#“i am a grown adult yes. this is a grown up blog” i say as i plan a tea party with my stuffies

[twasbrillig71]

LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT

UNFOLLOW ME NOW. THIS IS GONNA BE THE ONLY THING I [blog] ABOUT FOR THE NEXT WEEK. I'VE WANTED THIS FOR YEARS—

[cowboyjen68]

Hi Jen, sorry for dumping a big rant in your askbox but your blog has helped me figure out my identity and I don’t have anyone to talk to about this in real life lol. Feel free to delete if this is too weird.

So I’m a 17 y/o butch, and I have been masculine since I was a little kid. I always felt lucky to have a family that was generally okay with my gender nonconformity. They treated it like a cute quirk of mine, and I never felt like I was being judged or that I should change the way I am around them. My dad got a kick out of it. One summer he let me help him build the deck in our backyard. He always took me to baseball games, he dressed me up in his old clothes, basically treated me like I was his son and I loved it.

I feel like as I get older, my masculinity becomes less acceptable. I went to visit my paternal grandmother for the holidays, hadn’t seen her in a few years, and the first thing she said to me was “I thought you would’ve grown out of all that by now” (in reference to my haircut and outfit, I think.) I just don’t know how to react to the way my extended family treats me now. They used to be totally fine with it, but I spent my entire Christmas feeling like I was being judged for every little thing.

Like, what’s changed? Why is it cute and funny when a little girl wears boy’s clothes and wrestles with her cousins, but disgusting when I grow up and settle into my masculinity?

It’s like I’ve crossed the invisible line between being a tomboy and being a dyke, and now no one wants to entertain it anymore.

Again, sorry for the rant haha, I just feel like I’m going crazy because I tried to talk to my sister about it and she said she didn’t notice them acting any different, but I swear my aunt spent half of our Christmas dinner telling me how pretty I would be if I just wore a bit of makeup lmaoo. I’m just wondering if anyone else has experienced this, because I’m feeling pretty lost right now. Thanks, and happy holidays!

It is not weird at all. I hear that young lesbians, particularly butches, do not have older role models to bounce ideas off of or vent or get any perspective on certain experiences. Moms and Dads and straight sisters and cousins, no matter how well meaning, will just not always "get" what is happening. They say things like "we love you no matter what" and "we don't care if you are a lesbian" and they mean it, mostly. But they often don't see the subtle clues (or blatant ones)they toss around that indicates how uncomfortable they are with you being so visible, but just existing as you naturally are.

AND OH MY GOSH yes I have experienced exactly what you are talking about with the deepening judgement as you move from a cute little Tomboy to an adult butch women. It is almost like they hope to "catch it early" when we are in our teens and redirect us away from the "danger" of being a visible lesbian. And a woman who does not, in very overt ways, conform to their idea of how a woman should be and act.

My dad was relatively consistent in treating me pretty much like he would a son and, to his credit, he did so with my straight sister. We were allowed to do just about anything my older brothers did. In part because my sister was pretty strong willed but also a lot like him. I was less strong willed but she had mowed the path.

Mom was the one who was forever concerned about my looks and behavior, both out of worry I would not fit in, and because she had a certain expectation of how her daughter should grow up. Both normal Mom reactions. She understood bullies and knew that sticking out could be difficult. Her solution was not to strengthen my resilience but to attempt to "tone me down". Her efforts increased as I made the jump from kid to teen and into my late teens. She would discourage me from cutting my hair, becoming almost angry when I brought it up. She would tell me how lovely I was in dresses and skirts and say thing like " a little make up would be nice". It got really old. It lead to us not always getting along even though I loved and respected my mom. She was a great mom. But this one thing made us both crazy. She could not cool it and I could not change who I was.

Friends at school saw hints of my liking girls. I stopped wearing cowboy boots and my favorite horse buckle and it their place went with K Mart Tennis shoes and a generic belt that came with my pants, again, from Kmart. I put away the cowboy fringed shirts and flannel and went with simple jeans and sweatshirts, the acceptable attire for boys and girls in my rural high school. I kept my hair long to disguise my "looking like a boy" traits.

I (barf) agreed to date a boy and spent the better part of that time making excuses to not kiss him or spent time with him. I was starting to listen to mom and do my best to hide ME from the world. Anything (with in reason) to throw the world off the scent, the scent of me being a lesbian. Being butch made that one more step difficult.

It is hard to hide the space we take up naturally.

It might seem hard to see it now by your family is slightly well intentioned, knowing that being "seen" easily as a lesbian can be dangerous. But also, they are uncomfortable with your energy and physical presence because it does not coincide with their ideas of what a woman acts, feels and moves like. This is a THEM problem and I can give you words of comfort based on experience.

The more you begin to be you, and dress in what gives you comfort the more your confidence will grow and be evident. People who are emboldened to try and change you for their own comfort tend to back way off when there is no opening for their opinions. They just sort of realize they are wasting time. AND for those that don't, there are always a few, you don't have to give them any air or acknowledgement. You get to let them waste time and energy while you look great in whatever you wish to wear and however you wish to cut your hair. And in a wonderful turn around, you don't have to spend any effort just being you or trying to defend or correct them.

You are fast approaching adulthood and with that will come even more freedom and independence. Don't rush it but also, work towards that.

[onlyjaeyun]

alright, i'm gonna address this ask once and then just not respond to anything else, even the asks supporting me bc im a little exhausted and on the verge of losing motivation so i dont wanna trigger it by going back and forth with people. yet this does not mean i dont deeply appreciate everyone's sweet messages. means the world to me to know you all have my back like this, so thank you so much 🤍

once and for all: this is fiction. fiction, meant for adults hence the MDNI/18+ in my bio, basically plastered all over my blog.

every character ive created so far is just that. a character. and i need some of you guys to understand that this is what (fan)fiction is about. the smoking, the family trauma, the lack of self awareness, their sexual activities and coping mechanisms, everything regarding and about my characters was created by me and most of the time intentionally.

one thing that also needs to be clear is that you can't just run around policing grown people in their asks talking about such significant issues and throwing around accusations like that because not only is it deeply offensive but it's also very, very dangerous. you misunderstood my post and assumed i'd use sex and sexual intimacy to have him make up for his wrongdoings when that is NOT what i said at all. just please be careful the next time because i understand where you came from but i did not deserve that.

what i also wanna address is the part with me having "impressionable readers" because this is very important to me as a smut writer.

i have set clear boundaries that i do not want any minors on my blog, point blank. now, we all know they're still around. is that my responsibility? no. am i supposed to give a fuck about people who are apparently old enough to consciously read trigger/content warnings and continue to read my work? fuck no. is it my job to educate those impressionable people that they shouldn't read smth if they can't differentiate fiction from reality. NO.

that's all im gonna say to this because yes, there are impressionable readers out there but that is NOT my responsibility.

im tired of people constantly policing me and the things i write when im a grown woman who knows exactly what she's doing. if you hate CH!sunghoon so much and are so uncomfortable with his progress, then don't read it.

saying this for everyone yet again:

if you do NOT like a writer's work, you do NOT have to READ it.

this is tumblr. i write things for FUN. i publish them for you guys to read for FREE. i dont owe anybody shit. im so, so sorry if this makes some of you angry or upset now but at the end of the day it's the truth. this is my blog and my writing and i will do whatever the fuck i want and unfortunately you have no choice but to live with it.

i appreciate constructive criticism but i will not and never in the future let anyone be so mean to me and accuse me of things when you usually just see and read and hear what you want and make up your own version of the story when it's so, so far away from the truth.

pls do not attack the nonie bc i know this is the result of a misunderstanding but it was a good opportunity for me to address the whole impressionable reader situation.

if you can't differentiate fiction from reality that's your problem, stop making it mine.

thank you so much for everything, nothing but love 🧸🩷🎀

[the-real-sasuke-uchiha]

sasuke it's time to get out from under your mommy and daddy's skirts it's time to find a girl and have sex and evolve into a fully mature grown man you cAnt be a virgin devoted to celibacy forever get that pussy you'll be less emo for it son lose your virginity sasuke it's past time the way you be denying all the taint makes me wonder why you all hustle but no game

You know anon, I was going to ignore this ask because it just looks like a silly joke someone would send while drunk. But I have been thinking, and you look like a very young teenager that desperately needs some sex ed lessons. And this is not a sex ed blog, I am 100% not the right person for this, but I can't let you go like that through the world with all those sexist dangerous misconceptions. So, hear me out on this:

1- Sex is NOT a rite of passage. Sex is a relationship between two adult humans that must both desire it and that must be based on respect. As any other human relationship. Sex is not something you seek just because you think it is about time you do it, or because you think it will make you grow up. Sex won't make you more mature. That is bullshit. In fact, using sex as a way to demonstrate that you are all grown up is pitiful and childish as fuck.

2-WOMEN ARE NOT TOOLS FOR A MAN TO VALIDATE HIS WEAK PITIFUL MASCULINITY. If you have sex with a woman is because you want her and she wants you, because you both desire it. Not because you feel insecure and want to feel more manly. You are not more of a person of more of a man because you have more sex. Who the hell told you that.

3-Please do not refer to women as "pussy". Women are not trophies you "get". Women are not collectibles or medals you achieve on your childish masculinity quest. They are not responsible for taking the "emo" out of you, they are not your mothers or therapists, deal healthily with your own mental problems. That is the adult thing to do, not using sex as a unhealthy coping mechanism. Women are your fellow human beings, treat them with respect. Respect their bodies and feelings as you would like others to respect yours.

4-Noone has to live up to anyone else's expectations about sex. Sex is a very private and personal thing, and there is nothing you need to argument or justify to just say yes or no to it. Celibacy is not shameful, if a person doesn't feel attracted to others it is fine and nobody's business. Listen here anon, because this is important. You can say NO any time and for any reason and you own no explanation to anybody. You should never do anything you are uncomfortable with. Nobody is entitled to sex from you or from anyone. Sex is not a need and not a right, and it is about time we all understand this. Sex needs to be based on freedom and mutual desire, not on social or personal demands.

5-Just because someone is attractive, they don't have to tolerate others constantly harassing them with sexual propositions. You don't make "hustle" just by existing and being desirable to other people you never even showed interest in. You don't own sex to the world. And just to finish, you probably know already, but another thing you don't own to the world is hereosexuality.

I hope this helps. Please, take care, anon!

[suffarustuffaru]

The fanbase is scaring me, the redesigns brought up some weird people that are REALLY passionate about Liliana being half naked

Like theres a whole war going on on twitter rn and the poor character designer got harassed

My problem is with the amount of people upset with this, like i knew we had a bunch of pedos around because of the way tappei writes the girls, but damn i didnt think there were this many of them 💀

yes ive heard about that....... im answering your ask late oops haah but i hope the situations a Bit better..... the toxic parts of this fandom give me a headache but my usual motto is to stay off twitter, touch grass, ignore people, and then hold onto my own viewpoints unless proven wrong alsjdflsdj but like. yeah this fandom is a bit tough to stay in when it comes to certain circles (for example the amount of people low quality shitposting / ranting about the fandom or whatever on rezero ao3 atm in the past days/weeks is. mm. interesting). not my first time being in larger fandoms that make you sometimes feel like youre fighting in the trenches (you could name off a few big fandoms notorious for being toxic that date back to like 2016 and odds are ive been in a couple lajdlf) but yeah seeing people complain about liliana and capella's designs and then overly fixate on emilia's boobs when these three characters have more to bring to the table than just that and theres lots and lots of good things to say about the s3 trailer and their designs..... mm. yeah. im squinting hard at a few of the things ive heard on that. but anyway!!

like the new designs are an Improvement. In General. like ok, as a boob haver myself ("boob haver" is the funniest phrase to me alsdjfls but it is true nonetheless, i am one) i do not give a shit about emilias larger boobs like ok?? her boobs are bigger?? she is still my fav ever and sometimes it just happens when youre still a growing teen/young adult and emilias back to her more revealing main outfit when she wore a different outfit in s2 so the difference in chest size is really not that much. but liliana and capella? those are Improved designs. i think ive talked abt the treatment of underage characters / characters who appear underage on my blog before (and i definitely couldve worded myself better then but i stand behind the fact that some of the stuff otsuka and tappei do regarding this in rezero is just Unnecessary).

could designs like emilia's still be improved on in other ways? yeah 100%, just in the sense that there could probably be changed a bit to fit her slightly more timid and soft spoken personality. or you could take different directions on it in general if you wanted. ive seen some great redesigns of her main outfit!! though her main outfit in of itself is pretty nice to look at imo and its iconic and well-known for a reason. im of the personal opinion that i wish it was a little less revealing in the same vein that her s2 main outfit was (i like that outfit a lot!!) but its still a really solid design overall.

i had some faith after seeing the anime designers fix up typhoon's original design to be More Appropriate, and i love how the essence of liliana and capella's designs were kept the same. like its not just that theyre a little less revealing (and even then, theyre both still showing a lot of skin!!! which is good!!! i like the improvement while keeping the main stuff the same), but stuff like liliana's pants aren't transparent (probably to make it easier to animate?) and the yellow/orange gradient in capella's hair looks great!! they also both look more like grown women which is a bonus. unless youre Weird about this shit which is unfortunately a small percentage of the rezero community. like you cant win with those sort of people ig, bc capella's boobs are bigger too ljasdlfj youd think that win more people over.

also i appreciate capella's sports bra bc unlike elsa's outfit it Actually looks like it's supporting her chest. if youre someone with boobs and you dont have a flat chest, youre gonna need support when being active or itll Hurt. and elsa Does Not have proper chest support okay. ill forever wince remembering elsa's design in that sense HAH....

anyway but i digress. i got no clue what to do with toxic people in fandoms despite spending a lot of time lurking in large fandoms with loud toxic people haah.... its hard to do much about it especially with increasingly declining media literacy rates everywhere.... the notorious misogyny/homophobia/etc that can happen sometimes in anime communities.... that sort of thing. i kinda just avoid it when it comes to rezero in specific, or briefly talk about it on here, or rant about it to myself in my head or chat with pals about it in private if it really frustrates me that much!! and id say im a pretty patient person hah... im not frustrated often. and the fandom is not all weird people of course and i can attest to that as ive chatted with a lot of people here... ive also seen a lot of people leave due to the fandom's Issues which is. totally fair tbh.

and i think rezero is often a "baby's first fandom" so to speak... i dont mean that in a bad way of course but its more like its the first exposure to fandom and fandom etiquette and fic etiquette and that sort of thing when it comes to english circles. or at least its a pattern ive noticed, so my theory is that that occasionally that combines with toxic fans and then you get a few people complaining about the community and how bad our fics are on rezero ao3 ig lajdlfjsdlf. which is false by the way :<< and an annoying misuse of ao3 as a free creative archive :<<

but ultimately i hope the rezero character designer's alright (and honestly theyve done super super great work - like the anime Did Not need to give emilia a bajillion outfits and go above and beyond with improving liliana, capella, giving the suwens and their hometown a whole unique aesthetic, etc). and also while i have stuff to criticize with otsuka and tappei... and the toxic parts of the fandom hah... i still enjoy rezero apart from that and the uproar with the designs has not chipped away at me too much!! ive been in this fandom long enough i guess lmao i just roll with punches at this point T^T but i also just try to look on the bright side a lot in general so ;-;;;

these are the sorts of things i like to be aware about but i dont like to get myself super involved with it (since itll probably make it worse and/or make me stressed for no good reason lmfaoo) and i wont let it enjoy the parts of rezero that i do enjoy a lot (which is to say like. the other 98% of rezero hah). so. getting off twitter is the biggest godsend i promise lajdlsfj.

but anyway!! yeah i dont have much organized thoughts on all of this, this is just me rambling my feelings on it. hope this all makes sense anon <3

[absolutebl]

First of all I want to appreciate your blog and for putting all the effort in explaining different bls. I have found so many good shows through your blog 💗

Can I request a list of adult bls with meaningful themes? Not too pg rated like kinnporche but towards a softer side like old fashion cupcake. I am an adult myself and can't seem to relate much to high school dramas. So I would love to watch more mature bl series if you have any recs. Thank you!!

adult bls with meaningful themes & soft

Hi & thank you!

Here is an older post, but that means it might have some you've not seen before.

Your "adult" criteria is interesting because BL is called "Boy's Love" for a reason. Even if the characters are adults they often don't act that way, or are going though things we associated with high school and college (like first love). Still...

My top 15 that fit your criteria are:

example: Old Fashion Cupcake

A Tale of Thousand Stars (Thai YT)

My Ride (Thai iQIYI & YT)

Our Dining Table (Japan Gaga)

The New Employee (Korea Viki)

Unintentional Love Story (Korea iQIYI)

My Tooth Your Love (Taiwan Viki)

Wish You: Your Melody in My Heart (Korea Viki & Netflix)

Restart After Come Back Home (Japan Gaga? grey?)

DNA Says Love You (Taiwan Gaga) - first half requires patience but it's worth it

Like In The Movies (Pinoy YouTube)

You Make Me Dance (Korea Viki)

Just Friends? (Korea Gaga)

All the Liquors (Korea Viki)

Ocean Likes Me (Korea Viki)

Happy Merry Ending (Korea Viki)

BL sides: Love is Science?

Yes but x-rated and/or not so soft: Bed Friend, Moonlight Chicken, Long Time No See

shorts: Some More

I think there are a few under-appreciated gems in here that really might resonate with you. My Ride is re-airing on YouTube right now and Like in the Movies (Pinoy) is also available there. Both are a little gritty and thoughtfully slow, but ultimately worth your time if you have patience for something longer than Japan churns out. If you want to go shorter, stick with the Japanese and Korean ones.

Most of these explore themes of loneliness, acceptance, and found family - as, indeed, do most queer romances.

I loved it but I'm not sure about the "meaningful themes" bit but they grown ups with grown up issues...

Our Dating Sim

To My Star

See You After Quarantine?

Be Loved In House: I Do

Cherry Magic

Love Tractor

HIStory 3: Trapped

Manner of Death

Triage

What Zabb Man!

Nobleman Ryu's Wedding

Behind Cut

Candy Color Paradox

Choco Milk Shake

Happy Ending Romance

Mr Cinderella

Oh! Boarding House

Plus and Minus

Roommates of Poongduck 304

The Tasty Florida

Tinted With You

Vice Versa

Despite it being Uni I still think you might like it:

The Eighth Sense

Life: Love on the Line (follows characters throughout their lives, this is Japan and seriously atmospheric so, of course, it's meaningful)

[ausssbutlershortstories]

To all the anons and shippers:

First, kindly fuck off. Grow up and learn how to engage with people on the internet who's opinions differ from yours. Secondly, get a hobby. Thirdly, ask yourself why you are defending someone who doesn't know you, will forget you moments after meeting you, and doesn't care that you are up in arms for her.

Now to every bringing up that Zoe what at the party as a defense for kaia's actions and behavior... What does those two things have to do with each other? Was Zoe's mere presence supposed to make Kaia behave herself? Was zoe there to baby sit her and somehow fail? Was zoe supposed to police this grown ass adult and keep her faithful (we'll say it this way since we don't have confirmation that they broke up) was zoe supposed to get between Kaia and Marcelo and remind them to leave a foot for Jesus?

How does Zoe and Austin working together mean she is some how responsible for Kaia at a party? What does her existing or non existent relationship with Kaia supposed to do to change the contents or context of those pictures? Explain it to us like we're five.

"The pictures are innocent. I dance with my guy friends like that, it's not a big deal. Austin likes to work, Kaia likes to party. They were drunk. Blah blah blah!"

At the end of the day you make yourself sound like the kind of girls, yes girls not women cause y'all be acting childish, that think kissing a girl isn't cheating on your boyfriend. Or giving a lap dance to a guy friend would be ok with your partners cause, y'all just friends. In adult relationships, there's boundaries and expected behaviors. Kaia is a child acting out and y'all wanna defend her by making yourselves sound trashy and toxic.

Grow up, get some life and love experience, then come join the conversation.

Sorry for the long rant, I'm just really tired of seeing this bs. They have their own blogs to bitch on, they need to leave us alone.

Hugs and loves to you, even to you bratty idiots. You'll wisen up one day.

First and foremost long rants are welcomed. I want this to be a safe space for people since we don’t get that much in the fandom.

I’ll say it again Zoe has nothing to do with the actions of Kaia. Just because she is working with Austin doesn’t mean Kaia will have any shame doing what she did.

I am over shippers at this point . You can’t even have a reasonable conversation with them. They see that you don’t kiss Kaia’s ass and turn into fucking trolls.

[neotrances]

like yes i will be mean to other high functioning autistic ppl whom show on their blogs they are able to write and interpret things from their favorite fandom material but donot put the same effort into general media literacy, im not asking you to be the smartest scholar in the world who knows all the biggest words and phrases im asking you to atleast know how to properly intake information and identify components of media that can be harmful, asking that of grown adults that are actively posting about why they know angeldust and the villain from hazbin hotel are meant to be lovers is not killing anyone

autism is a spectrum and quite frankly not everyone doing this has autism so idk why we are hung up on this i just personally see white autistics do this often and while everyone’s autism is different ofcourse im gonna scrutinize the ones that use their disability as an excuse to not try when they do try when it comes to cartoons and ships, and honestly im kinda over arguing this to ppl who feel so self important that they don’t even want to consider that their unwillingness to improve is directly causing harm, i am not that smart, never have been never will be, i do not know a lot of words, i misspell things, sometimes i struggle to read and interpret things, but i am still able to try to do so, and i still try especially when it comes to media reporting events and discussing socioeconomic problems, i would never gloat or find it funny to say my media literacy is bad and blame that on middleschool as an adult, bc that removes accountability when i clearly am able to interpret and understand things at an adult level, i had ppl react the same way when i pointed out ppl with autism can be racist just like they can be any other form of bigoted bc they are a human being, pretending that autistic ppl can never do or cause harm is unhelpful, and it’s especially unhelpful when i see people who r able to function and understand certain things completely plug their ears and deny any fault or blame in what they do

[lisbeth-kk]

The soldier and the detective

It’s his fifth birthday and they’ve eaten cake, he’s got the best present ever, a microscope from his grandparents. He’s quite puzzled when his mother gives him another present, and hands a similar one to her father.

“What’s this, love?” her father asks.

“Yeah. Why does grandad get a present too when it’s my birthday?” the boy counters.

“Well, it’s because this present is meant for all three of you, and…”

“Is it your new book, Mum?” the boy asks while he tears at the paper.

“It is, William. Daddy’s done the illustrations this time,” she says and beams at her husband.

William’s excited and reveals the book, but frowns when he looks over at his grandad. He pulls at his mother’s sleeve.

“Mum, I don’t think grandad likes it,” he whispers.

Looking over at her father, she understands what her son means.

“It’s happy tears, Willliam,” she explains. “You see, the book is about him and papi.”

William looks at her astounded, then takes a closer look at the book. He reads the title slowly.

“The soldier and the detective,” he reads out loud. 

He flips through the pages and his eyes shine with excitement. He goes over to the sofa where his grandparents sit side by side, hand in hand now, both teary eyed.

“Have you been a soldier, grandad?” he asks and climbs into his lap.

“I have, William. A long time ago,” John answers.

“Before you met papi?”

“Yes, before that,” he agrees and glances over at Sherlock with a loving expression.

“Your grandad was a brave man, William,” Sherlock says fondly, leaning in to kiss John’s temple and ruffles William’s curls when he withdraws.

Sherlock stands and goes over to Rosie. He pulls her in for a tight hug.

“Thank you, Bee,” he murmurs. “How did you come up with this idea?”

Rosie looks up at her Papa and kisses his cheek.

“Well, it’s an homage to you and Dad, really. To thank you both for always believing in me. For giving me the best childhood. I’ve grown up with these stories on Dad’s blog, and I was, am, so proud of you both. Proud to be your daughter, and I thought that other children may enjoy these stories too. I have obviously moderated them somewhat, mind,” Rosie chuckles.

John joins them and gives his daughter a warm hug.

“Thanks, sweetheart. This is such a wonderful gift, and I’m quite astounded that you’ve managed to keep it a secret from Sherlock,” John says.

“I guess it’s lucky I don’t live with you anymore, or I wouldn’t have been able to do that. It helped immensely that you live down in Sussex now, too,” Rosie concludes.

Rosie reaches out for her husband hand and pulls him to her, kissing his palm.

“What do you think of Terry’s illustrations?” she asks her parents.

“From the glimpses I’ve seen thus far, you’ve captured all of it perfectly,” John says enthusiastically, and Sherlock concurs sincerely.

William interferes, bringing the book to show the adults something.

“It’s got all our names in it,” he exclaims gleefully. “I’ve counted five Watson’s!”

They all laugh at this.

“It was a coincidence, but quite satisfactory that you mother married a man already named Watson,” Sherlock muses.

“And my name has bigger letters than yours,” the five year old says quite content. “William Hamish Watson.”

No prompts the last couple of days, but I've been busy writing anyway. Today it's Constitution Day and this day is all about the children. When this story popped into my head, I knew I would make it a tribute of sorts to the way we celebrate this day.

@calaisreno @totallysilvergirl @notjustamumj @missdeliadili @topsyturvy-turtely @raina-at @meetinginsamarra @peanitbear

[twilightmalachite]

Raison d’être - A Premature Burial 1

Author: Akira

Characters: Nazuna, Kuro, Mika

Translator: Mika Enstars

"I wish I was hearing those words in a different context, you know!?"

[Read on my blog for the best viewing experience with Oi~ssu ♪]

Season: Winter

Location: Starmony Dorms (Exterior)

The next day. Near the entrance of Starmony Dorms…

Nazuna: Absolutely not…

Kuro: If ya could nod your head with a “yes” instead… Much like a man bowed his head askin’ for help—Nahh, we’re too close for that, aren’t we?

Nazuna: Mhm. I’d love to help you with whatever you ask, Kuro-chin, but I don’t like what I don’t like.

Kuro: Oh come on. Dressin’ up in any outlandish outfit ain’t somethin’ new to you, right, Nito?

Nazuna: You’re right, but…

I’m an adult who is about to turn twenty years old. Sometimes I look at myself wearing cute shorts and I wonder to myself, “What am I doing?”

But I know that’s just the way things are, that’s the type of idols Ra*bits are, and I’m fine with that.

Kuro: Ooh, so then…♪

Nazuna: This is something different! Why’s it I gotta wear women’s clothing made by my friend, Kuro-chin?

Just, no! It makes me feel obscene!

Kuro: T-There’s nothin’ obscene about it! Ya make it sound so bad!

Why’s it you’re so reluctant? I’m just asking if ya can try on an outfit I made for my lil’ sister!

Nazuna: And I’m sayin’ you have some nerve to be asking a guy your age to do that!

If I’m not mistaken, your little sister’s still in primary school, right Kuro-chin? Sure, I sell cuteness, but I’m still a grown man, aren’t I~!?

Kuro: It’ll be alright! It’ll work out with ya, Nito!

My lil’ sister’s steadily growin’ up to be taller and taller just like me, it’ll still be a lil’ short on ya, but you’ll still be able to wear it!

I believe in ya, Nito!

Nazuna: I wish I was hearing those words in a different context, you know!?

Aaalright! We’re done here! I’m uncomfortable, I’m going back to my room!

I’ll let you off the hook this time because we’re friends, Kuro-chin, but go take a walk and cool your head too!

Kuro: C’mon, don’t say that, Nito~…

My lil’ sis recently has been startin’ to take more and more interest in fashion, but all the clothes and accessories she wants are ridiculously expensive.

We can’t afford it with our current economic situation, so I thought to sew it myself. It’d be cheaper that way.

But the thing with clothes is, ya can’t tell if it’s gonna look good or bad ‘til it’s actually put on. So..? Do ya understand, Nito?

I’m beggin’ ya… You’re my only hope, ya know.

I know I’m one to talk, but all the idols in ES have large builds. Your tininess is a valuable asset, Nito.

There’s nobody else in this wide world that can wear primary school girl’s clothes naturally but my friend Nito—Only you!

Nazuna: Buy a mannequin, then…?

Kuro: Whoah!? It’s been a long time since I’ve seen your eyes as cold as glass marbles!

Nazuna: I don’t want my eyes to return to the days where I was a doll in Valkyrie because of a situation as stupid as this…

Mika: …!

Kuro: Ohh? Hey, hey, watch where ya goin’, are ya hurt?

Mika: …

Kuro: Hey… Ya run into me and don’t even say hi? Did somethin’ happen, Kagehira?

Mika: Nnah!? Ahh, my bad, “Ryuu~-kun”-san! My head’s been so blank…!

Kuro: What’s wrong with ya… Somethin’ wrong? If you’re willin’, I can at least hear ya out?

Mika: Nnah? Nah nah, it’s somethin’ unrelated to ya, “Ryuu~-kun”-san—

Ohh, but you are “Ryuu~-kun”-san, aren’tcha?

Kuro: Wha? I’ll be blunt, you’re the only one callin’ me by nickname from when I was a kiddo. It’s been a long time since Itsuki called me that, even.

Mika: That’s right! “Ryuu~-kun”-san is Oshi-san’s childhood friend, right? That’s why yer “Ryuu~-kun”-san, right?

Kuro: What’s this gotta do with anythin’… Is there somethin’ goin’ on with Itsuki?

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[gyarucoded]

gimme a sec i need to talk about this !!

so i saw a long ass reblog under an anti-sylki blog that started off as something like "actually loki & sylvie has good romance chemistry meanwhile loki & mobius doesn't have any romance chemistry at all"🤓– and in this moment i went "alright best frien i'm not reading all that" then went to block instead of arguing.

didn't try reading that bullshit of a post further either just to anger myself, i know better.

i especially didn't wanna argue cuz i think that was a child..??? (assuming from the miracoulus ladybug theme cuz no adult in their right mind enjoys that trash) but if i'm wrong that just makes it worse tbh, like grown ass ppl who srsly think toxic relationships should be the example of peak romance needs their brain to be studied fr.

i usually try to be respectful for others' opinion but i genuinely can't see where this opinion comes from.

makes no goddam sense to me.

maybe it's cuz i can't view things through a heterosexual lens, maybe not.

who knows?

but...(i won't make this abt lokius but focusing more on the "loki & sylvie" part) this made me wonder like...

what do sylkie shippers even post about?

no i won't check it out myself to spare myself from the headache but do they go "omg today episode's syIkie crumbs was so lovely dovely 🥺" and the crumbs in question is them disagreeing on almost everything and sylvie wanting to avoid loki as much as she can & constantly seeming to be angry at him.

sure, in s1 they did have a couple of cutesy romantic moments like being under blankets despite of them being supposedly immune to cold or the literal kiss but, it truly doesn't take a huge analyzation to realize that this "relationship" became one sided, even in that one little moment when they had to hold hands, sylvie immidiately goes "don't overthink it" like omgggsfg💀😭 and it's also clear that loki eventually got the hint, in ep3 he doesn't try to be with her anymore or gets emotional with her, he silently gave up.

not to mention loki avoiding to mention the kiss, when appearantly the two has nothing to hide? 😕

i don't know where this is gonna be heading off but if they randomly switch up after all this character & dynamic development then i have no hope for marvel's writing team cuz that would basically create a plot hole.

like aside from the psuedo-incest, that used to bother me in season 1 era but now i am concerned more about how this "ship" overall has no appeal, yet some of these ppl genuinely thinks it can work healthily between them and that ppl who are against it are just "petty that their gay ship isn't canon" when there's MORE to this.

in season 2 there's absolutely *nothing* happening with them that would make us, the audience, root for them to be together as a couple like i'm sry.

so yeah you can say i'm doing too much and too crazy over a fictional tv show (yes i know that babes i have full self awareness) but i literally cannot stress enough about how unhealthy it is to think that this is how a good romantic chemistry works.

based on a syIkie shipper's views: we could technically say that me + that one co-worker of mine who we always have disagreements on political stuff with & dislikes me for no reason is my "lover"... since we wanna pretend this is how love works 😀😀 no?

[dannysdreamgirl]

Addressing Drama!!!

CW: INCEST, SA, ABUSE, GROOMING, PROSHIP MENTIONS!!

Okay, so I was recently removed from a tcm discord server and there was a whole ass post about it made on their profile.

I have “Minors dni” because i posted some sexually explicit posts as well as posts about heavy topics before, and I don’t want minors to follow my blog just to see that shit pop up on their feeds. And you saying me interacting with minors is werid when i was legit a minor a few months ago is wild, the mentality that when someone turns 18 that they suddenly should never interact with people 1-2 years younger than them is a crazy and chronically online take since im still in highschool.

What makes you think my post about Johnny’s SA was… glorifying it? It was written in a way people with media literacy could see how much that affected him, I literally never said bro liked it or made it seem all fetishy.(if i went into HORRIFIC detail about his rape and how nancy groomed him would actually be more lending towards Fetish content.) And if it’s such a bad read on Nancy and Johnny’s relationship, maybe you should read more about the psychology of incest and how it affects the victims. Because to me, Johnny and Nancy’s relationship clearly looks like a boy mom’s relationship with her son; which is emotional incest. The post was made in a way that shows how Johnny feels about it, which is typical for how most male victims react to incestual sa.

My connection with the proshipper known as Zora and their friend is completely in the past, as I’ve grown to realize the content they were posting was actually terrible and not something I should inspire to do also. I was freshly an adult when I became friends with them, and was excited about being close with a big creator of my favourite ship. I’m still impressionable and very naive to dangers people present to me, as I was groomed into being okay with any warning signs. To put this into perspective; I’m still a senior in high school, if you are in a high school we would be in the same school. No dont going saying Zora groomed me either, they were under the impression i was near 19 when becoming apart of their friend group. Stop the hate parade with them too, yall chased bro off the internet. I am still accountable for my actions as an 18 year old, but I will not tolerate you bringing stuff up from the past when I’m still considered a teenager in real life and have made steps to improve my mental health.

Yes some of my posts about Danny/Johnny were lending themselves towards unhinged fetish content, and I apologize. I was going through something because guess what? I’m a victim, a victim groomed repeatedly into this behaviour. Believe it or not, victims of this type of abuse will not always reach your moral purity standards. This is not excusable, but just because you don’t like someone doesn’t mean you can’t have empathy for why they’re like that.

Incest, abuse, any of that shit is NOT my fetish. If writing these topics mean its my fetish, then any good piece of writing in literature means those authors have those fetishes by your standards; like the author of Lolita. (A book well known for its use of a deceptive narrator to portray how truly evil pedophilia is). By your logic, he should be into it too. I write about it because i find it interesting to explore the horror of it and how it would horribly impact the victim.

Read that all through very carefully before commenting. reach out to me in dms if you want to genuinely discuss any of this or tell me what isn’t right about it. If you just call me disgusting or belittle me you are no different from me.

[fragmentedlegends]

Shipping Info: answer the following questions for your muse(s) so people know how shipping works in your blog.

What’s your OTP for your muse(s)

Zelink and Rhoam/Zelda’s Mum are the only two for here! Everyone else is pretty open to whatever develops between partners. I’m currently in Toxic Ship Hell with Astor and Kohga lmao

What are you willing to RP when it comes to shipping?

Pretty much all of it! I’ll do the fluffy true love, babies, growing old together, ups and downs, etc, or star crossed lovers who never get their happy ending, or unhealthy/toxic relationships that should never be. To quote a tumblr post, “I said they are in love, I didn’t say they should be.”

How large does the age gap have to be to make it uncomfortable?

I won’t write adults with minors, and likewise, if a muse is a full grown adult and the other muse is BARELY legal, that’s a no from me.

Are you selective when shipping?

I would say I am! I’m always open to discussing the possibility of shipping and since my time is limited these days I’m more willing to give it a go, but ultimately we need to see how the muses click. If the chemistry simply isn’t there, I’m not going to force it.

How far do steamy moments have to go before they're considered NSFW?

I kind of play it by ear, but essentially, once things start getting hot and heavy, such as foreplay territory.

Who are other muses you ship your muse with?

In general I love Link and Zelda together, and as said before, I’m currently in toxic hell for Astor and Kohga with @mightiestbanana

Does one have to ask to ship with you?

It definitely helps! I try to be pretty open with communication with my partners so if I see chemistry, I’ll probably bring it up, but there’s no need to be shy about asking me!

Are you multiship?

Yes! All universes are separate unless stated otherwise.

Are you ship obsessed or ship more-or-less?

I’m a middle ground. I’m a sucker for complicated relationships, whether they’re romantic, sexual, or platonic. So ship-obsessed if you count platonic ships lmao

What is your favorite ship in your current fandom?

Zelink! 🥰

Finally, how does one ship with you?

Write with me! It doesn’t necessarily have to be formal threads. Sometimes a lot of development comes from small interactions on ic posts or ooc plotting.

[softlittleheartsandsparkles]

I'm really not a fan of folks who KEEP doing infantailization. I'm still getting dms and people are now telling me my blog is basically 'baby safe'. (whatever this means) and I don't know if people realize it's not a compliment. I'm tired of terms like baby, toddler etc. Being used as if it's meant to be a compliment to me. It's not... I'm a grown women. I have trauma, yes. I have a inner child I'm attempting to heal. But... But I'm still biologically a grown women. Even as someone with cptsd and stuff... I can say this. I am an adult. I get uncomfortable with infatalizaing terms being yeeted my way. I also don't like stuff that brings me comfort being labeled in a way that equally makes me uncomfortable. Like a lot of people have told me for a very long time I show 'grow up' and stop liking anime, I should stop liking calico critters etc. So to see people brand this stuff AS baby/kiddo related heightens this discomfort. It doesn't lesson it, it applies more shame. And yes the people saying these things might not realise the shame, as it's inner feeling for me. But I have it. Calling hobbies or things I collect, things I like as 'baby' 'kiddo' things is infantalization. Your taking me away from the being an adult, and moving me towards child. Your labeling my likes/wants as things CHILDREN like. -> "but you like baby clothing", regrading the lolita fashion I reblog. The fashion isn't "baby" related. It has cute motifs but that's all. Also if people looked into lolita, there's also classic and gothic, thus they have those motifs. There's even country lolita, which would have if you can guess, country style motifs. I just reblog more so sweet because sweet suits my blog. (Oddly enough I never wore sweet lolita. I preferred country/classic/gothic as I found the pallet flatter my pale skin and body shape more) But still lolita fashion isn't related to being a 'baby'. It's victorian inspired. -> "but you reblog pink which is a baby color", colors aren't related to infants. They are colors. It is that deep. A tea spoon of depth. That's all. So please don't instance it's a 'baby' color. It makes me uncomfortable. -> "but you like anime which is baby safe". I like shojo and shonen anime, and yuri. BUT almost all the animes I enjoy I wouldn't show them to kids because of the themes/subject matter. Even shojo some themes are just outside of the scope a child would understand. (*gestures to nana, back stage prince, etc* I like josie anime. Paradise Kiss is another one I wouldn't show a child personally.) I don't like the term/phrase "baby safe"/ "kiddo safe" etc, because it's infantalization. I also feel like I'm being upheld to some standard. Like what if I reblog demon slayer, or even a horror like Higurashi? Monster? What I reblog Parasyte? (Higurashi, Monster and Parasyte are horror anime's) It's going to make these people freak out the blog they labeled as 'kiddo safe' is now posting/reblogging something they don't believe fits there set assumption and aesthetic.

[phoenix-creates]

Wow! YandereDev's Apology Sucked!

This is a rant post more than anything, so if drama isn't your thing, you are well within your right to click away from this post. If you do want to read through this, it continues down below. Apologies if this isn't the most cohesive or concise post, but I have too many thoughts that I need to share and I obviously can't share them on his dumb YT video because Alex heavily moderates all his comments and only leaves up the ones that stroke his ego. So let's get into it. CW/TW for mentions of grooming

For those unaware of the situation, back in September of 2023, talk of Alex Mahan/YandereDev surfaced, accusing him of inappropriate communication with a minor (video can be found here). What followed was months of voice actors and volunteers dropping from the game and asking that their contributions be removed, other evidence coming to light, and Alex attempting to do "damage control" both in his discord server and through his blog posts (as far as I know, Alex's Twitch and Discord had both been permanently banned and he's talked about having a backup Discord account and a Guilded account)

Finally, on January 1st of 2024, he released his "apology" video, explaining and "debunking" all the controversy surrounding these grooming allegations. Ironically enough, the video has been made private now (Alex claims he put someone at risk by releasing the video), though there are a couple of reuploads floating around YouTube, plus a healthy amount of criticism videos of said apology, which are worth checking out as those people can provide much more context and give better opinions than my ranting.

To sum it up, Alex's video was around fifteen minutes of pure bullshit.

Not just bullshit, but gaslighting bullshit as well. The TL;DR of the video is that, Alex acknowledges that yes the victim said right off the bat that they were 16 and although Alex felt uncomfortable when his conversations with the victim turned "spicy", he still continued to chat with them and pushed past his discomfort because he was lonely, he didn't have much of a social life, and his mental health wasn't great. He also mentions that when he saw the victim as "one of the guys" and genuinely didn't see anything wrong with the interactions he was having with them as he had friends who had been older than him when he was younger and he assumed that was how it was for everyone. Ultimately, it was more on the victim for continuously bringing up NSFW topics, not on Alex for responding to them.

You read that right.

Alex essentially blames the victim and says that the video I linked above was taken out of context and the clips were cut together in a way that made everything seem worse than it actually was. He also says that the victim themselves has also made a statement regarding the situation (however take this with a grain of salt as even though Alex admits the victim did come to him for "feedback"; I am hesitant to believe that as Alex and one of his Discord Mods were in contact with the victim even though Alex previously said they weren't communicating with them) which also corroborates his account of events.

There is so much more to be said but I do want to get into the core of why I'm making this post.

Alex is an adult. A grown man. IN HIS 30s (or 40s I don't remember). If you are uncomfortable with a topic, especially NSFW topics coming from a MINOR, you shut that shit down. No amount of mental health excuses will cut it. You do not, under any circumstance, engage in sexually explicit conversations with a minor.

(Also, quick tangent, if I were Alex and I knew my reputation as a person and as a developer was already being torn to shreds by people and I was already involved in a controversy previously regarding a minor, I would not privately engage in sexual conversation with another minor. No amount of loneliness would ever make that okay.)

You'd think that Alex would finally be suffering the consequences of his actions, but it is entirely a mixed bag. For as many people who are condemning him for his actions, there are other people who are praising him for his "apology" and also engaging in victim blaming. Yes, many of his accounts are getting banned, his patreon earnings seem to be on a downward trend, and his volunteers are leaving. But in their place are many more (I've been informed that Info-Chan and Shiromi have new voice actresses already) ready to help him. If you see the notes on his YT community post and his personal blog post, he still has fans and supporters.

He is still receiving support. And in my opinion, it is because we are not taking this as seriously as we should be.

Whenever news about Alex comes out, we are quick to make jokes and meme on him. We very easily make light of the situation or file it under "who was really surprised that Yandere Dev did this?" and we move on with our lives. By not acknowledging the very serious accusations of this man, he is effectively absolved from any consequences of his actions because he had so many people jumping to defend him. He got away with his bullshit Hate and Shame video, as well as his Debunk page, because he has people coming to defend him and we joke about it instead of taking action on it. And yes, this is still an on-going problem. Just check the blog post of his stupid fucking apology. The comments are FILLED with people blaming the victim. There are even people claiming that Alex could have autism/adhd/etc. and that is why he couldn't understand right from wrong.

(Sidenote, using autism as an excuse when someone does horrendous shit is horrible. We aren't here to self-diagnose because when we excuse bad behavior as simply "autism", it creates a stereotype for actual autistic people and makes it harder for them to be heard and understood because we keep conflating autism with certain behavior. STOP doing this. It doesn't help anyone.)

I do not believe that Alex will change. He might continue to get worse because we have allowed him to get by with vague excuses and promises while he "debunks" everything that makes him look bad. He has spent years claiming anyone with negative things to say about him and his game are ignorant trolls who don't understand game development or coding like he does and that people just spread rumors about him. He keeps delaying the game with more excuses. It has and always will be excuses with him. It has been ten years of excuses for a shoddily put together game.

Put that into perspective. It is 2024. In April, that will make it TEN YEARS of development that this game has gone through.

Alex has spent ten years developing this game, milking money from people, and giving us nothing in return. He has a consistent pattern of horrible behavior towards mods, fans, and volunteers. He has rejected help from competent developers to fix his spaghetti jumbling mess of a code. He has nothing to show for ten years. The game is not fun. We have ONE rival who is a challenge to eliminate (there is no reason the very first challenge in the game makes you work so hard during the first week), we have a "ten rivals mode" that is even worse and a slog to get through. We constantly get new hair and texture models for miscellaneous things instead of actual content. Alex swears he spends hours every day on this game and we are no closer to getting a better experience with the game then we were a few years ago. It might even be 2030 before we even get the fully completed game.

I don't think he deserves sympathy. I don't think people should be praising him for the bare minimum. I've long since stopped caring about the game coming out; I'll likely have my own kids by the time the game is finished with the rate it's going. I just hope that the victim will get all the help and support they need and Alex stays away from them.

Thanks for following the development of YS or what the fuck ever.

[kimchicollardgreens]

even if there’s a solution to a “problem”, someone can still talk abt how they don’t like said problem… you know that right? it’s always “then ignore them” or write them yourself”… who says that ppl don’t do that already. it was one opinion. no one was demanding black writers to not write wtv they want, the person only shared their view and everyone went crazy… you legit wrote a think piece over this. There shouldn’t be fighting yeah, but maybe ppl should stop feeling butthurt over opinions. users make the most trivial things a bigger issue on tumblr, legit arguing with a minor lmao

i ask you to read all of this before sending another ask, its another “think piece” but its literally the answer to why what these woman are askin is lowkey problematic and i dont blame folks for not noticing dogwhistles. im also not say all “soft girls” are spouting this stuff. (hell im one of them). im also not calling these women evil, cuz they may not truly know what they saying is problematic as we live in a capitalist yt supremacist system. im more than happy to answer more. im not somebody that gon dismiss you if you wanna have discourse💖

but yes, you can talk about a problem when its in good faith as it actually cultivates productive insight. but bad faith arguments distract us from the real problems that both groups actually want to see fixed. however we need to acknowledge that most ADULTS who come with this “soft life fic” opinion be in bad faith.

bad faith is trying to get us to come back to things both parties already agree on. we all agree that soft fic aint seen much. what we are saying is why you keep coming in the dark/urban fic inbox stating it for people who have no problem with you? we’ve assessed the “problem” and we all agree it needs fixing. its like we running in circles, instead of different directions to fix other problems. the question is how are you going to contribute to fixing it in a healthy way and how do you want us to help.

im sure cherry and her friends would love to recommend a homegirls work so long as shes respectful. HELL I’LL EVEN DO IT!!!

tho i don’t recommend coming into blogs who are strictly dark and askin’ them for anything other than that. just like how soft writers don’t want to primarily write dark.

its not butthurt when you come on someone’s page calling them “ghetto” “baby mamas” then try and position it against “soft life” “divine feminine” “old money” aesthetics.

im not saying thats what this little girl did, but ive seen grown adult women do that. and thats nasty as hell to be positioning that.

the reason she probably caught flack is because she unfortunately used a simple question thats been hijacked and used by bad faith arguers when they come to urban fic accounts.

thats usually the question to get a leg in the door to start spouting off lowkey antiblack and classist shit.

and i dont know where soft being only afforded to the croquette looking girls came from. some of the softest girls i know are high fem baddies. so thats very weird, especially when you consider that black women make up majority of that aesthetic.

essentially its respectability politics and thats why its not trivial. to most, this looks like a minor creative liberties dispute, but the underlying theme is actually steeped in so much politics that affect black women for real.

i mean just look at the whole bonnet and pajama pants debate. or the straight hair or braids for your birthday/formal event debate. or the wigs vs natural hair debate. baby mama vs wifey debate (if you believe how a woman carries herself in a way thats nondestructive to others, is a reason as to why she doesn’t deserve respect; you not a feminist.)

its grown folks bratz vs barbie all over again.

not even gon hold you, i didn’t know that was a minor. just reblogged @chrollohearttags post on my dash. anybody doing anything other than telling that little girl to get off they page is a weirdo. but cherry made a general post thats been a topic of discussion AMONGST BLACK WOMEN since we’ve been writing stories. so ofc thats what my “think piece” is about. she may have commented one question but some iteration of that same question has been around for years. i’m responding to that.

since i now know this is a minor, they could have very well been wanting to know why there is a saturation of these fics on here. and i would have told her about the culture of urban fic being ONE of the first pioneers in Black Smut Fiction. it literally helped shape the black writing culture whether bad or good. then i wouldve told her that when she’s older she could contribute to said culture. but right now she should not be consuming any sexual media.

and to ask a question like that, its clear she has some gripes about the way general media treats black women; which those are well-founded. i understand hating the “ride or die”, or the “settling for less” when it comes to media for black women. but how can you read about a specific aesthetic or lifestyle and immediately know thats was going on?

these women used to have valid points and some still do but like this little girl, they cant tell the difference and if they can, they want any kind of reputation for “ghetto” girls out the window. there’s nothing wrong with being “ghetto” and nothing wrong with being a “the soft divine feminine” but we do need to talk about why the latter feels comfortable coming on someone like cherry’s page too disparage girls who aesthetics and social values don’t align with them.

writers like cherry aren’t advocating abuse, their characters are living they best lives. doing “ghetto” shit and truly loving the partners they’re with.

there are legit women out there who are “ghetto” that love they life. and are in healthy relationships. its vile to say that the way someone simply chooses to exist is a direct result of how black women face abuse, especially as something as silly as wigs, body con dresses and long nails. or even activities like twerking, having babies, doing drugs and partying.

its kinda like this whole Sukiana situation vs the Home Depot girl. Both were sexually harrassed but people tried to victim blame Suki more cuz of the way she dress and act. thats nasty. (plus there was no versus to begin with cuz neither one deserved it)

like there IS something to be said about how women who tend to write urban fic -at least in its early days- really do live the lives they are writing about. granted, looking back, some of these women were so unhealed that they ended up romanticizing abuse. but most girls now understand that you can live a hood lifestyle and not put up with bullshit.

somewhere along the way, the “city girl/ghetto/high fem” aesthetic got associated with abuse, crime, and poverty. which is crazy cuz girls who look like JT be havin’ money, a good life and still have plug/rapper boyfriends who not killing or getting them killed.

so if these women would be honest, its not about the way the “urban” girls look or behave. the real problem is the abuse that these women face.

which i see how thats a problem but abuse doesn’t correlate to aesthetics and its not a causation of abuse either.

soft girls can experience abuse. they experience financial, domestic abuse, sexual abuse. these women who hate urban fic, keep forgetting that the soft girl is modeled after the tradition yt housewife who faced abuse too. just cuz you get out the hood and get a financial stable man that isnt a plug or gangbanger dont mean he not gon beat yo ass or expect loyalty when he do some dubious shit.

yall ever seen the Stepford Wives?

now you can have the vintage look without the vintage values, but thats not what most of these women who come onto cherry page be talking like.

they disagree with any depiction of your so called city girl —whether good or bad.

it’s counterproductive to feminism. it quite literally antichoice feminism which is a huge problem with feminism today because it relies too much on this yt viewpoint of responsibility politics. i suggest people really read “Hood Feminism” by Mikki Kendall.

anyway thats whats been making people like cherry become upset and rather than having patience, they ain’t got no more to give cuz they keep having to defend themselves and explain why talking like this is a microaggression. they exhausted.

anyway im free to talk more, if i didnt explain good.