#narc abuse does not exist

[a-sip-of-milo]

It's always infuriated me hearing people say that children have it easy. It's only gotten worse as I've gotten older and have been able to reflect on my childhood and see the children around me grow up.

They do not have it easy. They don't get a say in most important things. They're seen is unintelligent, yet expected to understand things that full grown adults struggle with.

They've got a job, which is school, that is actually proven to not be working for a lot of them; myself included. They're expected to sit still and in silence for at least forty minutes at a time, and those with ADHD are treated as though they're immature and lazy because they often physically can't do it.

Far too many of them have abusive parents that lie through their teeth to make people think everything is fine, and of course, who would believe the child over the parent?

Aspects of abuse has been normalised. Parents are sympathised with when children open up about the things they've gone through, especially if they're not physical. They're told that their parents are only doing this because they love them, or that the child needs to start seeing things from their point of view. Meanwhile, adults can freely complain about their children on public forums and to friends and family and get away with it because "it's hard being a parent".

Fuck off and do better.

DNI Believers of narcissistic/borderline/anti-social/histrionic abuse.

[witch-of-the-creek]

Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

"Guys don't worry, we're not targeting pwNPD! All cluster b personality disorders are abusive!"

i think i should be allowed to hunt egotypicals for sport

[empath-abuse-awareness]

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful, they deserve to be proud for all that they have survived especially with such a distressing disorder

[neurotypicalabusesurvivor]

Society is built around the expectation that people can feel guilty, remorse and empathy. Because of this all empaths have tremendous power over people with NPD and people with ASPD.

Most abusers never see a day in jail because their behavior is either socially acceptable or they are protected in some way by how society is set up.

This isn't true for narcissists and anti socials, are jails are full with people of these two neurotypes because they are not protected by society the same way as abusers are.

We are throwing the child trauma survivors in jail while their abusers get away with their behavior. This is why I am fighting for cluster B acceptance and against the concept of narc abuse.

[sirenium]

If you're against self diagnosis, that's ableist. If you're against neopronouns and xenogenders, that's ableist (neurotypical allistics use those things as well, but it's commonly used as a tool by neurodivergent people to express their gender. Myself included).

If you preach about 'narcissistic abuse', you're being ableist. If you say autism isn't a disability, that's ableism (it's a spectrum disorder for a reason!) if you fakeclaim people, that's fucking ableist.

If you use a crazy font or typing quirk and don't provide plain text translations, that's ableist, and so is not adding banner IDs for your DNI banners and similar stuff. Edit for this one: if you can't do these things for any reason, that isn't being ableist; I mostly had people who refuse to do these things cuz it'll ruin their 'aesthetic' in mind.

Feel free to add on.

[pathetic-crashing]

Pinning this post to say something very important:

NARC ABUSE DOESN'T EXIST

and if you believe it does then you should educate yourself.

and no, nobody says your trauma didn't happen, it's just not ok to armchair diagnose people with NPD just to demonize people who actually have it who didn't do shit to you.

[sillynarcissist]

maybe it's a Symptoms Of The Disorder but I love how those "empaths" are so afraid of me. oh do please go on about how I have evil, dark eyes and am a master as controlling people and inhuman; makes me feel special

[a-sip-of-milo]

[witch-of-the-creek]

After that post that was going around yesterday about how to ‘banish a narcissist,’ I think this needs to be said

If you think narcissist is just another term you can use for self-centered abuser, or stars forbid use the term narc abuse, then get away from me. Unfollow me. Block me.

Narcissism is a personality disorder. A real actual medical issue.

The amount of stigma people with npd face is killing these people. Stigma that use of the word narcissistic in place of abusive or self centered is actively contributing to.

Anyone with any disorder or disability or illness can be an abuser, but you don’t see people going around saying terms like ‘anxious abuse’ or ‘adhd abuse’ even when anxiety can cause someone to lash out and hurt others and adhd can cause inattentive neglect

You can just say abuse. You can say self centered.

Do not throw people with npd under the bus. Do not use your trauma to justify ableism and sanism.

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

I hate having NPD so much and it ruins my life but when I see someone being ableist towards us I immediately become the most neuropunk mad pride proud narc you've ever seen

[neurotypicalabusesurvivor]

Dispite what narc abuse truthers will have you believe, most abusers can feel empathy, they just dehumanize the people they abused.

The vast majority of abuser do not have ASPD or NPD. They just don't see you as 100% human. They dehumanize you.

Yes having ASPD or NPD may influence how they go about it but that doesn't mean it is the root caused.

Or do you think people with ASPD and/or NPD are immune to the patarachy, racism, queerphobia, capitalism and all the other systems which drive people to abuse and dehumanize others?

[reignybaby]

oooo look at me, im a narc!!! im gonna use my narc abuse on you! oooo fear me!

[92fs]

"Narcissists only care about themselves" is probably the biggest lie ever spread about our condition. At the end of the day we care about our presentation in the eye of another. Narcissists literally care about everyone around us and what they think first, ourselves - second. I swear some of you all hear "narcissist" and imagine some Gotham-style mastermind pulling all the strings when most of us are very much on a tight, suffocating leash of social fulfillment and satisfaction.

UPD: t*rfs/r*dfems kys

[narcitism]

with how horribly narcissists are treated i could say my parents used to hit me and people would tell me i manipulated them into doing it

[pile-of-trauma]

if i see one more stupid fucking tweet about "narcissistic abuse/recovery" im gonna fucking explode i swear.

also, get this, i found something really fucked up.

WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS??? THERES A FUCKING CRINGY ASS TOKEN AGAINST NARCISSISTIC ABUSE!!

they're literally using the idiotic idea of narcissistic abuse for their pathetic cringecoin, ponzi scheme!