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[uncomfortablebutneeded]

Whatever you're not changing, you're choosing.

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Managing Anxiety When You Literally Cannot Leave Your House

Tips to overcome your immense feelings of debilitating anxiety on a day to day basis.

I’d just like to start this post by saying that I am not a medical professional. If you have debilitating feelings of anxiety inside of you, these are tips that worked for me to be able to still go to work, eat, and leave my bedroom. If you are suffering from something similar to what is detailed in this blog post, if you are able, please talk to your doctor and see what type of help you can get.

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I’m outgoing and I’m fun in an office environment. I can talk to strangers on the street without being worried about it. I’m probably considered somebody who is pretty socially apt on the outside. That is why it is so hard for me to talk about anxiety.

There was about a 2 year period in my life where every time I knew I had to leave my house, I would feel overwhelming feelings of needing to trap myself indoors because I was terrified to even show my face outside in fear of having to strike a conversation with somebody that I knew from work, school, or even my friends who didn’t like me.

It got so intense that it impacted my ability to work, get groceries, or go to school. Eventually leading me to drop out of university and cut hours at work, which leads to less income, which leads to more anxiety. A very fun cycle to find yourself in your late teens and early twenties!

Overcoming these feelings, I’ll admit, is something that I still struggle immensely with.

I’ve always been worried about things like this, I wasn’t able to eat in school when I was growing up and would never bring a lunch to elementary, middle, or high school because I was too scared of others thinking that I was fat. Whenever my family would laugh at anything, I would start crying and run away as a child because I assumed that they were making fun of me. I couldn’t leave my bedroom in houses I lived in because I was too scared of not knowing how to act when I saw my roommates.

Those were feelings of anxiety, that I now realize.

How do we silence feelings like this? Here are my small pieces of advice that may be able to help you at the beginning of your journey towards healing. These are some things that I would do daily to be able to still provide for myself.

Tell one person the full truth

If you can find one person to be completely honest within what is going on in your life. Even if this is a new person who you meet on a dating app, being unequivocally honest about yourself is going to help you accept who you are and feel more comfortable in your skin.

I’m not suggesting you open a conversation with “Hey, I have crippling anxiety issues”, but just ensuring that you are being your fullest version of yourself will help you understand yourself better.

Telling anybody about my anxiety was something that I wasn’t able to do until years after those feelings had dulled down within me. It is hard to express how severe your negative thoughts are, especially when you’re perceived as an extraverted person.

“Who Told You That?” - Observe your thoughts

When your head is overrun with thoughts that are anxious ask yourself “Who told you that?”, the answer, will most of the time be “nobody”.

Say, for example, you feel anxious because you heard two of your co-workers talking together and laughing, and your thoughts tell you that they’re laughing and gossiping about you and not talking about the billion other things there are to talk about in the world.

Step back, recognize your thought, and think to yourself “who told you that?”. Your mind loves to trick you into thinking that you are less powerful than you are, and identifying that your thoughts are only thoughts is an important part of your journey towards healing.

Imagine your thoughts being spoken to you by a person outside of yourself or a bird on your shoulder. I always visualized my thoughts as being inside of my brain, which means that they were trapped there. If you imagine your thoughts as a separate entity with all of the characteristics of your thoughts, you will be able to organize your thoughts into productive and useful information, and negative space-filling thoughts. I’d recommend the book The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer to anybody who’d like to learn more about this practice.

Wear a style that you don’t typically wear

This is very weird. But this is something that helped me leave my house on days when I was feeling tremendously anxious. I would put together outfits that were completely out of the ordinary for what I would typically wear. This helped me convince myself that if somebody saw me on the street, they wouldn’t know who I am. Or even better, because I was dressed so differently than I regularly do, they’d be intimidated by my (fabricated, at the time) self-esteem and would never come anywhere near me.

Pull your craziest and whackiest clothing out of your closest and throw it all together into one outfit and you’ll feel brand new, and like nobody you know will recognize you!

Wired Headphones and Sunglasses

Headphones with wires can be a saving grace. Even if I wasn’t listening to anything at all, I wore them everywhere that I went in order to ensure that nobody would speak to me or think to approach me.

Sunglasses are also a great way to ensure that nobody talks to you. It makes you look mysterious. PS. Walking briskly makes you look even more mysterious and cool.

Unusual Hours

Wake up! It’s 5 am! Time to go to the grocery store (and only buy nonperishable food items that I didn’t have to cook so that I would never need to see my roommates in the kitchen)!

Getting up early, and staying up very late helped me because I knew that at those hours it was going to be rare that people I knew were awake. I was able to feel a complete feeling of solitude and not being overwhelmed by the thought of other people’s presence or activity.

Though it left me very exhausted and in the need for constant naps, it was worth it for me to be able to go on walks and get outside of my bedroom.

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Thank you for reading this post and I hope that it provided you with some helpful insight on how to function as a human a bit better when you are feeling immense feelings of anxiety. I’d like to state again that I am not a medical professional by any means, and these are not a solution to issues of anxiety.

[lifejourn]

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your perception of you is the only perception that matters!! you are the only person that will ever truly know who you are, so take care of yourself .. stop letting what people choose to see you as affect who you KNOW YOURSELF TO BE! why do we do this to ourselves? we have to stop letting the opinions of others put us in bad spaces. opinions are overrated, they are everywhere, everyone has them & for whatever reason, most of them are negative but think of it this way:

because most people have no love & value for themselves, they will never understand the importance of being kind & loving to others! this world can be a cruel place, so full of hate & envy, jealousy & competition so i choose to spread love & light each chance i get. this is just one step toward making the world a better place.

[gameplanfreedom-blog]

Leadership exercises in bite sized pieces to fit your hectic life. Do you want to be an effective leader? Big Picture Thinking – Part 1 of 2 Show your people that they are an important part of something bigger than themselves. People achieve more when they understand their role and how that role fits into, and advances the organization’s success. This is done on a Macro level and a Micro level. Part 1 – Macro Level - Your Company, no matter how big or small has a Mission Statement or a driving philosophy to success. Everyone’s job plays an important role to the success of the company as a whole. Illustrate to your people this dotted line to them, and highlight the important work your employee does. Help them to understand that the organization’s success is directly impacted by their success. If you do this on a regular basis in different ways, you will make your people feel that their role is important and that they are truly needed. Stop back for Part 2 tomorrow. #leadershipschool #leadershipquote #entrapreneur #happinesschallenge #bosswoman #womenwhowork #successlife #successmentor #selfhelpblog #managementstudies #moneycoach #leadershipexcellence #mentorlife #managementtips #managementskills #businessconsultant #salescoaching #gameplanfreedom #therulestosuccess #leadershiptechniques (at Brooksville, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/BonSKYfBcT6/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1uhx6bfdpnyfp

[eviewright]

Hello. Welcome.

 I thought it would make sense for my first post to be a ‘get to know me’ sorta thing. I’m going to try and be as honest as possible with everything I say. I don’t want in anyway to make my life look better then it is or try to big up certain things. This is just me. 


I mean there isn’t too much to say but here goes.

My names Evie. I’m a 22 year old and a Leo. 



I currently live with my mum but will soon be living with my boyfriend in Norwich. I’m super excited to be able to create my own space. There will be plants everywhere!



I graduated in Graphic Communication about 2 years ago (those 2 years have gone by so fast).

I currently work as a Freelance designer, Etsy seller and dog sitter! 



My favourite drink is Pepsi Max (I’m addicted)

I could eat fruit and oats all day. I want some now.



I am very spiritual. Every morning when I wake up I pick 3 lesson cards (kinda like tarot cards but not so scary). They help give me guidance for that day. I also manifest on every new moon and try to write down everything I am feeling and thinking in my journal.

In my spare time I enjoy photography (I love taking pictures with my disposable camera), going to botanical gardens and doodling - one of the reasons I decided to start this blog.  

I’m vegan. I have been pescetarianism for years but only made the switch to becoming vegan at the beginning of 2018. I thought not being able to eat cream eggs would be really difficult. But it’s fine! I feel a lot healthier and in general feel a lot better about myself and who I am.

I have two Etsy shop. (Link at the top of the page, check them out…) I opened my first shop almost one year ago! The styles are both very different. One is watercolour and the other vectors. And then here we have, doodles…

 Anyway, that’s me! I’m going to try and put a new post up every week. Follow me on Instagram so you can stay up to date with when I post. See you soon!

[its-ml91-universe]

Никога не съм разбрала начина на мислене на хора, които съдят останалите по външния им вид. Тези дни се замислих за травмите, които хората несъзнателно нанасят на други хора, говорейки за техния външен вид. Най - засегнати се чувстват онези хора, които не са изградили своя начин на себеуважение. Какво представлява себеуважението и защо е толкова важно да го създадем? Това е психологически портрет на нашите вътрешна и външна обвивка,тоест съзнание и тяло. Ако ние определяме себе си като маловажни,недостойни, че другите са нещо повече от нас, то нашето тяло ще възпроизвежда точно такива неща за нас, за да може да скрие тревогите на съзнанието Това не е просто тяло! Мъдреците казват, че тялото е нашия храм, че каквото е мисленето на човек, толкова ще е здрав той. Абсолютно вярно е. Когато бях малка, бях закръглено дете. Виждах себе си в огледалото така, както ме наричаха и определяха другите. "Дебелана, мечка, слон, тюлен" и още много нарицателни, които оставиха най - голямата травма у мен, а именно ниското самочувствие. Тези травми се проявяват в ранна детска възраст и понякога остават за цял живот. Ако не им бъде обърнато внимание са способни да ви/ни превърнат в лабилни хора. Съвет към родителите. Ако детето ви някога ви сподели, подобен проблем. Изслушайте го и го прегърнете, покажете му как трябва да уважава себе си и тялото си, защото това тяло принадлежи на Земята. И е редно да го върнем здраво, такова каквото ни е дадено (винаги). Ти си красив, независимо как другите те определят. Днес осъзнавам последствията от това, да опредрляш другите, като недостойни. Ужасни са и пречиняват много щети. Освен, ако не намерим начин да го надрастнем и излекуваме. Ти си красив /а и нищо друго няма значение. #newpost #blogger #reblog #writingmood #writingmode #healthy #body #healthy #mind #hram #you #åre #beauty #selfhelpblog #SelfLove #selfcare #followforfollow #Instagram #facebook #Tumblr

[i-am-th3-maniac]

𝘞𝘩𝘰 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳? 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳? 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳? Humans have this funny way of saying things like:⁣ ⁣ 💬 When I meet the 𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝘆 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺𝘀, 𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦⁣ 💬 When I have 𝗺𝘆 𝗱𝗲𝗴𝗿𝗲𝗲, 𝘐'𝘭𝘭 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴⁣ 💬 When the ball drops in 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟭, 𝘐 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘩 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵⁣ ⁣ 𝗕𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗱 = 𝘠𝘖𝘜'𝘙𝘌 𝘎𝘐𝘝𝘐𝘕𝘎 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘍𝘙𝘌𝘌𝘋𝘖𝘔 + 𝘗𝘖𝘞𝘌𝘙 𝘈𝘞𝘈𝘠 to other people, objects, & time frames!!⁣ ⁣ 📍Why wait for a man to validate your ability be loved when you could strengthen the love you have for yourself.⁣ ⁣ 📍Why wait for the degree to validate your success when you can already view acceptance into the school, continued attendance, and new knowledge as a daily success?⁣ ⁣ 📍Why wait for the ball to drop in 2021 to say "This will be my year?"⁣ ⁣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂 have all the freedom & power in the world to create the life 𝘆𝗼𝘂 desire.⁣ ⁣ Don't wait for the next "𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯" when you could replace it with "𝘛𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺."⁣ ⁣ 𝙈𝙄𝙉𝘿𝙎𝙀𝙏 𝙎𝙃𝙄𝙁𝙏 ⬇️⁣ ⁣ 1️⃣ Take the "future person, object, time, etc." out of any of the above statements (or the statements you frequently say to yourself)⁣ 2️⃣ Turn what's left of those sentences into the presence tense⁣ 3️⃣ Say "Hello" to your new affirmations⁣ ⁣ If you used the above "💬" it would sound like this:⁣ ⁣ 💕 I am loved⁣ 💕 I am a success⁣ 💕 Every day is a fresh start⁣ ⁣ ❤ I have the freedom and power to create the life I desire⁣ ⁣ 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥/𝘰𝘳 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘢�� 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘮 𝘪𝘵?⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ .⁣ #intentionallove #meaningfuljourney #meaningfulllife #meaningfullearning #meaningfulliving #meaningfulrelationships #mindfulchoices #mindfulnesss #intentionallyfocused #affirmatioms #intentionbuilding #growthmode #growthroughlife #growthandmindset #personalgrowthblogger #affirmationoftheday #personalgrowthtips #selfhelpblog #selfhelpskills #growthegood #personalgrowthanddevelopment #changeyourmindset #selfhelptools #manifestyourdreams #manifestations https://www.instagram.com/p/CC-9J7kH6qQ/?igshid=1m3pz8y4jw60i

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"When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in." - Kristin Armstrong . . Low tide Moalboal Bay, South Cebu ______________________________ #cebublogger #lifestyleblogger #selfhelpblog #gratitudeforlife #ichoosehappiness #positivemindset #thankfulquotes #inspirationalquotes #peaceofmind #growthmindset #motivationalquotes #lifeisgood #tides #spiritualhealing #oceanlovers #natureaddicts #sunshinelover #beautifulearth #philippinesgram #instagood (at Philippines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BtmrXj0BQzp/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=gk2987em532i

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[uncomfortablebutneeded]

Yes, it is hard.

Yes, you will want to give up.

If you don't, you'll understand why you didn't.

[stainlesssteelsaysso]

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[luckystrayworrier-blog]

Whats next?

Last week I decided, after 6 months of feeling down and lonely, to resign from my job in Dubai, where I have been the last 3 years. 

I am terrified, I have no job, I will be moving back in with my parents in 3 weeks and I have no qualifications. Yet, I feel like a weight has been lifted. I will be moving back home to people who I miss dearly and I know will support me until I discover what to do next. 

I decided to start documenting my journey as, if this is something that I can do, for the sake of my happiness then anyone can! I am the most emotional worrier out there so I want to share my journey in the hopes that I become a success story, although I am ready for road bumps and I am not even sure what it is I want to be a success at. I know one thing for sure is I will be happy and in good company.

I don’t have all the answers, maybe none at all but I'm going to be sharing my journey to rediscovery and hope that it helps just one person to take the much needed leap too.

[gameplanfreedom-blog]

Free Leadership exercises in bite sized pieces to fit your hectic life. Do you want to be an effective leader? Always make time for people. Life is hectic and you probably have a dozen emails to return, reports to create, and payroll to do. But if someone walks into your office to talk to you, make time for them. Many times it’s only to shoot the breeze and that’s fine. To them it’s an important conversation. Resist the urge to talk to them while you are typing that email. Turn around to look at them and listen to them. You will make an impact on that person by giving them your undivided attention and you will build that relationship as a result. People and the relationships you build with them are your most valuable resource as a leader. #leadershipschool #leadershipquote #successlife #successmentor #selfhelpblog #leadershipexcellence #mentorlife #businessconsultant #salescoaching #managementtips #managementskills #managementstudies #moneycoach #bosswoman #womenwhowork #entrapreneur #happinesschallenge (at Brooksville, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/BoWrQT0hTty/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ei69dgpir7k3

[jo-the-monster]

Go to jothemonster.com/blog/mindfulpresents for tips to escape the Christmas Shopping Madness! FIGHT THE CONSUMERIST SOCIETY! #jothemonster #selfhelpblog #christmaspresents #xmasishere #itsbeginningtolookalotlikechristmas #mindfulpresents #shoppingspree #hedgehogsofinstagram #inkdrawing #drawingsforchildren #artforchildren #contemporaryart #artoninstagram #illustratorsoninstagram #presents #shoppingmadness #artblog #drawingoftheday #instadaily

[its-ml91-universe]

Ако някой ти каже "Харесваш ми, Обичам те, Ти си всичко за мен и искам да направя живота ти приказка" - Бягай от него!!! На всяка цена! Много хора ще питат "Защо?" Всъщност някога мислили сте, че вашата връзка е просто "обвързване" по дълг,защото обществото така казва и е редно в живота си да имаш човек. Вчера се сб��ъсках с следната ситуация: Виждаме се с познат от гимназията и той ми разказа, колко му е ок живота. Как е създал кариера, как е постигнал много за 5 години,но все нещо не му достига. Имал връзка с жена от 3 години, но се чувствал задушен. Бил с нея само, защото родителите ли му много я харесвали и не искал да ги разочерова. Слушах го внимателно и вникнах в историята му внимателно. Накрая само му казах "На този свят си дошъл, за да обичаш първо себе си! Нищо друго не е важно преди теб." В живота си съм имала две връзки, първата беше тип " Завържи се за мен" Нямаш право на свобода, нямаш право на избор, ако кажеш на някого "Хей, харесваш ми. Можем ли да сме приятели? Следваше серия от грандиозни скандали" Позната история за повечето, нали? Онзи ден с Т. си говорихме за домимамтностите във връзката. Един хипотетичен пример " Ей,аз съм мъжа във връзката. Аз съм по силен и ти нямаш право на глас. " Всъщност, ако някой те обича, няма да има доминантност в една връзка. Винаги и абсолютно винаги ще се търси хармония. Един ден ти ще бъдеш човека с мъжка енергия, а на следващия партньора ти. Не го ли разбирате? Тогава за каква любов ни говорите? Да завъреш, някого за себе си, това що за обич е? #uran #newpost #today #psychology #reblog #blogger #writingmood #writing #selfhelpblog #relationship #befree #urefree #notslave #loveawake #forwoman #followforfollow #Instagram #facebook #Tumblr. ❤️☀️