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Name your pet your deadname so that when your transphobic people you live with tells you with your deadname to do something or talks to you using your deadname, just say

"But [deadname] can't do that! He's just a cat!"

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So this happened quite a while ago but my parents and older sister (all very queerphobic) were talking about how "at our church there is a boy and the school stole him away and transed him to make him thing the he's a girl" and were talking about it disgustingly and i feel so sorry for that girl. To be outted to the entire church (all who LOVE gossip and talking dirty about one another) and i really hope that she isn't being forced through some sort of conversion therapy. I dont know who she is, or her name, nor have i ever seen her but i hope she is okay and i hope she finds a way to be herself while outside of her house or at school (i hope they didnt also switch her to some christian school)

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I walking and my thoughts just went to i look my finest rn as a sarcastic little joke to myself but then it uncontrollably anx quickly escalated to thinking just how good i look to the point where i gave myself so much euphoria (not gender euphoria but euphoria in general) that i started letting out tiny giggles and smiling to myself

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Decided to have a look at how my prefered terms have changed overtime while discovering new parts of my identity (i really like this sheet btw, a plain one will be at the bottom of this post)

I like how we can see me slowly becoming more open to certain terms while slowly becoming more closed off to others, as well as seeing what terms ive always liked/disliked. At first i guess it was obvious but now i feel like i need to specify exactly how much i prefer a term

I kinda wanna see one from when i still thought i was cis, but ive never made one of that so :/

Here is the plain version if you would like to fill one out for yourself:

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@solarcitymelodies

As a bigenderflux person (formerly identified ad bigenderfluid) i personally like to use bigenderflux as my main terms, while others i identify as are more broad/umberella categories, since they sound fun

Such as: gender nonconforming (gnc for short), genderqueer and multigender for example

(Ill be looking at that list though, would love to hoard more terms (lol))

back again! I was here a bit ago asking abt the bigenderfluid label and I can't seem to find a flag for it anywhere 😭 am I just silly or what?

I was also kinda wondering if there were any more labels I might fall under just for funsies-- bc I seem to experience being bigenderfluid differently from most folks. I've seen one person say in their experience it's more like the way people use the bisexual label, as in two or MORE genders, which sounds a lot like me :3 it's difficult to explain but that's the best description I've got, really...

There are many bigenderfluid flags on this wiki page for starters!

This link shows a bunch of bigender labels and this huge list has a lot of multigender labels in general. I wouldn't really know any specific labels to show you unless I had more details.

For me, I consider bigender to be two or more genders, and I just call it bigender. You could definitely use bigenderfluid on its own for whatever reason you want to, but I totally get wanting to try out some fun new labels that are a little more specific. Feel free to reach out again and I can try to help! - 💙💚

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Funnily enough, your youtube channel was one of the things i had stumbled across when i was still quite in denial about being bigender

When i finally joined the bigender community and found this cool bigender blog and then realised... "hold on... that's the same guy as from that video i watched" and was just in awe XD

You were a great help to me (and also who inspired me to make this blog)

I've witnessed a lot of people discover their genders by seeing my blog or watching my videos, which is really nice to see! Someone had questions and started looking around, and the things I posted to the internet ended up helping someone out a lot. I'm happy to be helpful and to share as much information as I can about various gender topics. I'm here to tell my story so that others might realize some things about themselves that they'd never considered before.

I highly encourage you to tell your story. You never know who it might help. - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

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I need to know if other people do this

People who have periods:

Do you have, like, 'period pajamas'?

I have a pair of pajamas thatni really do not like, and also is a relatively dark colour so i only wear it when im on my period because i dont like it so i dont care if it gets stained and the dark colour helps to hide it a bit

And i was just curious as to if anyone else has that

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College (uk) is starting soon and in the inevitable introductions we probably will have to do, i wanna tell everyone that i go by she/he (not xe/xer because im not ready to announce that to anyone irl yet) pronouns but the idea of announcing that is too intimidating D:

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I love how in breath of the wild, when you dye the gerudo vai clothes light blue, the little pattern design is a light pink.

Its the trans colours! Really fitting outfit to put it on too!

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What i like about school emails to parents is that they send it to every parent in one go instead of each seperatly so instead of saying "she" or "he", they say your child" and "they" which is kinda very euphoric even though i hate being refered to as they/them usually

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Pride ask game. Feel free to RB, and remember it’s good etiquette to send an ask to the person you’re RBing from.

Gender and pronouns?

Romantic orientation?

Sexual orientation?

Past labels you’ve used?

How long have you been using your current labels?

What made you realize your current labels fit you?

What made you pick your name?

What names have you gone by previously?

What names have you considered using?

When did you realize you weren’t cishet?

Do you like your flag(s)?

Favorite flag(s) visually?

Favorite colors?

Favorite animals?

Favorite things about being LGBT+?

Are you dysphoric?

Are you religious?

Are you questioning your identity?

Are you in a relationship?

Are you out of the closet IRL?

Is your family supportive?

Favorite LGBT+ celebrity or historical figure?

Favorite LGBT+ couple IRL?

Favorite LGBT+ canon character?

Favorite LGBT+ canon fictional couple?

Some characters you headcanon as LGBT+?

Some LGBT+ pairings you ship?

Any celebrity crushes?

Any fictional crushes?

A trope you dislike about your identity?

A trope about your identity that applies to you?

Something you wish people understood about your identity?

Something you dislike about being LGBT+?

If you’re not cis, do you want HRT and/or surgery?

If you’re not straight, who was your first same-gender crush?

Do you align with any gay subcategories? (Butch/femme, bear/twink, etc.)

Do you have any LGBT+ idols?

Do you own pride merch? Would you like to?

Do you have a type in partners?

Do you have a type in friends?

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We really need genderneutral fem terms (what i mean is words like "guy" "dude" "man" when they are used in a slang type way, or the 'dudebro lang')

Also i hate how masculine terms can be 'genderneutral' but they begin to be gendered once they become feminine. Like "girl" for example is used in the same slangish way but is used exclusively for females, its annoying =_=

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There is something about drag that appeals to me so much. The ability to cover yourself in makeup and exadgerated clothing to make a persona to be able to go all out and gain confidence is so amazing to me,

If i knew how to do makeup or could stand the feeling of makeup on my face, i would try drag

Man i wanna be a drag queen/king

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I know its been said before but afab and amab are both so frustrating

Like, if you are some flavour of trans, i dont need to know your agab to understand what you are talking about.

Ive seen so many things like "im afab and when i started testosterone" or something like that and i just think that there was no point in mentioning the afab

I get that if you are talking something that absolutely requires the context of ur agab, then say it, i say my agab when it in nessesary to what im trying to say if the thing im talking about relates to my sex but otherwise, i hate using it. People can probably guess what my agab is from what i am talking about and i dont feel the need to say it directly if i dont need to, and if they dont figure it out, they dont need to because what i am are my genders and knowing my agab doesnt change that

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Actually bigender means the experience of having two genders (or more depending on the person)

While male + female bigender experiences are more common, it also can be a combination of binary, nonbinary, fluid/flux, demi, xeno, abinary/trinary or agender genders

Its a common misconception but it is important to correct that

-yourbigendergremlet ::)

what does bigender mean?

Someone who identifies as bigender is someone is simultaneously male and female! Hope this helped!

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Male and female but both are flux

To my bigender followers, what are your genders?

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As a bigenderflux person, what i am trying to do is binding (i know its painful and hard, and i want to get trans tape since i hear that is less hard on your body, and it lets you go out shirtless and swim in it, so that is an option, but once im safe to buy and apply it for long periods of time without suspicion)

And for hrt, see what things you want from it. I personally want the body hair and deeper voice, but sometimes i like my higher voice so what i am planning to do is voice train myself so that i have the option to go between both voices. Its hard, but it will be worth it.

And i also plan to start using those hair growth products once im away and safe to be able to do it, and research what works well then, or let it grow out naturally

I guess see what temporary alternates you want from hrt, and see what you can do for them so that you always easily have the option to go back.

Really hope this helps, and good luck with deciding what you want to do, and of course research everything thoroughly before you start doing/using them! And of course its normal and fine ti feel this way

need advice / small vent

guys is it normal as a genderfluid (possibly demiboy) person to want to look more masculine and not have stupid meat spheres on their chest but also be too scared to go through hrt or surgery bc medical stuff is waaaay too scary?

like, right now i wanna be a man SOOOOO bad and i hate hearing ppl call me a girl but im too scared to even consider actually doing something about it in the future bc what if the fluidity hits and i start feeling feminine again and end up regretting it all way down the line

i mean i can’t do anything now but im still torn between medically transitioning in the future and regretting it or never medically transitioning and feeling the same amount of dysphoria plus feeling like a coward does anyone have advice?