#non-partnering

[cosmicredcadet]

Hey... Hey if you say you support aspec people that means you also need to respect repulsed aspecs. Non-partnering aspecs. Loveless aspecs. Platonic aspecs. Other a-attraction aspecs. Old aspecs. Young aspecs. Aspecs who use labels you don't understand. Non-sam aspecs. Traumatized aspecs. Dysphoric aspecs.

You cannot only support part of the community. It's either all of us or none of us. You can't play favorites because one kind of aspec makes you feel more comfortable than others.

[roses-are-repulsed]

You can be repulsed by QPRs btw. That's a valid form of repulsion. it doesn't matter if it's "not sexual or romantic tho!!!" because repulsion doesn't start and stop at only romance and sex.

Not every aspec has to like the idea of being in a QPR. being repulsed by QPRs is not an anti-QPR stance. it's just a kind of relationship that people can have a multitude of feelings on like any other.

[papercranesandpride]

Here's a PSA for all the non-partnering aros out there: if you have some savings you can spend? Get a will, living will, and power of attorney, or whatever the equivalents in your country are. Now. I promise it isn't as hard as it seems.

When people die or become unconscious or incapacitated, their legal rights fall to their spouses. If you don't have a spouse, things generally fall to your children or your parents, but it can get messy. So if you aren't married and don't plan to be, there's no real way to know who is going to be put in charge of your assets, your funeral, and potentially your comatose self unless you get the legal documents to determine that. This is how you make sure it all falls to people you trust.

I just got my own done. It took me 2 phone calls, 1 in-person visit, and $850. Mind you, I didn't shop around for the lowest rates because I knew that I could afford whatever it was going to cost. I know it can be done cheaper.

Now, I know that even if I'm not conscious, my transphobic parents have absolutely no control over me. My lovely sister is in charge of everything, and if she's not around, my aunt. I'm not going to get buried under the wrong name. I don't need to worry that if I'm in a coma, some doctor will suggest that maybe taking me off T will fix everything and my parents will be all too happy to comply. And as a bonus, I can make sure that my younger brother inherits all my savings.

It wasn't nearly as hard or scary as hiring a lawyer sounds. It does ensure that if I get hit by a car tomorrow, no one's scrambling to figure out what to do with me.

I understand not spending the money if you're planning on being married within a few years. That is kind of a waste. But if you're non-partnering, it really is worth it. They're all good forever, it isn't difficult to change the will if I decide I want to, and the only reason I'd ever need to change the other two is if my sister died.

So yeah, non-partnering aros, even if you're young and healthy, think about final arrangements and legal documents. For us more than anyone else, it matters.

[walks-the-ages]

If a character is canonically aro ace and repulsed at the thought of partnering, is it less aphobic of the fandom at large to erase this queer identity in favor of generic gay shipping, if one single ace fan claims to have "started" the genetic gay ship that erases the character's specific "aro+ace+repulsed at the thought of partnering" identity, and this excuse is used to shout down anyone who speaks up about the aphobia rampant in the fandom?

"Uwu actually it was an ace fan who started this generic gay OOC whitewashed ship! Therefore its fine and no one is allowed to complain ever!!! Shut up other ace fans you don't get a say if you don't support the mindless generic gay mlm ship!!!!!!!"

[faerie-of-venom]

The first chapter of my new relationship-anarchy focused Human Domestication Guide Fic, Foundling Grove, is now available on AO3

Briar, an aromantic terran, has received a letter from the Bureau of Xenosophont Wellness and Care that fae have no choice other than to be domesticated for faer own wellness, but nothing sounds worse to faer other than being exclusively owned by another Sophont. However, the Domestication Center worker informs fae of another option, to become a pet at a J-café called Foundling Grove, made specifically for pets who would not be happy with a sole owner, while still receiving the care, attention, and happiness they need. Briar finds that there are other florets at Foundling Grove like them, and that there is a place in the compact for all sophonts.

This fic is really personal to me as an aromantic, loveless, and non-partnering person, and I wanted to focus on where people like me fit into the compact. You can read it here!

https://archiveofourown.org/works/64710634/

Please note that I am basing a lot of this on my own experiences and fantasies, and not meant to be representative of all aromantic and loveless experiences, as there are as many of those as there are aromantics. I hope you all enjoy and can find some comfort though.

[aroallo-corvid]

Poll Six:

[your-bigender-big-brother]

your take on the non partnering flag?

I tried to do something unique and interesting. Just a simple representation of two colors meeting in the middle, but the white line crosses out where they meet (which is also where they blend together to make purple.) Basically a way to "cross out" the idea of partnerships. I originally went with a black line, but it felt a bit harsh in color.

I hope this looks okay! - 💙💚

[mogai-headcanons]

icon id: 4 icons in 2 pairs. in each pair, both icons have the listed flags in order in the background and the left icon has an image of the listed character with a white outline and a black shadow. end id.

banner id: a 1500x150 teal banner with the words ‘please read my dni before interacting’ in large white text in the center. end id.

Eda Clawthorne from The Owl House is a disabled autistic T4T demiromantic bisexual transfeminine femgender genderwinged birdgender predatorkinic monstercoric modifizique trinketgender witch with ADHD and a chronic illness!

Lilith Clawthorne is an autistic non-partnering aroace antiquanec ravengender vaguegirl with a chronic illness!

dni link

[pileofpawns]

non-partnering aroaces either die with comphet or live long enough to see themselves become a third wheel

[mtmdirk]

shout-out to non-partnering and aros who don't date and romance repulsed and adverse aros but still feel romantic attraction

[alien-ally]

So. Yesterday, a classmate asked me a very interesting question. (I’m out to her btw) Lolol honestly me clarifying in between that i’m actually 100% on the far end of being aro kind of collapsed the quo but i told her to ask away anyway. It was something like ‘Hypothetically, if u happened to meet an arospec person in school and you guys managed to really hit it off together, so much that you felt like you wanted them in your life even after school ended, would it…’ basically you get it. So she wasn’t really asking if i would date them but if it could possibly lead to any kind of partnership/if i could see myself in that sort of a companionship. and actually. what a brain-gear turning quo. The answer is no btw, that’s not the brain gear turning part. cause the quo ties to me Also happening to be aplatonic. which means nothing of that sort has happened to me till now and i frankly see the possibility to be very low. There has never been an instance where i’ve ‘hit it off’ with someone so profoundly that i end up ‘wanting them in my life more intensely’. (which doesn’t mean i don’t ever hit off with people or ever find happiness from having them in my life. No, that would be a gross misconstrue.) Uh anyways, i’m not going to explain the phenomenon of being💥apl💥top to bottom once again, just know that the answer is a direct no for me without any further ruminations. However the brain-gear turning part to me is that i nevertheless see meeting a fellow aroace(apl) person as the next biggest thing to happen in my life. And i have fantasized about it on many occasions. cause that would entail an exquisite kind of understanding i’ve never experienced in my life and mark an important milestone. which i’m sure won’t be happening until later. school is about to end in less than 6 months. So then what would it be like? Given that i am what i am. What form would that grandeur take? What form can it take?

On a lesser note, it also made me aware of the sort of ‘lack of determinism’ on my part. cause i have always been so led to want things i don’t truly want, which part of the yearning is real and which an inherent conditioning? Yeah you don’t see anyone asking straight people if they would ever turn gay but it’s allowed to aspecs? And it’s a thing we repeatedly ask ourselves too due to the same conditioning. Given that growing up and finding partnership doesn’t invalidate your aspec-ness in any way? As harmless a quo (my classmate’s) it was, led to a cascade of thoughts all over again. Good old Aromanticism.

[cosmicredcadet]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

[aspecpridecalendar]

Happy Pride to all non-partnering aspecs!

Non-partnering - A person who does not desire to form a significant partnership with others. This can include romantic partnerships, queerplatonic partnerships, platonic life partners, and others.

[aegoromantic-shipper]

□ single

□ taken

■ non-partnering

mfs be like "are you single or taken" and like technically im single but that implies that im availible, which i most definitely am not so yes im taken. im taken by me. you cant have me.

[2129888]

BESTIES-- KILLLLLLL!!!

[fantastic-nonsense]

society if Two-Face was Batman's arch-nemesis instead of the Joker: