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happy aplatonic visibility day! y'all are so valid and cute! love ya

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queer is better than lgbt+ because if you're in the + you're an afterthought, an etc., less important and valued to the community than anyone lgbt. queer however, queer works for us all, queer includes everyone

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yk that polyam feeling of adding more partners to the relationship.

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aspec representation is so fucking important!

Aspec representation is important because kids are still told in health class that everyone feels attraction

Aspec representation is important because somewhere in the world there’s a 12 year old crying because they feel broken

Aspec representation is important because I still get told “that’s not real” when I come out

Aspec representation is important because people still think the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally

Aspec representation is important because everyone deserves to see someone like them on screen

Aspec representation is important because people still think that asexual and aromantic are the same thing

Aspec representation is important

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anyone can have qprs! also never say that a qpr is less than a romantic relationship, that just shows how amatonormativity has eaten your brain

Allos can also have QPRs. Btw. In case you thought it was an aspec-only event. Or romance light. It's neither. And you can have one if you want.

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this genocide has been happening for 75 years

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Hey... Hey if you say you support aspec people that means you also need to respect repulsed aspecs. Non-partnering aspecs. Loveless aspecs. Platonic aspecs. Other a-attraction aspecs. Old aspecs. Young aspecs. Aspecs who use labels you don't understand. Non-sam aspecs. Traumatized aspecs. Dysphoric aspecs.

You cannot only support part of the community. It's either all of us or none of us. You can't play favorites because one kind of aspec makes you feel more comfortable than others.

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happy lesbian visibility day to ALL lesbians! ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

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my grandparents are older than isnotreal 💀

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people who use no pronouns are so cool :P

I made this quick info post about using no pronouns bc there’s not a lot of resources on it! Reblogs appreciated :D

[Image ID: Simple blue and white graphic. First slide is titled “Guide to Using No Pronouns” and has a figure waving with a speech bubble that says “Hi, I’m Bee! I prefer using my name in place of pronouns.” The second slide is titled “Reasons to use No Pronouns” and the bullet points read “When no pronouns seem to fit. Sometimes you just don’t vibe with any of them! Avoids misgendering someone who’s not out yet. For fun!” An additional bubble reads “you don’t have to have a reason!” The third slide is titled “Introductions” and reads “Introducing yourself: “Hello, my name is ____. I use my name instead of pronouns.” or “My name is ____. I don’t use pronouns.” Introducing someone else: “This is ____. ____ doesn’t use pronouns.” or “This is ____. You can use ____’s name in place of pronouns.” I find that stating that you use your name in place of pronouns makes your introduction more clear. I would also include a quick example of how to use your name: “So instead of using they/them/their, you can say “Bee is calling Bee’s parents.”““ The fourth slide is titled “Examples” and reads “Here’s some examples using my name! Instead of: “Bee is working by themself.” Do: “Bee is working alone.” Instead of: “They are proud of their work.” Do: “Bee is proud of Bee’s work.” Instead of “I went with them and they were amazing!” Do: “I went with Bee and Bee was amazing!”“ The fifth slide reads “Thank you for reading! Have a good day!”]

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"Elderly Palestinian couple looking at their former home, now occupied by a couple from Brooklyn. 🇵🇸" [@/RamAbdu on X. April 4th, 2024.]

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FUCK ISNOTREAL AND FUCK THE WORLD

While standing in line trying to get some food in the southern Gaza Strip, he yelled at the journalist Fakri Ibrahim, saying: 'Send this picture to Israel and the world.'

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happy lesbian visibility week to all lesbians ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week to Aspec Lesbians!

Aromantic Lesbians Asexual Lesbians AroAce Lesbians AroAllo Lesbians AlloAce Lesbians

Aplatonic Lesbians Aqueerplatonic Lesbians Afamilial Lesbians Asensual Lesbians Analterous Lesbians Nonaesthetic Lesbians

Aspec Lesbians who never want to enter a romantic relationship Aspec Lesbians who never want to have sex Aspec Lesbians in relationships of any kind

Aspec Lesbians are fucking rad

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i love ALL lesbians ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

reminder that mspec lesbians and male lesbians and he/him lesbians and trans(masc/neu/fem) lesbians have existed for decades and are fucking amazing lesbians that deserve space in the lesbian community

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ppl who actually include atertiary, aplatonic, afamilial, etc. when you say 'aspec' please reblog this if you are ok with reblogging

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hey real quick? shoutout to aplatonics. shoutout to aplspecs. shoutout to grey apls. shoutout to demi apls. shoutout to alloallo apls. shoutout to alloace apls. shoutout to aroallo apls. shoutout to aroace apls. shoutout to loveless apls. shoutout to heartless apls. shoutout to neurodivergent apls. shoutout to persodivergent apls. shoutout to mentally ill apls. shoutout to traumatized apls. shoutout to apls who are apl because of trauma. shoutout to apls who have platonic relationships. shoutout to apls who don't have platonic relationships. shoutout to apls who don't know they're apl. shoutout to questioning apls.

shoutout to all apls.

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Because not many people are talking about it, I'm making a post on what constitutes platonormativity!

Platonormativity here refers to the idealisation of friendship and viewing friendship as essential and mandatory.

Im putting this under the cut as this is a long post

[If this personally offends you or you're an exclus or think I am not aware of how friendship is also deprioritised, etc. honestly this post is not really for you lol]

Things that can be platonormative:

-Assuming that everyone has friends, and viewing it as a red flag or a sign of mental illness if someone doesn't have friends, and/or expecting them to be actively looking for friends

-Claiming that one must be 'friends first' before a romantic or sexual or other relationship in order for it to work out

-Treating friendship as inherently more stable and long-lasting than other relationship types

-Using the term friend for people without considering whether they actually are okay with that term or whether they actually want to be your friend, or otherwise considering someone your friend when they are not explicitly okay with that

-Claiming that aros and aces must "at least have friends" or experience platonic love or platonic attraction because of their 'lack'

-Claiming that everyone should have friends

-Profiling people who don't seem to have friends as a "suicide liability"

-Being ableist towards people whose ability to make or keep friends or want friends or otherwise engage in social bonds is diminished by their (physical or mental) disability and/or neurodivergence

-Assuming that everyone is alloplatonic and friending and plato-favorable

-Assuming that no one is monogamous for friendship

-Considering it inherently "unhealthy" or "increasing risk of abuse" if someone has a partner(s) but not friends

-Forcing friendship as something mandatory even when people are toddlers or very young children

-Assuming a couple/other partners are solely "friends" due to them being polyamorous, queer, or other reasons

-Assuming that people who interact in certain ways must be friends

-Treating friendship as something inherently more "wholesome" or as something that can never be used for harm unless it was a pretence

-Blaming a lack of friendship rather than the harmful behaviour itself when it comes to 'pickup artists' and other people who act entitled to sex, romance, or other things

-Calling aplatonics with a connection to romance "amatonormative" for existing

-Treating the dismantling of amatonormativity, relationship anarchy, and aro activism as an excuse to enforce friendship as something that is mandatory

-Claiming that 'aro culture' is basically (insert alloplatonic and/or plato favorable experience)

-Assuming that ALL demiromantic and/or demisexual people must require friendship as the bond after which it is a possibility for them to experience attraction

-Assuming that every alloaro must want a 'friends with benefits' type of relationship

-Assuming that anything thats nonromantic and/or nonsexual has to be platonic(friendship)

-Reinforcing a platonic-romantic binary

-Claiming that friendship cannot involve sex or romance ever

-Assuming that queerplatonic relationships are friendship or always involve friendship

-Looking down on others for not giving priority to friendship or not engaging in friendship

-Media being saturated with friendship and not many media existing without having friendship in it

-Not understanding that people can be repulsed by friendship and/or platonicism