#the issue is moderation

[nibeul]

[ageswap/bi3] fushiguro sensei

[id in alt]

[0th3rw0rldl1n3ss]

So tired of lateral ableism coming from autistics and ADHDers who have symptoms that aren’t severely debilitating. Like just because you don’t need meds or accommodations to function or you can conform well/adapt to NT society to a certain point doesn’t mean other autistics or ADHDers will also be able to?

This post brought to you by a group of people getting frustrated at us for being unable to keep up with a game, us saying “sorry I didn’t take my meds today” and them ALL glaring at me and scoffing about how well they haven’t been on ADHD meds for years. Every single person in the room (there were more than 2 other people). Like ok, good for you, I NEED them to function?? (and even then, I still can’t “pass” as NT.)

We feel so out of place even around other people who are also autistic and/or ADHD. Because so often the other(s) will show just enough traits to seem a bit quirky/odd to NTs, but not get read as visibly ND (except maybe under unusual circumstances, but generally speaking, they can mask effectively enough that NTs wouldn’t perceive them as “having something wrong with them”) but we’re noticeably “slow/r-worded” in a way we’re frequently, under normal, non-extreme circumstances, unable to hide. We’ve heard so many things about how other autistics and ADHDers found other neurodivergent folks and finally felt safe and comfortable after a lifetime of being judged in NT-dominated social circles, and we wish we could relate to that, but honestly we don’t feel any safer with someone just because they’re also autistic/ADHD, because in our experience they’re just as likely to be ableist to us as NTs. Sometimes even worse, because at least NTs can’t say “well *I* can handle (insert task) and I’m autistic/ADHD too so what’s YOUR excuse?”

But yeah. Some of y’all hate to acknowledge that autistics and ADHDers with higher support needs than you exist and you’re quick to throw the rest of us under the bus just because you’re so desperate to make autism and/or ADHD seem more palatable to NTs. Moderate-higher support needs neurodivergents shouldn’t have to beg lower support needs neurodivergents to have solidarity with us.

[canisalbus]

would the dog royal families be like pugs because of all the inbreeding? would love to see your take on a dog form of the Hapsburgs lol

Probably nowhere near as extreme as modern pugs and other hyper exaggerated breeds today, but to some degree certainly.

[pangur-and-grim]

is there anything wrong with Tibetan Spaniels? they're so cute

[cyberpunkboytoy]

Hey y'all, I might be taking out my ass here, but the timing of this new data-selling AI business is either an extremely unfortunate coincidence or a calculated attempt to draw attention away from Tumblr's transphobia problem.

Like, if they were hoping to use bad press to distract from The Thing They Have Lawsuits Over, a pretty safe move would be to shift focus onto something that by Tumblr's own admission has very few existing laws. Just a thought.

[autisticaradiamegido]

day 299

cha boy is starting on a cpap machine for the first time tonight

it turns out, that when i sleep, my cringe-ass larynx blocks itself up, and i STRAIGHT UP STOP BREATHING for up to 20 seconds at a time! of course i have always managed to start back up again, but as u might imagine this doesn't lead to great sleep quality

so wish me luck on getting that Good Sleep for once. god gives his toughest battles to his sleepiest warriors and all that.

[txttletale]

so many words are flushed down the rhetorical toilet of ‘ao3 is a uniquely terrible platform whose lack of content moderation is an endemic moral failure’ without ever stopping to realize that under capitalism it is flatly impossible to run a moderately large website and moderate the content on it effectively--and that attempts to do so run on the PTSD of abused workers, often in the global south--and that if you actually want a website of any scale that can moderate any type of content, you need to start seriously reimagining how the web is structured economically

[girlwarlock]

maybe it's a coincidence but it's a lil sketch that when i searched the ''intrusive thoughts'' tag (due to some curiosity from a post that crossed my dash) that this thing come up. @wip @changes I really don't like this kind of targeted communication, whether this kokobot is something that tumblr is cooking up internally or whether they're a third party getting the info from tumblr for this kind of targeted spam.

[hillbillyoracle]

It's wild that I will just straight up forget I've had POTS since I was a young teenager.

And then it comes back and I'm like "oh my God am I dying?"

And my partner is like "sounds like the condition you've had almost your whole life."

[the-valiant-valkyrie]

jotting down a couple of my solaris post death engine headcanons. hospitalization and mental decline is discussed, although not in all too thorough detail, so i suppose that's a cw?

saying that the medical team didn't consider solaris worth saving wouldn't exactly be accurate. but her condition seemed bleak, and her survival chance was incredibly slim

physical injuries aside, her radiation poisoning was the worst of it. when she was initially brought in after the crash, she wasn't expected to last even a handful of hours as a result of her exposure

said radiation also got all over her clothes, which- when you factor in that patches of them were melded onto her skin due to the sheer heat of the crash- certainly did not help matters much when it came to mitigating further exposure.

thankfully she survived the three hour grace period for severe radiation poisoning. then the three day grace period for moderate radiation poisoning. and then the two week grace period for 'mild' radiation poisoning… the treatments helped, of course, but her immune system hardly escaped unscathed. nor did her stamina, pain tolerance, hair, or the majority of her muscle mass

getting such a traumatic injury immediately after spending an extended amount of time in zero gravity wasn't exactly great for solaris' physical strength. once she was allowed to leave her cot she found it very difficult to support herself without the temporary use of axillary crutches.

she… did not like them. and accidentally made herself worse for a time by purposefully forgoing them. but it didn't take her too long to learn it was less miserable to use them than it was to collapse in the hallway in front of her coworkers.

the fabricator's company especially helped during that period… having designed her own prosthetic after losing her arm, there was little concern fabby would think her any weaker for relying on a mobility aid

the incident… really changed solaris' perspective on a lot of things. grappling with your potentially-rapidly-approaching death will do that to you. she was always a bit of a perfectionist, but going forward she started to cling to her mistakes with a lot more self-directed hostility. after all, it was, ultimately, her fault the death engine project failed to begin with

she also struggles with regret a lot more- mainly in regards to time, and the ways in which she 'wastes' it. another consequence of watching it slip between her fingers, half certain she would be spending the remainder of her life in a hospital cot.

she tries not to make either of these facts too obvious to her coworkers. the fabricator can tell rather easily, though. but that isn't the worst thing in the world. at least she won't weaponize any of it.

the day after she was let out of the hospital was the day she drafted her resignation letter from zoraxis. but she was too scared to do anything with it, or act on the urge to quit beyond that… it was a miracle she even survived to begin with. zor could kill her with a flick of their wrist if they wanted to. and it isn't as if she and the doctor were ever on the best of terms- especially not after her catastrophic failure. she… didn't want to tempt fate until it proved absolutely necessary.

she threw herself into building her imposing figure and nature back up almost as soon as she physically could. and while she inevitably became just as powerful as she was before the incident strength wise, her constitution leaves much to be desired. functionally, she's a glass canon. thankfully, she doesn't look like one- which is a fact that she uses to her advantage when necessary.

[scary-grace]

when talking to my clients: I know it’s tough, but the only way to make friends is to put yourself out there!

when talking to myself: if it’s meant to happen, it will. in the meantime I will sit here and do nothing and hope someone notices me.

[not-poignant]

Hi! I probably missed it in your writing but what are the age differences (if any) in UtB and Spoils between Efnisien and Gwyn?

Hi anon!

You haven't missed it because I don't think I've made it explicit. When ages are very close to each other I tend to get confused a lot more easily because of the dyscalculia. The reality is I rarely specifically work out many character's exact ages, or the years that they were born. (As an example, if I say a character is 29 then they mentally stay 29 for me even if we jump ahead 10 years).

I would say Efnisien and Gwyn were actually born within about a year of each other, but don't quote me on that, because there might be references to them being in different years in school etc. But I always imagine them as being very close because I imagine Penny and Crielle sort of timing things to be close together.

In the canon, Efnisien was born first. But they were still fairly close to each other.

[chocochat]

i started a little book club and we're reading breast and eggs by mieko kawakami :3

[craycraybluejay]

yk what would be nice? an everything-safe reality checking support group of only like schizos/dissociators/people who struggle w reality in some way. including like anxious/paranoid types or people who habitually misread others actions. yk? no judgement, no banned topics, the only rule being respect everyone there and stuff. and we can like talk about it and sympathize/empathize and kinda be like "hey i understand but that is ridiculous. in reality its probably more like [blank]." where like me for example im not very socially anxious so for someone w social anxiety i could be like "your feelings are valid but i promise not everyone in the world is staring at you/judging you. like here we are looking at you but only to give you space to speak and pay attention. but in general people are more busy with their own issues than random strangers." and someone without an issue of mine could be like, "hey that's not real." yk? like just a nice cozy group to hang out and do calm activities in a safe judgement-free place while also talking ab whats on ur mind and getting a reality check if u need one.

[unfamd]

the thing abt wangxian is they're both category five Sad Bois for like the whole of their respective upbringings but for like, equal and opposite reasons. like wwx is an orphan and semi-sort-of-adopted (????) and has capital letter Issues, but he's also learnt to cover up every single negative emotion he experiences by immediately pushing it into Being Funny and Annoying To Anyone With the Misfortune to Encounter Him. and lwj is like, the kind of sad that makes support dogs run up to him bc they can sense emotional distress and he is a walking black hole of undefined yearningTM.

[sistersorrow]

I honestly think that the correct way to interact with any social media platform is to low key hate being there

I say this largely based on how some people on Tumblr have gone from calling it a hellsite (derogatory) to a hellsite (affectionate) and not only treat this site as if it lacks the flaws seen in every social media site, but that it's absolute worst flaws are actually "part of the charm"

The moment you actually like a site like Tumblr, the brainrot may be terminal