, and any implication of that makes me nauseous.

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[aromantichc]

Got a request with a non aro hc asking if it was ok, if that was you anon, yes it is!!!!

Its always ok to send in additional headcanons (in fact, you can send up to 10 labels if you want!) !!!!

All headcanons featuring good-faith identities are welcome, so long as it meets the criteria (must include arospec label and must not include anything on the blacklist)

You can also add non-mogai if you want, for example

"I headcanon character from media as cupioromantic, apothifamilial, and heterosexual. I also headcanons character as having bpd and using xe/xeir pronouns!"

Would be a valid request and would be posted !

More examples of valid requests are:

"I headcanon character from media as lithromantic"

"Character from media" - allowed but note it will be posted as aromantic with no further explanation, if you want more detail please send those in!

"Character from media is aromantic and aegoplatonic"

A examples of requests that would not be posted are:

"I headcanon character from media as aromantic and radqueer" - includes blacklisted label

"I headcanon character as aromantic" - does not include media

"I headcanon character from media as asexual" - does not include aro label

"I headcanon character from harry potter as aromantic" - includes blacklisted media

"I headcanon character from media as aromantic, asexual, aplatonic, pupgender, bi oriented, bigender, trans male, and afamilial. character is also autistic, adhd, and has npd and aspd" - includes more than 10 labels

I get a lot of asks about what is allowed and what isn't, and if you can add extra headcanons, so here is extra info! For any other information please check the pinned post! If it isn't covered then send an ask :]

[i-suggest-afam]

hello! I have a question about being afamilial; does "not experiencing/feeling familial bonds" only apply to your blood relatives / the "family" you grew up with (like adoptive family), or does it apply to any kind of familial-like structure (like found family / any close person in your life that you would consider your "family" thru emotional bonds)?

i don't feel any familial bonds for anyone in my blood family so i'm questioning afamilial. however, i do have this teacher i'm super close with and whom i kinda consider as a father figure, because he's helped me a lot with accepting my masculinity as a trans guy, and overall he's been super kind to me about anything from academics to life stuff even after i graduated high school. other than that, sometimes (not always) i also find comfort in family dynamics portrayed in fictional media. does that count?

thank you so much! ^^

Well, afamiliality is a fairly wide spectrum. Made more complicated by the fact that we’re a smaller and less established community than a lot of other parts of the anattractional spectrum, so we have less terms and less clear definitions for a lot of our terms. There isn’t really a consensus on whether afamiliality just applies to blood relatives or to found family as well. Some of us don’t feel familial bonds with either. Others don’t feel familial attraction towards blood family, but enjoy found family. There are even afamilials who identify as such due to being repulsed by found family while not feeling similarly about blood relatives.

I personally identify as apothifamilial due to being repulsed by both my blood family and IRL found family dynamics. But I’m also questioning fictofamilial due to preferring a “found family dynamic” with certain fictional characters. I don’t think of that as negating my afamiliality. But I know that others with my exact same experiences might not identify the same way.

I wish you luck on your questioning. Three things. One, you don’t have to feel 0% familial attraction ever to identify as afamilial/afamspec. Greyfamiliality exists and is valid. Two, even if you decide you’re not afamspec, you’re still welcome on my blog. Three, if you just sent this ask to get “permission” from a “real afamilial” to identify as afamspec, you don’t need my permission. But I grant it anyway.

[pplatonic]

power move that your name is platonic but youre aplatonic. purely out of curiosity, can i ask what your labels ‘loveless heartless apothi-aroaceaplafam’ mean? feel free to ignore 👍 thanks

HAHA my name actually came long before I realized I was aplatonic, it's from one of my fictionkin Platonic the Phantom Thief from Evillious Chronicles

Loveless/heartless are both aromantic microlabels (though i see some people coining things like "loveless aplatonic" and such) and they mean pretty similar things. It's kind of a "fuck you, no, i don't feel any sort of love whatsoever." Loveless is just more about reclaiming the notions that aromantics can't feel love and heartless is more about reclaiming the stereotype that aromantics are heartless, to me at least. And im both because im hot 💪💪💪

Aroace is aromantic and asexual, aplafam is aplatonic and afamilial

Apothi- means the apothisexual/apothiromantic/apothiplatonic/apothifamilial microlables, meaning i'm entirely repulsed by these attractions and never want that type of relationship

[eldorr]

Can u make apothifamilial flag for me plz? Thank u @belinhagamer999 💚

requests are currently closed, I also recommend asking someone else in general to make the flag, I'm not the best with re-creating existing formats.

[madtrender]

Fellow afamspecs, how do yall feel abt nicher terms like amaternal (lack of maternal love, as in not loving your mother)? Or stuff like arecipromaternal (repulsion to being viewed as a mother)?

[our-afamspec-experience]

My apothifamilial/caedfamilial experience is OH MY GOD I HATE MY SISTER SO FUCKING MUCH I WANT TO NEVER SEE HER AGAIN BECAUSE I KNOW I’LL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER EVER.

And I remember when my mom told me that she was up at night crying because she was scared once I left for college she’d never see me again. This was the night after a fight with my parents got a bit too heated and I accidentally let slip that I fantasize about abandoning them when I’m old enough to make my own decisions. That I count down until I’m a legal adult so that I can choose, and that I won’t choose them. My parents told me she was crying. That she was heartbroken.

BUT NO. YOU DON’T GET TO CRY. YOU DON’T GET TO NEVER ONCE TRY TO RESPECT ME AND THEN GET MAD AT THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR OWN ACTIONS. YOU DON’T GET TO TREAT ME LIKE THE “LESSER SIBLING” AND GET MAD THAT THE END RESULT IS A BROTHER WHO DOESN’T LOVE YOU.

I’m sorry. I’m just frustrated right now. I’m trying to repress all my emotions about this, but not to the point where I start dissociating. I hate this. I hate “family first”.

🖤🩶🤍❤️

🖤🩶🤍❤️

[our-afamspec-experience]

My apothifamilial experience is constantly questioning or second-guessing my repulsion because, you know, I don’t actively hate these people. I can’t. I am quite literally forced to be around them. If I hated them, I’d just be miserable. Because it’s not like I can avoid them whenever I want.

So I’ll be enjoying myself with them and having fun and thinking “this is kinda nice” and then I start being all like “wait, am I actually apothifam? because I’m enjoying my family right now. I’m enjoying myself. do I have to turn in my repulsion card?”

Then not even an hour later I’ll be doing something with them and the familial repulsion will hit me like a truck. And I’ll be all, “Oh my stars oh my stars I need to get out of here I can’t do this right now this isn’t fair this isn’t fair I hate this”

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[radiomogai]

[ID: A flag with 7 horizontal stripes. The outer two on each side, from outside to inside, go from dark red, to light red, to light pink. The middle stripe is black. At the center of this flag is a large black 'X'. /End ID]

ID by OP

Apothifamilial: a term for familial-repulsed afamilials.

Flag colors: red represents blood, which is associated with family. Also ties to the phrase "blood [of the covenant] is thicker than water [of the womb]".