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A bearded man wearing gray sweatshirt holding a block of message, written:

“DEAR HEALTHY PEOPLE

PLEASE UNDERSTAND

THAT

MANY CHRONIC PAIN

MEDICATE TO NO PAIN' WE MEDICATE TO HAVE A HOPE OF BEING A FUNCTIONAL HUMAN BEING”

Damn true. Even those who can't medicate for personal reasons, your pain is still valid.

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I'm seeing more and more teachers today who actually want to help their autistic students, they just don't always know where to get the best advice.

I'm just hoping that those teachers look towards autistic advocates to find the answers they need.

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If I can have one wish for upcoming autism month it's that more people recognize that the spectrum includes people who are medium support and such, maybe include us in conversations more. I can't tell you how much arguments in this community forever feel like low support versus high support, and I'm left feeling invisible and like I belong nowhere.

Yes I will never need the amount of care some others do, no I will never need as little care as some others do. It's hard to make anyone understand, family or friends, that this is how I am. They know I'm not high support, and anything else they see in media is usually low support. When I was diagnosed, my mother exclusively read books about or by low support autistics. So to them, that's what they often expect me to be like, or to achieve one day. Everyone calls it a spectrum but most people still treat it like just, a coin with two sides, forgetting everything that isn't two extremes.

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also it makes it really different between mental illness and physical illness

some of my “former” friends with mental illness could not empathise with my chronic illness because they could never imagine themselves living with nagging discomforting pain on the daily

having just one friend who is also chronically ill makes me feel better, even though we don't have the same illnesses she gets it

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Maids, cleaners, janitors, and sanitation workers are all the most important people of civilization by far. Even 12 hours without them is VERY noticable and they simply need to be highly compensated for it

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I read that Habitica is one of the best apps for gamifying tasks! Here’s a reddit discussion for more resources.

Hi. Do you have any tips on how to be productive and how to stick to a routine? I create routines but can barely stick to them, and it's stressful trying to stay on top of schoolwork and other extracurricular activities. Thanks!

Hello, been away to focus on my health.

I’ll try to keep it simple: so a lot of the times people with ADHD fail to stick to routine or have difficulty forming habits is mostly due to our object impermanence.

So taking account object impermanence when forming a routine means :

1. Creating ADHD friendly space at home.

• some people with ADHD have struggles with teeth cleaning / brushing teeth, so what you can do is place it near your bed

• some people with ADHD have problems with misplacing items, so what you need is not to be more vigilant, BUT YOU NEED VISUAL CUES, and place the items where it is EASY TO SEE AND REACH. If putting it in the middle of hallway is easy for you to take it every morning (even if it is odd place), then that’s the routine that works for you!

• same as eating, if you have problems forgetting to eat, having a few snacks/ready to eat food placed in front of you will reduce the amount of energy/spoon you need to take in order to get food.

• some adjustment I made to make my home ADHD-friendly is to have a lot of label stickers (at door, at switches, at kitchen). I also switched to transparent container so my items can be seen and easily found.

2. Your body already has its own routine, you just need to tune in and listen to it.

• What is automatic for you? Observe your one week and track the pattern. What is the best task you have ever completed and why is it so engaging? This is not going to be straightforward, but it shouldn’t be because everyone is different and unique.

• If you have ever felt guilty for playing games while eating, then that’s also how your ADHD brain trying to keep you engaged and focus doing your routine (eating).

• same as if you need to do your homework while watching a documentary or listening to podcast, sometimes adding more distractions can help people with ADHD concentrate better.

• if your body relies and thrives on novelty, then you have to find ways to keep improvising your daily tasks. Don’t feel bad for not being able to stick to routine, you probably thrive more from sticking to your routine from variety of places or working with different people.

3. Always gamify your task and keep it fun.

• this is how I try to keep daily tasks and routine less daunting.

• it sounds weird but do your routine/daily task with the craziest approach you have right now.

• just like in games, it works better if you have a buddy or enemy you need to squash in order to tackle the tasks!

Most important lesson, for me with ADHD, is ACCEPTING THAT I HAVE AN EVER CHANGING ROUTINE.

It is part of how I move, it is part of how I get things done.

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All it means when people say “you’re speaking from a place of privilege” is that you’re likely to underestimate how bad the problem is by default because you are never personally exposed to that problem. It’s not a moral judgement of how difficult your life is.

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btw disabled people. please make things easier for yourself in any way you can. shit is hard enough already we don’t need to refuse ourselves any help we can get

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hi so i think i may or may not have autism and ADHD but i'm really scared to get diagnosed because my family isn't supportive of the neurodivergent community and i'm pretty sure my parents would flip if i asked them to get diagnosed since they're alr toxic af and put down my ass every day but my life's become a living hell because i'm 95% sure that all of my "bad habits" and "tics" are just adhd and autism things and they've really manifested over the last few months and i have no clue what to do because it's a lose lose situation either way and please PLEASE tell me you have advice or at least tips on how to deal with this

Hey there. I am so sorry to hear what happened to you.

Please prioritise your safety first. You can get to formal diagnosis later when you are more financially stable and in better place.

I would like to let you know that self-diagnosis is valid. Your ADHD and Autism are valid even if you have no means to get official diagnosis, because there are a lot of barriers to getting one.

I’m not sure whether you are still in school or have already started working, but for now if you’re stuck at home—here is a few resources I think would be helpful:

1. Self-Diagnosis-Friendly Resources and Communities

2. Embrace Autism

3. Am I Autistic? A Guide to Diagnosis for Adults

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Hi. Do you have any tips on how to be productive and how to stick to a routine? I create routines but can barely stick to them, and it's stressful trying to stay on top of schoolwork and other extracurricular activities. Thanks!

Hello, been away to focus on my health.

I’ll try to keep it simple: so a lot of the times people with ADHD fail to stick to routine or have difficulty forming habits is mostly due to our object impermanence.

So taking account object impermanence when forming a routine means :

1. Creating ADHD friendly space at home.

• some people with ADHD have struggles with teeth cleaning / brushing teeth, so what you can do is place it near your bed

• some people with ADHD have problems with misplacing items, so what you need is not to be more vigilant, BUT YOU NEED VISUAL CUES, and place the items where it is EASY TO SEE AND REACH. If putting it in the middle of hallway is easy for you to take it every morning (even if it is odd place), then that’s the routine that works for you!

• same as eating, if you have problems forgetting to eat, having a few snacks/ready to eat food placed in front of you will reduce the amount of energy/spoon you need to take in order to get food.

• some adjustment I made to make my home ADHD-friendly is to have a lot of label stickers (at door, at switches, at kitchen). I also switched to transparent container so my items can be seen and easily found.

2. Your body already has its own routine, you just need to tune in and listen to it.

• What is automatic for you? Observe your one week and track the pattern. What is the best task you have ever completed and why is it so engaging? This is not going to be straightforward, but it shouldn’t be because everyone is different and unique.

• If you have ever felt guilty for playing games while eating, then that’s also how your ADHD brain trying to keep you engaged and focus doing your routine (eating).

• same as if you need to do your homework while watching a documentary or listening to podcast, sometimes adding more distractions can help people with ADHD concentrate better.

• if your body relies and thrives on novelty, then you have to find ways to keep improvising your daily tasks. Don’t feel bad for not being able to stick to routine, you probably thrive more from sticking to your routine from variety of places or working with different people.

3. Always gamify your task and keep it fun.

• this is how I try to keep daily tasks and routine less daunting.

• it sounds weird but do your routine/daily task with the craziest approach you have right now.

• just like in games, it works better if you have a buddy or enemy you need to squash in order to tackle the tasks!

Most important lesson, for me with ADHD, is ACCEPTING THAT I HAVE AN EVER CHANGING ROUTINE.

It is part of how I move, it is part of how I get things done.

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I have a lot of other energy limiting health issues that count as disability.

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until they complain about their disability

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until they need to slow down for them

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until their mobility aids are loud

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until their mobility aids fall

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until they cancel plans due to their disability

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until they need to hold something for them

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until they need to open a door for them

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until they can't go somewhere because it's not accessible

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until their disability is inconvenient

Everyone is fine with having a disabled friend until their disability impacts them.

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This is a friendly reminder that none disabled people often do benefit from the same accommodations disabled people benefit from.

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Do not speak to me while I am suffering the unmitigated agony of having done

Too Many Things

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i hope life takes it easy on you today. but if not, i hope you have the strength to carry on until the sun rises again. you are very loved and very needed here, i hope you remember that.

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Yeap.

Immediately see how some (now ex) friends’ behaviour switched up the moment I asked for accommodations.

Their support has always been conditional and based on their convenient.

i was too scared to say this on twitter (lol) so i’d thought i’d come say it here .

but disabled people can tell when your support for them is conditional btw. abled bodied people have huge double standards when it comes to disabled people they want to support and who they want to make fun of and laugh at - and we realise when you get annoyed when our struggles won’t go away because YOU find it inconvenient.

your support for disabled people shouldn’t be conditional. and it feels stupid to say this but i see it on twitter a lot.

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There was this thread for this canonically nd character about wondering if he’s autistic esp since he’s so autistic coded and god so many people got so angry like one person even said that they call any “weird” character that like who’s “they”??? The fans??? Because autistic people don’t really have a lot of (canon) representation. And that his canon mental illness is already serious. As though they’re mutually exclusive. Another person even said it’s ““dangerous”” to make these kinds of assumptions despite him being a fictional character… honestly this shit just really annoyed me but also the fact that they even got a lot of likes on their comments aggravated me

This.

Whenever autistic folks point out a canon character is autistic then every other fans out there will lose their shit.

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An assessment of what Hans Asperger knew about child euthanasia in Vienna during the Nazi occupation - Conclusion: There was no evidence that Asperger knew about the euthanasia programme when he referred two patients who died at Am Spiegelgrund. Is that true? What do you think about this new information? I found that there is conflict of interest, but still not enough to debunk this info.

There is a paper that response to Tatzer et al on their paper what Asperger knew about Nazi “child euthanasia” here.

“The paper's conclusions are not, in my view, the result of a rigorous assessment of the relevant sources. The authors focus on largely irrelevant issues, while ignoring important evidence that does not align with their stated goal of defending Asperger's record.”