#narcissistic trauma

[dailydiarynquotes]

[sin-esthezia]

whenever i hear or see those “how to kill/defeat a narcissist” websites and shit it baffles me. like you’re telling me you want to kill rarity? you want to kill rainbow dash? you want to kill papyrus undertale? deadass?

[it-wasnt-your-fault]

It wasn’t your fault

It wasn’t your fault they treated you that way, it wasn’t your fault you accepted that treatment for so long, it wasn’t your fault you were taught abuse and neglect were what love is all about, it wasn’t your fault you thought it was all you deserved, it wasn’t your fault you fell for their fake charming character, it wasn’t your fault that you just wanted to be loved.

it wasn’t your fault

[roomwithavoid]

the haters aren’t gonna like this one but i’m right!

[trekahouse]

Do yourself a huge favor, and run as fast as you can from people who are running from their healing. Behaviors never lie. People who deny themselves in the mirror, will deny your reality and cause you your sanity.

Treka L. House

— when the mask slips, don’t talk yourself out of what you see. trust your intuition.

[actuallyverynormalbtw]

"oh well NPD abuse is recognized by professionals! its acedemically researched!"

wanna know what else is recognized by professionals? the autism speaks model of autism! that doesnt stop them from demonizing us.

wanna know what else is acedemically researched? addiction! that doesnt stop them from demonizing us.

euro-elitist structures, like acedemia, are more often than not biased against marginalized communities. including/especially the marginalized communities they are studying. you cannot cherry-pick which ideas to critique and which ideas to unquestionably apply.

think critically, and remember who benefits the most from the seperation and discourse within the neurodivergent community (hint: its not any of us).

[chaos-in-one]

People with npd: Hey can we not be treated like abusers just for our disorder and be treated like actual human beings instead of monsters?

'Narc abuse' mfs: Is this an excuse to trauma dump on a complete stranger who is most likely a trauma survivor already?

[vizthedatum]

I will not excuse abuse or disregard for my feelings/boundaries.

I will not enable my insecure attachment to a person who consistently exhibits this behavior.

I understand that maintaining insecure attachments is not the same as maintaining a relationship.

I will not settle for the veil of safety.

I want real safety.

I want real relationships.

[livingtrauma]

Narcissistic abuse is real and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You deserve a space to think about what happened to you and find a way to healing.

[escapingabuse]

[pile-of-trauma]

repeating this from my twitter account because i wrote well lol.. was just really tired of seeing narc abuse twitter fucks..

"narcissists lack humanity"

just.. fuck you.... seriously.. if you say that then you dont even know what a narcissist really is. you cant just completely condemn people you dont like. empathy doesnt equal good person. you have a shitty opinion too and you probably have empathy.

[dailydiarynquotes]

[nothing0fnothing]

It's shocking how pro-NPD you are. I love it.

So many blogs on narcissistic abuse tag there posts with NPD and are openly ableist against PwPD. I feel like the main issue, the actual problem of PwNPD with the term "Narcissistic abuse" is that at first, it's really hard to differentiate between people like you and ableist fuck heads. Sometimes I look at a post on n abuse, go oooh, I relate to this, open the blog, and it's like, some unhinged post about cluster B people being monsters. It's awful. And unfortunately a lot of people are like that

You're not tho!! And that's cool! I hope u have a nice day!!

Thank you so much it means so much to me when people appreciate my blog 💕

I have so much love for people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (pwNPD) specifically. They deserve empathy and respect and the common curtesy from the people discussing narcissistic abuse to educate themselves before stigmatising their disorder.

The disorder itself has strong evidence for an environmental factor and weaker evidence for a genetic one. Meaning that as far as scientists have observed, people who carry the gene for NPD will not develop it unless it is environmentally triggered. What's the environmental trigger for NPD? You guessed it, childhood abuse. It's why as a blog with a focus on support and education about abuse and a childhood abuse survivor myself, pwNPD feeling safe and seen in this blog is so important to me.

Overwhelmingly people with NPD feel that to acsess trauma informed safe spaces online, they have to keep their disorder a secret. They have a disorder caused by trauma, and they have to chose between being supported in their disorder or being supported in their trauma. How fucked up is that?

So many online spaces I've accessed, even some headed by people who claim to be psychology or therapy "experts" are filled with unchallenged misinformation. Discussions that use "narcissist" and "NPD" interchangeably, or that paint narcissistic abusers are people with secret NPD, lurking in the corners to come and get us get us. Its incorrect and rooted in ignorance for sure, but it does so much harm in abuse recovery spaces too. How are people with trauma supposed to learn and heal if what they understand about their trauma is wrong? Who benefits if abuse survivors are just learning to be fearful of other mentally ill people instead of how to recover and grow?

I've even seen self identified "experts" on narcissistic abuse, claiming that people with NPD are beyond help and support, the point being to revoke sympathy away from the abusers who deserve none, but who is this narrative actually harming? Abusers or people with NPD? We can pretend that this misinformation doesn't jump out of online support spaces and into real life, but anybody with a cluster B disorder who has tried to find a therapist will tell you otherwise.

It's an unpopular opinion in narcissistic abuse survivor spaces, but people with cluster B disorders need to be in abuse survivor spaces. Yes even *gasp* people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and people with Antisocial Personality Disorder. Education about narcissistic abuse needs to include how it affects people with NPD. Discussions about trauma need to be open to people with stigmatised trauma disorders.

Thank you for reading this entire essay btw. It's so important to me on this blog that people coming here under this, and thank you so much for seeing that. I hope you have a nice day too. 💕

[socialdragonflytarot27]

I used to do this all the time without realizing it until someone pointed it out to me.

[thefakersystem]

Anyways narc abuse is real. Narcissists just want to gaslight you to think it isn’t. Victims of narc abuse are valid.

[actuallyverynormalbtw]

having divorced parents is so easy like they both acknowledge the trauma The Other One gave me and i can play both sides talking shit about them and hey wait a minute why cant i trust anyone...