#confused terfs

[somethingusefulfromflorida]

I hate correcting customers who call me ma'am and miss and honey over the phone, because only about 30 percent of the time do they apologize and start calling me sir, while 70 percent of the time they double down assuming I was trans and continue misgendering me on purpose to show how little respect they have for me as a human being. "Thank you, MISS."

I'm a cis man, for the record.

Whenever I correct someone and they keep it up, I simply refuse service. "Oh, I'm sorry, we're completeley booked up the day you wanted. Yeah, no, we're booked up on your backup dates too. Looks like our next opening isn't until, hmm, mid-November. Oh, but it doesn't have enough beds for your party. We could probably fit you in around New Years, but you'd have to change rooms every day. You might wanna try [more expensive motel] a few blocks north of us, they might have vacancies. Have a good day."

I've been able to dodge what few complaints we've gotten so far because they all tell my boss that they just spoke to a very nasty woman, and she has no idea who they're talking about. "You must have dialed the wrong number, because I'm the only woman here, and I didn't talk to you." That PISSES THEM OFF, and she doesn't understand why they respond with "well we've been staying there for years, but we're never coming back." They think she's protecting me, an afab trans man, and are disgusted by it, but from her perspective they're just crazy people who are complaining about made up bullshit; it doesn't even cross her mind that they're talking about me. Why would it?

My boss is like 70 or 75, and was a Republican until 2016. It's never come up in conversation, but something tells me she wouldn't exactly be a trans ally. I'm in a weird position here, and it's hilarious.

[acowardinmordor]

Fucked up thought as I do material spec: transmasc Eddie Munson who gets bullied and called a guy because of how he dresses and acts (transphobic so bad they looped back to what Eddie wants on accident) dating Steve post S2, who knows and supports him, but still has to misgender his bf in public until they can get out of Hawkins. Eddie fails again, they get in a fight about whether they should leave, and aren’t broken up, but aren’t really together as S3 starts. So when Eddie visits Scoops, Steve is so happy to see him that he calls him Eddie and he/him in public, just like the bullies, and can’t explain to Robin, who is absolutely pissed that Steve is treating her Eddie like that.

[axolotlclown]

I'm gonna be honest, that aimsey response isn't enough for me. It comes off as deflecting rather than taking the responsibility of having a large platform requires. This rhetoric hurts real people, and as usual these days, trans people are always the center of it. I am very tired of pretending that this rhetoric has anything to do with lesbian spaces. It doesn't.

Who benefits from telling other people what they can or cannot identify as? Who benefits from explicit separation of communities? Who benefits from targeting and attacking fellow queer people?

Please think critically for a moment before regurgitating random opinions you find online. You do not know who made those posts.

[pansyfemme]

tgirl here. faggot is absolutely not a terf dog whistle. keep saying it it’s good for society like rain gardens and public libraries. faggot faggot faggot faggot <3

thank you for your wisdom.. People get REALLY mad about me saying faggot and then are like quick! lets prove this guy’s not queer! and then they realize that i’m queer any way you look at it and start making shit up lmao.. I never got why! I mean. I started using it after i looked into old trans writings and zines and realized how affectionatly even a harsh word could be used.. i love my friends and my friends are faggots and faggots are my friends…

[anti-terf-posts]

I'm a gendie I'm a TRA I'm a troon I'm a tranny I'm everything the terfs think they have to use against me, because I'll never let them have any power over me

[edwardallenpoe]

man I sure do hope people who say that trans people don't have to present hyper-binary or be passable are normal about masc/butch trans people, including trans women who don't want surgeries or hrt or use she/her pronouns. Man I sure do hope they don't just mean femme trans men and exclude trans women and nonbinary masculine people. Man I sure do hope that they aren't super fucking weird about masculinity, especially when performed by trans women.

[femmeidiot]

that anon was right actually they used they/them pronouns for me and told me I'm not a woman. gender #affirmed

[phantasm-masquerade]

how on earth can you say "ACAB" if you have genocidal hatred for a class of people??

[kaleidoscopic-quiddity]

for anyone wondering about current public opinion on trans ppl in the uk, tories have #boycottcostacoffee trending on twitter bc this mural put on a random costa express van for brighton pride last year shows a person w/ top surgery scars and apparantly thats 'glorifying the irreversible mutilation of young women's bodies', so yeah, we're doing great (:

[urfavehasterfbangs]

Leia Organa

Princess Leia is a TERF!

[thetelesterion]

didn't think i'd need to make a post like this, but if you're a terf, or "gender critical," don't fucking follow me. don't interact with me, just fuck the hell off. i don't want anything to do with you or your bullshit.

[xueyuverse]

I don't know if I've ever gotten this confused, but I want to make it very clear that I'm not transmasculine, I'm non-binary with a masculine gender expression, meaning my pronouns are he/him, but my gender is neutral.

[lilyliveredlittlerichboy]

"how are you 24 and still have a gender identity" is something i just had to read with my own two eyes on a terf blog. i guess they won't like it when they find out about me, who is older than that and has 57 different gender identities. or all of my other trans friends in their 30s and 40s and older who are living very happy lives with their gender identities. terfs are so far removed from reality they really think you can grow out of gender huh

[lockandkeyhyena]

i thought you were trans MASC. Not a full on dude.

This is crazy. This really shows me that lesbianism has no place for amabs.

oh well you live and you learn. 🤷🏾‍♀️

HUH????? what. does this mean?? im so confused. i’m not a lesbian, nor am i amab where did you get that idea