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sundry-whovengerslocked · 12 days

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Doctor Who "Rogue" memes

I've made memes. enjoy.

(contains slight spoilers)

firstly, ones that are more encompassing:

regarding the episode itself:

and finally, Captain Jack Harkness stages of grief:

#doctor who #memes #the “salute the sky” one is my favorite #he really did just put his ship in orbit and went oh well the bitch is gone #poor fifteen may be apparently more healed but he has no idea how to deal with emotions other than cry and then ignore them #but we love him he's trying #also I thought those psychic earrings were soooo stupid but at the same time I loved them #like that was a classic “a bit silly but it works” doctor who thing #also this is the second time I've seen male presenting gays ballroom dancing and I am thriving #the other of course being aziracrow #I wanted to make a meme for that too but wasn't sure which to use #my memes #original post #rogue #doctor who rogue #rogue doctor who #the doctor #ruby sunday #the doctor x rogue #p.s. to clarify ik they're not actually erasing Jack Harkness it's just they're very clearly ignoring him completely and Rogue seems #somewhat like a replacement although he does have differences and I love him very dearly #also I put gay in quotes because the doctor is genderfluid/nonbinary and is simply at the moment male presenting and it didn't feel right #to somewhat diminish their identity by simplifying it - like how aziracrow are called gay and that's great but they're more complicated #than just that label #yasmin khan #yaz khan #fifteenth doctor #thirteenth doctor #fourteenth doctor

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dont-offend-the-bees · 21 days

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Fuck I hate being an adult. I need a more adult adult to help with the volatile emotional situation.

#I've sort of made a new friend? Like we met at the same art group and he's also trans which was like pleasantly surprising in our small town #but like. We have Differences Of Opinion #and it's not totally his fault because it sounds like he's had a Lot of bad shit in his past that's obviously made him wary and closed off #but like. He's slightly older than me (only 4 years) and keeps blaming a load of his problems on other trans folks?#like you know the type. The like 'all these nonbinary/other identities the kids are doing are complicating shit'#the 'it hurts to see people younger than me inc. kids get hormones thrown at them when I still can't get 'em' (which... yeah not even true)#and he's told me himself he doesn't engage much with the queer community bc it's too 'toxic'#and like. I can absolutely understand why he could've had some bad experiences esp. since he has some mental health shit going on #but he wants to be friends bc he doesn't know anyone else going through the medical shit and it's like. Yeah no shit you don't?#you decided the community you'd find them in is toxic? and that people in them are doing being trans wrong?#and I think if he was just some guy online I'd like roll my eyes and ignore him #but he's a real person in my vicinity and I feel fucking bad for him #and I can see how much self loathing he has and how much that probably informs the bullshit #like he told me he thinks that trans men and cis men are fundamentally different categories and trans men will never be cis men #but not in a 'the experiences are just different and come with different perspectives way'#in like a self defeating way. Like a I just have to settle for being a trans man way.#and it made me SO SAD #like bro #I'm so sorry for whoever the fuck made you feel like you're fighting an unwinnable battle #and I want to be a friend to him. I want him to feel like there's other queer people out there and there's friends and hope #but also I genuinely could see him being the kind of person who would get really angry at you for no fault of your own #like I already get the distinct feeling he resents me a little #like obviously not too much since he still wants to hang #but he's been trying and failing to get HRT for years and I got it super quickly basically by sheer luck/a doctor who looks out for me #like I'm so fucking lucky. And I just genuinely feel like he's the kind of person who might take that personally.#I just do not think I have the fucking. Emotional tool kit to salvage this shit #But I also can't exactly text him and say sorry I don't think we should hang out so. What do.#.....I wasn't even LOOKING for a new friend! I have enough friends!!! I wanted to make clay faces and look at pretty buildings dammit!!!#now I have to be the emotionally mature one who goes hmmm maybe let's not blame other depressed trans kids for our problems buddy #I'm just gonna have to be like. Upfront about my stance and if he doesn't like it well he doesn't have to hang out with me

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foxpost-generator · 1 year

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futch (fox butch)

#fox #butch #or a more complicated trans nonbinary lesbianesque creature identity that essentially boils down to fox and butch #(me)

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oreothefox715 · 8 days

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Decided to do a “Meet the Artist” since I didn’t have anything better to do :3

Gotta give @crown-of-roses-thsc a bit of credit for resurrecting my love for art and her character Valentine Copperbottom for unintentionally helping me find my chosen name ^^ so thanks Snickers!

ALSO HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!

(I’m so sticking tired…)

#the henry stickmin collection #meet the artist #yes my identity is that complicated FML #happy pride 🌈#aroace #bi lesbian #nonbinary #genderfluid #asexual #orantied aroace #abrosexual

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kafkaguy · 2 years

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havin a gender crisis at the train station lol #epic

#reading some lesbian comics and marvelling at the butch experience.......... and then also going into Brain Explode Mode bcos #of how similar it is to the transmasc experience #understanding why so many trans dudes are like 'oh what im just butch or a very masculine woman'#and butches are like 'oh what if im a trans guy'#THE VENN DIAGRAMS BRO. INTERSECTIONS AND CONNECTIONS AND SHARED EXPERIENCES #we are FRIENDS but also its making me feel all . What If She Pronouns. What If More Nonbinary Than I Thought...#cos the thing IS as a bisexual i do feel like my sexuality and gender identity are so intertwined its sometimes annoying #so i cannot think of it as like Ah Yes I Like Men Therefore Im a Homosexual #its a like. i like EVERYONE therefore i am EVERYTHING cos ALL my attraction feels Gay with a capital G #im gay for women im gay for men im gay for everything in between and outside #but i dont see my attraction to women as attraction to the opposite gender cos i dont see women as Opposite or necessarily separate #and vice versa i dont see my attraction to guys as . excuse the outdated language - 'same sex attraction'#because i dont necessarily see myself as A Man . yknow?#the binary is fucked identity is everchanging and ever molding and i am just a little wavelength of light floating through space #THEREFORE. idk where i was going with this #i just think that queerness and humanity are so much more complicated than any of us realise #and sometimes it is so frustrating and tiring seeing other people like me and wjth the same experiences as me #being so conservative and so assuming and trying to generalise something so personal #i am not Doing Trans Wrong . there is no wrong to be trans imo #and i also think we need to be kinder to detransitioned people + transmasc lesbians / transfem gays + nonbinary bisexuals ok thanks bye

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pinkcarabiner · 11 months

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i'm gonna talk about gender in the tags <3

#so i identified as nonbinary for two years #but i've never felt *conntected* to the label as i do with other parts of my identity like femme/high femme/lesbian etc #and i've recently just kinda been 'femme as gender'#and that makes a lot more sense to me #like i'll still call myself nonbinary to convey that i am *not* cis and *not* a woman #but it's really only a label i've used/still use just to get the point across #delete later #idk i've been thinking about this a lot #also growing up at the intersection of different cultures with such a strict definition of womanhood has really kinda messed #my understanding of *my* gender #because i have lots of thoughts and feelings and such a complicated relationship with femininity #but also he/him in a femme way <3

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motoroil-recs · 1 month

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I suppose this counts as a kinfession. I just wanted to state how sometimes it gets really frustrating to see sentients who are kin with a not binary character that uses they/them (see Kris from Deltarune) and them then using he/him. I get that it is their own memories and literally them, but I suppose after a while it feels like some sort of erasure to me? I hope that makes sense, and if anybody could explain more to make me more comfortable with this specific thing, that would be lovely as well. I always want to keep an open mind.

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#🏎️ — KINFESSION !#kinfession #kin blog #kin help #fictionkin #This is a fascinating concept that obviously doesn't have a straight answer.#It's purely subjective. But in my opinion. We have to first establish that who you were in source and in your memories is secondary to who #you are now.#So obviously. Your identity your change. The pronouns you go by can change.#And as a third person you are by all means allowed to feel squicked out by seeing that. I can't say I don't get squicked out when certain #cultural aspects of a character are disregarded by the people that are kin with them.#But if we were to police any of that. Then kinning would be immensely complicated and exclusionary in ways that do more harm than good.#We also cannot possibly assume someone's feelings towards their current or past gender identity. What if this hypothetical individual you'r #talking about *does* go by they/them but are still processing that part of their identity? What if they're nonbinary but choose to go by #he/him? We don't know!#We can't possibly know. And to make assumptions about people that are that complicated is too risky for me to be comfortable with.#I get where you're coming from. But I don't think it's something that 1) should ever be brought up to someone that is just trying to live #their life and 2) should ever come before the respect one has towards a person and their identity.#All in all. It's a fascinating subject I'm all for discussing. But not before stating that I consider the feelings of real people to be mor #important than the 'representation' a fictional character stands for.#Both because real people are people and not representation of anything. And because if you DID start going down this mental rabbithole I #think you would just drive yourself bonkers for no good reason.#I know I would.

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uncanny-tranny · 2 years

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i'm a genderfluid person who was AFAB. i've taken a lot of masculinizing transition steps and reached a point after top surgery where i just saw my sex as male. my gender was doing its own inconsistent thing, but i was doing my best to take it in stride. i thought i had it nailed down to a simple nonbinary & man back and forth.

and then less than a month ago my gender shifted to involve womanhood. i haven't been a girl in over a decade and i never anticipated being an adult woman. i don't know how to even describe what's happened to me in terms instead of explaining all of it, because i don't feel like a cis woman at all, especially since i still see my sex as male and i know my womanhood isn't binary. but i can't exactly call myself transfem or a trans woman either, since i was AFAB, but transmasc feels wrong now, as do other alignment terms. even neolabels i find don't fit.

I've had a full blown existential crisis over the past few weeks. i don't know what to do. :(

Oh, hey, anon... I felt kinda similar to you once I transitioned medically. Frankly, I think how you feel is common, so I hope you don't feel alone in this. It's absolutely not unheard of for your gender to evolve as you start to transition in the ways you want/need to.

If you don't want to use transmasculine, don't. It's clearly not right for you if you feel repelled by it, and that's okay! However, I can't help but think that if you want, you could use transfeminine - I'm of the opinion that transmasculine and transfeminine aren't necessarily telling you how somebody is transitioning. Not all trans women are transfeminine, in fact, I know plenty of women who say they're transmasculine in presentation and in the way they experience gender. The nature of labels is that they're... messy for some of us. That's why, in my pronouns page, I put "(trans)man(trans)woman" because I wanted people to know my gender is always trans, no matter what it is. My understanding of being multigender is inherently trans. I'm wondering if it might be helpful for you to just allow yourself to use the labels that spark joy - you might find yourself explaining how your identity works, perhaps, but I think you're coming at this in good faith.

Anon, being trans can be or feel messy, and that's okay! You're absolutely not the only "nonstandard" experience, and honestly, I think it's so common for people to know how you feel. I'm really hoping you can give yourself grace, and patience. Follow the joy. Transition shouldn't feel stifling, I think. I think transition means following the joy (or even just the indifference, it's complex).

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #my understanding of transmasc/transfem is different than others but it makes sense #but at the end of the day... this world is complicated. WE can be complicated. that's not a sin #like g-d i have met *so* many complex trans people and they are not harming anything by using the language they have available...#...to describe themselves most authentically...#...my issue only arises when somebody forces a label/identity onto somebody or when...#...somebody uses another person's identity as a bludgeon to be bigoted #good faith identities are not more harmful than any other aspect of queerness

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multishipper-baby · 10 months

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Random thoughts about gender headcanons.

#fnafhs #further thoughts: meg and deuz are/were so t4t you can't change my mind #owynn is weird about his gender. he doesn't fully know if he's nonbinary or just a gnc guy #he goes back and forth on it a lot during his life. gender is confusing #chica identifies herself as demigirl/boy because she sees herself as half girl half boy #he could just go by bigender but he feels like that doesn't fully represent how he feels #golden doesn't have a specific label. they have a lot of gender thoughts™#fred is in a weird situation. he's always been very toxic masculinity™ but then freddy came out as a trans girl #and that kind of turned his world around in a lot of ways tbh. it made him revaluate everything #he and freddy talked a lot about how transition would affect him and how they could compromise to both be comfortable in the body #it led to him reconsidering his own identity a lot #onnie... is more complicated. I have a lot of incoherent thoughts on him #and some are. weird. so let's save them for another day

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mueritos · 2 years

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why do you say the d slur if you arent a lesbian? /nm /genq

Im linking an old ask here to explain why I dont exactly believe in recent ideas about slur censorship in the queer community.

Long story short, not every queer slur is actually a slur, or a slur to everyone, and these words are used just as often by queer people because they feel a connection to them or because they want to honor the historical identities tied to them. I wont use these words for someone if they express discomfort, but these words have brought me and many other queer people comfort in our identities and solidarity in them. So yea, if a dyke/fag/homo/queer/fairy/pansy/etc wants me to call them that, i’ll do it because I want to honor them.

Also in the context of the post I used the word dyke for, its a book title, “dykes to watch out for”.

#muertoresponds #i explain in the ask thats linked too but like #i dont really get the rules of queer slur reclamation #theyre very different than racial slur reclamation #obvi dont reclaim a racial slur if youre not from that race #but for queer slurs any of those words can b used against you by bigots #theyre not gonna ask if youre actually a lesbian before callin u a dyke or whatever #so saying only lesbians can reclaim dyke erases that it can be launched at anyone #plus it erases various other identities who feel connected to the word dyke #like some transmen and transmascs and nonbinary people #its complicated #but id rather these words be used by queer people than they be used by cishets #and this doesnt negate that queer people can be viscious too #language is powerful and thats why we need to treat it respect #this is just one way i believe to do that #plus i hate the purification of queerness #i want dykes and fags back

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kalakilo · 4 months

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most cis people, no matter how open-minded they are about people who are genderqueer, don't actually understand gender diversity and are very close-minded when it comes to gender even if they themselves are queer in this essay i will

#i think about this SO MUCH #i also say this coming from someone who didnt get for example he/him lesbians before #and spent way too much time looking at queer identity discourse online #and then realised i was genderqueer and that gender is so much more complicated than man woman nonbinary #i truly dont think youcan understand gender diversity properly if youre not trans yourself. its so nuanced #maybe you can and im closeminded on that #gender

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dustyfairywings · 4 months

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#mizu is a nonbinary woman to me #i dont think she identified with masculinity cause that’s literally a mask she largely dons for safety #pero like i find it difficult to believe she has a normative sense of her own gender identity after living as a man for so many years #idk if being an nb woman makes her trans or spicy cis #there’s clearly a masculine dimension to her identity that was not fully embraced mikio or her mother #gnc cis woman?#eh whatever #mizu gives ‘woman but it’s complicated’ vibes #and like #yeah duh #ramblogging

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hetheyshe · 1 year

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still insane to me that i gave the biggest lesbian vibes in high school to absolutely everyone yet my deeply closeted super christian ass was like ummmmm hee hee i love men 😊

#text #calyx.txt #tbh i dont know what i am exactly at this point. im not straight and im not cis #and being a system doesnt help #its like hmmm maybe i am a lesbian? and then all the gay man alters are like um :) what about me :)#like me (as calyx) is definitely Not a lesbian bc hell yes men #but our other alter that are\were nonbinary and bi are like oh god ph fuck am i lesbeen???#and like. its fun to watch but also identity is so complicated #fuck it two spirit is a good match enough

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pochapal · 2 years

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