#ADHD autism friendship

[salad-of-potatoes]

Mario bros are the ADHD Autism friendship

[cloudofbutterflies]

Me on a crazed hyperfixation reblogging spree: oh my god... my mutuals... they must hate me for clogging up their dashes... plz dont stop following me i promise i won't be this annoying ever again

Me when my mutuals go on crazed hyperfixation reblogging spree: you go girl!!! reblog those posts!!! those two should kiss!!! they are the bestest girl!!!! go girl go!!!!

[cluedoenthusiast]

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[audhd-space]

heartbreaking when you’re openly disabled being friends with people you know have disabilities but have internalised ableism is that—

they enjoy being around you when you empathize and accommodate their struggles but when it comes to you needing the same from them, they will hold you to that internalised ableist standard

aka

“if I can do this, why can’t you?”

[soupinaboot]

Batman and Flash are peak autistic + ADHD duo and I love that for them

[geekinator]

There comes a point when you realize that all your friends know more about each other than you do. Which means they interact with each other, either in person or text or whatever, more than they do you. Not that you’re excluded. You are invited to things and laugh and it’s a great time but that’s all it’ll ever be.

The thing is, when you try to let people in and share your own thoughts, they don’t get it and don’t care to, or they think it’s weird or whatever. So that’s not a person to share certain thoughts with. But then you run out of people. And people say, just have fun! Be friendly and social! At some point, though, it’s not enough. It’s just not enough.

[wolfstrong]

childhood best friends Willow and Xander :)

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Ending Friendships

Positively DBT -BPD, Autism, ADHD Peer Support

[yosefcandraw]

Happy Autism Acceptance Month!!!

Here’s Twilight Sparkle from My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic

I relate to her so much

[lotus-duckies]

Brb can't stop crying because the way my little pony puts so much importance and love in friendship is amazing. Friendship is just as important if not moreso than romantic relationships, and the characters being so close, physically and emotionally intimate, just shows that friends can do. whatever they want together. they can Show love however they want. I know we like to make gay jokes about it but their friendship above all else? stupendous, outstanding, amazing, showstopping, 10/10

And the fact that most if not all of the main characters appear as ND coded. Twilight, an autistic girl who never really Had close friends or knew to value them, gets so many friends she would go to the ends of the earth with, and lots of ND kids go a long time without ever having friends because it's hard to make friends and keep them and they're lonely. And speaking from experience, that connection, when you feel it for the first time, it means so much more than what you'd ever think.

Friendship really is magical. It's amazing, terrifying, unknowable, awe-inspiring, fascinating

and it's so, so worth it in the end.

[rejoyous]

ADHD vs Autism

[whatamibutabutteredcroissant]

My love language is listening to my friends info-dumps. I just live to watch their eyes light up realising that they’re allowed to talk about something that’s been pinging around in their brain for lifetimes, and that even if I don’t understand the thing they’re talking about, I love it and am interested in it because they care about it. It’s a part of them, and I love ALL of them. So, this is a PSA to the world at large, if you love someone, let them rant. And I hope you find someone who lets YOU rant, too.

[cluedoenthusiast]

Alexandra Savior - An Introduction

[fairyb0ii]

If you think that dyslexic/dyscalculic people and ADHDers are stupid or something like that, read this.

Today I was doing Maths homework with one of my BFF.

He's a tutor for middle/high school students.

While we were doing Maths, he told me that I am faster at learning than other students without dyslexia, dyscalculia and ADHD.

He told me that he's proud of me. I'm so lucky to have a friend like him.

[candyborsch]

Wh y

[autisticlee]

I have realized I need more friends, especially a specific type of friend (chill, positive, very nice and gentle, shares interest in my interests, etc) so I've been putting a lot of time and effort and energy into trying to make a new friend, but I don't think it's working D: I genuinely don't know how to do it. I used to ask people if we can be friends but learned thats not correct and even got called creepy for it before...so i'm just exhausting myself for no reason because nothing is being reciprocated the way I want or need it to be.

i'm trying to learn about the person and tailoring my scripts to match them and what they seem to like about people they are friends with. but so far i'm not getting much reaction outside of general kind acknowledgment that all random strangers get. i'm trying so hard not to ramble or rant about anything or be "too negative" like i've been called many times for simply stating a related/relatable fact about myself. i'm trying to ask questions more questions like ive been told to do. i'm saying nice and positive things whenever I get the chance like i always do. i'm doing all the things people have advised me to do when ive asked advice, but it still feels like i'm looking through a window and not allowed to walk through the door! but see everyone else getting invited inside. I genuinely don't know what to do and how to make it better 🥲

when I look back in the past and how I made friends or starter talking to people, it always came from trauma bonding....often it would start from or be carried along by a shared interest, but one of the dominating factors was always trauma bonding and ramling and ranting at each other about the trauma we have gone through that relates to each other. I felt like I needed it at the time and felt like it helped, but now i've reached a point where it's too exhausting to go through repeated exposure to trauma stories and reexperiencing ny own traumas. plus it usually ends in failure and me adding more trauma to my plate because they have issues and lash them out at me, or decide they are upset that I have my own issues they trigger, and I do not want to do that anymore.

I don't want to befriend people through or to trauma bond. I don't want to befriend people who only want to talk about negative things or people who bring out those things in me. I want some positive and chill and fun friends. but I genuinely do not know how else to make friends. I don't know how to do it right. I don't know how to talk to people correctly. I don't know how to do any of this without trauma dumping/ l listening to trauma dumping and using that as the gateway to form friendships.

I don't know how to have friends that don't share same interests either, but I have realized that's only part of it. that part is fine I think. maybe that's the normal part. (it's my autistic intensity that's the "not normal" part and losing friends as soon as one of us loses that interest) but how do I befriend someone positively off of similar interests only, and not drop my dark lore or avoid letting them drop their dark lore and using that as the bridge? I simply can't figure out how to connect with people in any other way than the whole "I understand what you're going through/you're not alone/I'm here for you/this is a safe space you can come to" thing I tried building up my whole life. but that's only been exhausting and leads to dead ends.

I don't know how to form strong and positive connections with other humans, despite following every tutorial and advice I could find. I even tried heavily masking and learned I'm just no good at it, and I can't figure out if i've acted myself out of a personality, or if it's just a dissociative disorder causing me to have like 20 different ones (working with therapist now who is evaluating me for osdd/did because she says my dissociative levels are concerning. and honestly i feel like part if not all of it is due to my negative people experiences....so i really need positive ones!) i've been trying to keep all my rambles and rants and negative thoughts and feelings to this blog only. i'm not here on this blog to make friends. this is purely for me and myself and I. if anyone relates they are welcome to reply/comment or send an ask and share, but i'm not going to pursue a friendship over it.

I only want to accept positive and chill and fun friendships over my special interests and smaller interests (I have a whole other blog for just those) BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO IT. NOTHING ANYONE TELLS ME WORKS. i'm trying so hard to bond over interests with people but just cannot form any connections no matter how hard I try. it remains me being the only one to ever reach out and give (time/energy/attention/etc) while they can easily have 4747373 other friends and people they enjoy and care about and talk to and hang out with. so I don't think it's them. it has to be me. (I've had people saying it's not me, it's the people I try to talk to and I need to find other people. or even "the right people" but i'm not told how to do that or what it means. and i've spent years flipping through people like clothes on a rack and it's so tiring!!!!!)

don't know know what to do or how to do it, but need human interaction and genuine strong connection and can't force self stop craving that 😭😭😭😭😭