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oh also? An absolutely freaky thing I'm seeing yt leftists do?

STOP TRYING TO TRACK DOWN PROTESTORS THAT DO 'BADASS STUFF'. STOP POSTING ABOUT IT ONLINE.

PEOPLE FUCKING DIE.

AND IT'S USUALLY SOMEONE MELANATED.

THE GOVERNMENT IS WATCHING YOU FUCKING DUMBASS.

y'all are so stuck on egoistic heroism that every time someone does something 'sick' at a protest you wanna turn them in to the next celebrity to have a parasocial relationship with and then they go missing.

Tf is wrong w y'all.

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this might sound stupid but I can’t help but believe that the new wave of “birth control is actually horrible for your body, you need to get off it immediately” misinformation from influencers and the ‘natural cycle tracking’ apps suddenly being advertised is a sneaky underhanded way of causing more unplanned pregnancies that people now cannot abort. now is possibly the worst time ever to turn towards ‘natural family planning’

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every time i talk about exorsexism within trans communities specifically (and sometimes lateral ableism), someone who Doesn't Like It™️ comes into my mentions speculating on my age and how long i've been out for, acting like i'm a teenager (which to them makes everything i say inherently meaningless) and like i came into the community yesterday (i've been here long enough to see transmedicalism shift from something that was overtly done by a few loud people to something that has been broadly normalised within the community to the point where nearly every trans discussion has some kind of transmed undertone, long enough to watch people with large platforms be exorsexist for years on end without any consequence and more).

you all are desperate to frame nonbinary people talking about exorsexism as unreliable narrators, which is one of the most common ways to shut down conversations about exorsexism, and the easiest way to do that is to infantilise us, treat us either like kids or newbies in the community or both who couldn't possibly have anything real to say. like i'm just waiting for people to say my experience, observations and opinions aren't "valid" because i'm neurodivergent or something because this is where this line of thinking usually goes. bonus points if the person going "young enbies don't know what they're talking about" has only been out for a year or two themselves and hasn't seen all the stuff me and others have.

i made a conscious choice to not mention my age, how long i've been out or any other specific identities on this blog because i've been here long enough to know that everything and anything would just be used against me, and more importantly, against the concept of exorsexism being a thing. it's certainly interesting where people's speculations are going though.

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it pisses me off SO bad how transphobes have so effectively used sports to launder transphobia and misogyny to people. like does nobody remember like ~5-10 years ago when it was a MAJOR feminist talking point to argue for desegregating sports and going by skill level instead of gender separation??? and now, because so many cis people hate trans people so violently and think we should be excluded from all aspects of public life, you’ve got a whole bunch of women who call themselves feminists laundering misogynistic talking points about how “women are just inherently weaker and worse at athletics than men :(( it’s just biology and women are inherently inferior :(( this is definitely not misogyny that’s unsupported by science, women are just weaker and worse at things :((“ like girl open your ears and listen to what you’re saying!!

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Exactly the reason why I do not like calling it "Eldest Sister Syndrome." Sometimes your family does not automatically designate the eldest daughter as honorary "third parent."

But even if my parents did make me care for my brothers 24/7 just because I was their firstborn and AFAB, you cannot tell me that because I'm actually not a daughter (but I fully believe they would've parentified me even if I were AMAB and not trans), everything that has ever happened to me that you happen to feel is a "feminine trauma" actually did not happen to me.

Saw a post that said trans guys can't have eldest sister syndrome (parentification) fml

trans guys can do whatever they want forever actually

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I need to see BDSM haters go on rants about the evils of capsaicin

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No matter how progressive or well-read you are, there are always going to be moments in your life where somebody pushes back against something that's so culturally ingrained you never even considered it before. And you'll say "Huh, it never occurred to me to challenge this but you're right" and that doesn't mean you were "morally toxic" before, it means you're a non-omniscient human capable of growth.

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there's a post where someone said "can you respect trans women who look like men" and someone responded something like "hell yeah I love people who fuck with gender!" and like... yeah that's cool, but in a lot of spaces "trans woman who looks like a man" is a lot less likely to be someone who is intentionally comfortably presenting masculine, and a lot more likely to be a girl who hasn't started transition, or can't safely, or just didn't or couldn't put in the effort to pass as fem today, and a lot of them will just look like schlubby dudes and not a radically presenting queer person. and you should be able to respect that.

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One of the few times I will accept malgendering is when it comes with forcing a TERF to accept I am trans.

When a sex-negative TERF says, "No woman would ogle another woman, that's a male thing," my bigender gay ass saunters in and replies, "Hi, I am an ogler."

They must then either accept that I am a man (the malgendering), or be forced to undergo further mental gymnastics to try and make the claim that "It's different!"

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Reminder that the only reason "hermaphrodite" is even used in biology is because some zoologists a couple hundred years ago were were too lazy to come up with a new term to talk about how snails reproduce, and instead opted to compare them to intersex people. (Which were, at the time, ONLY called hermaphrodites. The word intersex didn't exist yet.)

Hermaphrodite has referred to intersex people since before we knew what a gamete was.

It wouldn't fucking kill you to use cosexed/cosexual, dichogamous, monoecious, gonosimulite, or whatever else to talk about animal species that have dual reproductive function. You don't need to contribute to a slur for us staying normalized.

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Oooh, another instance of radical "feminism" being horrendously misogynistic r:adblr currently losing its collective mind over a famous woman being kink-positive.

The patriarchy is not being fueled by a woman indulging in her own kinks. The patriarchy gives not one measly fuck about what woman want.

But do you know what does support the patriarchy?

Reinforcing that women ought to be shamed for their own sensuality, telling a woman that her pleasure is setting good society back, framing the existence of a woman's sex life as being for a man... I could go on and on, especially if I were to get into exactly how misogynistic that all is.

Plus, it is totally disrespectful to be obsessing over an actor in the corner whose album this is not.

This is Sabrina Carpenter's album. And that is her kink. Thus, it does not matter if she enjoys taking a sexually subordinate role (keyword: "she enjoys.") She can wear all the lingerie she wants, she can be whoever's puppy she wants, she can perform however the hell she wants.

I may not be a Sabrina Carpenter fan. However, I am a huge fan of autonomy, especially for groups of people whose autonomy is consistently and purposefully undermined by society at large.

And consent is really cool.

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I cooked, and you're telling me Tumblr just tossed my draft into the void because it couldn't load the image I used in it?

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It also defines gender and race as a dichotomy between "oppressor" and "oppressed." Which I do not have the energy to get into just how fucked that is.

...Also, how messed up and just plain weird would it be to say, "White people are the men of race, and black people are the women of race?" Like, intersectionality who? Some terribly nuance-less (and "white") shit to say about complicated societal problems, good golly.

comparisons between race and gender are always going to ultimately fail because theres a crucial difference between them, and that is that people can transition to be a different gender, but people cannot transition to be a different race

"men are like the white people of gender and women are like the black people of gender" will never be a valid comparison because the existence of transgender people complicates this analog to such a degree that the phrase becomes completely meaningless

and this analogy also completely disregards the existence of other races outside of black and white that it becomes a very shallow understanding of both sexism and racism as well, and how sexism and racism intersect

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dislike and discomfort are normal and healthy parts of the human experience actually

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i hope trans men talking about our oppression is as fucking inescapable as the amount of fucking transandrophobia that we see regularly from our own fucking community.

you deserve to feel more than uncomfortable for making fun of a vulnerable minority group.

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if you exhibit terf or transmisogynistic rhetoric, or platform those who do, i do not like you either. as far as im concerned genderqueerdykes needs to either leave the internet and undo all of the radfem conditioning its done to itself or it needs to die in a pit. saying "oh im sorry" is no excuse for openly racefaking and pretending to be black for hundreds of dollars or going on a 1k+ word rant about trans women being male socialized.

that is years worth of internalized transphobia and it actively appropriated racism for its own gain. that will not be undone with a "sorry." that is "leave the internet and come back in 6 months" level bad. i dont know why the transandrophobia community isnt making more of a fuss about this considering it allegedly raped someone as well. im a transandro "bro" but i am just as furious about the treatment of trans women on this site, and if you continue to platform a racefaker and a potential rapist i do not like nor trust you on my page.

the paradox of tolerance states that if we continue to tolerate the intolerant they will ransack our community into a bigoted mess. get transmisogynistic transandrophobia theorists out of this space and never put that fucker on my dash again. quit sending it asks, quit sending it donations, quit listening to its whining. im sick of this community trying to ignore this or going "oh now people are going to hate transandrobros even more!!!" seriously??? you care about your image right now?????? it raped someone (allegedly). what the fuck is wrong with you. there are bigger issues, here!!! and if it didnt commit rape it is still currently a horrible person. its donation posts are still up, and it has still not addressed the rape allegations. quit shoving this under the rug.