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I think the people who have overcome drug and/or alcohol addiction are some of the most powerful souls on this planet. The main reason the person was using drugs or alcohol in the first place was to escape. How beautiful that these people have learned to not need something to take them out of their mind. To be able to work through the toughest times and not have to pick up a narcotic. We must thank these souls who lead by example through recovery. We lose so many people daily to this awful disease. Most people struggle with one or the other and don’t even know it. Instead of ever judging someone with a troubled past, why not thank them for their time on this earth for showing us how to overcome such a triumph. Especially in a world that actually promotes using drugs and alcohol through being prescribed medications by doctors, or having the excuse because one is in college so therefore they should be drinking and drugging. Most importantly I am writing this to thank myself. For the courage, bravery, and work I have put into getting myself sober and clean. And not just that. For being able to work through the tough times, and be able to take my spirituality to such a deeper level at only 22. If I get this stuff right now, imagine how I will be at 30, and 40, and even 50! Drug and alcohol addiction is never something to be ashamed of. I thank my creator for giving me this struggle in this lifetime with the faith to know I could overcome it. Us humans can overcome anything. It’s as simple as that. 

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Social Media

Here is my opinion on social media: For the most part, it SUCKS! Tumblr is a bit of a different story, but I am mainly talking about Instagram and Facebook. Nevermind Facebook, we all know that it is a joke and becoming extremely unpopular. But Instagram is still up there with popularity, and I had my account still up until a bit ago. It is an illusion. A complete illusion. No one is living in the present moment, where we are supposed to be living. It is simply a projection of the past and the future. The past and future are illusions though because the past will never be again, and the future can change at any time. Not to mention we subconsciously compare our lives to those of our best friends, family, celebrities and people we don’t even know! There is research out that proves social media to not be good for our mental health. I certainly know that when I was on Instagram, it felt like a constant comparison of who had the most likes, best-looking photos, and what ought to be the coolest life. Even if that person was actually miserable yet good at knowing when and what to post to make it look like they are extremely happy. Ever since I deleted my Instagram, I feel free. Anything that makes you feel free after you remove it, is a clear indication that it was not good for you in the first place. I don’t feel like I have to live up to something I am not, post for others, or pretend my life is amazing at every single moment. I get to be present. I get to enjoy the moment instead of worrying about how I am going to record it best then post for my “followers” to enjoy. Try reading a book, meditating, talking to friends, exercising, anything than spend time on the illusion I call social media! Promise all of these other activities make you feel a happiness that is real. 

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November 25, 2018

Man I feel so great today. I started off my day exercising and then meditating. All the hard work I have been doing is so paying off. I feel so so so light and free today. It is so beautiful to feel good naturally. All my life I struggled with feeling good “naturally.” I needed a drug, a drink, money, a guy/girl, etc. to make me feel good. Today I feel good within. Not needing anything on the outside, but feeling full on the inside. That is where it starts, on the inside. Once I feel good on the inside, I am limitless. No one can bring me down. Nothing can upset me. I am free to feel joy, passion, and love in the purest form. I promise when you start working with yourself, instead of against yourself, your whole world will change. And we may think we are working with ourselves by putting things into our body, or hanging out with people, but sometimes those substances or people really work against us. Trust your intuition. You can feel vibrations and energy. Is it really serving towards your purpose? Does that person really want nothing but to see you happy? It is okay if you say no. Because not everything will in life, that is life. Once you feel good inside, you know what will keep your energy going, and what kinds of things/people will stop the flow of the beautiful vibrations that you are. Ask for guidance. Laugh. Love yourself. Be human. Learn everything you possibly can. We are only in this human form for so long. Make the most out of it. Turn your awareness to positive messages, positive people, healthy substances. That’s when the magic happens. Trust me. 

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Some of the most important things I’ve learned recently:

-You control every single aspect of your life that is within your control: the thoughts you think, the people you allow in, the actions you take to act upon your words.

-We are on Earth as non-physical entering a physical body to live a purposeful, meaningful life. Therefore, nothing matters when it comes to materialistic objects, the clothes you wear, cars you drive, no one will remember that when you pass. What they will remember is the type of person you were, did you help someone when they needed it the most? Were you the best parent you possibly could be? Did you lead a life of honesty?

-What’s meant to be will flow your way. Stop trying to intervene with what is going to be. Sit back, relax, and live life. I promise what is meant for you will come to you, and what’s not will exit.

-You can either wallow over your past traumas, or you can use them to teach you a lesson as that was why they were put into your life in the first place. Everything is here to teach you a lesson. Don’t take it too seriously.

-Some people’s vibrations are not a match to yours. That is okay, they simply are not on your path, they are on their path. Don’t judge them. Keep focusing on your own.

-Addictions are simply a way to numb out. It is so healthy to sit with your sadness, anger, and fear, but let it out in a healthy way. Talk about it, don’t act on it. Don’t let it control you. Acknowledge where this emotion is coming from. It most likely has to do with something that stemmed from childhood, or even past lives.

-BE GRATEFUL. APPRECIATE ALL YOU HAVE. This is the most effective way to start every day. Whether that is your dog, the food you have to eat, your beautiful family. Gifts are all around you. If we focus on what we have been blessed with, mood, satisfaction, happiness are GUARANTEED to skyrocket.

-LISTEN TO MUSIC. GET GOOD SLEEP. EXERCISE. LAUGH. READ READ READ. HAVE A COMMUNITY, (Mine is AA,) TALK TO THE UNIVERSE/GOD ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR LIFE, MANIFEST GOOD, EAT HEALTHY, WATCH A GOOD TV SHOW, BE A GOOD PERSON, MEDITATE, LISTEN TO ABRAHAM HICKS (lol), TRAVEL SEE THE WORLD, DON’T TAKE LIFE TOO SERIOUSLY, CONSTANTLY REPEAT WHAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL FOR

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Sexuality

For a long time I struggled with my sexuality. I felt different because it was always something I felt that I was born with. I like to describe it as a preference. I prefer vanilla ice cream, and I can tell you that the taste just tastes better to me than chocolate but can’t really give exact reasoning behind it other than it just tastes better than to me than chocolate. I can’t change my preference to chocolate because I enjoy the taste of vanilla better. My mother gave me a really hard time about my sexuality when she found out because she cares so much about what others think. I am bi-sexual. She doesn’t understand that she is born in a different generation than me, and in today's society, no as many people care. At least none of my friends or other family members seemed to care. Today I am a lot more confident with it then I used to be. This comes with loving myself unconditionally. Love is love and I know for a fact that I am not any less than people who are born straight. It is such a beautiful thing to see our country progress towards the openness of gay marriage. I believe that if one loves another person it shouldn’t matter whether it is the same sex or not. I love talking to others who understand because there are so many out there who understand what it is like to go through a tough road due to their sexuality. Almost everyone I have talked to about it says that they were born that way. If we are indeed born this way, we can’t help it. We were given this beautiful life, so let’s embrace it. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Love is the most beautiful gift we have as human beings. Love will always conquer hate or judgment. 

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Growing Up With An Alcoholic Parent

My mom is a bad alcoholic. She still drinks to this day. Due to this trauma, I grew up in a household full of fear and anger. I was constantly in fear that my mom was going to come home drunk because when she drinks she becomes extremely angry. I have dealt with both physical and verbal abuse countless times. My dad was always out of town for work so he could not be there to protect me. I had to do it on my own. I had to parent my mom and myself. I was the result of serious self-esteem issues. I did not know as a young child that it was my mom's issue, therefore I took it on as if it was my issue. I constantly thought if there was something better about me my mom wouldn’t have drank. I took it personally because at the young age I was, that was the only thing I knew how to do. I kept everything inside of me. I didn’t act out, but I didn’t ever learn how to let my emotions out in a healthy way. It has taken a tremendous amount of self-healing work to understand how to let emotions out in a healthy way. To not keep things bottled up inside of me. To cope with life’s struggles in a healthy way. To be the best version of myself possible. And to unconditionally love me. It has been a road of ups and downs. But overall, I wouldn’t have traded it for the world because I have now grown in a way that is unimaginable. So many young kids suffer from growing up with a chemically dependent parent. I want them to know that they do not have to suffer anymore. They have a great gift and purpose that they are here to give the world. If one takes everything as a learning opportunity, failure is never possible. We are on this earth to grow and learn from our own personal mistakes. We are not the mistakes of our parents. We can emulate everything our parents weren’t. My parents have been the biggest models for me of what not to be. And by learning what not to be, I have learned what I want to be.  For anyone struggling with a chemical dependent parent, or even friend or loved one, you are not alone. We are in this together. Together we can learn and grow. Addiction is a disease. We must look at it that way. The moment we continue to shame our loved one for their actions, it results in ultimately hurting ourselves more. We cannot change them. We can model the appropriate behavior and healthy coping skills. Praying that these people find their way one day is the ultimate gift we can give back. Every single person struggles with something on this planet. Addiction is theirs. Addiction is cunning, baffling, and wants us dead. But we are not the addiction, we merely struggle with it. We are beautiful non-physical beings who have taken form in a physical body craving to learn from this joyous experience we call life. I’m here to talk to. I understand it personally from growing up in a household with an alcoholic. Life is beautiful when we look at it from a perspective that WE ARE NOT THE VICTIM. We each have beautiful creations to give this world. Let’s explore. 

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How I personally overcame growing up with an alcoholic parent, struggled with my sexuality, and have lived life in sobriety by dealing with substance abuse issues.