#rudeness

[palatinewolfsblog]

"Being rude is easy. It does not take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self-discipline and strong self-esteem. Being kind is not always easy when dealing with rude people. Kindness is a sign of a person who has done a lot of personal work and has come to a great self-understanding and wisdom. Choose to be kind over being right, and you’ll be right every time because kindness is a sign of strength." U.N. Owen.

[philosophybits]

Courtesy is the best part of culture, a kind of enchantment, and it wins the goodwill of all, just as rudeness wins only scorn and universal annoyance.

Baltasar Gracián, The Art of Worldly Wisdom

[philosophybitmaps]

[yesterdaysprint]

The Handbook of the Man of Fashion, 1847

[be-a-muslim-1st]

[polyamorousmisanthrope]

"... a dying culture invariably exhibits personal rudeness. Bad manners. Lack of consideration for others in minor matters. A loss of politeness, of gentle manners, is more significant than is a riot... This symptom is especially serious in that an individual displaying it never thinks of it as a sign of ill health, but as proof of his/her strength." -- Friday, Robert A. Heinlein

Most of the time, when this is quoted, the last sentence is left off, as it really comes in the next paragraph. However, I think it's important to the whole of the thought.

[rvspecter]

[jvgsjeff]

[wistsandmagic]

Can we talk about the fact that it is not okay to reach out and pat/touch/pull/scrunch/INSERT TOUCHING WORD OF CHOICE HERE someone's hair when you DO NOT HAVE PERMISSION?

I do not care who they are or what their hair looks like. If you do not have permission to touch, DO NOT TOUCH. It doesn't matter if it's pretty, if it's "unique", what their skin colour or hair colour or freakin' eye colour is, there is zero excuse for this amount of rudeness.

Also if we are complete and utter strangers, I probably am not going to give you permission to touch my hair even if you do ask me. I DO NOT KNOW YOU. If you are not my hairstylist you do not get free reign to just PET MY HAIR.

It seems to be overwhelmingly middle-aged white ladies that do this, but just as an fyi for anyone:

Ask permission. Don't get butthurt if you do not get permission to touch someone's hair. Most of the time, asking to touch someone's hair is creepy as hell regardless of the intent, so don't be surprised if you get told off. AND ABOVE ALL, DO NOT JUST REACH OUT AND FREAKIN' TOUCH SOMEONE'S HAIR WITHOUT ASKING AT ALL. WHAT IS WRONG with you people!?!?!?

Brought to you by: Mixed person who wore their hair in blue afro puffs today because she felt cute and got accosted in the bathroom at work by a middle-aged white woman who grabbed my puffs and PETTED ME LIKE A CAT WITHOUT SO MUCH AS A HI-HELLO-HOW-ARE-YOU. DO NOT BLOODY DO THIS.

[softhenrycavill]

[my-rose-tinted-glasses]

Boa tarde, just leaving these in the ask for no reason at all

[ae-cha08]

There’s a right way and a right time to address your differences. Do it calmly, express your concerns, and then leave it there. If it starts getting heated, walk away.

When you do it God’s way, He’ll fight your battles. He’ll change what needs to be changed. Do what you can to keep the atmosphere loving, kind, and peaceful. Be a person of honor and avoid the fight.

[uulitch]

"It's not a limitation"|⛧

[dollbotthing]

we can’t read cute fics. without choking so sorry if we seem rude. ok?

[tinybluebolts]

i wanna rant cus why tf are people so...fucking mean? like so RUDE for no reason? i saw a tiktok of a billie eilish concert, i think it was like an acoustic set so people were silent so they could listen yk. and this girl goes "i love this song", and this random dude says "shut the fuck up" like WHAT. cus she said "i love that song"???? she was so silent with it to, she wasnt screaming it. thats sooooo fucked up like what possesses you to be so damn rude about a little comment like that like are you well??? i hate it here goodbye. and everyone in the comments were like "i mean same"... i fear society is hitting a wall cus what is this behavoiur. rudeness is so normalized on tiktok and im afraid that the younger demographic will think that this behavouir is okay. cus it is NOT bro. we are derailing byeeeeeeeeeeeeee.