#misgender

[austim]

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[ftmslutsposts]

force my legs open and make fun of my wetness

tell me all about how girly it is to be getting off on this. how my soaking wet cunt defines me before i even open my mouth. laugh while your cock penetrates me. i might be resisting, but my cunt isn’t.

[maxkirin]

what people do when they misgender a pet: - apologize - use the right pronouns

what people do when they misgender a person: - argue - complain - drag their feet - keep using the wrong pronouns

[cate-geo]

You know what sucks when getting misgendered

Is when people are actually being genuinely polite

Like being called “ma’am” or “sir”

“Tell the nice lady what ice cream you want”

“Oh the lovely gentleman at the front desk told us to go to the second floor”

Getting deadnamed in a positive review on yelp or from your boss

It’s not malicious. It’s genuine ignorance. They’re being nice and it sometimes feels weird to correct them because you don’t wanna dampen the conversation

But every nice comment still feels like being betrayed. Puts a pit in your stomach.

It sucks.

[scary-lasagna]

Hello! Could I get Brian/Hoodie comforting his partner after being misgendered who struggles with their body image and such because they often get misgendered. Like, they feel that no matter what they do, they'll never be seen as the gender that they identify with? (It's been hard recently, and need some fluff from my favorite boy)

Brian

"Hey...Hey, are you alright?"

You lay curled up in a little depression ball in your bed, the squeaking giving away your hiccups of tears and quiet screams.

Brian gingerly approached the bed, and the smell of the forest that lingered on his clothes blew toward you from the ceiling fan pumping away.

The bed depressed as Brian took his seat, leaning over the covers to place a hand on your arm.

You didn't reply, and simply tensed, another silent cry expelling into your pillow.

Brian sighed and kicked off his boots, then scooted over the covers toward you. He reached over your trembling body, and placed a soothing palm against your hot forehead.

"How are you?" His voice held a certain airy smoothness to it, like nothing was wrong at all. “Hm?” He continued to press gently, needing a starting point in order to help you the way he knows how.

His cool hand felt relieving against your puffy face, and you sucked in a shaky breath, but couldn’t dare to muster the strength to speak.

Brian took a sigh himself, and crawled in under the covers behind you. His firm arms scooped you toward him, giving a good squeeze before relaxing around your torso.

“I’m not quite sure what’s bothering you right now, and I won’t ask if you’re not willing to tell, but I have a feeling that I know what it’s about.”

You didn’t reply, but you did shimmy enough under the covers to where you could turn over and bury your face deep into that forest-scented yankee candle smelling jacket of his.

“I know who you are. You know who you are. And everyone else can shove it.” He pets your hair back, and gives you a kiss on the forehead.

Brain continues taking as you meekly look up at him, feeling safest in your vulnerable state, “You’re always going to be your own worst critic. And one day you’ll go beyond the need of validation from others. You’ll be free of their blindness to see who you really are, and frankly, you won’t care what they call you, because you’ll know exactly who you are.”

A classic Brain smirk plasters his face. A signature “It’s going to be alright” face.

He pauses and thinks. “It’s kinda like if someone came up to your and said ‘Your skin in purple!’, but you’re confused, because your skin isn’t purple, so you write them off as crazy and continue shopping for lettuce at Krogers.”

You speak up for the first time, your voice cracks from the crying but still carry the air with a joke, “Why are people harassing others in the lettuce isle?”

“I just think lettuce makes a lot of people angry these days, it’s something in the pesticides.”

You manage a weak laugh, hating for easily he can crack a good joke in the darkest of times.

“How about you stay in bed for a little bit more, I’ll grab you some water, and we can go shopping tomorrow for whatever gives the most euphoria. And Hell, if that means Hot Topic pronoun pins, then so be it.”

[mtftmgo0n3r]

today I had a dream about me being a man ✨

I was so muscular, hairy and masculine

I was free from this constante pressure to pretend that I'm a girl just because I believed stupid shit and now I can't get off without feeling stupid

But deeply I know that this doesn't even make any sense, I'm a boy and always has been 💕

Trans is not real

Trans is only a fetish and you know it

We deserve to get beaten!

[transenbyconfessions]

My family constantly misgenders me even though they know I'm non-binary, but I'm too much of a wuss to tell them my actual pronouns

Submitted June 21, 2023

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

“One of the things that is a classic trope of the religious bigot, is while they’re denying people their rights, they claim that their rights are being denied. While they are persecuting people, they claim to be persecuted. While they are behaving colossally offensively, they claim to be the offended party. It’s upside down world.“ -- Salman Rushdie

You'd be hard pressed to find more visceral epithets than those coming from "The Right Side of History™."

[carolyn-magazine]

Misgendering.

Just don't.

Misgendering is the act of using the wrong pronouns when talking to or about someone. Example: Susie uses he/him pronouns. You would misgender him by saying, "Susie is such a great knitter; she knows so much." Saying "Susie is such a great knitter; he knows so much" uses Susie's correct pronouns.

I know it can be confusing, but if you pay attention to the pronouns someone uses, and if you don't want to purposefully hurt them, you'll be okay. What if you aren't sure which pronouns someone uses? Ask them. They'll be thankful you did!

Have you ever misgendered someone?

I'm sure a lot of us have have mistakenly misgendered someone. I'm guilty of doing it at least twice (that I know of 🤔) and I still remember both times. Several years ago I was on the phone with someone named Brooklyn (a customer service agent) who happened to have a higher pitched voice. I felt horribly when he corrected me, but I didn't go overboard with my apology, and I thanked him for correcting me. Don't judge a book by its cover!

Another time I was chatting with my tumblr friend @kat-eleven about Elliot Page when he came out as trans. I initiated the conversation with Kat because I was so happy for Elliot Page, and after she replied, I literally misgendered Elliot Page in my next message by saying "I'm so happy for her!" Thankfully, Kat immediately corrected me! I felt like a total idiot, but I learned my lesson to pay attention to the words I say.

Have you ever been misgendered?

I'm sure it's happened to some of us while on the phone with someone we don't know, e.g., a customer service agent, a realtor, etc., and they make an assumption based on our names or voices and use "sir" or "ma'am"; opposite the gender with which we identify.

How did it feel being mistaken for the opposite gender? Did it bother you, but not enough to say anything? Were you distressed enough to correct the person? I guarantee you at least noticed when it happened.

Now that you know how it made you feel, think about how it would affect a trans person. Trans people suffer the effects of gender dysphoria every day, and being misgendered greatly exacerbates the effects associated with gender dysphoria.

Gender dysphoria is the sense of unease that a person has because of a mismatch between their biological sex and their gender identity, e.g., assigned male at birth but identifying as female. This sense of unease can cause intense anxiety, leading to depression, and having a harmful impact on daily life.

Per an article by Shannon Imani on the website justleadwa.org, "Misgendering is harmful in that it can have detrimental and long-lasting effects on their mental health." Additionally, "It denies a person the autonomy to determine and outwardly express their gender, whether it was done unintentionally or maliciously. Denying a person their autonomy is a form of violence and coercion. At a basic level, it highlights the power dynamics between cisgender and transgender people, who is allowed to enforce how they should be referred to, and who has the power to make another feel lesser than because of their gender." (Shannon, 2022).

This isn't to say cisgender people (gender matches their sex assigned at birth) are the only ones misgendering others, because they're not; transgender people do it as well. I've been misgendered by a few trans people and they each realized what they did and corrected themselves.

I'm trans and I am misgendered quite often, mostly by coworkers...three coworkers, to be specific, and I've corrected them each time. It's been five years since I started my transition and they're still doing it. It hurts and gender dysphoria kicks my ass harder each time it happens. I think five years is more than enough time for anyone to not mistakenly misgender someone. It's to the point where I'm close to looking into a transfer to an area where no one knows me.

Please, please think about the affects it will have on others and be aware of the words you say. :)

Thank you.

xoxo

Reference:

Shannon, Imani, Jan. 18, 2022, The Importance of Not Misgendering Someone, www.justleadwa.org, https://justleadwa.org/2022/01/18/the-importance-of-not-misgendering-someone/ .

[f1shpotatoes]

I wish it was easier to explain to people that though I use they/them pronouns if you WERE to misgender me I would like she/her pronouns without them assuming that means I identify more so as a girl. I think it’s a reaction to being amab so I want to distance myself from the concept and in doing so I have leaned into feminine aspects of myself, so she/her pronouns feel more correct for that aspect of my identity, while at the same time I don’t identify as a girl. At the same time I think that while distancing MYSELF from the masculine identity placed upon me, I don’t need to distance myself from MY OWN masculine identity, and I don’t need to distance myself from cis amab people I’m friends with, and the friendship dynamics that come from those friendships.

[ftmslutsposts]

per my last poll. isn’t done yet, but the winner is obvious.

[junkieboyfriend]

Thinking about the time I broke up with my gf in high school and her nonbinary friend (she was probably cheating with them let's be real) who was super anti-transphobic, deadnamed me and misgendered me in an online post slandering me. Then my ex was so disgusted by it that she used her alt to DM me and apologize because you shouldn't deadname and misgender someone because they dumped your friend wtf?? You'd think a nonbinary person of all things would understand...

[72dogs37cats1me]

[ghostboyyyyy]

I got misgendered (counting it as the first bc he knew my pronouns and still invalidated them) and now I see so much transphobia everywhere