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roryfrommybabysittersavampire · 10 months

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I did not choose to have fucking cannibalism as a special interest but here we are folks :3 painted this in art class for a typography assignment.

#cannibalism #watercolor #I love the bible #there are surprising amount of bible verses about cannibalism. not one of them distinctly says not to do it :3 #i am not planning to eat anyone #autism posting #my evaluation is in exactly one week I can finally say that without feeling stupid soon #meow #gray stop typing pls #i have therapy in 45 minutes #this is a great use of my time #also writing a poem about being a dog #dog motif wants me dead #I'll update if I'm so insufferable she discontinues my care #my art #hey this animal can talk #yo update I'm autistic

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lonepower · 2 months

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yes i Am paying real money to make you all look at our new dog. we've had her for 3 hours and if anything happened to her I'd kill everyone in this room and then myself. her name is Tater Tot

#dogs #🥔#we think she's somewhere in the 2-5 range but everyone gave us a different answer #they said aussie/pomeranian but i (self-proclaimed world champion of dog identification) am 99.998% certain she is aussie and great pyr #the shape of her tail and the way she moves but also oh my god. SO much hair. this is 80% hair and 20% animal #also she is very calm & gentle but every time one of us leaves the room she'll get up to observe where we go #she isn't distressed at all she's just keeping tabs on us which as i understand it is Peak pyr behavior #anyway she is 100% goodest girl and i wuv her 😭#chi's adventures in pet ownership

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narwhalsarefalling · 2 years

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my mother taught me to crochet when i was young. she was left handed, so she taught me how in the bathroom mirror so her hands would be in the right position.

she learned to crochet from her grandmother, who was right handed. her grandma was the one that originally used the bathroom mirror to teach her granddaughter properly.

i find something poetic about that. here in this bathroom mirror, through generations, we adapt to our young who have a different way of learning and interacting with the world

#my mom grew up in the 70s rural missouri #very much in the ‘left handedness is the devil’ era #her first grade teacher handcuffed her left hand to her desk #so i find it very sweet that my great grandmother #took the time and effort to show her grandkid how to create and crochet with her left hand #using the only methods she knew how- the bathroom mirror #the narwhal speaks #crochet

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weaselmcdiesel · 5 months

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Do You Love The Color Of The 413?

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giantkillerjack · 1 year

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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charlietheepicwriter7 · 4 months

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It was easy to lure the newest Titan away from the rest, back the boy into a corner. He was the weakest link, the newest hero, the easiest to manipulate-

Then, the ghost child transformed, glowing rings passing over his body to reveal a familiar black-haired boy. "Uncle Slade, what the fuck are you doing?"

#Danny: is this your midlife crisis? Do I need to tell Joey?#dc x dp #dp x dc #dpxdc #dcxdp #dp x dc prompt #c: danny fenton #c: slade wilson #reluctant murder uncle slade wilson #this time literally!#former alicia walker x slade wilson #Danny had no idea of his uncle slade's job #slade is still in contact with his ex-sister in law because she makes great guns #danny recognized slade's voice #Danny: you didn't even use a voice changer! You're using your first name!#Slade: my villain name is Deathstroke and you're a bunch of teenagers; what was I supposed to do!?#Danny: NOT BE A VILLAIN!

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keferon · 3 months

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The tac net crash chapter is one of my favorites so far~

Ah and. Guess what. I just discovered that including this post, I made 50 pieces of fanart for Mistakes on mistakes until.. I’m so sane and normal about this story can you tell👍