#How to Stop Negative Thoughts

[goodgirldelusions]

Stuck in Negative Self-Talk? Here’s How to Break the Cycle 💬💛 Do you ever catch yourself thinking things like “I’m such a mess” or “I’ll never get this right”? Yeah... we’ve all been there. That inner critic can be loud, but here’s the truth: you don’t have to keep listening. In our latest post, Breaking the Cycle of Negative Self-Talk, we’re diving into gentle, powerful ways to shift that inner dialogue—and start speaking to yourself with the kindness you truly deserve. 💡 Inside the article: How to spot sneaky negative thought patterns The real impact self-talk has on your mental health How to reframe challenges (without toxic positivity) Daily affirmations + simple mindset shifts to try today You deserve to be on your own team—and it starts with one kinder thought at a time. With care and encouragement, Phoenix Wanderlust Good Girl Delusions https://g00dgirldelusions.wordpress.com P.S. Got a favorite affirmation or mindset trick that’s helped you? Hit reply—I’d love to hear it! 💬✨

[bougiebutchbinch]

Intersectionality, disability, and being 'one of the good ones'

I am 'one of the good ones'.

I have been told this, verbatim, by various healthcare professionals.

This is because I have a severe manifestation of my disease - worse than 90% of what my specialist sees - but to their eyes, unlike most in the same bracket, I am driven to maintain as much mobility as possible.

I do the work I need to in order to remain able to work, even at a greatly reduced capacity (even if this constant effort towards condition management means making lots of sacrifices in my social and personal life). This makes me a 'good disabled person'.

This entire concept is fascinating to me - not least for the conflation of 'good' and 'has worth within a capitalist society'. It's also hugely damaging to other disabled people.

First off: I'm privileged in that one of my diseases at least, CAN have symptoms mitigated by medication, (ridiculous amounts of) physio, and surgery, even if it is still degenerative and the overall problem remains. A lot of folks have diseases that, whether due to the intractable processes involved, or medical neglect and lack of research, have no treatment whatsoever.

I'm privileged because I genuinely love my job. There are problems, don't get me wrong, but it's on its way to being a decent-paying, well-respected career that I can do from a wheelchair. People who work my job are typically treated well by society. There are strong protections in place to defend my rights as a disabled person, and though managers absolutely try to cut corners, those legal protections are still there. I find fulfilment in this work, to the point I would still do it in a perfect post-capitalist society without monetary gain. Although many people are ableist to me on a day-to-day basis, on the whole, people in this sector are somewhat educated about patient rights and disability advocation.

Why would I have any motivation to maintain my ability to work, if I was paid a poverty wage and treated like dirt for what I did for a living, on top of facing structural and interpersonal ableism?

I'm privileged because I have a loving family who help me with ADLs. While we still have our issues, they never make me feel 'lesser' for being disabled. While we used to be working class, we got very lucky and now live a comfortable middle class life, which means I have a stable home in a country with universal healthcare, that I am not in immediate danger of losing. We live together, so I receive care from them, and we get along excellently. They support me, and help me to achieve my goals.

How could I do the ridiculous amounts of extra physio and symptom management work I need to do if I didn't have people who were happy to help me cook, clean, and care for myself? How could I keep track of my medication and doctors appointments if I didn't have people who understand my memory problems and help me? How could I have the energy to work on controlling my condition - as much as it can be controlled - if I was constantly worrying about making rent or where my next meal was going to come from?

And finally, my mental health is in a genuinely good place! I do suffer from some long-term mental health problems, but they're managed and treatable, and I haven't had a severe episode in years.

How could I focus on looking after my body if my mind was constantly under attack from itself?

It's like... yeah, I've worked extremely hard to get where I am, and achieved rare results. I'm glad that's acknowledged by my healthcare team. But every day I am reminded that I would never have made it this far, had circumstances been different. That people across the world put in the exact same effort as me, and receive none of the results or the praise.

Caling me 'one of the good ones' isn't a compliment. It's a backhanded put-down to other, more vulnerable members of the disabled community. I think those of us who are classed as 'The Virtuous And Hardworking Disabled' do need to be conscientious of this. We should challenge this attitude where we can, even if we have diseases or manifestations that may be classed as 'more severe' than others.

[eshithepetty]

"Haha Dream BBQ is so random and incomprehensible" "did they take drugs to make this lol" "you're actually not meant to understand anything in this series it's ok" "Joel G just makes up stuff on the spot based on what would be funny" "it's just random for random's sake" "is this AI" "stop theorising, it's not that deep" SHUT UPPPPPPPPPP

[mikesbasementbeets]

like don't get me wrong, i also have issues with season 3 and i would probably say either season 1 or 2 are my favorite. but i'm not making it everyone else's problem by complaining about it on their gifsets

[tropicalcontinental]

"Average CL16 character is aroace" factoid true actually (personal headcanon)

[arabella-strange]

the thing is, the campaign set us up to ask these enormous, important questions about what's right, what the appropriate limits of power are, who gets crushed under sweeping decisions where no checks are made or even possible -- and so it's hard not to be a little frustrated that the final option the BH chose was 1) Imogen and Co. rocking up to Vasselheim with a God-eater inside her, effectively squaring off to the tune of 'you will deal with us because you have to'... and yet 2) no real underlying conviction or plan or skills or networks to draw on, just the vibe of 'y'all gotta do better, I dunno how, and what "better" means is also pretty fuzzy, but anyway it's your problem now so figure it out'

like yes obviously everyone has to figure it out. that's... the problem we started with. can you contribute any new insights into the conversation? or did you just want to break something?

[vacalimpia]

i have no idea how people enjoy beer... sometimes i choke on my meds so i need to drink something fizzy to get them unstuck from my throat, and everytime it has happened the only fizzy drink we have at home is beer

i am very biased for multiple factors when it comes to beer but i genuinely will never understand what is the appeal😭 the second it hits your tongue you immediately have this awful taste... I only take a sip for me to stop choking on my meds but a sip is way too much😭😭 how people drinking cans of it

[reel-fear]

Genuinely so curious who Mike thinks is gonna be buying The Cage or the new DCTL GN bc with the way he tweets as far as he's concerned, it's not gonna be:

The queer people he has actively admitted he will never show any representation of in the games.

2. The POC he has actively fought against representing in his franchise. [Who he also mocked for thinking they would be represented in his franchise]

3. The Bendy fandom which has always been concerned with topics of diversity esp in the sense of queer people since its creation. Who he has responded to really poorly esp in regards to the GN.

4. The fans who critique him. [He blocked me for doing so lol]

5. His fans in general who he tweets about like this currently. [He's being vague about why people were mad at him or sent him 'nasty messages' because if you actually looked into why you'd see he was in the wrong. Either way, a very hateful way to speak abt ur own fanbase.]

Reminder while Mike is trash talking his fans he has always treated them rather poorly. The fans who won the fanart contest for Chapter 5 never got their posters actually in game due to it being rushed. Not only was chapter 5 a big slap to the face story wise, but it was literally so rushed he couldn't be bothered to add in the art his fans gave him for his game FOR FREE. [Meatly blames this on a crazy timeline, reminder him and Mike are the literal ceos of this company. The proposal of future updates here is also pretty cruel considering Mike nowadays happily admits he corrupted Chapter 5's source code and therefore literally can't update it At All currently. Because he is a moron]

At least they got to be in Boris and the dark survival, and by that I mean that was the Only game they got to be in so far, isn't that just treating your fans like you love them? Shoving their hard work into a spin off game almost nobody has played or addresses much. [Hell, who knows if with the Lone Wolf rebrand they'll even stay there. In which case they'll be in None of the games, only in the credits of BATIM]

6. The Bendy fans who just generally disagree with him on stuff. Like the new ink demon design where there is literally a public poll showing people generally prefer the old one.

7. The Bendy fans who can see he is actively lying to them. To their fucking faces.

He says this has always been the case, but screenshots and links to tweets regarding the books being canon prove it was not. Does he really think bendy fans are stupid or something? [Unless he's admitting here he lied to Kress when he told her the books were canon which sounds worse!]

8. Anyone who doesn't like the idea of giving money to a guy who laid off tons of employees then afterwards thought it was a great idea to express his anti-union views! Also brag about how good of an employer he was, according to his employees, he was not!

So in summary; Mike is an awful person who has not learned anything from the awful things he did. I will not be purchasing The Cage because, combined with this and his absolute refusal to take any kind of critique or see any differing interpretation of his franchise, I have no reason to think my problems with the franchise will ever be addressed or fixed. I probably will pirate The Cage along with any future Bendy Products [Including the movie] and will do my best to avoid giving it any kind of monetary support. Unless this changes any time soon, I can't see myself making anymore positive Bendy posts soon.

Mike has just managed to make it so hard to speak positively or optimistically of this franchise when he's so willing to broadcast how little he cares about it or its fans. I'm at the point where I refuse to pull any of my punches with my problems with it. What's the point of trying to play nice with my critique when either way the people creating it don't care?

So with this post, I want to invite anyone who feels similarly about the franchise to tell me, make a post or send an ask talking about how all of this makes you feel. It may not change how things are, but genuinely seeing other people share my feelings of anger makes me feel better. It feels nice to see when other people share our same concerns and worries. I'd also love to know if anyone else thinks they'll be avoiding purchasing Bendy products over this.

I'm not forcing anyone to participate in it nor trying to say anyone who doesn't supports mike but genuinely maybe if we can collectively decide to boycott things like the movie, graphic novel and The Cage... It might at least make the bendy devs acknowledge how much they have destroyed their own fandom's faith and trust in them.

The way Mike tweets about his actions like he had no control over why people were mad at him at least proves to me he takes NONE of it back nor regrets it. If you didn't know about his actions and only went off his tweets, you would be led to believe Mike has been needlessly picked apart by fans over things he couldn't control [or in his own words, had his words twisted and taken out of context]. That is not how you speak about your actions if you have actually learned better from them.

anyway, that has been my bendy dev callout post. This is an open invitation to anyone feeling similarly upset about the way the franchise is going to talk about it. It's genuinely nice to see how people feel about this and the more we talk about the more it's likely the bendy devs are forced to address our concerns. I don't think they will but hey, that's why I'm not gonna support them with my money anymore nor am I gonna be nice to them in any content I make critiquing Bendy. I mean I'm also basically making this post just in case anyone asks me Why I feel this way towards to bendy devs/as a way to respond to anyone who thinks I am too harsh in my critique in the future.

As always, it seems the best part of Bendy isn't actually anything about canon but about what the fan's are creating with the ideas Bendy failed to do anything interesting with.

Also the books, the books slap.

[dareduffie]

overhated female main characters who are products of their environment and are blamed for every conflict in their story because for some reason an extreme lack of media literacy has become the cool and interesting thing to do

[angelnumber27]

violently forcing myself to have better days

[polecatt]

hey derap maybe people wouldn’t constantly insult and make fun of you if you were more normal and stopped rage/reaction baiting for no reason

[ineff-ability]

love letter 💌.

some days feel like standing on the edge of a cliff,

yes, the wind is in my hair,

and yes the view is enough to snatch my breath away,

but all i can do is look down, and wonder how long it would take to fall.

however, where there is a cliff, there is also someone pulling me back. 

i don’t believe in soulmates anymore

but someone important once mentioned how everything in the universe was once space dust,

i think that our space dust always floated together. 

and even if this is the only universe in which that is so,

i am glad for this one. 

i am glad you exist in my life.

i may be able to count you all on my fingers, 

but who judges a sunset for only happening once a day? 

thank you. i love you. and i needn’t add any tags or any assurances that this is “only platonic”. 

who ever said that platonic wasn’t enough?

xx

[quietlyblooms-gone]

alrighty, friends, i feel the need to be a little transparent because it's affecting things here. the short version of everything is: i'm not doing so hot in the mental health department. no one needs to be concerned -- i'm okay even if i'm having a hard time. but i just ask that everyone continues to be patient and understanding bc i promise that i'm excited to write and chat!! both new and old mutuals, i have so much admiration for you all!! the problem is that the discomfort and sensitivity i feel are making it increasingly difficult to be punctual and social.

so what does this mean? it means my activity may continue to be extra slow. i might procrastinate with messages or go completely silent. i might not log on some days just so i don't have to use my brain. but however my presence here fluctuates, i promise that in no way this is a reflection of my feelings towards you or our muses. i'm just going through it.

all that said, thank you for being here <3 thank you for filling my dash with things that make me smile, and thank you for being a space where i can relax. i care about all of you so much, and i encourage you to be kind to yourselves!! take breaks!! take your time!! your happiness and health matter first always.

[rosehippiefield]

Santa and/or ranmaru with 4, 10, 25 for the ask game ✨

Spoilers for 999

4. If you could put this character in any other media, be it a book, a movie, anything, what would you put them in? Santa

I've thought about it for some time and honestly I'd really like for him to be in Zero escape Virtue's last reward lol. It's not exactly different so it's prabably cheating but come on! Santa was helping Akane with scheme this grand in 999, maybe even he was the one who did everything because she was being dead (depending on interpretations), but he's not even present in the sequels? I crave closure wiht him. He drove away in the end of 999 and that's it?

Also, my little ponies for healing. I think he deserves to just have fun and be a pony

4. Ranmaru

So originally I wanted to use my little ponies for Ranmaru because he clearly needs friends. He's not entirelly hopeless in communication so if he has enough positive experience he'll maybe have better outlook on life and he'll find his purpose. I can imagine him not having cutie mark initially and being really moody about it so Sara and Joe decide to help him.

As a second option, Winx! To be honest, it's more me having plans for yttd and Winx crossover so I'm still kinda interested in it. There Ranmaru and other dummies were supposed to play the role of pixies. Well, kinda because they were connected to their partner. The rule of killing partner still applied and thus the dummy would return their "humanity" (which they also would return by sacrificing themselves and earning enchantix but Midori the Darkar never mentioned that part). If we're talking about canon Winx, I think Ranmaru would make an interesting mage/specialist character who's gloomy but can develop and eventually with gained power of friendship finally living happily.

10. Could you be best friends with this character? Santa

Maybe not best friends, but I could see us as friends. I don't really know how much of his personality in 999 was a facade and how much was genuine (though I suppose he didn't fake absolutelly everything). I think he could be caring and kind if I reminded him of Akane. And even if it'd be draining for me to be around someone this agressive, maybe we'd get along. I like old siblings that care about young siblings by default. Not as best friends though.

10. Ranmaru

Once again, not really best friends but we could be friends. He's a bit negative and cynical, but he can also be inspiring and determined. I'm irked by his obsessiveness with Sara and I wouldn't want same for me. On the other hand, it was partially influenced by the fact he died and wanted to feel all those moments of friendship he never had being alive. So maybe we could be friends and eventually he'd become happier? I don't know what we could do together and like I'm introverted too so I don't know if Ranmaru'd want to befriend me.

25. What was your first impression of this character? How about now? Santa

At first I thought he was twink with the attitude and agressiveness so it's better to not anger him but he could be helpful. I didn't exactly like or dislike him, I think it was more of a positive impression

At the end, I like him and I really wish there was more. I have one small problem with the ending because our kidnappers just leave without explaination and while Akane showed up later in sequels he never did. It was supposed to be this way I guess... But I really like how he was way smarter and more complex than I expected, that he was part of this elaborate scheme to save his sister, that he cares so much for his sister. I love tragic siblings

25 Ranmaru

At first I didn't understand all the hype about him because he was the most popular dummy and I thought he looked boring

Now he's still more on the neutral side in my grading system and he's not character I think about often but I acknowledge that he's a complex character. I think I was really irked by his logic route betrayal so I can be a bit biased against him: like Yabusame tries to reassure him, then all group members agree to subject themselves to pain to save him and the thanks they get? He murders a Yabusame and plans to continue the same with the rest. I understand that he's under pressure and he's dead and he doesn't want to kill Sara but like... These people saved (or tried to save) his life. He can be self-sacrificial to the absurd degree too when he tries to download Joe AI in his body in emotion route, basically commiting suicide, which is less morally bad so he's not absolutely irredeemable scum but that logic route kill makes me like him less as it stands

[solivagantingrebel]

hey guys who wants another round of tmi