#fuck purity culture and purity policing

[mswyrr]

thinking about how the sex scenes in The Handmaiden are about a sexual abuse survivor claiming consensual sex and pleasure for herself for the first time in her life and they’re important to her journey and the romance. and there are a lot of people who are like: NO. eeewwwww. grrrooossss. rip it up by the roots! ~bad representation~

[thevillainsfangirl]

I saw someone say that Jarley shippers try really hard to convince people (or convince ourselves??) that Joker isn't abusive.

No, we don't, actually. We simply understand that 2 horrible people (who are horrible with and without each other) harming each other does not result in one (1) party being the abuser.

Why are you so thirsty to defend a serial killer and make her seem like a victim? (I know why: It's because she has a vagina.)

And before you idiots say, "He turned her bad!!"

No. He didn't. Harley was never a good, or even decent, person. She also thought being a criminal sounded "glamorous," but I can't find that panel.

And even if they did have a one-sided abusive relationship, and Harley wasn't a horrible person... Okay? And? They're fictional characters, Karen. It is never that serious. Take off your Puritan "IT'S A BAD INFLUENCE" hat. It is never a writer's or fan's job to water down stories because you let TV and books raise your kids.

[coockie8]

It's so painfully obvious that it's just a puritanical, anti-sex thing, 'cause if antis actually believed their own logic, if they actually believed what you enjoy in fiction reflects what you want IRL, horror fandoms wouldn't be overflowing with them.

They're perfectly capable of understanding that watching someone get split open by a monster doesn't mean the viewer wants to get split open by a monster, but as soon as *gasp* sex comes into the picture, suddenly every person on the planet has the moral backbone of a zygote and can't tell the difference between fiction and reality.

They know exactly what they are doing. They don't actually think loli porn makes people pedophiles, or that incest porn will make you fuck your mom or something, they just want the entire internet to cater exclusively to what they want to see, and everyone else can drown.

[strangedreamings]

Just saw a post stating that an actor needs to justify something their character is rumored to do in his show's upcoming season.

Are you fucking shitting me?

Since when does an actor need to be their character's defense lawyer?

This is the same fucked-up mentality that says authors need to spell out every bad thing their character does and why it's immoral.

Bridgerton fans, I know you're upset about the rumors but fucking hell, don't let the purity police fool you into thinking actors need to take responsibility for their characters' decisions.

[deranged-fandom-quotes-archive]

This just in! Local MHA psycho thinks calling people out over objects is acceptable! Further dehumanizing children, claiming that they are nothing more than objects by making such a comparison! Oh wow, are we ever surprised! Shock! Horror! Antis think children are objects!

[nando161mando]

I’m so fucking tired of the purity politics!!

[inactiveblog2023]

Unpopular opinion: don't like, don't read

Yes, 100%. Imo i think this is actually a common opinion amongst the general population, because people tend to simply avoid what they don't like.

But the i-know-i'll-hate-it-but-i'll-engage-with-it-anyway-and-then-complain-about-it mentality saturates fandom spaces.

from the ask game

[thwipsthrown]

'proshippers dni' tell me you havent learned media literacy without telling me

[bisexualseraphim]

Just saw someone try to cancel The Time Traveller’s Wife for being “problematic” because he meets his wife as a child sometimes.

Think that’s my sign to log off and go to bed

[sapphirerose93]

WHAT. THE. FUCK?!? Fuck off with purity bullshit!! It is a parent's job to prepare their children for the world, not shelter them from it! Talk to your children about anatomy and sex education! Let them take those classes, with actual information and education, not just abstinence bullshit or scare tactics!! Do not lie to them and pull fucked up shit like this to "keep them pure"! If you think this is funny or okay, you are fucked up!!

[edenslice]

actually, now that i've had time to think about it and actually discuss it w people i know irl, i guess i align myself as pro-fiction?

no, i don't condone crimes and sexual assault. i'm just saying i'm extremely anti-censorship and dead dove: do not eat media has every right to exist. ain't it just stupid to argue about niche fandom bullshit like this..........there is Life outside your phone........just block and move on regardless of how morally fucked up the content is

[set-wingedwarrior]

Fandom became so unsufferable, thanks for turning my favorite hobby and comfortable space into a fucking minefield!

[airlockfailure]

Fandom Puriteens

THIS IS ABOUT FICTIONAL CONTENT MADE IN FANDOM NOT REAL LIFE NOT PUBLISHED LITERATURE (though maybe you all should go fucking read an actual book, maybe 1984 or Brave New World or Animal Farm, and take a class on media literacy)

For every one of you #triggered by dark/explicit content in fics I need you to understand and respect a few things here. I know it's hard for you. I know it's difficult to get out of your own #purelife #tradwife #everclearmind bullshit, but for Christ's sake sit your pansy ass down and listen to me right now.

You control yourself, not other people.

Dark content won't cause the universe to implode or society to collapse.

Outlawing dark content doesn't stop people from writing dark content. It doesn't stop people from making dark content art.

Imprisoning/killing people doesn't stop any of the things you're pearl clutching about. It makes new dark content for us to explore.

What the hell are you doing at the devil's sacrament? We warned you.

"But the childr-" See fucking point number fucking one. YOU CONTROL YOURSELF. IF YOU ARE A CHILD: Going behind your parents' backs and disobeying the boundaries they have set for you is the fastest way to get yourself into serious danger! Turn around, do not pass go, go tell your parents what you've done and fucking stay out of adult only spaces. The ADULT ONLY is the boundary!!

Outlawing ADULT ONLY doesn't fix anything. See points 3 and 4.

FUCKING HELL I HAVE BEEN THROUGH MULTIPLE LEVELS OF BULLSHITRY AND HELL AND I'M SICK OF THE PURITEENS AND MORALITY POLICE SAYING I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EXPLORE THAT IN FIC.

Because it gives them the "ewwies". BOO HOO. "BUT AIRLOCK, I'VE BEEN THROUGH BULLSHITRY HELL AND I'M DISGUSTED" Shh

Sit down. Here's tissues, a blanket, and cocoa. See point number 5. Really though, tags man, why are you here? You knew going in this would upset you.

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You are not a saint just because you shit on the already dirty and rotten.

They will come for you. Eventually.

"But I never-"

Eventually.

Eventually you will also be too impure.

This is how it always goes.

You become the thought/MORALITY police of your peers. The HOA of sin. Your friend beebeebee or whatever gets banned for posting a sketch of Blorbo 9000 biting their lip. Five years later beebeebee is arrested IRL for kissing their gender non-conforming partner in public. You think "no way, kissing???" Bitch, you get arrested a day later for owning a vibrator. Siri reported your purchase. "But I only have this cheap vibrator to clear out my sinuses!!!! I'm not dirty!!!" No one cares, sweet cheeks. Literally no one cares because everyone knows the sick fucks like you are liars and freaks.

And your pure, pearl clutching government of perfect virgin mindhood MURDERED everyone who might have stood up for you.

For fuck's sake, at this rate, we're not going to be able to talk to our therapists about the trauma we've been through because we might "corrupt the therapist's #puremind" and traumatize them.

DEAR FUCKING GOD

Keep your children out of adult only spaces, and control your fucking self. You are the problem. YOU.

[lightningbig]

I think the slow ego death of fandom can be pin pointed directly to the first use of the term stantwt actually

[nonbinary-strawberry]

some of you bitches don’t understand corruption arcs and it shows

[ranger-kellyn]

you know, i was having a cool lumity dream last night. i don't remember all the details, but i remember having a ton of fun being in luz's spot and doing magic and these giant sky whales and ancient sky temples that ended up crashing into the ocean, where we then had to get all the tiny talking animals to a special island where they would be safe.

but the part i'm frustrated about was remembering flirting with amity the whole time, and specifically saying, "i can't remember the last time someone made me feel this warm" bUT THEN RIGHT AFTER...realizing i was dreaming, and remembering that i'm 28 and freaking myself out for hitting on a fictional 16 year old and like force ejecting myself out of the dream. even thOUGH IN THE DREAM I WAS ALSO LIKE. 16 AGAIN. AAAAAAAAAAAAAA