#these kids have too much trauma

[will80sbyers]

Lucas

is a black kid in the 80s and has to deal with all of the bullshit from the world that is very much still racist today so I can't even imagine how awful it was at that time

bullied at school for a part of himself that he can't ever change

bullied for being a nerd too

finds out that his best friend is missing

his other best friend starts to believe more a random girl than him

watches as the body of his best friend gets found

feels deep grief for Will

gets in a bad fight with his best friend

gets thrown in the air from the new girl and loses his senses

finds out the government wants to kill his friends

has to escape from the government

has to hide with his friends from the government

has to watch people die in a gruesome way at 12

gets almost killed by a monster

has to watch one of his friends disappear when she sacrifices herself for them and thinks she's dead

has to see his best friend have a scary episode in the field at school

gets insulted and assaulted by a racist piece of shit

has to run from the monsters/demodogs

has to see one of his best friends get possessed and is scared that he could die

has to go in a scary underground tunnel where he gets almost killed with his friends

gets broken up multiple times with the girl he likes

gets almost killed by billy/Vecna in the sauna

has to fight a giant monster at the Cabin

has to watch one of his friends in pain because she has something in her leg

has to fight a giant monster in the mall

finds out that a person he knows is dead (Hop)

has to watch the girl he loves lose his brother

two of his best friends move away

gets broken up with the love of his life

gets bullied in high school until he decides to join basketball only for his friends to not support him

gets ignored by the girl he loves

has to see some of his friends from basketball beat up some of his other friends from d&d and can't do anything

gets probably peer pressured to drink alcohol at the party

has to see the girl he loves almost die in front of him

finds out one of his friends from basketball died

gets beaten up by one of his "friends"

gets a gun pointed at him

has to watch the girl he loves die in his arms in a gruesome way

has to watch a person he knew for months being split in two

lives through a scary earthquake that destroys his town

has to see the girl he loves in a coma

doesn't have any adult in his life to talk about all of this

Dustin

has Cleidocranial dysplasia: “ a rare genetic condition that affects teeth and bones, such as the skull, face, spine, collarbones and legs. The bones in people with CCD might be formed differently or might be more fragile than normal, and certain bones such as collarbones may be absent.”

is bullied at school for it and made fun for his appearance

finds out that his best friend is missing

watches as the body of his best friend is found

feels deep grief for him

gets scared when one of his best friends gets thrown in the air and hurt

has to escape from the government and hide

has to run from the government in the school

sees people die in a gruesome way in the school

gets almost killed by a monster

has to watch one of his friends disappear and thinks she's dead

is scared for his friend that is having a seizure

the mini monster he raised kills his cat

has to run from demodogs

the girl he likes doesn't like him back

has to go in the tunnels and gets almost killed

gets a bit heartbroken at the snowball before Nancy helps

keeps getting bullied all through the seasons

comes back and two of his best friends ignore him and go away early instead of wanting to spend time with him

decides to not go to his friends for help for the Russian thing because he doesn't feel appreciated by them

gets trapped in an underground Russian base

has to see Steve, his role model and friend, gets beaten up badly

has to fight a monster in the mall

gets shot at by the Russians

has to watch a person die

has to watch one of his best friend be heartbroken by her brother's death

finds out a person he knows died (Hop)

two of his best friends move away

has to hide someone that everybody believes is a criminal

has to watch one of his best friends almost die (Max)

has to go to the upside down and fight monsters again

gets hurt in his leg

has to watch one of his role models and friends die in his arms

comes back to the real world to find out that another of his friends is in a coma and the other is hurt

has to tell someone that their nephew is dead

can't talk about it with his girlfriend and doesn't have an adult to talk about all of this

Max

her parents divorced when she was very young

absent father, neglectful mother

abusive stepfather and stepbrother that probably beat her and definitely abuse her emotionally and verbally

has to move to a new place and be the new kid

feels like she doesn't fit in

gets constantly excluded from the party the first times they interact

gets hurt a bit when she falls from the skateboard

has to run from demodogs

has to fight his brother and drug him to save Lucas and Steve

gets ignored by the new cool girl that arrives

has to go to the tunnels in another world

has to break up with her boyfriend multiple times

is worried that his brother could be a serial killer

gets almost killed by his brother in the sauna

gets almost killed by a monster in the hospital

has a fight with Mike about her best friend

has to watch her best friend be hurt

get almost killed at the cabin

has to fight a monster at the mall

gets assaulted by his brother at the mall

has to watch his brother die in front of her

finds out a person she knows is dead (Hop)

her best friend and a good friend leave the town

Falls into deep depression

feels immense guilt for her brother's death

isolates herself from the boy she's in love with

her stepfather leaves and she has to change home

she's more poor

her mother drinks to cope and doesn't pay enough attention to her

she doesn't have anyone to talk about things with and can't tell her therapist the truth

feels suicidal at times and like she's a bad person

gets cursed by Vecna and has to consider the possibility she will die

gets almost killed

gets literally killed and suffers before dying

ends up in a coma

[inkskinned]

they want to talk about mental illness and acceptance and how everyone is a little ocd it's cute and quirky and their "intrusive thoughts" are about cutting their hair off and you say yours are about taking a razorblade to your eye and they say ew can you not and everyone is a little adhd sometimes! except if you're late it's a personality flaw and it's because you are careless and cruel (and someone else with adhd mentions they can be on time, so why can't you?) and it's not an eating disorder if it's girl dinner! it's not mania if it's girl math! what do you mean you blew all of your savings on nonrefundable plane tickets for a plane you didn't even end up taking. what do you mean that you are afraid of eating. get over it. they roll their little lips up into a sneer. can you not, like, trauma dump?

they love it on them they like to wear pieces of your suffering like jewels so that it hangs off their tongue in rapiers. they are allowed to arm-chair diagnose and cherrypick their poisons but you can't ever miss too many showers because that's, like, "fuckken gross?" so anyone mean is a narcissist. so anyone with visual tics is clearly faking it and is so cringe. but they get to scream and hit customer service employees because well, i got overwhelmed.

you keep seeing these posts about how people pleasers are "inherently manipulative" and how it's totally unfair behavior. but you are a people pleaser, you have an ingrained fawn response. in the comments, you have typed and deleted the words just because it is technically true does not make it an empathetic or kind reading of the reaction about one million times. it is technically accurate, after all. you think of catholic guilt, how sometimes you feel bad when doing a good deed because the sense of pride you get from acting kind - that pride is a sin. the word "manipulation" is not without bias or stigma attached to it. many people with the fawn response are direct victims of someone who was malignantly manipulative. calling the victims manipulative too is an unfair and unkind reading of the situation. it would be better and more empathetic to say it is safety-seeking or connection-seeking behavior. yes, it can be toxic. no, in general it is not intended to be toxic. there is no reason to make mentally ill people feel worse for what we undergo.

you type why is everyone so quick to turn on someone showing clear signs of trauma but you already know the fucking answer, so what's the point of bothering. you kind of hate those this is what anxiety looks like! infographics because at this point you're so good at white-knuckling through a severe panic attack that people just think you're stoic. even people who know the situation sometimes comment you just don't seem depressed. and you're not a 9 year old white kid so there's no way you're on the spectrum, you're not obsessed with trains and you were never a good mathematician. okay then.

mental illness is trending. in 2012 tumblr said don't romanticize our symptoms but to be fair tiktok didn't exist yet. there's these series of videos where someone pretends to be "the most boring person on earth" and is just being a normal fucking person, which makes your skin crawl, because that probably means you are boring. your friend reads aloud a profile from tinder - no depressed bitches i fucking hate that mental illness crap. your father says that medication never actually works.

you still haven't told your grandmother that you're in therapy. despite everything (and the fact it's helping): you just don't want her to see you differently.

[realbeefman]

stacy is sooo interesting because she's in love with house but knows that they will never ever be able to have a healthy, stable, sane relationship because they're too similar so. she finds house-lite instead and marries him and. essentially moves on with her life! and is successful in this because she's a moderately well-adjusted person!

wilson, in contrast, never manages to escape the inevitable, in spite of his best efforts to find a house-lite of his very own, because he's an absolute fucking freak and ends up glued to house to the bitter. bitter end

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

Abso-fucking-lutely vibing with World's Finest: Teen Titans' addition of Karen as one of the founding members.

Because good fucking god, before this the team was two demigods, two billionaire teens and a Normal Kid™ in neon yellow BUT NOW?! Now it's two demigods, two billionaire teens and TWO Normal Kids™ in neon yellow!

No but seriously though Wally is the only one who has to like... mow the lawn and watch his neighbor's cat when they go away for the long weekend. He's the only one who knows how to mail a letter at the post office and how much pencils cost at a book fair. He's got superpowers and terrible parents and yet somehow he is the MOST NORMAL ONE THERE.

Which speaks volumes about the rest of them tbh.

But now!!! Karen and Wally get to be nerds ✨together✨ and they get free tickets to watch the trainwrecks that the other Teen Titans call life

Seriously though I think these two are aggressively trying to be friends with each other while also roleplaying their 'cool guy' hero personas, which is extremely funny to me. These two are absolute nerds with no friends in school and they are DESPERATE for a friend and they've just met but they've both decided "Yeah that one. That one is friend shaped"

Wally: you move too slow

Karen: learn how to fly dumbass

Anyway I love them

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

This election day, I'm thinking of my Nana.

I'm thinking of how as a young woman, she fled political violence in her native Colombia to build a new home in a more stable country. I'm thinking about how she lived a long life, but not long enough to see her home country elect its first ever progressive president (just a few months ago!).

Coincidentally, I was living in Colombia at that time (in the very city she grew up in), and I was able to witness what felt like a miracle. A very conservative country, suffering from the violent inheritance of colonization and catholic invasion and the war on drugs, against a backdrop of the dangerous global rise of the far right--this unlikely country managed to elect one of the most progressive heads of state in the world, in 2022. That's a pretty big deal.

And I'm thinking about this, this election day, because that election was won by a very thin margin. I'm thinking about how it almost didn't happen. I'm thinking about how it was only possible thanks to the highest voter turnout in 20 year. And I am thinking about the countless number of voters who chose to vote for the first time. I am thinking of the poorest and most disenfranchised citizens who showed up at the polls. I am thinking of the indigenous women who rode 12 hours on public buses to vote at the 'nearest' polling stations. I am thinking of all the money and corruption that went into preventing minority citizens from voting, and I'm thinking about how they showed up in the millions and voted anyway.

I am thinking that I would like to see a miracle like that in my own home country.

So if you're on the fence about waiting in line today to cast your vote, I hope that you will think--about the country you want to live in, the future you hope will unfold, and about all of the people it takes to make a miracle.

Because history may deem us nameless and faceless, but when we show up en masse, we are the ones who make history happen.

And yes, maybe also spare a thought for my Nana. Who was in fact a very angry and judgemental woman who supported the republican party for 50+ years, and who would be turning in her grave right now (if the family hadn't had her cremated). Think about the mean angry ghost of my Colombian grandmother, who very much wants you to not show up at the polls to support abortion and other sinful progressive values. Think about her. Do it for her. Do it for Nana.

[bonefall]

the note about goldenflower being a consideration for firestars first deputy is so fascinating. like I definitely don't want her to take whitestorms role and die in that battle, her surviving so long is much needed but. the idea of her becoming deputy is so juicy. just the moment when firestar walks out into his first gathering and tigerstar not only has to deal with HIM but also the fact that his ex wife who hates him after their extremely bitter divorce is the new deputy. oh god and bramble eventually taking over that role too. thank you for your work and this little note in particular that im chewing on

You see my vision lmao, yeah, the biggest reason I would not make Goldenflower the deputy is because I need that deputy to die versus BloodClan. It fits Whitestorm, and makes an excellent moment for his dying breath to be telling Fireheart to release his grudges because Longtail should be his next deputy.

Longtail serves well, then gets blinded while Firestar is away on his buddy comedy roadtrip with Brokenstar, Graystripe surprises everyone by really stepping up and showing good leadership, and so when Firestar comes back he just makes that official. And then Gray gets snatched up by the researchers.

If Goldie took the position, I'd have to incapacitate or kill her for the deputy dramas of TNP - OotS to take place. And like... nooo, I want her around, especially as a really interesting elder.

Goldie really would have been an awesome pick for Firestar's first deputy though, like, PLEASE feel free to take the idea and run with it because it's really good.

Bluestar dying and Firestar's first action is to pick Goldenflower, standing huge and powerful beside him, bringing back up the issue of Tigerstar demanding his children by correcting; "GOLDENFLOWER'S kits." She looks up at her ex-mate from her position below the rock, licking her chop like a threat.

The unspoken challenge; if you manage to get through Firestar, you will be broken against ME. ThunderClan will never be yours, not even in 18 lifetimes.

[fili-the-jester]

the sillies

(cinnamon rolls who can kill you)

[rukafais]

(2nd quote source)

[taegularities]

some men are textbook villains fr

[youregonnabeokay-kid]

i really do hope that 911 ventures further into Chris’ abandonment issues and doesn’t just ignore it for the rest of the season

[blazingblorbos]

WAIT STOP THAT’S SO CUTE

WELT WANTED TO PLAY HIDE-AND-SEEK!?!?

LET HIM PLAY, HOYO!!! GODDAMIT

[alien-ally]

i dont watch a lot of shows, but its been a while since i saw such an emotionally charged confrontation in a bl show. i believe great acting can elevate any confrontation scene (even if the conflict was contrived) but uh here, we knew this all along. we knew the pain was coming, i did, it was delicious, and braced for impact but i still am in shambles. wei lili packing random packets of food from the house for yuan, unable to focus on eating when yuan sits with that face, getting him to pass stuff just to talk to him. a resounding 'tell me, what's wrong?'. never have siblings been so real lol. also, i deeply appreciate the character of Sanpang, cause i think he's supposed to be the reflection of society, but in a far more gentler, loving way for he actually does care for both of them. lol he himself doesn't know 'what's wrong' exactly, just that something should be cause yk it's Wei Qian. also, he's far more nicer than in the novel i've heard. and not homophobic at the very least.

[jamiethebee]

I know everyone likes the "Fenton parents are dead/evil" route to drive Danny to Gotham, but I propose: "the Fenton parents have to send Danny away to keep him safe/cut off contact (since they're technically contracted to the government and the GIW is the definition of shady and spies)"

[lbhslefttiddie]

then and now

[thisisemsblog]