#neurodivergent love

[autismcultureis]

Autism/adhd culture is having the urge to bite people you love

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[snakeautistic]

I have this fear I’m not capable of handling emotional and romantic intimacy. I have really great friends but adding attraction and romance to all that sounds impossible. The entire dating ‘game’ is socializing on hard mode, and thats of course assuming you even have a chance to begin with. Not to mention my just absolutely minuscule dating pool, considering I’m a lesbian and I most likely would need my partner to be ND for it to ever work. It also just sounds like such a huge amount of work and time, especially becasye it’s very likely all of that investment and emotional openness will end in heartbreak.

It makes me sad because I do really want to experience that though. I do long for romantic connection. But I’m afraid if the opportunity were to present itself- and I suppose it sort of has, a few times, although it was never with anyone I really felt interested in- I wouldn’t be able to do it.

[alex-likest0es]

"oh haha yes I love you bestie" neurotypical friendships will never amount to "I will write poems thinking about you with the stupidest grin on my face but if someone asks if we're dating I will stab them repeatedly" neurodivergent bonds

[stardusthuntress]

TBB Drabble/Imagine - Tech!!!

Tech x GN!reader

I think the fastest way to turn Tech on, and the last thing he would expect to work on him, is to work on the heavy machinery of his ship with him. Wearing your normal workshop gear - like a tank top and work pants, hair pulled back, or wearing a headband or a bandana to keep the sweat out of your eyes. Something that would result in you leaning deep into the ship, bent over, talking to him while you work. Then to emerge, a bit frazzled, a bit smudged, still talking, clearly very skilled at what you are doing, asking for him to hand you a specific tool - which would require him to look at you.

I think he’d freeze mid-thought, just staring at you. Suddenly realizing that there are things that can turn him on, and it is just like his brothers told him. His mind blank, but aware of the warming of his cheeks, and your expectant gaze trained on him. But no words. No thoughts that he’d dare to voice aloud.

And then the laughter that reaches your eyes when you realize he’s errored out, and the gentle touch of your hand on his arm when he doesn’t respond, followed by a second hand gently cupping the side of his face. And his eyes trail to your lips, and then flick back to your eyes with fear of getting caught, but dreading the knowing look he definitely finds when he gets there. For the first time in his life, he's genuinely not sure what to do. For once Tech is completely speechless. Wanting nothing more than to melt away into the shadows. But stuck, rooted to the spot. No, rooted to your touch. Completely blank on what to do next. Simply hoping you will know, because he doesn’t.

And when you hug him, still giggling, he hugs back and lets his nose find its way to the crook of your neck. Knowing that, as illogical as it seems, he’d like nothing more than to stay right there for all eternity. One arm around your waist, one hand hanging on the bicep closest to where he’s nuzzled his way into your neck. And he just melts, knowing he’s found her. “The one” whatever that means. And if you’ll have him, he will be your loyal companion for the rest of his life. Because Tech knows this moment is hard to come by for a mind like his, that’s wired just a little differently, and yet you found your way here so easily, and you didn’t even have to try. And that’s why he loves you. Even if he just figured that out himself.

[overly-distressed-mouse]

MIRRORING. AS. A. LOVE. LANGUAGE. GOD I LOVE IT SO MUCH.

[takerunlie]

I want a cute girl to parallel play with. Like I’ll rest my head on her lap and play video games while she draws or reads or whatever. This feels more romantic in my head than the way I just described it but yes, that’s what I want.

[solusprime987]

Everything I'm about to say has been said by autistic individuals in the past but I just wanted to add my own thoughts, I'm aware that my words likely won't have much of an effect and that the majority of neurotypicals will just scroll past but for all those neurotypicals that couldn't care less there is just as many autistic people who are desperate to read something that makes them feel understood and less alone so writing this is entirely worth it in my opinion, long post ahead;

Being neurodivergent is hard, especially in a world that isn't built for us and is reluctant to make any changes to accommodate us and with the addition of social media we are constantly seeing harmful videos with even crueler comment sections, I'm not going to put any examples of that cruelty here because that completely defeats the point of this post but if you ask any neurodivergent person what the most nasty and mean spirited comment they've read or received directly is then you are going to hear an extensive and different list from every person you ask,

Seeing these things on a daily basis can ruin your self esteem and any confidence you have about being neurodivergent, now I'm not going to say any of the usual rubbish "just ignore it" "it's just jokes" "you shouldn't let it bother you" "just scroll away" because none of these sentences make even the slightest bit of difference when the videos and comments are so common place that they cannot be avoided,

All I can say from one autistic woman to every neurodiverse person that reads this post, You aren't alone <3 you have an entire community here to support and love you during the hard times and the good times whether you are undiagnosed, on the pathway to getting your diagnosis or already have your diagnosis you have an entire community here that has your back and will take you in with open arms (or a kind head nod if you don't like touch) reading books like Unmasking Autism by Dr Devon Price and going through tags such Actually autistic and neurodiversity will help you feel less alone and isolated particularly on tumblr and tiktok these tags are full of supporting and understanding neurodivergent people of all genders, sexualities and ethnicitys, you don't even have to directly communicate with them just watching their videos or reading their posts can help mitigate some of the negative feelings you have about your neurodivergentency.

As I said earlier in this post you will likely never be able to avoid the harmful stereotypes, the nasty comments and the ignorance that a lot of neurotypicals are full of but you can counter it by surrounding yourself with other people that understand and have similar experiences as you because we do exist and you are so so far from alone in this world even if it feels that way a lot of the time.

I'm extremely tired so this post might not make much sense and it's likely got more then a few grammer and spelling errors but I hope I got my point across well enough that it helps any neurodivergent individual who finds this post and gives them the reassurance they need, you aren't alone my friend and you are a beautiful and worthy person who's neurodivergency can be equally as beautiful <3

[adhdgirl-d96]

Aren't you afraid of how destabilizing it is to a person with ADHD to know that someone has your heart in their hands and can do whatever they please with it?

》 They can love it

》 They can destroy it

》 They can deceive it

》 They can confuse you so much that it causes you inexplicable pain.

Normally when people with ADHD fall in love, our joy and excitement may be more intense. We may feel a deep sense of intimacy and acceptance, perhaps for the first time. We may also increase our self-confidence, something many people with ADHD lack. The combination of feelings can be overwhelming for those of us with ADHD.

[alostlittleriverlotus]

one final brain ramble before I hop off Tumblr.

Being so fucking schizoid and antisocial and narcissistic that I don't give a shit about MA's special interest at all, but loving them so much as my safe person that I'll listen even if I'm bored out of my mind because I want them to be happy. Like I tell them I don't give a shit at all and laugh about it, but I make sure they know I DO want to hear it even if it bores me because if it makes them happy, it's important to me. Even if I'm sick of hearing about it or get really bored or half pay attention. They look happy. And that smile of theirs is what I love the most. I don't give a shit, but I love seeing them rant and I still collect the info in my head even if I'm bored out of my mind. Seeing the way they trip over their words, seeing the way they repeat themselves over and over again, seeing the way they mess up their grammar/wording sometimes, yet in pure excitement because this thing is important to them. That is so fucking beautiful. They listen to my special interest autistic adhd rambles so I do the same for them. And I let them know I don't particularly care, but to not be discouraged by my attitude because I like their autistic adhd rants. I really love them so much. They're the most special person in my life. This is one reason why they're my safe person.

[whatyadrawin]

You know when you love your partner so much that it scrambles your brain a bit?

Like, I want to peel their flesh and devour the sinewy tissues, I want to consume them whole and have them inside me with merged molecules and mixed DNA.

I want their consciousness to be rattling around my brain so my inner thoughts can interact with them as long as I live.

I want their spirit trapped inside my mortal vessel, so when I pass on, they come with me, and we can experience the afterlife at the same time and not alone.

I dont know what these feelings are, but there is a deep ancient longing in me that wants to preserve their every aspect so as not to be without them.

Outside of my head, I just give them all the love I can and make them feel safe and seen.

...I feel like an eldritch horror sometimes, I swear.

[biceratops7]

I wanted to thank you for your wonderful post about seeing more disabled couples in media. I'm disabled and ambulatory without assistance and my darling wife was and used assistive devices all through our marriage. We did the canes--> Rollator --> power chair -->

i'll never get over how strangely ableds would treat us. Dee used to joke that we got away with holding hands in public because everyone thought I was her nurse. Used to hear an old lyric in my head a lot: they don't know about us, and they've never heard of love.

We find a way. Love finds a way.

ps you are a doll.

pps my sweetie heard me singing along with the car radio when we were first together and she never, ever sang to it again bc she wanted to hear me instead.

sorry to flood you. thanks again.

This is literally the sweetest ask I've ever been sent wtf 😭, Holy shit I completely forgot the whole "people automatically assuming you aren't in a romantic relationship thing", that is so real. My partner and I both stim but he gets a bit more... stuck? with his? He was happy stimming at some stuffed animals and while I waited this woman literally came up next to me and was like "oh- *hand on heart*, how precious 😊" like we were watching my kid doing a little dance in the store. Her face when I was chipperly and loudly was like "That's my boyfriend! *turns to him* hey love we gotta get going :)" was so fucking priceless

[honeyglowfairy]

laying in bed watching a movie while my angel reads and hearing her pen go click click scribble scribble !! 🫶🏽👩🏽‍❤️‍💋‍👩🏻👩🏽‍❤️‍💋‍👩🏻🥺🩰⭐️⭐️☺️☺️💕💕🌷🌷🩷🩷✨✨🪩🪩💖💖

I also bust out laughing when it’s absolutely silent and have to show them what was funny of course

[criploveproject]

I made this blog over a month ago and fittingly haven’t had the spoons to make an introduction post until now. I want it to be perfect, but I’m going to settle for done because that’s life.

This blog is a place for me to document all the beautiful, complicated, and interconnected ways that crip love, trans love, neurodivergent love and queer love show up in my life. It’s intended to be a monument to those I love and a celebration of all the incredible ways I’m lucky enough to be loved by them in return.

It’s mostly for my own edification, but if you have any stories of love you would like to share, I would be delighted to hear them

[wiggispa0fartface]

a positive rant <3

I'm so grateful for my boyfriend.

My boyfriend (who's neurotypical) has been very open to learning about + very accepting + loving of my neurodiversity. He's helped vocalize for me when I'm non-verbal. He's tried to explain things to people about me that aren't easy for me to explain. He tries his best. He doesn't understand fully, I don't expect him to, but he tries and loves me none the less <33

He lets me doodle on his arm when I'm underestimulated. He tries to avoid things/situations that he knows overstimulate me or cause me anxiety. When I'm non-verbal he tells people "her talkie box is broken and is under repair" ( it makes me smile its so sillie). He helps me on things + explains things to me that don't make sense.

He just loves me for me, regardless of my differences. I love him so much in ways i can't jdndjskjdnekwndndndkdkdn <3333

[takerunlie]

I just wanna sit and listen while you gush about your special interest. Teach me everything about crabs, baby, or electrical motors. I’m sorry if I stare, it’s just because it’s the sexiest fucken thing ever, keep talking about the materials and techniques of basket weaving, it’s doing things to me.

[bisexualseraphim]

You know what, fuck it. Let’s show some love for the “unpleasant” autistics.

For the autistics who are always accused of being angry or moody when all they’re doing is sitting there.

For the autistics who take everything literally and respond sincerely.

For the autistics who come across as “blunt” or “rude” for being honest.

For the autistics who are called “control freaks” for needing a sense of order and routine.

For the autistics who get told to shut up for infodumping about uncomfortable topics.

For the autistics who find it too exhausting to mask and pretend to be sunny and friendly.

“Unpleasant” autistics, I love you.