#narc abuse isn’t real

[narcitism]

my abuser had brown hair im a victim of brunette abuse :(

[necroticcadaver]

I love talking about myself.

You ask me questions about myself? I could spend literal hours happily talking about me.

[empath-abuse-awareness]

People being upset that you’re saying bad things about them and their friends is not evidence that they’re bad people

[mimikyu-chr]

to all all the ‘narc abuse’ believers; NPD havers haven’t hurt you just by existing. someone’s npd didn’t abuse you, they did. try swapping out your words, ‘flu abuse’, ‘anxious abuse’. dosent work? does it. that’s because (say it with me) a disorder can’t hurt you, but a person can.

and to all my ‘mean scary narcs’; i love you. you’re not inherently abusive, you’re not a bad person because of a disorder that, let’s face it, was probably caused by trauma. you can be in healthy relationships and you deserve to be here.

[whackacole3]

when i say “narc abuse isn’t real” i mean the term and the term alone. your trauma is valid and your abuse was real, you’re just not calling it by the right name. that is all. describe the abuse, not the abuser.

[alicent-hightowers-spouse]

OMFG I JUST ENTERED TIKTOK AND I SWERA TO GOD THIS WOMAN LEGIT SAID “I dated someone who was possessed by a demon, AKA a narcissist 🤪”. Like. What the fuck.

Bro do they…. Do they like actually think we aren’t people? 💀

[blackhat-organization]

oh my god shut up narc abuse isnt real

SOOOO tired of being called an abuser for fucking existing im just a silly little guy fuck off im not bothering you!!

im not invalidating your abuse or trauma but blame the abuser not the disorder PLEASE? like ill just be existing and whoops! i guess im an abuser now because i have a disorder! like pls, stfu, luv u!

;3

if u have an issue w that send me an ask i wont bite (hard)

[mischiefmanifold]

reminder that @c-ptsdrecovery is ableist against personality disorders

[queen-of-weird-girl-nation]

Narcissists absolutely rock. Hope you guys are ok and have a wonderful life. Sending love and high fives. Don’t let the stupid ableism get you down, you are all special and matter

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

“actually narc abuse is real bc I’M cluster b and it actually DID make me abusive!”

um. that’s sounds like a you problem ngl…

[narcitism]

reblog to kiss a narcissist on the mouth (with passion)

[aronarchy]

[garagegalaxy]

btw i love you (/p) people w personality disorders.

yes this includes npd, bpd, aspd, literally any of them. you guys are so cool and don’t deserve the stigmas. you guys didn’t choose to have these but that doesn’t make you any less of a person.

also here’s a cat photo for you

[ultrabright-flashlight]

I don’t know who needs to hear this but no mentally ill person is capable of evil that you are not. We are capable of abusing others, yes, but so are you. Our capacity to hurt people is the same as yours because to abuse is to make a choice, it is not something out of your control.

Narcissistic abuse isn’t real because pwNPD are not capable of abusing others in a way that people without NPD are not. If you have been hurt by one of them, well you’re capable of doing the same things as them. You are not better than them just because you don’t have a certain condition. You may tell me ‘a narc will destroy you to your core’ but so will you.

And I have been hurt by someone with BPD. I should have kicked her to the curb sooner than I did. I shouldn’t have let her hurt me like that. But you know what? The things she did to hurt me? People in my past who didn’t have BPD did the same things to me. Why would I blame her disorder for what she did if it’s clear that she didn’t need it to make that happen? She chose to be like that.

You are working in the favor of your abusers by blaming their behavior on mental illnesses. You’re handing them a get out of jail free card on a silver platter. Worse, you’re burning vulnerable people who did nothing wrong at the same time. Don’t absolve your abuser of guilt. Acknowledge that they chose to be the way they did.

[whackacole3]

Your little ego is hurt seeing victims talk about your shitty personalities, isn't it? Bother your small brain to learn about narcissistic abuse before flooding ACTUAL victim support tags maybe? People who deny others abuse absolutely deserve whatever shit representation they get. People's lives are getting ruined and you're here with your "it" pronouns silencing actual narcissistic abuse victims. It's so triggering, i hope the karma hits you like a fucking bus soon. Damn abuse apologist cult.

okay, so if i understand you properly; 1.) you think i’m offended with these silly asks in the slightest??? 2.) you want me to stop using your tags when y’all frequent ours? is that what i’m hearing? 3.) you fakeclaiming the abuse and neglect i went through because i formed a disorder you don’t like, 4.) i’m somehow denying abuse by saying “your trauma is valid and your abuse was real, you’re just using the wrong term”, 5.) transphobia!!! wow. i can’t believe i was transpbobiced on tumblr dot com. odd, huh? 6.) you sent me harm threats for asking to be treated like a human… okay 🤔

1.) i just respond to these asks because i have nothing better to do and i like getting in the “last word” or whatever. i would like to change someone’s mind and open there eyes, but if i don’t, whatever. but still, if you think i actually care or you’ll somehow change my mind, you’re sadly mistaken!

2.) people have been tagging like this for ages. it’s nothing special or unique to me. the day i can scroll through “npd” or “narcissistic personality disorder” without seeing y’all’s posts is the day i’ll stop trying to educate y’all using your own tags. but since that day will never come… neither will my end of the bargain!

3.) this is just… exactly what you claim i’m doing. do you not see the hypocrisy here? i never once said your abuse wasn’t real, just rather you use the wrong terminology for it… yet you come over here kicking and screaming saying my abuse and neglect as a child and teenager wasn’t real? seriously? okay. that makes total sense.

5.) i’m one of the few pwNPD who still have patience for the ones who demonize our disorder and don’t understand it. i always make sure to validate and tell the people reading what they went through actually happened… so you got the wrong fella LMAO

5.) it/its pronouns have existed and been used on people forever, honey. i’m not unique or special for using them. transphobia won’t get you anywhere in life. honestly? surprised you didn’t go for the neopronoun with this little rant. but 🤷‍♂️ it is what it is.

6.) this is just, again, hypocrisy at its finest. i don’t need to explain it to you because you know damn well what you meant when you said it. i’m well aquatinted go online stalking and harassment, so hit me with your best shot.

anyway, hope you’re doing well and obviously feel a bit better because this was emotionally charged. i hope you have a great day! 😊

[autopsyfreak]

trying to explain to people that narc abuse isn’t real is like talking to a fucking brick wall.