#this is about being mentally ill and neurodivergent

[transslashamputee]

BIG radqueer ask game :3

🌸 or 1: How did you find out about the Radqueer community? What made you join?

🍦 or 2: Were you ever an anti? If so, what made you change your mind?

🕯 or 3: What is your specific blankqueer label, if you have one? (and want to share it, ofc)

💭 or 4: Do you identify with/as any transIDs? Which ones?

🍑 or 5: If you identify with transIDs, what is your favorite of your transIDs?

🛼 or 6: Do you have any paras?

🌨 or 7: Are you a system? If so, how did you find out you are one?

🦋 or 8: What is your most "controversial" transID? Why do you identify that way + what do you think people should know about that identity?

💝 or 9: What transID do you want to transition to the most, if any?

🧃 or 10: What would you look like if you fully transitioned to all of your IDs?

🤍 or 11: If you had to choose, which transID would you not want to have (as in, which would you not want to identify with)?

🎈 or 12: What is your favorite flag made by someone in the rq community?

🍰 or 13: If you're trace, tell us why, or how you found out! (You can also infodump about your trace ID!)

🕊 or 14: If you're transage, tell us why, or how you found out! (You can also infodump about your transage ID!)

🍭 or 15: If you're transharm in some way, what do you think the reason for identifying as your transharm ID is?

👼🏼 or 16: If you are in fandom and/or are a shipper of any sort, what is your favorite ship? Drop some art you like of that ship!

💘 or 17: If you're plural, how do other members of your system feel about radqueers?

🩰 or 18: Who are your favorite rq tumblr users? @ them!

🎠 or 19: Do you ever get antis in your askbox? How do you respond to them?

🥛 or 20: What's your favorite thing about being part of this community?

📖 or 21: What's your least favorite thing about being part of this community?

🍪 or 22: Do you think you'll ever leave or "grow out of" this community?

🌷 or 23: Do you use any xeno-transIDs? (Like xenoabled, xenogender, xenoage, etc.) If so, list them!

🌐 or 24: Have you ever transitioned to any transIDs? How did you do it (if you want to share)?

🍓 or 25: What transIDs are a squick (personal discomfort) for you? Would you mind sharing why?

✨ or 26: Do you follow any religion (mainstream or neo/xenoreligion)?

🐇 or 27: Do you use subliminals? Do you make them? Do you see effects from your sublimal usage?

💖 or 28: If you identify with transIDs, what is your main reason?

💍or 29: If you have atypical dysphoria, is it more social, mind, or body dysphoria?

☁️ or 30: If you are a trans-mobility-aid-user, tell us about what mobility aid you want! Would you decorate it?

🔅 or 31: If you are a cis-mobility-aid-user, what do you think of folks who are trans- the mobility aid you use?

👗or 32: Do you have any contradicting identities?

💌 or 33: If you are cis- neurodivergent, mentally ill, etc, how does seeing folks who are trans- your disorder/syndrome make you feel?

🐭or 34: If you are cis-disabled, how does seeing people who are trans- your disablities make you feel?

💓 or 35: What would your ideal relationship look like?

🧴 or 36: Are you an artist (writer, digital/traditional artist, painter, musician, etc.)? Share some of your work, if you are (and if you are comfortable doing so)!

🌼 or 37: If you are severi- anything (wanting a disorder/disability to be worse or not as bad as it is), why do you identify that way?

🌷 or 38: Are you in any radqueer discord servers? Do you like them?

🧁or 39: Does your username have meaning? What does it mean? If it has no meaning, how did you choose it?

⛸ or 40: Infodump about your favorite ID- para, transID, gender, therian/otherkin... anything!

[autismswagsummit]

Since Ferb is on this bracket, I think it’s important to point out that Gretel from Dan Povenmire’s latest show Hamster and Gretel was confirmed to have ADHD in an interview! While ADHD and autism aren’t the same thing, there’s a lot of similarities between the two and AuDHD is pretty common, so I think she deserves to be mentioned here!

There’s a lot of canon autism rep but not as much canon ADHD rep so I’m glad that Gretel is confirmed to have ADHD. It hasn’t been stated in the show yet but it’s heavily implied through scenes of her being frustrated by schoolwork and getting distracted easily. Dan clearly worked hard to get the representation accurate!

That's really interesting! It's not a show I'm familiar with, but I'm pretty much always happy to hear about good quality representation for mental illnesses and neurodivergence. If memory serves, someone joked about telling Dan Povenmire about the competition before (during the Doubles Round when Phineas & Ferb were running) and it gave me a bit of a weird feeling because his work was quite a big part of my childhood. Good on him for doing some good for all the ADHD kids out there

[mostlydeadallday]

I have so much work to do. I am so behind and have so much to catch up on and I am hiding I am hiding I am hiding from it all.

[inkskinned]

hey btw if you're in the USA at  2:20 p.m. ET on Wednesday, Oct. 4, they're testing the emergency broadcast system. your phone is probably going to make a really loud noise, even if it's on silent. there's a backup date on the 11th if they need to postpone it.

if you're not in a safe situation and have an extra phone, you should turn that phone completely off beforehand.

additionally, if you're like me, and are easily startled; i recommend treating it like a party. have a countdown or something. be surrounded by your loved ones. take the actions you personally need to take to make yourself safe.

i have already seen mockery towards any person who feels nervous about this. for the record, it completely, completely valid to have "emergency broadcast sounds" be an anxiety trigger. do not let other people make fun of you for that. emergency sounds are legitimately engineered to make us take action; those of us with high levels of anxiety and/or neurodivergence are already pre-disposed to have a Bad Time. sometimes it is best to acknowledge that the situation will be triggering for some, and to prepare for that; rather than just saying "well that's stupid, it's just a test."

"loud scary sound time" isn't like, my favorite thing, but we can at least try to prevent some additional anxiety by preparing for it. maybe get yourself a cake? noise cancelling headphones? the new hozier album? whatever helps. love u, hope you're okay. we are gonna ride it out together.

[tvckerwash]

random head canon I just came up with: tucker complaining about the meta suit being tight in the crotch is supposed to be a dick joke, but I think it's way funnier if it's supposed to be tight because that's how armor works: if its too loose you risk being injured because of things being knocked around when impacts are made, lessening the effects of the armor absorbing and distributing the force, so you don't want a bad fit. tucker wouldn't know that though because he's been wearing flowers armor, which was custom fit for flowers, and when they got new armor in s6, they used the measurements of the old armor, so tucker's been wearing improperly fit armor the entire series—which is a level of stupidity only the reds and blues could accomplish.

[rebellum]

I feel like... Perhaps... Arguing that transphobia is defined by murder and that anything other than murder doesn't even matter... May NOT be conducive to fighting for trans rights.

Like... people want the right to exist as they are. They want to have access to hrt and surgeries and prosthetics. People want access to clothes that fit them and reflect how they want to be seen. People want access to medical care (eg. Getting screened and treated for sex-based forms of cancer can be impossible if you have the "wrong" sex listed to receive those tests). People want to be respected and treated well. People want to not be sexually assaulted and beaten and abused. People want to have access to housing and jobs, and the protection to not lose those things for being trans. People want access to shelters for homeless people or survivors of domestic abuse. People want name changes.

Acting like all of those things don't matter because at least they weren't murderered by an individual (and instead die of suicide or state violence, or survive and suffer) isn't okay.

[aintgonnatakethis]

whenever i see the view of 'always be 100% honest with the medical professionals providing you with healthcare' i just... how much privilege do you have to have to not see the pitfalls with that statement?

i understand 'always tell first responders what drugs you've taken'. but when it comes down to trans healthcare or people who're disabled or have "scary" mental health conditions. do you really think being honest the entire time is safe?

[edge-oftheworld]

yeah I know Luke’s been running around saying he ‘can be a bit of a pessimist’ but I just wanna give him a little bit more credit than that. he’s been through so much and yet we’ll hear him talking about times that are ‘marred with trauma’ but still he can’t ever regret for getting him to where he is today. this whole year he’s been making an effort to do things that scare him and he even finds hard, he’s been pushing himself out of his comfort zone and doing 1000 solo interviews as well as his shows and last year he went to bogota to film 7 music videos in 2 days and believed he could do it and he did. he talks about mental health related things in such a way that’s filled with acceptance, not complaint or bitterness but dare I say even optimism, dropping horrifying little descriptions to already heartbreaking songs since 2021 and then turning around and saying writing songs is what gets him through it, he ‘wouldn’t have a good relationship with anything’ if he didn’t make them but he’s super proud of himself after and wasn’t put off by how much work it was gonna be even though it did make him apprehensive and he goes and mentions how it wasn’t easy. you look at everything we know of him for the last decade and a half and realise, maybe it was never easy. but someone once described optimism as curiosity + resilience rather than being naively happy all the time in denial of everything going on around. and with that active brain and all the things he figures out while writing all his beautiful songs there’s definitely curiosity there. and with everything he’s been through to keep choosing to be himself and do whatever he needs to do there’s so much resilience. and I’ve seen this spirit in the songs of sounds good feels good and 5sos5, as well as littered through wfttwtaf and boy; every project being a quiet, kinda emo, statement of survival. I’m just one fan with too many opinions but this is something I’ve always loved about the band, and a decent portion of it was always brought to the table by luke and idk I just think we should acknowledge it

[pencilofawesomeness]

What is Twisted Wonderland and how would you sell someone on it?

Ohoho. Ohohohoho. Anon. You have activated my trap card >:D

(I'm about to be soooo annoying/unhinged and I'm sorry. I'm not.)

Alright, so:

Twisted Wonderland is a Disney mobile game made in Japan and co-produced by Aniplex. (Yes, that Aniplex.) I'm not here to sell you on the game, so much as the story, but it is a sort of story-book rpg with turned based fights and rhythm games, where you build character units from a gacha pull. As far as gameplay goes, it's very simple, and most of the emphasis lies on the characters and the story. And it's wonderful.

The on-the-box description of this game doesn't do it justice, per se, but that might be because Disney has a little bit of influence on it and they suck at knowing who their target audience is. It is about a high school based on classic Disney villains—but no, not in the way you're thinking, because I once made that mistake too. It is not a villain school. Rather, the world of Twisted Wonderland is its own entity, with characters built as sort of nods or foils to classic Disney characters. The world itself is somewhat built with these films as its past, and history has become so twisted (ha) that modern society views some of these classic villains as the heroes or supporting characters of their stories, and respect them as The Great Seven. (The seven in question being the Queen of Hearts, Scar, Ursula, Jafar, the Evil/Raven Queen, Hades, and Maleficent. None of them are remembered by name, though.)

The game takes place in the modern era, a society with both technology and magic. Specifically, it takes place in a magic high school called Night Raven College, an all-boys dormitory prep school where the only requirement to get in is a magic mirror that peers into your soul and determines whether or not you can a) do magic and b) kin the Great Seven. And, of course, the player character is a regular-ass human who gets isekai'd in and gets stuck with a talking magic cat direbeast named Grim.

Now. That is the general synopsis. I, on the other hand, affectionately call this the Mental Breakdown game.

See, here's the kicker. The magic system is pretty nifty; while it's functions as a standard magic-is-magic sort of soft system, it has ✨consequences✨

Magic has this byproduct called blot. It's this icky stuff that builds up when you a) use too much magic and/or b) are emotionally distressed. But less so in a "I'm panicked right now" sort of way and more so in a "I have chronic depression and/or anxiety" sort of way. And, when a mage is powerful enough, and sad boi enough, and then goes and uses way too much magic and sad boi juice in one sitting, this amazing phenomenon occurs called "overblot"—which is pretty much a super-powered evil form that turns the mage into the darkest form of themselves and then uses magic until they die.

Naturally, this happens in the game. A lot. The formula is pretty much that each "book" of the story, there is an overblot. One for each of the seven dorms, which are based off of the seven villains/the movies they come from. (And "based on" is pretty loose. Yes you can see the similarities, but these are dumb teenage boys with their own hopes and aspirations, and, sometimes, the game completely lies to you about what character they emulate the most. The guy who's Jafar? Well yes but he's actually just a really stressed out Genie stand in. The Hades guy? Whoops that's Meg. Is that a card soldier or the White Rabbit? Doesn't matter, he's got problems.)

The characters are so well written. I could gush about them forever, and they are the driving points of this plot and it means everything to me. They are some of the most traumatized and messed up individuals, but also, they are dumb teenage boys who do dumb teenage boys things. It is all incredibly well balanced and startlingly realistic for a game that amounts to beating the emotional constipation around people. Mostly because it cannot be beat out of them. The blot can, but they have to deal with their emotions with their own two hands, with varying levels of success.

And the shenanigans!!!! Oh, the shenanigans. I call this the Emotional Trauma game but I have once laughed so hard someone heard me through the floor. It's not all doom and gloom for sure. Sometimes you're watching your friend fall apart because his toxic mother instilled debilitating perfectionism and slowly start making enemies of everyone and sometimes you're sending three of the most gremlin students plus one cinnamon roll to infiltrate a gala that a bunch of weather fairies are throwing in the greenhouse because they stole your temperature regulating magestone to be shiny jewelry and you want it to stop snowing inside your dorm room. And sometimes you can have the exact same character who experienced losing his little brother right in front of him gush about a magical girl sledding anime and all of his gacha games. It is the best of both worlds.

And, that's not all! No, no. We get amazing character interactions. Not just pre-determined friend group interactions, but also random interactions. Yana Toboso (the writer/artist) really likes to stick names in a jar sometimes and make them interact and it is the best thing ever. Every single one of these characters I hold in my hands. Every single one of them gets to have their moment to shine. You can emotionally invest in all of them and be rewarded for it.

The game itself is free and pretty easy to get into. There's not really a bad power creep so you can get through it with what you got. Of course the fun part of collecting cards is that there are stories attached to them that you can watch, and those are also sources of joy. (And it's well documented, so you can find things online pretty easily to catch up and see more.)

I just think it's neat. (Read: I accidentally became wholly obsessed with this game and its characters and they are all blorbos to me.)

You should definitely fall into this rabbit hole with me :))) It's so worth it :)))

[killemwithkawaii]

Emotional hangovers are so fucking stupid.

"Oh, you went out and had an especially good time in a highly stimulating environment for a few hours? Nice going, you just cashed in 3 days worth of dopamine. Get Meh, jackass."

[vampirefangs]

i know "i saw the tv glow" is very metaphorical but also if you are/have been mentally ill/delusional enough in just the right ways it can be relatable in a literal sense too

[pandoratheprocrasticreator]

i think ppl can and should project onto fictional characters. that's kind of what they're for a lot of the time. even if in the story they dont have the exact same experiences the audience can still find similarities with them and it's empowering to headcanon that, because of these similarities, the character has a similar identity to you. a lot of writers purposely give their characters experiences similar to marginalized groups to make those groups feel seen.

that being said, if you project your own experiences onto your blorbos you HAVE to be able to tell when the story is purposely making the character a metaphor for your experiences and when the story is. not doing that. just because you personally relate to a character doesn't mean the character literally is your marginalized identity. and it definitely doesn't mean that the writers hate your marginalized identity, specifically, if they don't do what you want them to do with that character.

[thebestfriendstoloverstrope]

idk what it is but nothing makes me more convinced i'm neurodivergent like hanging out with a bunch of acquaintances (read: people who i'm still not accustomed to). like, suddenly my abnormalities are GLARINGLY obvious. like, wdym 90% of my emotional attention goes to clocking everyone's behaviors and reactions just to make sure i'm doing the right thing? wdym spending time with said acquaintances for just a few hours drains me of my battery entirely and i feel the need to spend a whole day alone in my room (read: safe, familiar environment) to recharge? when i'm by myself doing my thing like spending hours deep-diving into my hyper-fixations or being alone with my thoughts for three days straight it never even occurs to me that that's not what Normal People Do. at least, not until i force myself to try and do what Normal People Do, like go out and spend time with people i should be befriending... only to return to exhibit a

[anawkwardlady]

"how dare you say the girl dinner thing is disguised pro ed content !! Its for neurodivergent people and people with food sensitivities so they don't feel bad eating something really simple! Eating something is better than nothing!"

Okay but get this. Flexing how little you eat, which is the most part of this fucking trend, is quirky ED flex. We're NOT idiots come on.

[dazzelmethat]

*reaches out my hand and grabs you* I have the power to subject non vocaloid people to pinop..

TW: for flashing lights

Mushroom mother analysis in my tags. ..

[oediex]

There's a text in my phone that I've been ignoring. An invitation. Dinner. This weekend. It's been there for four days and I haven't replied. This is not the week for it.

We haven't seen each other in a while, and the message is kind, the reaching out welcome. Friendship is desired. But this is not the week for it.

I like food and I like dinner. They've recently moved and I wouldn't have to go far. I haven't left my house for four days. This is not the week for it.

I figure out the problem. Dinner is overwhelming. It requires looking at someone's face, into their eyes, where too much is going on. A walk will be better. Next week.