If my mom sees a significant amount of blood she gets lightheaded, and has fainted on some occasions. Once it happened when we were kids, I wasn't there to witness it but I heard the story from my dad. Basically my brothers, around 7 or 8 at the time, were playing outside while my mom was making their lunch, and she accidentally cut her finger. It wasn't anything serious, but it drew a fair bit of blood and she passed out. My dad saw this and rushed over, but he didn't really know what to do so he just sort of started slapping her to wake her up (not recommended, but he had no idea and panicked)
At that exact moment my brothers both came in from playing, and all they saw was our mom unconscious on the floor and our dad slapping her. So, like, without even saying a word to each other they both just INSTANTLY start whaling on him, like, full blown attack mode to defend our mom. Which obviously didn't help the situation, but she did wake up and everything was fine.
Now our dad says that he's actually really glad they attacked him over what they thought was going on, because it means he raised good boys. And I still think that's true, they're very good boys.
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one of the things about having an unstable parent is that it can so easily ruin your future. you want to get out, but getting out takes having agency. it takes the resume and the grades and the stellar community service history.
but you have to choose your battles. you know if you sign up for an after-school activity, it'll be okay for a while, so long as the activity is parent-approved and god-fearing. over time, like all things, it will become an argument (i can't keep carting your ass to these things) or a weapon (talk to me like that again, see if you get to go to practice). sometimes, if you love the thing, it's worth it. but you also know better than to love something: that's how they get you. if you ever actually want something, it will always be the center of their attention. they will never stop threatening you with it. telling you of course i'm a good parent, i came to all of those stupid events.
you learn to balance yourself perfectly. you can either have a social life or you can have hobbies. both of these things will be under constant scrutiny. you spend too much time with her, you should be at home with family is equally paired with you're acting like this because you're addicted to what's on that goddamn screen. you cannot ever actually win, so everything falls within a barter system that you calculate before entering: do you want to learn how to drive? if so, you'll need to give up asking for a new laptop, even though yours died. maybe you can work on a computer at the library. of course, that would mean you'd be allowed to go to the library, which would mean something else has to bleed. nothing ever actually comes free.
and that bitter, horrible irony: you could be literally following their orders and it still isn't pretty. they tell you to get a job; they hate that your job keeps you late and gives you access to actual money. they tell you to do better in school; they say no child of mine needs a tutor. they want you to stop being so morose, don't you know there are people who are really suffering - but they revile the idea you might actually need therapy.
you didn't survive that fall the way other people would. you've seen other people scramble and get their way out, however they could. maybe you were made too-soft: the answer didn't come to you easily. it wasn't quick. it was brutal and nasty. some people even asked you why didn't you just work hard and escape during school? and you felt your head spinning. why didn't you? (they control your financial aid. they control your loan status. they love having that kind of thing). maybe in another life you got diagnosed sooner and got the meds you needed to actually focus and got attention from the right teachers who helped you clear hurdles to get up out of here - but for now? here?
the effort of trying. the effort of not-dying. that kind of effort was absolutely agonizing.
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i was thinking about that taboo around menstruation and how fucking sick i am of it here u have headcanons of the chb boys actively trying to make it easier for the girls when they're on their period bc lmfao who the fuck is gonna stop me
the apollo cabin always gives free pads and tampons to whoever needs them. no matter the day. no matter the hour
percy recalls sally once told him exercise and movement helps w cramps, so whenever annabeth's on her period and they go to swim in the ocean, he makes calm waves just trying to soothe the pain
when piper's on her period leo makes a cup of infusion tea for her he learnt from his momma
thalia rarely visits camp but jason still keeps a kit of pads and tampons for her in their cabin's bathroom, just in case
will asked lou ellen from the hecate cabin to teach him some herbal infusions for his patients' and sisters' period cramps
he came back w plenty recipes of infusions after spending evenings w her
hazel, being freshly out from the 40's, was horrified when she first got hers
she woke up in a stain of blood on her pajamas and sheets in the middle of the night
nico got woken up by the muffled sound of his sis crying while aggressively cleaning her sheets
"...hazel?" "gods, nico! u scared me!" "why are u crying?"
when he tried to get close she rapidly covered the spot on the sheet w a pillow, and what was going on dawned on him
nico knocked on to the apollo cabin's door at 2am
a sleepy will opens up
"she got hers?" "yeah" "let me get u some"
nico comes back to cabin 13 w a little kit of pads w cute lilac flower design in his hands
he calmly got closer to her, hugged her and kissed her forehead
"i'm so sorry" "you've got nothing to be sorry about"
the next morning annabeth and piper calmly explained everything to her. warm hugs and cheek kisses included
no more disgust, no more discomfort, no more shame
the first time nico finally saw a pack of pads unapologetically just existing on hazel's night stand, he smiled
and left a little chocolate bar on her pillow
percy still bickers w clarisse. a lot
still that never stopped him from lending her a sweater to cover the back of her stained jeans when she needed it
leo knows piper has a irregular cycle so he always carries a bunch of tampons for piper in his bag whenever they go on long quests
"fuck i need a tampon" "got'cha"
grover learned to sew and started to make reusable pads
he made a pair for annabeth w little dagger designs on them
and then left a bunch in the apollo cabin, so there's a lovely bunch of handmade washable pads in the period kit for anyone to claim
bonus
percy often went to the store to get sally pads when he was younger
and also used to sterilize menstrual cups in the kitchen
so when estelle reached puberty boy already knew what to do
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