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Happy new years everyone, I hope everyone of you get even smarter and hotter this year.

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Nobody asked but here’s my ins and outs for 2024:

Ins:

Self love (more of it)

Taking more pictures of myself/documenting my life

Start reading more (I’ve been in a reading slump, just got out of it)

Read articles for fun

Growing my intelligence

Go out more (without feeling obligated)

Finding my signature scent (still looking for it but I think I found it)

Never leave the house without wearing earrings or at least one piece of jewelry

Focusing on emotional intelligence

Outs:

Compulsive shopping

Only journaling when things are hard

Swearing (I learned English from a random woman who swore a lot because of that I tend to use them as filler words sometimes)

Self depreciation (cause I’m hot and sexy and need to do better)

Scrolling for no reason (now I’ll pick up a book)

Using “like” in every sentence

Overthinking (I’m actually doing good with this so far)

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Can’t wait to be this rich:

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so me

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Things you need to do/remember if you want to reinvent yourself in 2024

Go to to therapy if needed. I don't speak about myself a lot but I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression, I went to therapy and this changed my life. Sometimes all we need is to talk about everything and have someone help us through it.

Wake up at the same time everyday, what time you sleep doesn’t matter, when you wake up is what matters the most. When you start waking at the same time everyday, your sleep schedule will get better on its own.

Get off of social media.

Take care of your skin, and I also mean your body (I have a blog here @skincarewithshely where I'll be talking about skincare and tips)

Stop idolizing people, key word 'people', they're humans going through stuff just like you.

Treat yourself, you don't need a reason.

Self care = Self respect

Improve your mindset and your looks will follow.

Unless someone said they have problem with you, don't assume they do.

You're not being judged by random people and if you are, this person will see something worse and forget about you.

Education over men, always.

Start reading and I mean read stuff other than romance novels. Some of my favourite books that I think are perfect for beginners that want to read something different are; Animal Farm (fiction/political satire), No longer human (fiction), To kill a mockingbird (domestic fiction/ southern gothic), Flowers on the moon (poetry).

That's all for today, byeee!

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Dating Rules

I have been seeing a lot of people making and sharing lists of their dating rules and I wanted to make one. This post is separated into 2 parts before and during dating.

Before:

Know exactly what you want before you go on a date so you're not left disappointed, this also allows you to build boundaries and a way to communicate with the other person. So do you want a relationship? Just a hook up? Decide beforehand.

Make a list of what you want in your in your partner, this will help you eliminate all the ones that do not meet your standards. This list can be as detailed as you want and it doesn't matter if it seems like this person doesn't exist.

Pay attention to the way the other person is communicating. If this person is barely responding and doesn't seem like they care, do not be surprised if they're like this in person.

Wear something nice, do your skincare, wear perfume and do your makeup. if you look good, you'll feel good. You'll feel more confidence.

During:

Smile. This is coming from someone who has an rbf. Just try to smile.

This is related to point 1, if they said something that wasn't funny, you don't have to force a laugh (this is where the rbf comes in handy).

Pay attention to the way they treat the staff. It says a lot about their characters.

Do not drink or do drugs. Also do not go anywhere private with this person, at the end of the day that's a stranger.

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Dream big, let everyone look at you like you’re insane for having those dreams. All of your dreams will become a reality. You want to live in a mansion? Dream about it, think about what it will look like, what kind of furniture will be in the mansion. Start visualizing it so when it happens you won’t be surprised or shocked, because at the end of the day you already knew you were going to end up in a mansion, what’s there to be shocked about?

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Things you need to start doing to reinvent your life:

Wake up at the same time everyday:

This will increase your sleep efficiency, allow you to build a sleeping pattern that works for you. You will also feel more energized, throughout the day after doing this for at least a week.

Surround yourself with people who uplift you:

I doesn’t matter if you’ve been friends with someone for 8 years. If they are constantly bringing you down, and disrespecting you, distance yourself from them.

Change your mindset:

Listen to podcasts and watch videos of people who have the mindset you want. If you find yourself going back to a negative mindset, correct yourself right away. 

Write down your goals:

Why do you want to reinvent your life? What do you want to gain? Once you have a clear goal the easier it will be to reinvent your life. 

Remember that everything in life is a choice, nobody can force you to do or be something. That’s up to you.  

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Start making your vision board for 2024 now, so you’re mentally prepared for the new year and hit the ground running. I’ve added some inspo:

Side note: Sorry for not posting anything I’ve been busy. I hope everyone is having a good day!!!

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Slow growth is still growth. Always remember that.

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Fall is coming, here for anyone who needs this:

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Within the next 6 months your life is going to look completely different. You're going to be very happy with the changes.

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If you want to reinvent yourself, surround yourself with like-minded people who have similar goals as you or had similar goals and achieved them already. This will inspire you, and help you in this journey.