#let people be people

[schroedingerslesbian]

The thing with radical feminism is that it’s built on the principle of hating men indiscriminately, which, from my understanding, is sort of what got women into the position we’re in now where hating men for oppressing us is just a way to cope and try to fix things. The movement only exists because men oppressed women indiscriminately in the past. Men have historically exercised their power over women, they have oppressed and abused women, and those men specifically who abused and oppressed women should have been punished for it, but not the entire male gender for the crime of existing and being taught the wrong thing by their parents. No one should be able to oppress or hate another group generally for being who they are — did we not learn either of these lessons from Nazi Germany? It seems worth noting anyway, considering the radical feminist ideal is also being supported by neonazis. Anyway, the other thing is that radical feminism operates under the assumption that it’s natural for a man to want to oppress women. The only reason it would be “natural” for a man to oppress a woman would be because it’s ingrained in society, not because of a genetic predisposition to hatred on the man’s part like TERFs assume.

There’s a study that I think is relevant here, and if I can find it I’ll link it. In this study, all of the older male monkeys in a group were removed from the group, and because none of the younger male monkeys were taught to be violent there were no cases of violence in the troop. I know exactly how certain people will take this, but this isn’t the whole story; it’s not just the men that are the problem for us as humans, and it never was. We need to remove all hatred and desire for violence between groups from the equation if anyone is to move forward, otherwise nothing will ever change. The oppressors may change, but the cycle of oppression will go unbroken.

[itsscottiesstark]

I had a dream that SOMEHOW my little sister (which I don't have irl btw, idk what was up with that) and David's children ended up in the same school and it was pick-up time and I was waiting outside to pick her up and then David appeared with hoodies and glasses and stuff and then he did all sorts of gimmicks to get rid of the paparazzi waiting for him (he would disappear one way, switch clothes and then run the other way and whatnot) and I felt so bad for him and I remember thinking "all that to pick his kids up from school" so I took it as my sign to say that for the love of god we should let people be people and forget about "celebrities". They're as entitled to a personal life as we all are.

[sodacowboy]

I am not immune to trying to look my best when I’m out in public but I am sick and fucking tired of this dress for your body type don’t wear these colors they wash you out don’t use hair ties adopt a twelve step skin care routine bullshit

[jewishvitya]

Just saw a woman sharing that she and her wife got divorced, just ready to cry, and a comment was like "a lesbian divorce??? 😱"

Good job, whoever you are. It's not enough that she's dealing with all the grief of a lost relationship and all the changes that come with it, you should also make her feel like she's failing at being gay for not fitting the impossible standard of pure and perfect relationships.

[not-in-public]

I didn't know I'd have so many feelings about this, but here we go.

Kit Connor's announcement regarding his sexuality has sickened me. Worse still was that the pressure he felt under to do so came from individuals claiming to be pro-queer.

I cannot stress this enough: I fail to see how this kind of behaviour can ever be seen as pro-queer? How can forcing an individual to publicly share a personal part of themselves *ever* be something other than a witch hunt?

My sexuality has always been ambiguous. I'm happy without a definite label and I've happily navigated life without "coming out" to those nearest and dearest to me.

Am I comfortable discussing sexuality around those same people? Absolutely. Have they ever pressured me to explain my sexuality? Of course not.

Not a single human on this good green earth is required to define a personal aspect of themselves for another human being.

Let's drop the discord around queerbaiting. Hell, I'd be happy to drop the discord around coming out. Let humans love the humans they want. Let them fancy the humans they want.

We now live in a society where my happily self-certified heterosexual husband can walk down the street and swoon over another man. Does he need to explore, define, announce his sexuality beyond this? I dearly hope not. Long may his eye boggling of other men continue.

This is why requiring labels on someone's sexuality is damaging. It places artificial boundaries on those we can and cannot feel attraction to.

However, I entirely understand and support others' desire to adopt and embrace those labels. If defining your sexuality brings peace, that is fan-bloody-tastic as far as I'm concerned.

Life does not and will never occur in black and white. Let's live in those beautiful shades of grey.

Shame on anyone who believes otherwise. I hope you are proud of yourself for forcing someone still in adolescence to publicly announce what it took me nearly double that time to feel comfortable enough to accept in myself.

Finally, please don't confuse my sentiments above for a lack of understanding regarding queerphobia, homophobia, biphobia or any such hate crime. Today's world is a far cry from perfect. We still have a long way to go before every human feels loved and accepted for who they are. However, I think it's time to embrace how far we've come.

[koobiie]

shoutout to everyone who wants to infodump but cant string together coherent thoughts to form sentences and instead just look at you like this

[nikrei]

I keep seeing people use this image as a reaction to people's original posts:

Which I think is really incorrect, because with an original post they haven't come up to ur window, u've come up to their window.

So I made this, as a more accurate reaction for original posts:

[stimmingandstruggling]

more good news from tiktok: they’ve started blocking celebrities.

they’re calling it block party 2024. just blocking and ignoring countless celebrities who havent said shit about palestine. influencers, actors, anyone who went to the met gala, whatever, they’re getting blocked. and people keep talking about how cathartic it is, how good it feels, how they never realized they could DO that. there was some kind of subconscious law against blocking famous people, but it’s broken, and people are LOVING it. and it’s WORKING. a social media/digital advertising coordinator was talking about how ad companies are PANICKING, because they can’t accurately target anymore. so many big influencers, including fucking LIZZO started talking about palestine the MOMENT their follower counts started going down. and the best part? no one is forgiving them. lizzo posted a tiktok asking people to donate to palestinian families, and all the comments just said you’re a multimillionaire. put your money where your mouth is. blocked.

i feel like i’m witnessing the downfall of celebrity culture, right here right now. people are waking up.

[cloud-ya]

outcast of the village

[littlelightfish]

I hope you see my vision

[lazylittledragon]

can't believe we're all adults being forced into the club penguin level of censorship in 2024

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

I think one of the kindest things you can do for people with various mental health struggles is just... let people back into your life after they've been absent for a while.

Making friends as an adult is so fucking hard already and isolating yourself from other people is a very common symptom of depression, anxiety, burnout, ocd, trauma, grief, etc. Which means that someone will do the hard work of recovery/healing and resurface back into a world where their previous friends have written them off because they stopped showing up.

So if you know someone where you're like "yeah we could have been better friends but they fell off the map a bit" and that person suddenly reaches out, or starts showing up to events even though you kind of forgot they were still in the group chat... well they may have been Going Through It and you don't actually have to punish them for their absence you can just be glad that they're back.

[ionomycin]

Grief

ref photo by @jawsstone

[liquidstar]

If my mom sees a significant amount of blood she gets lightheaded, and has fainted on some occasions. Once it happened when we were kids, I wasn't there to witness it but I heard the story from my dad. Basically my brothers, around 7 or 8 at the time, were playing outside while my mom was making their lunch, and she accidentally cut her finger. It wasn't anything serious, but it drew a fair bit of blood and she passed out. My dad saw this and rushed over, but he didn't really know what to do so he just sort of started slapping her to wake her up (not recommended, but he had no idea and panicked)

At that exact moment my brothers both came in from playing, and all they saw was our mom unconscious on the floor and our dad slapping her. So, like, without even saying a word to each other they both just INSTANTLY start whaling on him, like, full blown attack mode to defend our mom. Which obviously didn't help the situation, but she did wake up and everything was fine.

Now our dad says that he's actually really glad they attacked him over what they thought was going on, because it means he raised good boys. And I still think that's true, they're very good boys.

[ingravinoveritas]

"We've all got to be fighting that fight every day."

Happy Pride, everyone...

[greykolla-art]

My blog has become infested with angst goblins, and they must be fed with some hypothetical scenarios!🙏💚